Does he still loves me?
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Hardworking is only one of the aspects...? But can you really break through, VAMPIRE?Originally posted by Yunhaier:So that it mean that I will be promoted?
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Break through?Originally posted by Devil1976:Hardworking is only one of the aspects...? But can you really break through, VAMPIRE?
When in gaseous form, I usually just go through.
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And when you're not in gaseous form, do you release them?Originally posted by Yunhaier:Break through?
When in gaseous form, I usually just go through.
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Hi!Originally posted by M©+square:
Cheers to Yunnie and Dever.
And nope, I wasn't flirting with your Yunhaier.... -
Then I will be sleeping in my coffin.Originally posted by Devil1976:And when you're not in gaseous form, do you release them?
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he don't deserve the very right to have u as a stead. tell him what u feel, if he still continue his actions as of current___ DUMP him.
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Move on.....time to move on.......best to move on. Seriously, your still young, find better things to dwell on & invest on.
Boyfriends, you'd get plenty.....your life, only once. So make the best out of it. -
I think ya sleeping all the time...??Originally posted by Yunhaier:Then I will be sleeping in my coffin.
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i think u are better off without him. =/
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If you so capable to die than let him be I doubt he has the guts to do it. He is probably playing with your sweet natured.
Afterall you cant just treat a gal improperly and expect her to be with you as and when he likes. Gals are not dogs. -
Your case sounded so similar to mine. I was in a destructive relationship for a whole damn year. He was abusive, scold me in front of his frds, never failed to put me down. My parents disapproved of our r.ship as well cos i'm a uni undergrad but he wasn't highly educated.
He treated me like sh**..always asking his frds if i looked better than his ex or worse, compare me with his pal's gf. I was suicidal. Didnt dare to break up, cos like u, i had the teeniest glint of hope. Hoping he would change, hoping he would treat me like he did during the honeymoon period.
But believe me, they will never change. I managed to muster all my courage & broke up. I felt such great relief. Not the slightest regret. You would be better off. Really. You might not think so now but u will in future.
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he's a deadweight, pulling you down with him
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No point being with someone who doesn't respect you & is abusive. Obviously he thinks he's got you now, so he's dispensed with all the niceties.. please prove him wrong.
Perhaps my story might help you decide. My mother was from a very wealthy, influential family with an educated background. Her family disapproved of it. She inherited her family business and married my father, a poor car salesman with many siblings, even though he showed problem signs. He grew abusive shortly after that and began to exploit her weaknesses. He threaten our lives constantly, hours on end (at knifepoint), chased away business and blew exorbitant sums of money on mistresses, wine & dining, luxury cars. My mother could not leave him and risk our lives. Even the police could not help. "Family affairs not our concern" they said. My dad had to commit the crime before they would intervene. HAH! And now my mother lost her business, is bankrupt, and is still picking up the pieces of her life.
I don't wish for anyone to suffer the same fate. So, I wish you all the best, be strong, do what's best for you and leave your toxic boyfriend, while you can. -
visit [email protected] for a whole new experience.Originally posted by shining*star:Is it true that people don't know how to treasure what they've got till they lost them?
My boyfriend and I have been together for the past 1 year plus. Honeymoon period has been over long ago, and for months, I have found myself engaging in quarrels with him almost every other day.
He used to be so sweet and gentle to me – whispering on the phone, caring about my wellbeing, bringing me home every single time we meet up etc.
But now, fourteen months down the road, he seems like a totally different person. He doesnÂ’t respect me anymore. Scolding me vulgarities whenever he likes. Like ch**bye fcuker bitc* etc.
I really love him, and put a lot into this relationship. Friends tell me he is using me but somehow I just cannot bring myself to believe this. He borrows money from me all the time, now totalling up to more than $3k and he never ever returns them.
We come from very different background. I am quite educated, and my parents disapprove of our relationship actually. He is a very typical ah beng. So actually I am really not sure what the future holds for us. But as I've mentioned, I really love him and dote on him. Friends all tell me to stop wasting my time and to break up all that. But it is much easier said than done
What should I do? My ex boyfriend also treated me very badly, after months of debating with myself, I finally took the courage to break up with him. But he came back after all. I didnt want to patch, and he threatened suicide twice. Why this kinda things always happen to me de??
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Break lah. Don't waste time liao.
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Hi Shining star, read ur blog, u r feeling very very sad...well, i thk both of u r young, however age doesn;t really matter whe3n comes to love, wat i can say is tat - think carefully wat u really want, tell him tat u r so heartbroken on how he treated u? Try to find out why n wat happen. I can feel you love him very much. Perhaps u deserve a better guy who appreciates everythg u did for him?
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Thank you everyone for your advices and concern... Some have been harsh while others have put it in nicer words, but the ultimate advice would be to break up with him..
Recently he has been nicer to me, ever since he's been winning from the worldcup betting. Stopped taking money from me, and even brought me to eat Swensens with his friend and the gf... Feeling so confused because the hope is appearing again.
Actually, there was once I did not contact nor meet him for nearly a week, and he didn't contact me either. I felt I was growing a little stronger, but one night he called me to inform me he got into a road accident (bike buang)... I went down to hospital with his friends. and from then on things have improved...
I really don't know what should I do cuz I'm not sure if I should believe in that gleam of new found hope... Sometimes I really wish to 24/7 take down our lives on video and let ppl judge whether its me or him that is the problem. hais! I'm always getting blamed for things that went wrong. why?
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Hm.... R ur relationship stable? when the honey period is over, it is more like a routine that need space, respect , trust and many more....
U have to ask urself, are you the type of girl that need to have bf around u always... how abt ur bf...
if not happy then break up...Before that, can give him a few chances. Then give up. -
A shining star is hard to miss,Originally posted by shining*star:Thank you everyone for your advices and concern... Some have been harsh while others have put it in nicer words, but the ultimate advice would be to break up with him..
Recently he has been nicer to me, ever since he's been winning from the worldcup betting. Stopped taking money from me, and even brought me to eat Swensens with his friend and the gf... Feeling so confused because the hope is appearing again.
Actually, there was once I did not contact nor meet him for nearly a week, and he didn't contact me either. I felt I was growing a little stronger, but one night he called me to inform me he got into a road accident (bike buang)... I went down to hospital with his friends. and from then on things have improved...
I really don't know what should I do cuz I'm not sure if I should believe in that gleam of new found hope... Sometimes I really wish to 24/7 take down our lives on video and let ppl judge whether its me or him that is the problem. hais! I'm always getting blamed for things that went wrong. why?
But then I miss him when we are not in contact...
Cause it attracts attention,
For its beauty and sparkles,
From within,
lies the burning fire,
or love and hope,
which can never be extinguished by any.
Yold such hopes, and dreams,
all extinguish by your current relationship,
and because of your dream,
you look on,
for the small ray of light in your own lost world,
but,
Sadly for you,
its is false,
If your future lies not in the seeking,
please,
stop dreaming of a love,
which can never be.
Someone who loves you will change,
for the better or worse,
but He who loves you,
knows whats good for you now and the future,
Because, in love thats what we're talking about.
The future.
After all the talks and advices,
It still lies in your hand,
your own future,
to know that he,
once did love you,
will he ever do love you that much from now and to forever ?
How important can he be,
When you just want to break up with him,
and never turn back,
yet only to turn back,
When he threatens ?
So is he your lover ?
Or your created parasite ?
To my own personnal opinion,
I would say,
he's just using you as a back up,
from all the girls he can't get,
he comes crying back to you.
Ah Bengs are AH Bengs,
There are Ah Bengs would out guts,
there are ah bengs whom I'll take my hats off, and respect them deepy.
My friend a ah beng has been with his girl for 6 to 7 years now,
He has a car( from his dad's name), and is loyal to the core to his girl,
He crys for his gf,
This is what I call a real Ah Beng.
Those Show off posers, like to flirt and mess around with girls,
i do say, I'm gonn feel sorry for the girls and them,
cause next time, i wonder how do they show their kids, good examples ?
Ruining their own future. I suppose. Sorry a little harsh. =)
Cheers have a good life,
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Some how these seems like divine words ?Originally posted by Yunhaier:
The thing is do we have to figure out why love had long ceased to exist?
Why are we incarcerated to the myth that Love requires a reason to function and a reason to cease functioning?
You don't even know why would you be falling for guys like him, how would you expect yourself to understand the reason why he would devalue you?
You are pondering over a blackhole that leads to nowhere, my dear.
Delusion churned excuses and in turn, produce meekness in you.
What are 'ok times'... as you have so pitifully written? Shouldn't 'ok times' be a NORM instead of something wondrous?
You have invested far too much and your fear revolves partially around this failed investment that is causing you much liability to maintain. Whatever ray of hope you may delude yourself, thinking that everything will turn out well is like praying for a miracle for this liability to transform into assets - to restore your loses.
That's impossible - considering you can't even 'break-even'. It has become a sunk cost.
Cut your loses and learn what has gone wrong, instead of finding what's wrong while you bleed heavily.
Cheers
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I feel that you should move on with your life and go out more with friends..... Know more ppl. You dun need to make any choices as he is not your spouse...... he is juz a companion in one part of your life thats all or what you will call more than a friend.Originally posted by shining*star:Thank you everyone for your advices and concern... Some have been harsh while others have put it in nicer words, but the ultimate advice would be to break up with him..
Recently he has been nicer to me, ever since he's been winning from the worldcup betting. Stopped taking money from me, and even brought me to eat Swensens with his friend and the gf... Feeling so confused because the hope is appearing again.
Actually, there was once I did not contact nor meet him for nearly a week, and he didn't contact me either. I felt I was growing a little stronger, but one night he called me to inform me he got into a road accident (bike buang)... I went down to hospital with his friends. and from then on things have improved...
I really don't know what should I do cuz I'm not sure if I should believe in that gleam of new found hope... Sometimes I really wish to 24/7 take down our lives on video and let ppl judge whether its me or him that is the problem. hais! I'm always getting blamed for things that went wrong. why?
But then I miss him when we are not in contact...
As a boyfriend he is already so irresponsible, how can you depend on him and spent the rest of your life with him. WHen you have drawn to this conclusion..... Move on and contribute to the world , your family and your friends more........
Here is something for ya.....
The Right One...
Somebody once told me that, "Finding the right person is very hard and very wrong..."
It is best to be the right person for the one you love and start from there... you'll always end up disappointed when you set standards and define a "right person" for you... and don't rush things coz somewhere somehow God is preparing somebody for you."
Don't be in a hurry to get into a relationship because you can never find love if you insist that you are already into it.
Try to find time to really understand your real feelings, to know who you really are, and what you really want in a relationship.
You're right, there's no such thing as a perfect relationship, but there's a compatible partnership that goes along with it.
If you already knew that you're too big to fit into a small sized t-shirt, don't give it a try.
You'll probably break it and pay for the damages you have made.
If you knew and felt that the relationship will not last, don't go deeper into it.
You'll just suffer the consequences and live like hell for the rest
of your life.
It's really hard to say goodbye though, but you can't make it any better by just pretending you still have the same feelings.
Try to let go and give yourself a chance to live life to the fullest.
Give yourself a chance to grow and give your heart a much needed attention. Then you will find that you have made the right decision and you made it all by yourself.
We call it love when we can't leave someone and see them crying as we try to let go. We are wrong, it's just pity.
We call it love when we're too attached and to think that losing the one we love will somehow make us weak and unable to face the storms of life. We misunderstood, its just that we're too dependant on them.
We call it love when we give our whole life to them, the wholeness of us and, imagined that if they leave, no one would accept us and our past. We are mistaken, its just insecurity.
But no matter what the definition is, the truth still remains that, love isn't something you can buy or beg.
It is real and existing.
You can't touch it but you can feel it in your heart.
You can't find it, but it will knock before you when you least expect it to come.
It can make you the happiest soul in heaven, but don't forget that it can also make you the most miserable person in the whole galaxy... -
you'r trapped in the whole bad boy game already...
this is why you're still taking all the abusive nonsense because you are still strongly attracted to him..
grow up.. tell ur mind to stop feeling attracted to jerks..
well easier said than done actually.. whatever la..u'll grow up and this phase of ur life will just be another fleeting chapter -
R.i.p to shining star
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he only call you so that you can visit him and let him ya ya in front of his frens...show that he got girlfren can come anytime he wants her to...Originally posted by shining*star:
Actually, there was once I did not contact nor meet him for nearly a week, and he didn't contact me either. I felt I was growing a little stronger, but one night he called me to inform me he got into a road accident (bike buang)... I went down to hospital with his friends. and from then on things have improved...