Love Problem , pls advice me .
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Don't worry ,
I will keep on improving myself and i believe one day i will succeed .
Confidence . -
i have a frenz.. who is in similar prob as u.. he is aredi going steady with his gf.. but the parents were against it. at the time she is 17 i tink. they were 2gether for an yr. but in the end have to broke up.. as the pressure from the parents were real great...
the parents say.. they wil onli let them be togther onli when the ger is 21.. my frenz were really heart broken at that time.. he chosed to hold on.. and he really waited for 3 yrs ( they broke off when she is 1
now they were back to together again.. *cheers* but.. the parents stil restrict alot.. partly becoz he is a rider and he is just a poly grad when the ger is in a uni now. but all thanks to the love they have for each other.. they are going strong now.
reason i wan to share tis story is to encourage u.. peace1983. nuting can stop real love as long as there is 1. i wan u to know tat u are not silly at all. so dun even doubt urself. all the best to u.. hope i could hear gd new fr u in future..
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Hey,this is already the 21st century,what's this all about?My parents were giving me pressure when i was 16 and did not have a gf.
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Yes, no doubt you can say that... but heyz we are all human beings and we are brought up by the thinking of our generations. What you think is alright may not be for your parents. Furthermore, her mother is doing this is for the good of her daughter too, in a way the more she protects her girl shows the more love she showers upon her, and wants her to have as little worries as possible.Originally posted by JacK84:Hey,this is already the 21st century,what's this all about?My parents were giving me pressure when i was 16 and did not have a gf.
Just like not many of us can accept the idea of homosexual, and we will continue to bear this thought in our minds until we are old, but by then (2-4 generation's time), trust me, it will be pretty common. Just looking at the subject matter now. In the past it's a taboo to talk about it, or people doesn't even think it existed. Now, all over the world, there's people who gay/lesbian and they are voicing out, even in Singapore. Try hearing what do our parents/grandparents think about them, you will see the gap between your thinking and theirs. We're all brought up differently and lived through different times, and can't really expect everyone to change their thinking overnight just becoz this is the 21st century. Our experiences in life made up much of our perceptions, and you can judge who is wrong, just that we have to take into account the views of others.
Sorryz if you feel that I have judge you... but I do agree that we should be more open to new ideas and not be restricted in a cage. In fact, my latest understanding of a personal life theory about girls with guys who are much younger (like 3-10yrs) is through the acceptance of a change in the modern idea of r/s. That's through the show "when I fall in love... with both"
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Thanks for your advice on one example from your friend .Originally posted by MoNsTer:i have a frenz.. who is in similar prob as u.. he is aredi going steady with his gf.. but the parents were against it. at the time she is 17 i tink. they were 2gether for an yr. but in the end have to broke up.. as the pressure from the parents were real great...
the parents say.. they wil onli let them be togther onli when the ger is 21.. my frenz were really heart broken at that time.. he chosed to hold on.. and he really waited for 3 yrs ( they broke off when she is 1
now they were back to together again.. *cheers* but.. the parents stil restrict alot.. partly becoz he is a rider and he is just a poly grad when the ger is in a uni now. but all thanks to the love they have for each other.. they are going strong now.
reason i wan to share tis story is to encourage u.. peace1983. nuting can stop real love as long as there is 1. i wan u to know tat u are not silly at all. so dun even doubt urself. all the best to u.. hope i could hear gd new fr u in future..
[This message has been edited by MoNsTer (edited 07 May 2002).]
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Upon hearing this have increase my confidence & fighting spirit toward her mum & her .
Yes , i agree that going to this relationship will increase the pressure but i believe i will hang on to this cause we have gone through thick & thin so far and i wouldn't want to give up till i see success .
Well , i hope to use my true sincere heart can change her mum thinking in the near future .
Thank , i will hang on to this relationship till i see success . -
Bear : Thank for ur advice .
But lucky i have my family & friends to support me and of coz you guy & gal down here .
If i one day succeed , hope to meet you ppl out for a treat by me .
I will succeed -
......Originally posted by MoNsTer:i have a frenz.. who is in similar prob as u.. he is aredi going steady with his gf.. but the parents were against it. at the time she is 17 i tink. they were 2gether for an yr. but in the end have to broke up.. as the pressure from the parents were real great...
the parents say.. they wil onli let them be togther onli when the ger is 21.. my frenz were really heart broken at that time.. he chosed to hold on.. and he really waited for 3 yrs ( they broke off when she is 1
now they were back to together again.. *cheers* but.. the parents stil restrict alot.. partly becoz he is a rider and he is just a poly grad when the ger is in a uni now. but all thanks to the love they have for each other.. they are going strong now.
reason i wan to share tis story is to encourage u.. peace1983. nuting can stop real love as long as there is 1. i wan u to know tat u are not silly at all. so dun even doubt urself. all the best to u.. hope i could hear gd new fr u in future..
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In LIGHT I shall FEAR NOT. FOR what I AM is CUT so DEEP inside of ME.
I LIVE my FLESH and SOUL ONLY to BLEED for the OTHERS.
FEAR ME NOT. FOR I AM YOUR 'MASTER'. GIVE YOU STRENGTH. FOR YOU ARE MY 'ENEMY'.
DEVIL PHRASE I
I have no 'friends' nor 'family'.
I hold no past and see not future...
These are just samples of illusions....
I don't exist, but I shall live ETERNITY..... DEVIL PHRASE II
Though NOT the RIGHT thing to do,
This might be the ONLY NATURAL thing to be...
Just like heat is produced when work done...
EVIL is the GENERATION of SYSTEM FLAWS... DEVIL PHRASE III
In DREAMS you CAN NEVER DIE.....
For YOUR LIFE is about the EXISTENCE of....
Your Happiness.... Your Sadness... Your Pain.... Your Pleasure....
Like a painted sky, when it rains... All CEASE to BE... DEVIL PHRASE IV
Through Chaos the Devil gain strength,
to face the lord, his Creator.
Through his questionings, he recovered his true existence...
Good & Evil, Can they co-exists in harmony? DEVIL PHRASE V
When Law & Rules are there,
they are NOT about JUSTICE.
While reality & dreams are there,
they are NOT about SURVIVAL..
And Life & Death NOT about LIVING...
Good & Evil NOT about definitions....
IF truly there is EVIL, it is NOT just one of its kind......
DEVIL'S SEVENTH PHRASE
ße COOL, NOT s¢rr¥.... -
DIVERSIFICATION... Signifies the SUPER-EXPONENTIAL CURVE.... WARNING of the COMING of a CATASTROPHE....Originally posted by Bear:Yes, no doubt you can say that... but heyz we are all human beings and we are brought up by the thinking of our generations. What you think is alright may not be for your parents. Furthermore, her mother is doing this is for the good of her daughter too, in a way the more she protects her girl shows the more love she showers upon her, and wants her to have as little worries as possible.
Just like not many of us can accept the idea of homosexual, and we will continue to bear this thought in our minds until we are old, but by then (2-4 generation's time), trust me, it will be pretty common. Just looking at the subject matter now. In the past it's a taboo to talk about it, or people doesn't even think it existed. Now, all over the world, there's people who gay/lesbian and they are voicing out, even in Singapore. Try hearing what do our parents/grandparents think about them, you will see the gap between your thinking and theirs. We're all brought up differently and lived through different times, and can't really expect everyone to change their thinking overnight just becoz this is the 21st century. Our experiences in life made up much of our perceptions, and you can judge who is wrong, just that we have to take into account the views of others.
Sorryz if you feel that I have judge you... but I do agree that we should be more open to new ideas and not be restricted in a cage. In fact, my latest understanding of a personal life theory about girls with guys who are much younger (like 3-10yrs) is through the acceptance of a change in the modern idea of r/s. That's through the show "when I fall in love... with both"
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In LIGHT I shall FEAR NOT. FOR what I AM is CUT so DEEP inside of ME.
I LIVE my FLESH and SOUL ONLY to BLEED for the OTHERS.
FEAR ME NOT. FOR I AM YOUR 'MASTER'. GIVE YOU STRENGTH. FOR YOU ARE MY 'ENEMY'.
DEVIL PHRASE I
I have no 'friends' nor 'family'.
I hold no past and see not future...
These are just samples of illusions....
I don't exist, but I shall live ETERNITY..... DEVIL PHRASE II
Though NOT the RIGHT thing to do,
This might be the ONLY NATURAL thing to be...
Just like heat is produced when work done...
EVIL is the GENERATION of SYSTEM FLAWS... DEVIL PHRASE III
In DREAMS you CAN NEVER DIE.....
For YOUR LIFE is about the EXISTENCE of....
Your Happiness.... Your Sadness... Your Pain.... Your Pleasure....
Like a painted sky, when it rains... All CEASE to BE... DEVIL PHRASE IV
Through Chaos the Devil gain strength,
to face the lord, his Creator.
Through his questionings, he recovered his true existence...
Good & Evil, Can they co-exists in harmony? DEVIL PHRASE V
When Law & Rules are there,
they are NOT about JUSTICE.
While reality & dreams are there,
they are NOT about SURVIVAL..
And Life & Death NOT about LIVING...
Good & Evil NOT about definitions....
IF truly there is EVIL, it is NOT just one of its kind......
DEVIL'S SEVENTH PHRASE
ße COOL, NOT s¢rr¥.... -
welcome.... all the best... anyway.. when u got her.. tresure her... dun wait til u lost her then u regret..Originally posted by peace1983:Thanks for your advice on one example from your friend .
Upon hearing this have increase my confidence & fighting spirit toward her mum & her .
Yes , i agree that going to this relationship will increase the pressure but i believe i will hang on to this cause we have gone through thick & thin so far and i wouldn't want to give up till i see success .
Well , i hope to use my true sincere heart can change her mum thinking in the near future .
Thank , i will hang on to this relationship till i see success .
in fact i have a real life true love story to tel.. but its damn long.. its fr another forum. wonder if u all are interested... its a very gd story we can learn fr.. its the kind of story tat could happen to any1
its abt a couple going thr thick and thin to be together but when the guy got the ger, he dun tresure.. anyway.. if u all are interested.. tel mi.. then i wil post it or wat.... -
once i have a gf same problem with you mom object. Of course we broke up la. This tell you parents objection can cause a lot of pressure lor. But now she got BF!!!! haha so she bluff me?? But juz wan to tell you tat if a gal really wan to be with you, no matter wat,even is parent objection she will be with you wan la. for wat i always tell pplOriginally posted by MoNsTer:i have a frenz.. who is in similar prob as u.. he is aredi going steady with his gf.. but the parents were against it. at the time she is 17 i tink. they were 2gether for an yr. but in the end have to broke up.. as the pressure from the parents were real great...
the parents say.. they wil onli let them be togther onli when the ger is 21.. my frenz were really heart broken at that time.. he chosed to hold on.. and he really waited for 3 yrs ( they broke off when she is 1
now they were back to together again.. *cheers* but.. the parents stil restrict alot.. partly becoz he is a rider and he is just a poly grad when the ger is in a uni now. but all thanks to the love they have for each other.. they are going strong now.
reason i wan to share tis story is to encourage u.. peace1983. nuting can stop real love as long as there is 1. i wan u to know tat u are not silly at all. so dun even doubt urself. all the best to u.. hope i could hear gd new fr u in future..
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wat is yours will be yours, wat is not yours will nv be yours .btw gd luck.I think you can make it. -
hey.. i agree with the "if its urs, its urs. if its not.. its never wil be." when i met prob in relationship, i wil always rember this pt.Originally posted by heavyarm:once i have a gf same problem with you mom object. Of course we broke up la. This tell you parents objection can cause a lot of pressure lor. But now she got BF!!!! haha so she bluff me?? But juz wan to tell you tat if a gal really wan to be with you, no matter wat,even is parent objection she will be with you wan la. for wat i always tell ppl
wat is yours will be yours, wat is not yours will nv be yours .btw gd luck.I think you can make it.
anyway... the ger i mention in the example have a lot of pple going after her during the 3 yrs. the guy have gers going after him too.. stil they hold on to the love they have for each other til the days they patch..
anyting could happen.. look on the bright side. but do prepare urself for the worst.. -
True Love Never Dies??
How abt SKIN barrier? hahah
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ThEsE wOrDs YoU SaId lAsT NigHt
SeEmEd hArMlEsS LikE a ChILd'S SmILe
BuT dId YoU kNoW It StUng My EvErY nErVe?
ShAtTeReD mY PrIde,
LeFt mE ScArReD
i MiGhT nEvEr bE tHe sAmE aGaiN
fOr tHeSe wOrDs YoU sAiD
aRe fOrEvEr eNgrAvEd
LiKe A MemORy CuRtAin
DraWn aCrOSs ReaSons
bUt YOU--- ReMEmBeR
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Maybe... maybe not coz when you're divided, no doubt there will be a strain.. but if both parties are able to consider each other, they will strike a balance which is good... Like had it not been a diversity, we will not be speaking English, which is used in 65-75% of the world. And also becoz of diversity we have even our very own color 'Singlish'. No doubt Singlish is kind of bad English, but it's a highlight and interesting view to other societies...Originally posted by Devil1976:DIVERSIFICATION... Signifies the SUPER-EXPONENTIAL CURVE.... WARNING of the COMING of a CATASTROPHE....
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(,) (,) =======================
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u know what....
i feel that if u really respect the gal, don't ask to go steady with her over the phone, online ....etc. it's....just not right. u should have asked her to be your steady face to face. btw, the chance of success will be higher too~ good luck anyway!
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One world
One love One mind
One soul One life
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This post to who ???Originally posted by aCid_rAIn:u know what....
i feel that if u really respect the gal, don't ask to go steady with her over the phone, online ....etc. it's....just not right. u should have asked her to be your steady face to face. btw, the chance of success will be higher too~ good luck anyway! -
the person who started this thread.....
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One world
One love One mind
One soul One life
One peace One goal -
Perhaps u would like to ask y she only treats u as her gd friend. Does she not hv any feelings for u at all? Y not asking her to consider n try it out as a couple n see whether she agrees. I feel tat if u really like someone, u shd be daring n thickskinned enough, if not u will be miserable n left wondering how come like tat. If she rejects u, asks y. Isit cos of yr character or other factors? Treat tis as an experience... Gd luck!Originally posted by peace1983:Hi ,
Last year January at my friend chalet .
I got to know a girl through my friend introduce .
During my first meeting with this girl , i find that we communicate well and share the
same interest .
As time grow , we started to call , sms each other , chat thru MSN messenger chat and go out together !
As month go , i develope a feeling over her and i decided to hint her .
During the hint , i find out she like me too and i was so happy .
One day ,
I meet her to tell her i love her and hope we can be a couple but she say she treat me as a good friend only and when i heard this 'i was heartbroken but i continue the conversation with her by switching the topic '.
Then one day , i found out that during that day when i told her that time her mum was there .
I know her mum don't allow her to go into relationship yet because of her studies .
So now i decided to wait for her after she
graduate from poly .
Am i foolish !
If she read this article now , i hope she know ' I LOVE HER ' -
Thank ,
my problem solve already -
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This couple look familar.Originally posted by Wes Brown:
Let me think -
wat happen in the end?Originally posted by peace1983:Thank ,
my problem solve already
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ThEsE wOrDs YoU SaId lAsT NigHt
SeEmEd hArMlEsS LikE a ChILd'S SmILe
BuT dId YoU kNoW It StUng My EvErY nErVe?
ShAtTeReD mY PrIde,
LeFt mE ScArReD
i MiGhT nEvEr bE tHe sAmE aGaiN
fOr tHeSe wOrDs YoU sAiD
aRe fOrEvEr eNgrAvEd
LiKe A MemORy CuRtAin
DraWn aCrOSs ReaSons
bUt YOU--- ReMEmBeR
I WoUld SuRviVe -
Hi, hope that u & this gal will have a good endingOriginally posted by peace1983:Hi ,
Last year January at my friend chalet .
I got to know a girl through my friend introduce .
During my first meeting with this girl , i find that we communicate well and share the
same interest .
As time grow , we started to call , sms each other , chat thru MSN messenger chat and go out together !
As month go , i develope a feeling over her and i decided to hint her .
During the hint , i find out she like me too and i was so happy .
One day ,
I meet her to tell her i love her and hope we can be a couple but she say she treat me as a good friend only and when i heard this 'i was heartbroken but i continue the conversation with her by switching the topic '.
Then one day , i found out that during that day when i told her that time her mum was there .
I know her mum don't allow her to go into relationship yet because of her studies .
So now i decided to wait for her after she
graduate from poly .
Am i foolish !
If she read this article now , i hope she know ' I LOVE HER '