How to deal with death of a loved one?
-
how?
-
Know that the person is with you "or in your heart" always.
*I will always love you and be grateful to you, grandmother...* -
that is very helpful, thank you.Originally posted by Bontakun:Know that the person is with you "or in your heart" always.
*I will always love you and be grateful to you, grandmother...* -
Its not easy, but we live with it and learn to cherish others more.Originally posted by ^spidee^:that is very helpful, thank you.
-
Grieve but not too much... cry but not too much... talk about the one who has passed on but not too much... keep in mind but not overwhelmingly... remember but not 24/7... take a break but not too long... people die and life goes on... but take time to grieve and miss that person but not too much.Originally posted by ^spidee^:how? -
yes, indeed.Originally posted by Bontakun:Its not easy, but we live with it and learn to cherish others more. -
thank you for the advice.Originally posted by casino_king:Grieve but not too much... cry but not too much... talk about the one who has passed on but not too much... keep in mind but not overwhelmingly... remember but not 24/7... take a break but not too long... people die and life goes on... but take time to grieve and miss that person but not too much. -
Yeah I know how it feels... my grandfather passed away last Monday night.
I guess the best way is to not ruminate on it too much. Grieve for your loved ones who have passed, but not to the point where you reach the point of despair. Rather, accept that they've moved on to a better place, and that it's time for you to move on as well.
Good luck. -
My grandma told us not to miss her
-
Originally posted by fudgester:Yeah I know how it feels... my grandfather passed away last Monday night.
I guess the best way is to not ruminate on it too much. Grieve for your loved ones who have passed, but not to the point where you reach the point of despair. Rather, accept that they've moved on to a better place, and that it's time for you to move on as well.
Good luck.
-
Originally posted by laurence82:My grandma told us not to miss her
-
My condolences to those whos' loved ones have passed on. Know that they went to a better place and be happy for them.
-
It depends on individuals...
Some people dun wanna talk about it...
Some people talk and talk about it...
Dun probe if they dun wanna talk...
Listen when they talk...
When its time to cry, then, be brave and cry...
Do not feel any guilt (you lament about not spending enough time with him/her etc) as it will make you even more miserable...
When its time to let go, pls let go... -
Originally posted by ILPSY:Do not feel any guilt (you lament about not spending enough time with him/her etc) as it will make you even more miserable...
-
I think the most scary thing is that, maybe few years down the road, when you wake up one fine day, and suddenly, you realise you have forgotten how the person looks like, or how important he/she is to you.
-
Originally posted by ILPSY:I think the most scary thing is that, maybe few years down the road, when you wake up one fine day, and suddenly, you realise you have forgotten how the person looks like, or how important he/she is to you.
-
Even if you forget what the person looks like, what he/she did or anything else, you will never forget he/she was once there and you can feel his/her presence.
Not as in the ghost is there lah, but you can feel it and know he/she was once in your life.
Lets not dwell too much into the negative side and focus on the positive instead. Shall we? -
What?
What happened, spidee? -
let time do the necessary..
frens ard should be sensitive enough, not to ask whether he's happy or still grieving etc.
i had a net fren who asked me whether im happy that my father was no longer ard... -
MY grandmother committed suicide when i was 2 yrs old
-
Yeah... both Ah Lau and myself experienced the loss of loved ones recently. So we're both in position to have an idea of what you're experiencing.
We can have an informal mutual support session here. Tell us what's on your mind, spidee. -
My grandfather passed away 2 months ago. I only knew about it today. TODAY! I wasn't even there to see him for the last time. I'm such a good-for-nothing...
-
Someone important to me, will be gone next fri. I will not see the person ever again.
Now I am just mentally preparing myself. Its hard, but all we can do is live on
-
why do we only start to cherish our loved ones when they are gone?
-
let your grieve out bah. Cry, etcOriginally posted by ^spidee^:My grandfather passed away 2 months ago. I only knew about it today. TODAY! I wasn't even there to see him for the last time. I'm such a good-for-nothing...
there was a story of this young boy who went overseas to study. He studied so hard to please his dad. His dad on the other, was sickly and frail. But the boy call back once a fortnight to check on his dad. During his finals, he called back to talk to his dad. His mom said his dad is busy, cant come to the fone but wishes him all the best. Well, the boy passed with flying colours, and got the coveted piece of paper. He flew home excited to show his dad what he has achieved. When he went back, he was told that his dad passed away during his final exams and his family hid the fact from him so he could concentrate on his studies.