sick and tired of giving in
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i treat her like a princess. give in to her when quarrel. but she, everytime when we quarrel, she never fails to break her promises. she promised not to keep quiet. promised not to be so attitude. but when i tell her that she broke her promises, she will reply a ' SO? ' then i also have got nothing to say. there are times when we quarrel till very jialat i will suddenly give in and apologize. then she will then admit her mistakes and promise not to repeat. but again and again she repeats them. i know she loves me. but she doesn't show she that she treasures me. i'm really tired of giving in to her. but if i don't do so, i'm afraid that i will lose her. very afraid. now we have just quarreled. and the same thing repeats itself. i told her recently that this is the last chance i give her to prove that she treasures me. but just now. she just don't want to reply. hang the phone. and i said i wanted a break. she just cry. complains that i don't love her. and i have to call her again and again. people please tell me what to do? i don't want to be the one always to give in. i don't want her attitude and she always breaking her promises. lastly, i don't want to lose her.
thanks for reading. sincere replies please
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You have many choice. You can say 'No', You can walk away etc.
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what are your horoscope?
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i can't walk away. the was once in the mrt when we quarreled. i left at my station. cause whenever i told her to follow me, she will say no, i'm not your dog. and when she walks away i have to chase and follow. cus i worry about her. then i if i never chase. she will say you don't even care about my safety so why must i follow or chase you. when quarrel i always lose. cus i'm not gd at debating whereas she can say me till i nothing to say. now she jus broke off with me. don't even care anymore . i don't know how to be a better bf. she tells me she cried. i told her so did i. and she said how i know? and i can't say the same thing cus i heard her cry.
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then you are weak.
She can take good care of herself and even get you to bend over backwards for her. You don't seem to be able to take care of yourself and still you worry about her. Think about it. You will get used, walk over like a mat and you will become angry, bitter and unhappy. If this is what you want. Go on with your life. If you don't want that, then always know, you have a choice. YOU made that choice not to walk away, say "no" or do something or just do nothing.
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capricorn is her. saggi is meOriginally posted by R3SsH|n:what are your horoscope? -
ka pow! and misty dishes some painful death out
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i can take care of myself. i just get worry for her if i leave her alone. what i meant was i wanted her to chase after me cus i want her to cheer me up. rather than giving me attitude. i tried saying no. but she gets angry. and threatens to break sometimes. and so u are tellin me to give her up and stop being the one always giving in?Originally posted by mistyblue:then you are weak.
She can take good care of herself and even get you to bend over backwards for her. You don't seem to be able to take care of yourself and still you worry about her. Think about it. You will get used, walk over like a mat and you will become angry, bitter and unhappy. If this is what you want. Go on with your life. If you don't want that, then always know, you have a choice. YOU made that choice not to walk away, say "no" or do something or just do nothing.
You only have yourself to blame. -
Same same...this type situation very tough...need to have patience...she is one lucky girl....Originally posted by mistyblue:then you are weak.
She can take good care of herself and even get you to bend over backwards for her. You don't seem to be able to take care of yourself and still you worry about her. Think about it. You will get used, walk over like a mat and you will become angry, bitter and unhappy. If this is what you want. Go on with your life. If you don't want that, then always know, you have a choice. YOU made that choice not to walk away, say "no" or do something or just do nothing.
You only have yourself to blame.
but if you are habouring hope that she will change her attitude...its probably a big no...everybody is born with own character and a leopard will never never change its spots... -
yeah i'm always giving her chances to change. but she just doesn't. its disappointing. so i should always give in to her?
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no one will ever change for you.
Either you accept that you will be hen pecked forever or you stand up demand fair treatment. You can only change yourself.
No one can give you happiness or make you happy. You can only make yourself happy. Putting that kind of pressure on people to make you happy. How about you being happy and making others happy by being less needy? -
Aim and fire! Bang bang!Originally posted by HENG@:ka pow! and misty dishes some painful death out
I should tone down, he's a kid after all.. -
today sibeh merciless mood hor u?Originally posted by mistyblue:Aim and fire! Bang bang!
I should tone down, he's a kid after all..
not even aim and fire... more like, 5000 round ammo box, check. heavy MG, check. load, cock weapon, proceed to mow everything down. -
are you her carpet?
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i think u deserve her.
if u cant stand up for urself, u deserve a girl like her to run u over and over and over and over again. -
Your problem started just with the first sentence said
You treat her like a princess,of course get walk all over liao.You are being too nice liao and she get too used to you always giving in cos of the princessy attitude.She is your partner leh not your goddess that you are going to worship,so stop being so nice and maybe she will realise her own place and treat you better if not good luck,your relationship will not get anywhere -
Take no prisoners! Bullets are cheap!Originally posted by HENG@:today sibeh merciless mood hor u?
not even aim and fire... more like, 5000 round ammo box, check. heavy MG, check. load, cock weapon, proceed to mow everything down. -
Originally posted by ducktan:i treat her like a princess. give in to her when quarrel. but she, everytime when we quarrel, she never fails to break her promises. she promised not to keep quiet. promised not to be so attitude. but when i tell her that she broke her promises, she will reply a ' SO? ' then i also have got nothing to say. there are times when we quarrel till very jialat i will suddenly give in and apologize. then she will then admit her mistakes and promise not to repeat. but again and again she repeats them. i know she loves me. but she doesn't show she that she treasures me. i'm really tired of giving in to her. but if i don't do so, i'm afraid that i will lose her. very afraid. now we have just quarreled. and the same thing repeats itself. i told her recently that this is the last chance i give her to prove that she treasures me. but just now. she just don't want to reply. hang the phone. and i said i wanted a break. she just cry. complains that i don't love her. and i have to call her again and again. people please tell me what to do? i don't want to be the one always to give in. i don't want her attitude and she always breaking her promises. lastly, i don't want to lose her.
thanks for reading. sincere replies please -
Originally posted by ducktan:i treat her like a princess. give in to her when quarrel. but she, everytime when we quarrel, she never fails to break her promises. she promised not to keep quiet. promised not to be so attitude. but when i tell her that she broke her promises, she will reply a ' SO? ' then i also have got nothing to say. there are times when we quarrel till very jialat i will suddenly give in and apologize. then she will then admit her mistakes and promise not to repeat. but again and again she repeats them. i know she loves me. but she doesn't show she that she treasures me. i'm really tired of giving in to her. but if i don't do so, i'm afraid that i will lose her. very afraid. now we have just quarreled. and the same thing repeats itself. i told her recently that this is the last chance i give her to prove that she treasures me. but just now. she just don't want to reply. hang the phone. and i said i wanted a break. she just cry. complains that i don't love her. and i have to call her again and again. people please tell me what to do? i don't want to be the one always to give in. i don't want her attitude and she always breaking her promises. lastly, i don't want to lose her.
thanks for reading. sincere replies please 
You are giving in because you fear to lose her. You lost to fear.
She is not learning because she understands that you fear to lose her and would do whatever necessary to upkeep her nonsense. She preyed on your weak strength of character.
What sort of relationship would you want to see yourself falling into? A relationship that fools around with the 'break-up' stance whenever argument arises?
If your Love only understands companionship, then you will probably have to tolerate the ‘what's not’ until you crumble emotionally.
So you demand changes? And if somebody is not learning, you can't use the same equation to solve the same problem because you will be getting the same result.
What if the way for her to change is for you to be out of the picture? Would you have the courage to walk that route?
P.S: This is probably the third case (involving man with weak Mars) we have here. I shall repeat again: When you strive to treat a woman like a princess, at best, you become the best jester in town. Evolve your woman to a queen and you being her rightful king. Then you shall see equality and not lose your dynamic and foundation of your relationship to fear.
Cheers -
If you don't give in maybe you won't lose her? Don't give in, let her get over it a few days then call her again.
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Ok, it's a clear signal that she doesn't like you anymore as her bf.Originally posted by ducktan:i treat her like a princess. give in to her when quarrel. but she, everytime when we quarrel, she never fails to break her promises. she promised not to keep quiet. promised not to be so attitude. but when i tell her that she broke her promises, she will reply a ' SO? ' then i also have got nothing to say. there are times when we quarrel till very jialat i will suddenly give in and apologize. then she will then admit her mistakes and promise not to repeat. but again and again she repeats them. i know she loves me. but she doesn't show she that she treasures me. i'm really tired of giving in to her. but if i don't do so, i'm afraid that i will lose her. very afraid. now we have just quarreled. and the same thing repeats itself. i told her recently that this is the last chance i give her to prove that she treasures me. but just now. she just don't want to reply. hang the phone. and i said i wanted a break. she just cry. complains that i don't love her. and i have to call her again and again. people please tell me what to do? i don't want to be the one always to give in. i don't want her attitude and she always breaking her promises. lastly, i don't want to lose her.
thanks for reading. sincere replies please
Few questions to ponder though, what kind of bf were you to her? Is she happy whenever both of you are together? When was the last time that you make her feel that she's being loved? When was the last time both of you had a nice and comfortable chat with each other?
I'm sure both of you loves each other and it's only a matter of time before both of you are back together again. It'll happen once she realised your loss and start to miss you. And hopefully when that time comes, you must treasure her for good.
Communication is very important in all relationships, it helps you to understand more of the other person and also allows the other person to know more about you. Couples have arguements and quarrels because they do not have enough communication with each other. They assumed they knew about each other and when the either party doesn't react/behave in the assumed manner which, they end up quarrelling. Nobody will be humble enough to admit that they've made the mistake by making assumptions about the other party, and this is a very commonly found mistakes in all relationships.
Do take note though, disappointment doesn't necessary means that the other person has changed or doesn't love you anymore.
So make a point to have a chat with your loved ones, be it a short chat or you're busy. There are always ways to pass your messages through them anytime in our everyday lives.
Good luck.
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Why stay in a relationship if it gives you more pain than being alone?
Sometimes you just have to stand up for yourself.
There are plenty of fish around.
Not just bossy fishes.
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Love is blind
Easier said then done
A bird in hand is worth 2 in the bush
She completes him
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since u lik her . then no choice . cos u wanna b wif her de , its ure choice !!!! , lol
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just live with it ar?