I think deep down, you really are insecure. But that's normal. Its hard for Singaporean guys like us to find security these days. Singapore is just too messed up for us guys.Originally posted by jeramy:i think i'm a flop when it comes to handling relationships. when i'm single, im happy, always smiling, carefree and easily contented.
but when im involved with someone, i become bitter, always sad, and always having a sinking feeling inside me. no im not saying that i do not enjoy being in relationships, but its just that i cannot help it but feel over-sensitive over little little things that she did, or even things that she did not do.
for example, if she sends me sms during her lunch time everyday for 3 days but failed to do so in the 4th day, then i'll get over-sensitive and think up all sorts of reasons
i know, this is a very trivial matter, and most of you will be able to dismiss it as nothing, but i just cannot control it. just like you cannot control your mind to stop missing somebody. if it were so easy, then the world would be at peace liao..
also, whenever i read abt guys complaining that their gfs are controlling them too tightly and that they have no freedom, somehow or rather, i envy them quietly. i think im strange. i like my gf to sms/call me a lot, to tell me to not to go out with other girls etc.
what a flop. anybody behaves the same way as me? if yes, how u handle it?
Originally posted by _Aaron_:I think deep down, you really are insecure. But that's normal. Its hard for Singaporean guys like us to find security these days. Singapore is just too messed up for us guys.
Maybe you could let yr gf know that you want her to update you all the time... or you could do it to her first.. just a thought.~
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Normally that type of girls will not look for guys of his type.Originally posted by alexkusu:I think ur the type who thinks the world of your gf. Find a gf who is that type
ya..kinda agree wif wad technoboy said..bt thn if she nvr sms u..n u keep sms-in her..wun she feel tat ur such a bothersome??(fan2 in chinese)Originally posted by technoboy:Me too, I always have the same feeling as you. Can't do much though I would say. If she doesn't sms you, then you sms her!![]()
You need someone who can be totally INTO you, and for which you can do as much the same for her... Probably lost in the world comprising only of both of you... Which... Also means chances are... It might not be such a 'healthy' relationship... Not that it can't be though...? When done properly, you might just end up in a very blissful one...Originally posted by jeramy:i think i'm a flop when it comes to handling relationships. when i'm single, im happy, always smiling, carefree and easily contented.
but when im involved with someone, i become bitter, always sad, and always having a sinking feeling inside me. no im not saying that i do not enjoy being in relationships, but its just that i cannot help it but feel over-sensitive over little little things that she did, or even things that she did not do.
for example, if she sends me sms during her lunch time everyday for 3 days but failed to do so in the 4th day, then i'll get over-sensitive and think up all sorts of reasons
i know, this is a very trivial matter, and most of you will be able to dismiss it as nothing, but i just cannot control it. just like you cannot control your mind to stop missing somebody. if it were so easy, then the world would be at peace liao..
also, whenever i read abt guys complaining that their gfs are controlling them too tightly and that they have no freedom, somehow or rather, i envy them quietly. i think im strange. i like my gf to sms/call me a lot, to tell me to not to go out with other girls etc.
what a flop. anybody behaves the same way as me? if yes, how u handle it?
a video?? care to shareOriginally posted by rikki:My case is similar to yours. Just that i've never been in a relationship before. In my case, i feel that you can't actually handle it. I too, feels extremely sensitive when she doesent message me continuously for the 4th day. I would get extremely uncomfortable when i look at her and she did'nt look back. I guessed, if you can. Try to find something else to do on your own, get her out of your mind for awhile. My friend gave me a video to watch when i consulted her. Which turns out to be quite effective.
so what did u do?Originally posted by cristy:i seem to b in the same boat as jeramy
actually if she nvr sms u perhaps u can sms her mah? u muz understand too sometime she busy working? or studying? if u stays this way then u will make relationship kind of stressful to each other..Originally posted by jeramy:i think i'm a flop when it comes to handling relationships. when i'm single, im happy, always smiling, carefree and easily contented.
but when im involved with someone, i become bitter, always sad, and always having a sinking feeling inside me. no im not saying that i do not enjoy being in relationships, but its just that i cannot help it but feel over-sensitive over little little things that she did, or even things that she did not do.
for example, if she sends me sms during her lunch time everyday for 3 days but failed to do so in the 4th day, then i'll get over-sensitive and think up all sorts of reasons
i know, this is a very trivial matter, and most of you will be able to dismiss it as nothing, but i just cannot control it. just like you cannot control your mind to stop missing somebody. if it were so easy, then the world would be at peace liao..
also, whenever i read abt guys complaining that their gfs are controlling them too tightly and that they have no freedom, somehow or rather, i envy them quietly. i think im strange. i like my gf to sms/call me a lot, to tell me to not to go out with other girls etc.
what a flop. anybody behaves the same way as me? if yes, how u handle it?