When you marry, you marry the whole family?
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When you marry, do you consider the family members of the one that you are marrying?
If from day one, you can't stand the family members of your partner, would you or would you not, still marry?
...just a thought... -
Ai wu ji wu.
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yes
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hmm... a tricky situation, i would say...
If you really love him/her but can't stand the family, you will break off the relationship? Or true love conquers all?
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It's true
You have to love your partners folks, siblings, relatives and so on... -
Also require to greet the elderly every now and then n so frustrating one but no choice.
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They say marriage sometimes is like a tomb
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yes.basically marriage between 2 persons is also marriage between 2 families although U can argue its just between 2 individuals...try it and U will know...Originally posted by ILPSY:When you marry, do you consider the family members of the one that you are marrying? 
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hahaha... thats why I am still single!Originally posted by Xcert:yes.basically marriage between 2 persons is also marriage between 2 families although U can argue its just between 2 individuals...try it and U will know... 
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must be careful I guess
later also carry the burden and responsibilities from the other family -
Not marry.Originally posted by ILPSY:When you marry, do you consider the family members of the one that you are marrying?
If from day one, you can't stand the family members of your partner, would you or would you not, still marry?
...just a thought...
But it still boils down to the very critical question, how much u love tat person.
If u really love him / her, u'll learn to accept his / her family too. Like wat Patrik said, Ai wu ji wu -
well... sometimes, you do love that person... but the family is giving you problems that create a friction between you and your spouse... It can be very tiring...
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There are 2 different camps.
I tend to think yes, you marry the family. Cause your husband came from that place and he brings the many practices from that family into your new family. His family would also inrtude into your family life, like it or not. You as a daughter-in-law have to also visit them and become a part of their extended family even if you detest them. I can only say that if there is strong dislike, then you have to think carefully about the future. If you like your husband so much, you can learn to accept his family and try to remain friendly with them. The expectation is just that you play your role as a daughter-in-law, you are not expected to become chummy with everyone. If you have to live with them, then it is good to learn their habits and be prepared. Tolerance, patience and sometimes acting deaf goes a long way. If there is anything you cannot stand, then take advance action to ensure it does not happen or avoid it from occuring too often.
The other camp is that you marry the man, not his family. Hence, the family you start with him is separate from his family. It depends on how close your guy is with his family. If his is not close, he usually don't feel so much guilt. If your guy is very close to his family, then there will be some difficulty. However, sometimes you would still need the support of the extended family especially during issues unless they are also equally cold and do not care a bit. Then you are totally on your own. Usually, people idealise couple-dom. Just as people also see people who live alone have absolute freedom. Everything comes with a price.
I guess I cannot tell you what to do and which to choose. I can only provide you the different views. -
yes n no... u dun hv to like them but u still need to show some form of respect... nt hapi, jz move out after marriage...
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i got a friend, girl.
she and her bf dated for 3 years.
the first time her bf met her extended family was on her birthday this year.
that was also the first time he met her dad, but not the first for her mom.
the next day , her bf broke up with her.
the reason? her parents complained he has v poor manners when he did not mix with the extended family.
so more or less, yes ba... marry her = her family also. like buy 1 get many free. -
I guess that is the many problem one would face when one get married.
Cos when you married, you would eventually get involved in the other party's family no matter how you avoid it. So, face it, you either love them or pretend to love them. -
whole family
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I'm not sure if this analogy succinctly sums up what you really get in your "package" - yeah, such a deal looks too good to be true...Originally posted by bladez87:like buy 1 get many free. -
Marriage is a lifelong commitment... When you marries your spouse, it means that you are ready to manage everything including your spouse's family and treating them as your own...
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x2Originally posted by dork3d:Marriage is a lifelong commitment... When you marries your spouse, it means that you are ready to manage everything including your spouse's family and treating them as your own...
if you hook up with a girl, you also commit yourself to getting to know her friends, her pets (if any), etc., right?
family is the same. in fact, it's even more important. -
always assume the worst case scenario if you are going to make a serious decision such as marriage. I think this sort of thing varies with people.
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u know what?
its called'ai wu ji wu' -
marry an ang mo la. at least they r more liberal.
dun marry eastern asians. u have to screw their whole family along with ur wife. -
Isn't that becoming of incest?Originally posted by Gwangetto:marry an ang mo la. at least they r more liberal.
dun marry eastern asians. u have to screw their whole family along with ur wife. 
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Yes I agreed. Is almost like merging of a company. His becomes yours and yours belong to him. Two become one.