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Hmm... Not bad...?Originally posted by Blueskyz:If u wan her back... U shouldnt look back cos things wil not be or look good for both of u.
Since she's making the effort as u mentioned then u should give her a chance...
Wat I feel is both of u should hav a gd heart to heart talk to c hw u both can make the relationship better n be honest abt ur feelings, let her know ur concern n hw deeply u hav been hurt, n u really love her n wan her to be honest n sincere with her feelings...
But if its giving u the toll then u better not go further with the relationship cos in the end both of u wil b deeply hurt...
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I'll give much credit for some of the points in this post also...Originally posted by #$%^&*:I highly recommend giving her another chance.
I believe she will be very much more mature as a person and as a partner after this experience. Highly recommended to continue, as her character value has just increased ten fold.
If you can sincerely accept her, your character and wisdom will be propelled ten fold as well.
In this life, you will meet many challenges. Even when you are married, you will meet some relationship issues with your spouse. What's important is how you and your partner learn and grow.
Everybody make mistakes in this life.
If you love her, and I believe you do, you should accept, forgive, and continue on to the higher level. -
Btw, how long was she overseas?Originally posted by vivasg:Hi,
I was feeling very troubled, my gf betrayed me when she went oversea for few months, She treat me very bad during those times even i'm making so much effort by doing a lot of things for our relationship.
we had been together for 5 yrs. and I really love her. I managed to found this out and she finally disclosed to me after i confronted her. I'm felt very hurt. She said she dunno why this happen as she is very lonely that time.
She promised me that it will never happen again and she said she really love me.
Do you think I can believe her? give her a chance again?
It is really hurt to be betrayed by somemone that i really loved and when i was alone, i never betray her eventhough i had a chance to.
Now she's back and i can see she making effort for our relationship, but now i'm really afraid being cheated again. The pain is too hard to beared. I'm trying to recover but the image sometimes still flying through my minds.
Do you guys and gals have any advice?
How old are the both of you?
How did you managed to find out about her betrayal? How did (and how long did) you confronted her before she made the confession...? -
how bout mine! how bout mine!Originally posted by Devil1976:I'll give much credit for some of the points in this post also...
it works tho...in desparate housewives season 2 -
follow what your heart says. if her pressence is making you to love her back more, that's not true love but rather a love to forgive her actions. without her, you would feel the freedom and w/o much burden, that means you have fully forgetten her. for me, dump her soon the min "betray" is on one's mind.
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You really did that? You ditch her and your own baby? You are a BAD man. Such revenage is cruel, you are hurting the innocent baby. You still have the consious to declare it in the forum. What did you get in return?Originally posted by Desmond Chow:Easy bro, just like how i treat my ex gf she also cheat exactly the same way your gf does. I make her pregnant and at her most vunerable time, ditch her after she pregnant. That's the way man. -
why? Is ditching a girl when she is pregnant against the law? Of course I did that and the feeling is shiok after taking revenge. She do this kinda thing I also can watOriginally posted by FORGET-ME-NOT:You really did that? You ditch her and your own baby? You are a BAD man. Such revenage is cruel, you are hurting the innocent baby. You still have the consious to declare it in the forum. What did you get in return?
hey it's just a women. If she give birth to that child, i bet she is having a hard time liao and the child will forever remind her of her shameful deed. Trust me bro, she ain't worth it don't waste your time and money on her. Just make her pregnant and then dump her and let me suffer on her own. There are still lotsa women outside waiting for you. -
Originally posted by alexkusu:how bout mine! how bout mine!
it works tho...in desparate housewives season 2
**Go back and watch your bleach.... -
Aiyah.. listen to your heart.. who doesnt stray??? that's human nature.. all gals like successful men while men like beautiful women.. who wouldn't try if given the opportunity???
if you still like her, accept her
if you cannot accept it as you think its your principle..bear the broken heart and had a clean break!!!! -
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Is not illegal to ditch a girl but after making her pregnant then ditch her is WRONG!!! The baby suffer, not her. You think you did the right thing??? Someone has to knock some consious into you. The child will not remind her of her shameful deed. The child will only remind her of you and her stupidness for being with you.Originally posted by Desmond Chow:why? Is ditching a girl when she is pregnant against the law? Of course I did that and the feeling is shiok after taking revenge. She do this kinda thing I also can wat hey it's just a women. If she give birth to that child, i bet she is having a hard time liao and the child will forever remind her of her shameful deed. Trust me bro, she ain't worth it don't waste your time and money on her. Just make her pregnant and then dump her and let me suffer on her own. There are still lotsa women outside waiting for you.
Forgive and forget is the best, just leave her. Once you forgive, you will forget very fast and you will have peace of mind. Don't do anything silly like Desmond Chow. He may regret oneday, looking for the kid that he had ditched on the road. Don't you missed your child? -
How did you find out and how did you confront the issue.Originally posted by vivasg:Hi,
I managed to found this out and she finally disclosed to me after i confronted her. I'm felt very hurt. She said she dunno why this happen as she is very lonely that time.
'Don't know why' is usually the reason....it leads to helplessness and confusion.
*pat pat*
Cheers -
sorry if i were u i wud have dumped her.Originally posted by vivasg:Hi,
I was feeling very troubled, my gf betrayed me when she went oversea for few months, She treat me very bad during those times even i'm making so much effort by doing a lot of things for our relationship.
we had been together for 5 yrs. and I really love her. I managed to found this out and she finally disclosed to me after i confronted her. I'm felt very hurt. She said she dunno why this happen as she is very lonely that time.
She promised me that it will never happen again and she said she really love me.
Do you think I can believe her? give her a chance again?
It is really hurt to be betrayed by somemone that i really loved and when i was alone, i never betray her eventhough i had a chance to.
Now she's back and i can see she making effort for our relationship, but now i'm really afraid being cheated again. The pain is too hard to beared. I'm trying to recover but the image sometimes still flying through my minds.
Do you guys and gals have any advice?
where's the integrity she is supposed to show? so what if she is trying to make up to you? she have cheated before and she can do it again. Luckily you are not married. What if you are married? And she cheats again? How? -
Originally posted by Desmond Chow:why? Is ditching a girl when she is pregnant against the law? Of course I did that and the feeling is shiok after taking revenge. She do this kinda thing I also can wat hey it's just a women. If she give birth to that child, i bet she is having a hard time liao and the child will forever remind her of her shameful deed. Trust me bro, she ain't worth it don't waste your time and money on her. Just make her pregnant and then dump her and let me suffer on her own. There are still lotsa women outside waiting for you.
This's what ppl termed "ar-sehole" as ... -
u can be the most desirable male in the entire universe and there's still a possibility she can still cheat on u. Some gals are like that. Look for a better one. Stop trying to find reasons to console yourself and face the truth. Once you get a new girl the old one is easily forgettable. Life still goes on. Don't get held back by a gal. There are still better things to do.
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bleach anime kinda boring liawOriginally posted by M©+square:
**Go back and watch your bleach....
readin Video Ai Girl since u were talkin bout it
volume 11 now...quite good, elements one could relate to regardin rs
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Yours...?Originally posted by alexkusu:how bout mine! how bout mine!
it works tho...in desparate housewives season 2
Hmm... After I receive your $sum$ in my bank account then I comment...
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CONGRATULATIONS, you've just managed to make YOUR OWN CHILD SUFFER..Originally posted by Desmond Chow:why? Is ditching a girl when she is pregnant against the law? Of course I did that and the feeling is shiok after taking revenge. She do this kinda thing I also can wat hey it's just a women. If she give birth to that child, i bet she is having a hard time liao and the child will forever remind her of her shameful deed. Trust me bro, she ain't worth it don't waste your time and money on her. Just make her pregnant and then dump her and let me suffer on her own. There are still lotsa women outside waiting for you.
Maybe you won't feel a thing now... But give yourself a couple of years and see what you'll be thinking then...
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hmm...tricky answer
the only answer i can give is follow your heart and never regret on what u chose...the result might not be so bad...give it a try
~+Cheers+~
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For your problem, the answer i have for you is this..Originally posted by vivasg:Hi,
I was feeling very troubled, my gf betrayed me when she went oversea for few months, She treat me very bad during those times even i'm making so much effort by doing a lot of things for our relationship.
we had been together for 5 yrs. and I really love her. I managed to found this out and she finally disclosed to me after i confronted her. I'm felt very hurt. She said she dunno why this happen as she is very lonely that time.
She promised me that it will never happen again and she said she really love me.
Do you think I can believe her? give her a chance again?
It is really hurt to be betrayed by somemone that i really loved and when i was alone, i never betray her eventhough i had a chance to.
Now she's back and i can see she making effort for our relationship, but now i'm really afraid being cheated again. The pain is too hard to beared. I'm trying to recover but the image sometimes still flying through my minds.
Do you guys and gals have any advice?
How much do you love her?
If you love her so much and can withstand another blow like this then go ahead accept her back into your life again and forget everything she has done. Is a 50 / 50 chance.
Life will not tell you the answer you have to find it out yourself.
If you are not strong enough then ask yourself can you break up with her right now. If not then go on till you find someone else. Sad but true. Life is never fair. -
jus burned some...shud be in ur acc soonOriginally posted by Devil1976:Yours...?
Hmm... After I receive your $sum$ in my bank account then I comment... -
The scar will always be there, no matter how long into the relationship. It will always be fodder for future arguments.Originally posted by vivasg:Hi,
I was feeling very troubled, my gf betrayed me when she went oversea for few months, She treat me very bad during those times even i'm making so much effort by doing a lot of things for our relationship.
we had been together for 5 yrs. and I really love her. I managed to found this out and she finally disclosed to me after i confronted her. I'm felt very hurt. She said she dunno why this happen as she is very lonely that time.
She promised me that it will never happen again and she said she really love me.
Do you think I can believe her? give her a chance again?
It is really hurt to be betrayed by somemone that i really loved and when i was alone, i never betray her eventhough i had a chance to.
Now she's back and i can see she making effort for our relationship, but now i'm really afraid being cheated again. The pain is too hard to beared. I'm trying to recover but the image sometimes still flying through my minds.
Do you guys and gals have any advice?
Be careful not to become a wuss. We are all men after all and shd stand firm.
Best wishes -
i suggest, bang her as much as you can/want. then leave her. coz everybody can do better excuse than "LONELY".
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Well, rather you be the "Ass" & get cheated or be the 'ar.se-hole' who gains a **** & get away scot free ??Originally posted by dcx:
This's what ppl termed "ar-sehole" as ...
I rather choose the latter!
Anyway, my GFs didn't cheat me, but i made a few pregnant & ask them to go Ab****ion. then nothing happen. Am i just so great ?
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Can you forgive and forget?
I would take her back and never mention the incident again. I would not give it up so quickly...everyone makes mistakes.