Felt disgusted n betrayed..
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I felt hurt and disgusted, hope to share it with some1..
I met this girl 4 yrs ago, after our O level during our 1st 3 mths..
i was bound to go overseas for further education, but she asked me to stay, since it was my first love, i fought hard with mt parents to stay.
We were getting along fine and everything was like a fairytale, then 3 mths later we get into poly, and during the 3rd week of our poly life, she 2 timed me. I found out like a few mths later, I was hurt as she was my 1st love and have not been thru it. But she swear that nth else gone beyond than just admiring him. It took me quite sometime to forget bout it..
and for the next 2 yrs things have been rocky and finally i left her 1 yr ago.. till this year march we start talking out again.. after 4 mths, i felt that we are getting along fine.. so i start asking her things bout what happened during the 1 yr we were not together, she keep assuring me that nothing happens.. i trust her initally.. but soon i began that things were not as simple as that, i took her hp and copy down a few guys no that i noe she is close to for the past 1 yr. and i sms them..
it hurts me a lot when it was other ppl who told me the truth, finally, she admitted it. it took me a lot of courage to say that she admitted sleeping with this guy. It was a very big blow to me. I felt hurt and betrayed. for the past 3 nights, i have try to sleep and everytime i close my eyes, i can see them together.. i felt very disgusted. I tried forgiving her and move on, but when the sun goes down and nightime, i juz felt very depressed.. it's been my 4th night sleepless again, i really wish to let it go, but it seems like she is not helping me.. i stayed here 3 yrs for her, i lost her now, i felt totally lost........ -
Can u forgive her?
My suggestion is to leave her.
But can u do tat?Originally posted by betrayedNhurts:Hi, juz register for this topic.
I felt hurt and disgusted, hope to share it with some1..
I met this girl 4 yrs ago, after our O level during our 1st 3 mths..
i was bound to go overseas for further education, but she asked me to stay, since it was my first love, i fought hard with mt parents to stay.
We were getting along fine and everything was like a fairytale, then 3 mths later we get into poly, and during the 3rd week of our poly life, she 2 timed me. I found out like a few mths later, I was hurt as she was my 1st love and have not been thru it. But she swear that nth else gone beyond than just admiring him. It took me quite sometime to forget bout it..
and for the next 2 yrs things have been rocky and finally i left her 1 yr ago.. till this year march we start talking out again.. after 4 mths, i felt that we are getting along fine.. so i start asking her things bout what happened during the 1 yr we were not together, she keep assuring me that nothing happens.. i trust her initally.. but soon i began that things were not as simple as that, i took her hp and copy down a few guys no that i noe she is close to for the past 1 yr. and i sms them..
it hurts me a lot when it was other ppl who told me the truth, finally, she admitted it. it took me a lot of courage to say that she admitted sleeping with this guy. It was a very big blow to me. I felt hurt and betrayed. for the past 3 nights, i have try to sleep and everytime i close my eyes, i can see them together.. i felt very disgusted. I tried forgiving her and move on, but when the sun goes down and nightime, i juz felt very depressed.. it's been my 4th night sleepless again, i really wish to let it go, but it seems like she is not helping me.. i stayed here 3 yrs for her, i lost her now, i felt totally lost........ -
we have made plans during our 3-4 mth togehter, goin to australia and leave everything behind.. ans start anew, that is before i knew about it.. now things turn out to be so hurtful.. i just felt lost and have no idea how to go on.. i tried to accept it, but everytime when i close my eyes to catch some sleep, i just saw them... i felt so disgusted...
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Do u still trust her? Give urself sometime to think abt it.
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this is not the 1st time guys get closed to her, i have been telling her how a girl should behave and stuffs like tat, she shoot me back saying that if they nv done anything wrong, she is not afraid of anything.. but now smth gone wrong, i dare not share this prob with my guy frenz, i am really ashamed of my gf past.. sigh..
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Think u need to sort things out with ur gf. But give urself some time first.
U still young. Life has its ups and downs but we all learn from our mistakes. -
so what you really mind is that the girl had slept with another guy before?Originally posted by betrayedNhurts:we have made plans during our 3-4 mth togehter, goin to australia and leave everything behind.. ans start anew, that is before i knew about it.. now things turn out to be so hurtful.. i just felt lost and have no idea how to go on.. i tried to accept it, but everytime when i close my eyes to catch some sleep, i just saw them... i felt so disgusted... -
The hardest thing is for me to blame it on myself, i keep asking why did i left her 1 yr ago, it wouldn't happen if i were to stick by her back then.. who wouldn't mind to share his gf with another guy? i may be 'suakoo' or smth like that, but it really meant a lot to me.. i felt disgusted whenever i close my eyes..
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she's not worthy.. leave her bahz.. i mean she wasnt even truthful to you...
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actually u mentioned u all left each other for 1 yr, so she found someone else.
the only thing she did to u is being dishonest to u whether she slept with someone else during tat 1 yr.
if u cannot accept the fact that she slept with someone during the 1yr break, then mebbe u dun continue with her. -
i'm so confused, she tried calling me, but everytime i shouted at her, i just lost control and am very angry with her, i knew that she is a victim of her own folly, but i juz couldn't control my emotions.. i have promised that i will give her a 2nd chance if she told me the truth, i don't know how to carry on now, i tried to be there for her for the past 3 days, but whenever i am alone, i find myself to be so foolish.. it may be her past, but it seems like, it's everything to me.. U may tell me that if i love her, i have to accept her, but it is just so difficult. I have never imagine to be in this position myself. It is unfair that i have to pay the price for that guy pleasure and her folly. i just felt very lousy about it......
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if its hard to accept then dont be with her silly boyOriginally posted by betrayedNhurts:i'm so confused, she tried calling me, but everytime i shouted at her, i just lost control and am very angry with her, i knew that she is a victim of her own folly, but i juz couldn't control my emotions.. i have promised that i will give her a 2nd chance if she told me the truth, i don't know how to carry on now, i tried to be there for her for the past 3 days, but whenever i am alone, i find myself to be so foolish.. it may be her past, but it seems like, it's everything to me.. U may tell me that if i love her, i have to accept her, but it is just so difficult. I have never imagine to be in this position myself. It is unfair that i have to pay the price for that guy pleasure and her folly. i just felt very lousy about it...... -
Nothing is fair in this world. And the fact tat this happened during the 1 yr break with her, and u can't really blame urself and her.Originally posted by betrayedNhurts:i'm so confused, she tried calling me, but everytime i shouted at her, i just lost control and am very angry with her, i knew that she is a victim of her own folly, but i juz couldn't control my emotions.. i have promised that i will give her a 2nd chance if she told me the truth, i don't know how to carry on now, i tried to be there for her for the past 3 days, but whenever i am alone, i find myself to be so foolish.. it may be her past, but it seems like, it's everything to me.. U may tell me that if i love her, i have to accept her, but it is just so difficult. I have never imagine to be in this position myself. It is unfair that i have to pay the price for that guy pleasure and her folly. i just felt very lousy about it......
Just ask urself, can u accept the fact tat she slept with someone else during the 1yr. If can, continue. If cannot, move on. -
Been there, experienced that.
Time is all you need bah
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She is not worth it! She betrays you once and she will betray you twice!
This women who 2 time you before has loose moral... * Sl*t* -
sounds depressingOriginally posted by betrayedNhurts:Hi, juz register for this topic.
I felt hurt and disgusted, hope to share it with some1..
I met this girl 4 yrs ago, after our O level during our 1st 3 mths..
i was bound to go overseas for further education, but she asked me to stay, since it was my first love, i fought hard with mt parents to stay.
We were getting along fine and everything was like a fairytale, then 3 mths later we get into poly, and during the 3rd week of our poly life, she 2 timed me. I found out like a few mths later, I was hurt as she was my 1st love and have not been thru it. But she swear that nth else gone beyond than just admiring him. It took me quite sometime to forget bout it..
and for the next 2 yrs things have been rocky and finally i left her 1 yr ago.. till this year march we start talking out again.. after 4 mths, i felt that we are getting along fine.. so i start asking her things bout what happened during the 1 yr we were not together, she keep assuring me that nothing happens.. i trust her initally.. but soon i began that things were not as simple as that, i took her hp and copy down a few guys no that i noe she is close to for the past 1 yr. and i sms them..
it hurts me a lot when it was other ppl who told me the truth, finally, she admitted it. it took me a lot of courage to say that she admitted sleeping with this guy. It was a very big blow to me. I felt hurt and betrayed. for the past 3 nights, i have try to sleep and everytime i close my eyes, i can see them together.. i felt very disgusted. I tried forgiving her and move on, but when the sun goes down and nightime, i juz felt very depressed.. it's been my 4th night sleepless again, i really wish to let it go, but it seems like she is not helping me.. i stayed here 3 yrs for her, i lost her now, i felt totally lost........
hey fellow,was once in this state like u but im out of it nw
u need to open ur heart and nt feel that shes the only one for u
Im positively sure -
dun count on it manOriginally posted by betrayedNhurts:The hardest thing is for me to blame it on myself, i keep asking why did i left her 1 yr ago, it wouldn't happen if i were to stick by her back then.. who wouldn't mind to share his gf with another guy? i may be 'suakoo' or smth like that, but it really meant a lot to me.. i felt disgusted whenever i close my eyes..
im sure u heard gals slping wif other guys even tho they're attached
this might or might nt happen even if u did nt leave her
after all if she decided to commit this act,its her choice
ur nt responsible for it -
she got betray you meh?
wasn't it your feelings she was trying to protect with that lie? -
she can betray you one time
there will be second times -
Didn't you read his posting that she 2 time him?Originally posted by Ito_^:she got betray you meh?
wasn't it your feelings she was trying to protect with that lie? -
But protecting his feelings after she did it?Originally posted by Ito_^:she got betray you meh?
wasn't it your feelings she was trying to protect with that lie? -
not v.trueOriginally posted by icYwATeR:she can betray you one time
there will be second times
some learn their lesson and learn it the guilty way
u got change ur mentality,
no offense but it probaly ppl lyk u that convict have no 'second' chance -
LOL!! Must support yellow ribbon campaign. I agree from what u says but I think she is too young and immature to handle a r/s in the first place!Originally posted by olala:not v.true
some learn their lesson and learn it the guilty way
u got change ur mentality,
no offense but it probaly ppl lyk u that convict have no 'second' chance -
she slept with the guy during the one year break right? dat time she is considered "single".Originally posted by CannyOng:Didn't you read his posting that she 2 time him? -
first of all u made the mistake of staying here just for her. if she loves u, she will have allowed u to further your education. gurls comes and goes and its up to you to decide