gf betrayed
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Personally I will not accept betrayal... based on many experiences, especially in long term relationships.Originally posted by vivasg:Hi,
I was feeling very troubled, my gf betrayed me when she went oversea for few months, She treat me very bad during those times even i'm making so much effort by doing a lot of things for our relationship.
we had been together for 5 yrs. and I really love her. I managed to found this out and she finally disclosed to me after i confronted her. I'm felt very hurt. She said she dunno why this happen as she is very lonely that time.
She promised me that it will never happen again and she said she really love me.
Do you think I can believe her? give her a chance again?
It is really hurt to be betrayed by somemone that i really loved and when i was alone, i never betray her eventhough i had a chance to.
Now she's back and i can see she making effort for our relationship, but now i'm really afraid being cheated again. The pain is too hard to beared. I'm trying to recover but the image sometimes still flying through my minds.
Do you guys and gals have any advice?
Do you think I can believe her?
FIVE years of relation... by right u should already know her character/style. In general, is she a serious, responsible & honest person? Does she prefer to keep promises or secrets? Ask yourself, is she making effort because of guilt, love or other reasons?
give her a chance again?
Damage have been done, u have fear & distrust... will this affect future relation with her? (U have to give urself some time too) Can u 'REALLY' forgive her & are you a risks taker (prepare to fail again without regrets)?
If u are an emotional person, you take love very seriously & cannot take it if she cheat on you again. Seriously it is best to let her go now or later. u can let the relationship dies off slowly, it's a choice.
Love is about two person, it's not only about how much u love her... before u decide, u must also understand how much she love u. Take some time, have a clear mind, think logically & long term, sum up those good AND bad memories, before making ur decision, good luck.
In short: if u can take it, give another shot. If not, leave it. -
This is amusing...Originally posted by leungchunghong:GIVE UP on her. according to psychology, girl will leave u once she finds someone better than u in physical charactistic. GIRL tend to look at guys on phsyical aspect.
Acting Like a professional ?
=)
Btw...
Personally I wouldn't go back to her, let alone give her a chance,
Harshness come from too much devotion sometimes...
I though of leaving my girl forever if that happens.
But then when it really happens, I'll don't even know what to do.
=)
Anyway... Just give her a chance...
But be more careful.
Here's a question,
Do you really still love her ? -
Originally posted by alexkusu:jus burned some...shud be in ur acc soon
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Originally posted by innosaint:
What you don't know won't hurt you....
[b]Well, rather you be the "Ass" & get cheated or be the 'ar.se-hole' who gains a **** & get away scot free ??
I rather choose the latter!
Anyway, my GFs didn't cheat me, but i made a few pregnant & ask them to go Ab****ion. then nothing happen. Am i just so great ?
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Hi all,
First, thanks for all your advices.
Currently I'm in the stage of recovery. Well frankly I do love her very deep. That is why i'm struggling to recover.
Fear and feeling of distrust still existed. I think needs time and her commitment to make this relationship work.
Lonely of cz is a very lame excuse. I feeling very unfair is because all the while I did not cheat on her even i have chances to. But why she did this to me.
From my side, I already do what I need to do as a man, and i have no regret. So just see whether she know how to appreciate the chance I gave her. because there will not be a second chance.
I agree, and hope mistake do let ppl grow more mature.
and most of all follow our own heart.
Sometimes human are like this, never appreciate what they have until they start to lose it. -
Originally posted by innosaint:
wah... den you go hospital/clinic got regular's discount bo? which hospital/clinc ar?
[b]Well, rather you be the "Ass" & get cheated or be the 'ar.se-hole' who gains a **** & get away scot free ??
I rather choose the latter!
Anyway, my GFs didn't cheat me, but i made a few pregnant & ask them to go Ab****ion. then nothing happen. Am i just so great ? [/b]
maybe can start group buy..oops. i mean abortion. here... -
That is so stupid... to last 50 years, there must always be a second chance and 3rd and 4th and 5th and 6th and 7yh and 8th and 9th and 10th and 11th and 12th ok I am tired of typing....Originally posted by vivasg:because there will not be a second chance. -
Everybody deserves another chance.Originally posted by casino_king:That is so stupid... to last 50 years, there must always be a second chance and 3rd and 4th and 5th and 6th and 7yh and 8th and 9th and 10th and 11th and 12th ok I am tired of typing.... -
and a 3rd and a 4th and a 5th and a 6th and a 7th and an 8th and a 9th and a 10th ok I am tired of typing...Originally posted by M©+square:Everybody deserves another chance. -
yes, maybe.Originally posted by casino_king:and a 3rd and a 4th and a 5th and a 6th and a 7th and an 8th and a 9th and a 10th ok I am tired of typing... -
Hmm...Originally posted by M©+square:yes, maybe.
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'Chance' is one major reason why people are still living and looking forward to tomorrow.Originally posted by Devil1976:Hmm... -
since she is remorseful bout betraying you when she's lonely.
i suppose she is an emotion gal, and needs lots of company.
she really needs to lean onto you for support. just give her all the emotional support and she needs from you.
if you want to speak to her on clarifying things which your not really sure with attempting to make the relationship work again or not, speak to her only when she is there leaning on you, when she is comfortable, no eye to eye contact like questioning, body contact, perhaps a slight hug then ask her, if she gives you a reasonable ans, then hug her warmly or just kiss her on her forehead to give her the reassurance. -
Although mani of ur frens will tell you to give up on her.. i think you will still go back to her...
jus freaking dump her lah, if she cheated u once, means that she has thought of leaving you alreadi.
If she has this kinda thinking, she will betray u again.
single is better.
issit a mus for you to have a partner? are u scare of loneliness?
hey man, your frens are there to be with you.
this kinda gal is not worth wasting your time and money and effort on, so i think you should ditch her if given the chance, jus like wat i did to my ex slut gf
someday i will take revenge on her. i make her pay 10times for wat she did.
trust me, dumping her will make you stronger.
look at you now, you are weak! -
Hmm....potential in sales. Method : Persuasive + Hard selling.Originally posted by kelx:Although mani of ur frens will tell you to give up on her.. i think you will still go back to her...
jus freaking dump her lah, if she cheated u once, means that she has thought of leaving you alreadi.
If she has this kinda thinking, she will betray u again.
single is better.
issit a mus for you to have a partner? are u scare of loneliness?
hey man, your frens are there to be with you.
this kinda gal is not worth wasting your time and money and effort on, so i think you should ditch her if given the chance, jus like wat i did to my ex slut gf
someday i will take revenge on her. i make her pay 10times for wat she did.
trust me, dumping her will make you stronger.
look at you now, you are weak!
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Indeed.. It's always a double edged sword....?Originally posted by M©+square:'Chance' is one major reason why people are still living and looking forward to tomorrow. -
Always a dbl edged sword.Originally posted by Devil1976:Indeed.. It's always a double edged sword....? -
Love is blind, it can make somebody to do stupid things. When you 'wakeup' oneday, you will laugh at yourself.
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Single is nt better~ so lonely
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You are not lonely. You have a best friend that followed you 24hours and her name is 'lonely'.