past haunts me...
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i in poly as most of you know. 3rd year le. first and 2nd year i wasnt v much of mr popular but instead i am mr unpopular and infamous. o man. i dont know how to say this . but i just received word that i have been badmouthed about by others for whatever that happened in year 1 and 2. and the best part is i dont know the person who is badmouthing me. ok , my course has like 700 students. so we split up cohort A and B. A and B timetable never match until year 3 when we split and change classes.
so it is like, i am shocked to hear that got people from A badmouthing me when i am from B. now i m in what is a depression state ba. angry sad and hopeless... -
Its ok, this is poly, when you get to work, you'll probably be badmouthed by 700 companies, and you won't even know it.
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Its part and parcel of being a poly student. Live with it.
Sighh... the old memories...
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heng
i only get badmouthed by lecturers
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Why bother with what people said? They are ignorant as they only believed in one side of the story. AND you will also see what kind of people (who bad mouthed you) they are and who are the ones who care for you in the end. So take no heed to those who claimed you are whom you aren't. Be yourself and you will see the virtue and values of it.
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Their minds ... Their mouths... cannot control wat they may think abt you... wat they may say abt you...
Be yourself and move on strong.... those who appreciate you... are your true friends... those who dun... well... you dun even have to care abt them => -
it just that it is hard you know. ren yan ke wei.
maybe these are what caused me to be rejected... by friends, and by the girl i like... -
Yes it is, as you still have a long way to go in life (you still in poly mah), you can learn from all these. If the girl you like who also look at you this way, then I do not think she deserves your attention. Same goes to the friends.Originally posted by bladez87:it just that it is hard you know. ren yan ke wei.
maybe these are what caused me to be rejected... by friends, and by the girl i like...
Of course you have to start asking why they look at you this way. What is the incident? Then maybe you can clarify. -
People who can judge you via rumours.... without even understanding you personally... in the 1st place... do not deserve your attention...
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It happen everywhere right? From secondary school to your working life even to your own circle of friends. Trust me... more will soon come...
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haha. well what i can say is that, some of rumours are true but have been exaggerated. some are just fakes. i dont know. but tmr is going to be a v hard day for me. i will be going to a competition briefing and i will most likely meet a girl who i had a past with and needless to say, things have definitely soured to the state that we both dont even "see" each other in school.
normally i can just dont "see" her but tmr she in my classmate's group, while i will be in my own group. but we will be in SIM, so is like my classmate will bound to come find me with her group and i am sure to "encounter" my past again.
any suggestions? because we both are on a hostile/ invisible mode for each other. -
are wad they saying true?
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Be a professional then. When facing work or group activities, that normally comes first before personal things. so just communicate only on the work involved. Of course your situation with her has to be resolved but maybe it can wait until after tomorrow?
Seems you have alot of problems. Tackle what you think is the most urgent then slowly to others. If you are still unable to handle the situation, seek professional help. -
well that would have to depend on what they say , right?Originally posted by used:are wad they saying true? -
its liddat one la. They think they are very matured. But infact, they are the childish ones.
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tell urself
'you can control what others do to u but u can respond to how other treats u!'
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opinions wont change facts
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xiao di, i duno wat u did in the past that ple have such a bad perception of u.
Some of ur frens are my frens too.
Sad to tell u, I ever heard from somebody that u are not likeable by many.
but then dun worry, u are still young.
Time will change a person. If u are determined to change, I'm sure u can do it!
Maybe your ren yuan no good.
Remember the 80-20 rule. You can't satisfy everybody. -
get used to it.
wadever u do, u can't please everyone. -
Take it in your stride my friend...Might be a misunderstanding. But if like what you say people whom u do not know goes around badmouthing you. You can take it lightly because its unbased and unreal.
You cant stop others from saying what they want to say. Let people judge then. If others choose to listen to rumour-mongers without thinking, then forgive their ignorance. Dont think too much ba...Anyway u gonna grad soon...
Min tian hui gen hao...
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see even bbb also know. haha. see how words spread. i wonder who are our mutual friends. ya i know , haha if you tell me , someone said i am a very nice guy, then that person must be spreading rumours to tarnish my reputation. because my rep is bad a$$. haha. ya 1 fact is i not likeable by many. i wonder why myself too. hahaOriginally posted by browniebaobao:xiao di, i duno wat u did in the past that ple have such a bad perception of u.
Some of ur frens are my frens too.
Sad to tell u, I ever heard from somebody that u are not likeable by many.
but then dun worry, u are still young.
Time will change a person. If u are determined to change, I'm sure u can do it!
Maybe your ren yuan no good.
Remember the 80-20 rule. You can't satisfy everybody. -
wooo.Originally posted by bladez87:see even bbb also know. haha. see how words spread. i wonder who are our mutual friends. ya i know , haha if you tell me , someone said i am a very nice guy, then that person must be spreading rumours to tarnish my reputation. because my rep is bad a$$. haha. ya 1 fact is i not likeable by many. i wonder why myself too. haha
like.. wad did they badmouth u about?
got example?
i curious.
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on 1 hand, i want to strangle the person who is saying all this about me. why do they not want to give me a 2nd chance. why if they dont know, why spoil my reputation. why make my life miserable even when it does not benefit them?
on the other hand , i dont want to find out who. because i fear that the person might be someone i trust. or might even be a person who is on friendly terms on me now. i fear that if i find out that the person backstabbed me, or is still doing so, i will not be able to control my anger.
why? even after 1 whole year, people are still spreading the same stuff? why? humans...only people who have worked with me, will have bad things to say. so if they forgave me, why wouldnt the rest do the same? and yet do they still seek my help when they are backstabbing me? only my class people will got things to about me. but why in their times of need, they still come find me? humans...greedy lot.
Human : a race that is so desperate on its own extinction. -
not sure liao. you gotta ask bbb, surely they dont tell the person they are badmouthing what they saying behind his back would they? hahaOriginally posted by Ito_^:wooo.
like.. wad did they badmouth u about?
got example?
i curious.
but i heard of me backstabbing. (fake)
heard of me being v competitive and arrogant ( true)
untactful (true)
and when people dont do their parts for projects, i will mark them down.real bad.
then got 1 time, a girl go around saying i molest her Zzz. obviously that is fake la.
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This may be insensitive.Originally posted by browniebaobao:xiao di, i duno wat u did in the past that ple have such a bad perception of u.
Some of ur frens are my frens too.
Sad to tell u, I ever heard from somebody that u are not likeable by many.
but then dun worry, u are still young.
Time will change a person. If u are determined to change, I'm sure u can do it!
Maybe your ren yuan no good.
Remember the 80-20 rule. You can't satisfy everybody.
But it's good to have a person who have actually heard bladez case.
bbb, can you cite briefly on what people have been badmouthing about him?
I just want to know what it's regarding about.