In the depth of sadness someone please help me !
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Hi everyone that is looking at this post here. This is the first time I am posting a topic here. ItÂ’s quite late and I canÂ’t sleep. The reason being I am feeling very sad at the moment and I am writing this down case my soul needs to express the sadness I feeling for the past few months. My soul is crying for the lady I care about and the saddest thing is that I do not know how express my feelings to her. I think I am losing her.
I knew this lady through a friend; she is nice lady
and as time passed by my feelings for her grew stronger, wanted to get to know her better cause I did not want to fall blindly in love with her. Just wanted to know her better. Went out a few times, but it seems that we were unable to communicate. Both of us are the quiet type.
Tried to express my liking for her once but I think it misfired and than it was down hill all the way. Tried to called her out few time after that but she always politely rejected me and everytime she does that I felt sad. Is she afraid of me?
We are slowly drifting apart. Cried cause I think I am falling in love with her but will she ever know how I felt?
Used to be a happy go lucky type of guy but I have been feeling down for the past year.
Kept thinking of her for the last 2 years and the last time I went out with her was a few months back.
Wanted to forget about her but I CANÂ’T.
Is this what you call lovesickness? It really pains me
How to get over it, it has been 2 years liao.
I am afraid of loving her cause I am really afraid of losing her.
Please help me to release my soul from this depth of sadness.
I canÂ’t live like this
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Is she afraid of me?
yes.
how to resolve yr saddness?
no ideas. -
I'm still awake.
Have read your post.
I really wish i could help.
But i don't think whatever i post is at your advantage.
....or pleasing to your ears.
Cheers -
Afraid or not, you've probably already 'lost' her...Originally posted by ryan:O):Hi everyone that is looking at this post here. This is the first time I am posting a topic here. ItÂ’s quite late and I canÂ’t sleep. The reason being I am feeling very sad at the moment and I am writing this down case my soul needs to express the sadness I feeling for the past few months. My soul is crying for the lady I care about and the saddest thing is that I do not know how express my feelings to her. I think I am losing her.
I knew this lady through a friend; she is nice lady and as time passed by my feelings for her grew stronger, wanted to get to know her better cause I did not want to fall blindly in love with her. Just wanted to know her better. Went out a few times, but it seems that we were unable to communicate. Both of us are the quiet type.
Tried to express my liking for her once but I think it misfired and than it was down hill all the way. Tried to called her out few time after that but she always politely rejected me and everytime she does that I felt sad. Is she afraid of me?
We are slowly drifting apart. Cried cause I think I am falling in love with her but will she ever know how I felt?
Used to be a happy go lucky type of guy but I have been feeling down for the past year.
Kept thinking of her for the last 2 years and the last time I went out with her was a few months back.
Wanted to forget about her but I CANÂ’T.
Is this what you call lovesickness? It really pains me
How to get over it, it has been 2 years liao.
I am afraid of loving her cause I am really afraid of losing her.
Please help me to release my soul from this depth of sadness.
I canÂ’t live like this
Would you rather take a 'polite rejection' this way or take one straight in your face
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how come recently always have new forumites coming to AA to post their sad stories ah.. somemore always at tis kind of hr one..
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most probably she is not interested in you leh..
sometimes being frens is also good.. -
Originally posted by monoslayer:how come recently always have new forumites coming to AA to post their sad stories ah.. somemore always at tis kind of hr one..
Lau, you might have gotten yourself another twin. -
Originally posted by monoslayer:how come recently always have new forumites coming to AA to post their sad stories ah.. somemore always at tis kind of hr one..
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Well said.Originally posted by R3SsH|n:
Haiz
I also cant sleep. -
I too am still awake.Originally posted by ryan:O):Hi everyone that is looking at this post here. This is the first time I am posting a topic here. ItÂ’s quite late and I canÂ’t sleep. The reason being I am feeling very sad at the moment and I am writing this down case my soul needs to express the sadness I feeling for the past few months. My soul is crying for the lady I care about and the saddest thing is that I do not know how express my feelings to her. I think I am losing her.
I knew this lady through a friend; she is nice lady and as time passed by my feelings for her grew stronger, wanted to get to know her better cause I did not want to fall blindly in love with her. Just wanted to know her better. Went out a few times, but it seems that we were unable to communicate. Both of us are the quiet type.
Tried to express my liking for her once but I think it misfired and than it was down hill all the way. Tried to called her out few time after that but she always politely rejected me and everytime she does that I felt sad. Is she afraid of me?
We are slowly drifting apart. Cried cause I think I am falling in love with her but will she ever know how I felt?
Used to be a happy go lucky type of guy but I have been feeling down for the past year.
Kept thinking of her for the last 2 years and the last time I went out with her was a few months back.
Wanted to forget about her but I CANÂ’T.
Is this what you call lovesickness? It really pains me
How to get over it, it has been 2 years liao.
I am afraid of loving her cause I am really afraid of losing her.
Please help me to release my soul from this depth of sadness.
I canÂ’t live like this
From the looks of it I don't think you know her very well, and you have already fell in love "blindly".
mmm just think carefully why you really like her, could be an infatuation. -
write a letter to her instead.
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Did you actually express your feelings for her? If yes and she politely rejected, most likely it meant she wasn't ready to accept but is unwilling to break this friendship too.Originally posted by ryan:O):Hi everyone that is looking at this post here. This is the first time I am posting a topic here. ItÂ’s quite late and I canÂ’t sleep. The reason being I am feeling very sad at the moment and I am writing this down case my soul needs to express the sadness I feeling for the past few months. My soul is crying for the lady I care about and the saddest thing is that I do not know how express my feelings to her. I think I am losing her.
I knew this lady through a friend; she is nice lady and as time passed by my feelings for her grew stronger, wanted to get to know her better cause I did not want to fall blindly in love with her. Just wanted to know her better. Went out a few times, but it seems that we were unable to communicate. Both of us are the quiet type.
Tried to express my liking for her once but I think it misfired and than it was down hill all the way. Tried to called her out few time after that but she always politely rejected me and everytime she does that I felt sad. Is she afraid of me?
We are slowly drifting apart. Cried cause I think I am falling in love with her but will she ever know how I felt?
Used to be a happy go lucky type of guy but I have been feeling down for the past year.
Kept thinking of her for the last 2 years and the last time I went out with her was a few months back.
Wanted to forget about her but I CANÂ’T.
Is this what you call lovesickness? It really pains me
How to get over it, it has been 2 years liao.
I am afraid of loving her cause I am really afraid of losing her.
Please help me to release my soul from this depth of sadness.
I canÂ’t live like this
If no then are you afraid of losing her as a friend? Or as something else?
I am in no position to say what you should do because I myself have issues of my own, but I can suggest a few things which MAY be of help.
Tell this to a close friend of yours. You may not get 'enlightenment' but at least there is someone lending a listening ear.
Go out and meet other people. It will give you a fresh feeling at least and you may see more things and perhaps have a new interest?
Seek professional counselling. I am not saying you are in such a horrible situation to require it. Even people who looked fine seeks pro counselling. They are unsure of what to do in their lives and feel lost at times.
Of course there will be more people posting here so you can wait and see more options available later.
I do have another question though: Do you prefer to let her know how you feel and risk losing possibly everything or would you rather keep this feeling quiet and hope it will go away? -
sing her a song, about how your soul is crying and stuff, and she will be touched
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Originally posted by Bontakun:
HELLO!! LONG TIME NO SEE!!
Did you actually express your feelings for her? If yes and she politely rejected, [b]most likely it meant she wasn't ready to accept but is unwilling to break this friendship too.
If no then are you afraid of losing her as a friend? Or as something else?
I am in no position to say what you should do because I myself have issues of my own, but I can suggest a few things which MAY be of help.
Tell this to a close friend of yours. You may not get 'enlightenment' but at least there is someone lending a listening ear.
Go out and meet other people. It will give you a fresh feeling at least and you may see more things and perhaps have a new interest?
Seek professional counselling. I am not saying you are in such a horrible situation to require it. Even people who looked fine seeks pro counselling. They are unsure of what to do in their lives and feel lost at times.
Of course there will be more people posting here so you can wait and see more options available later.
I do have another question though: Do you prefer to let her know how you feel and risk losing possibly everything or would you rather keep this feeling quiet and hope it will go away?[/b]
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Originally posted by Devil1976:HELLO!! LONG TIME NO SEE!!
Dats my feelings basically when I came back here.
Good to see you still healthy and good along with others I know. Woooo~~~~~ -
I'm happy to know that I'm healthy too!Originally posted by Bontakun:
Dats my feelings basically when I came back here.
Good to see you still healthy and good along with others I know. Woooo~~~~~ -
Originally posted by ryan:O):Hi everyone that is looking at this post here. This is the first time I am posting a topic here. ItÂ’s quite late and I canÂ’t sleep. The reason being I am feeling very sad at the moment and I am writing this down case my soul needs to express the sadness I feeling for the past few months. My soul is crying for the lady I care about and the saddest thing is that I do not know how express my feelings to her. I think I am losing her.
I knew this lady through a friend; she is nice lady and as time passed by my feelings for her grew stronger, wanted to get to know her better cause I did not want to fall blindly in love with her. Just wanted to know her better. Went out a few times, but it seems that we were unable to communicate. Both of us are the quiet type.
Tried to express my liking for her once but I think it misfired and than it was down hill all the way. Tried to called her out few time after that but she always politely rejected me and everytime she does that I felt sad. Is she afraid of me?
We are slowly drifting apart. Cried cause I think I am falling in love with her but will she ever know how I felt?
Used to be a happy go lucky type of guy but I have been feeling down for the past year.
Kept thinking of her for the last 2 years and the last time I went out with her was a few months back.
Wanted to forget about her but I CANÂ’T.
Is this what you call lovesickness? It really pains me
How to get over it, it has been 2 years liao.
I am afraid of loving her cause I am really afraid of losing her.
Please help me to release my soul from this depth of sadness.
I canÂ’t live like this Accept that it was only one sided and really accept that reality?
You are resisting and therefore you suffer emotionally.
Cheers -
haiz
forget her ba . that is nutting u can do actually
furthermore u are bound to irritate her if u are persistant
take some pride and leave gracefully -
HERES THE MOST PRACTICAL TRUEST ADVICE.
YOU NEED ANOTHER GIRL TO FU CK.
when you're dating and fu cking other girls, you'll feel ok and stop moping about this one girl. sure it seems you got so much feelings for this one girl now but its easily switchable n losable. one day you'll realise you never really LOVEd this particular girl anyway and it was just a desire from your lonely heart.
once you're doing other girls, you'll realise yourself how easily to transfer your feelings from this particular one. stop wasting your best years. -
Dear Ryan,
my empathy goes out to you.
Judging from ur story, u had ur chances. She gave them to u a few times but then realised finally that u r not suitable for her.
Girls are like that? Once they have rationalised and shut u out of their shortlist, that's it.
It's not ur fault either. Just remember that someone else out there is made for you. U just have to buck yourself up, be wiser and keep trying.
Lastly, I must berate u for sounding like a girly man who seems to have lost all direction in life. U live for urself, no one else shd affect the way you shape ur life. Stop sounding so needy anymore and pls stand up! -
That's not true !!
The more you do to other girls, the more lonely you felt. -
Get hold of yourself.....
Ur sadness is scaring people off....
Try making urself happy by going out with ur friends...
hm... happy people attract people... -
I dont think she will.. Gers when it comes to r/s are very straightforward..if they dun like you , there is NOTHING you can do to change their mind. That is if they like you , they can even sacrifice anything for you.Originally posted by the.owl:sing her a song, about how your soul is crying and stuff, and she will be touched
My best advice is to give up and move on. Dont even keep her as a friend cos it will only make u miserable. Join some activities and get to know more people. The best way to forget about a relationship is to give yaself the opportunity to start another another one. -
Hi everyone.
Thanks for reading my post and my appreciation for all you kind words of encouragements. Especially Bontakun, Rock^Star, snowbird82 and even neverendingtrauma Thanks again :O)
Hmmm… from the posts I must acknowledge the fact that I have invested too much feeling in trying know her better and all those emotions seems one sided. Well that is maybe because this is the “First” time that I have been attracted to a nice lady. (fyi I am not a young teenager blinded by puppy love)
Tried really hard to forget her a few times as I slowly started to realise that I was weighted down by these emotions. HmmmÂ… even some of my close friends seem to see the sadness in me. You really can see whether the person is happy or sad by looking carefully into their eyes. It seem like they are a window to your soul.
ItÂ’s just a bit hard to carry on after all those feeling I felt and I guess I have to let go of my foolish emotions and I really hope that the hands of time can slowly wash away all the sadness in me.
Hope this post will continue and help others that share the same experiences as me.