How to deal with death of a loved one?

• ^spidee^

  8 Jul 06, 23:12

  Originally posted by alexkusu:

  let your grieve out bah. Cry, etc
  
  there was a story of this young boy who went overseas to study. He studied so hard to please his dad. His dad on the other, was sickly and frail. But the boy call back once a fortnight to check on his dad. During his finals, he called back to talk to his dad. His mom said his dad is busy, cant come to the fone but wishes him all the best. Well, the boy passed with flying colours, and got the coveted piece of paper. He flew home excited to show his dad what he has achieved. When he went back, he was told that his dad passed away during his final exams and his family hid the fact from him so he could concentrate on his studies.
  
  

  
• ILPSY

  8 Jul 06, 23:12

  Originally posted by alexkusu:

  Someone important to me, will be gone next fri. I will not see the person ever again.
  
  Now I am just mentally preparing myself. Its hard, but all we can do is live on

  The ones that are gone won't be in pain, only the ones who are left behind, feel the pain..
  
  (zou de ren bu tong ku, liu xia lai the ren cai tong ku)
• alexkusu

  8 Jul 06, 23:13

  try cherishing their memories instead?
  
  but then, talking about memories is like admitting their end
• laurence82

  8 Jul 06, 23:13

  Hmm, like I said, my grandma doesnt want me to miss her for the reasons alex just said
  
  Grieve, but bear in mind death is like a rest after a hard day's work.
  
  Condolences to u spidee
  
  
• ^spidee^

  8 Jul 06, 23:15

  Originally posted by laurence82:

  Hmm, like I said, my grandma doesnt want me to miss her for the reasons alex just said
  
  Grieve, but bear in mind death is like a rest after a hard day's work.
  
  Condolences to u spidee
  
  

  Thank you, Laurence. And thank you to everyone who replied, I really appreciate this.
• alexkusu

  8 Jul 06, 23:19

  many regrets, many unanswered questions. These can be taxing emotionally, mentally & physically on one's soul.
  
  some people seek the help of mediums to communicate with their departed loved ones.
  
  heartbreakin really.
• ILPSY

  8 Jul 06, 23:21

  But, I feel that you should be happy for him/her instead... coz, if living is a torture to him/her (maybe due to illness), then, death is a way to relieve their pain... If you think that by prolonging their life, just because you can be there by their side longer, then, it will be so selfish of you!
  
  ...just my thought...
• casino_king

  8 Jul 06, 23:23

  I know I must carry on
  But please just leave alone for now
  
  I know life goes on
  But please you yourself just carry on
  
  I know that this is wrong
  But please everything else is wrong
  
  I know that I will soon forget
  But please I have no wish for that
  
  Not now at least... maybe not ever, just let me grieve.
• browniebaobao

  8 Jul 06, 23:24

  Originally posted by laurence82:

  Hmm, like I said, my grandma doesnt want me to miss her for the reasons alex just said
  
  Grieve, but bear in mind death is like a rest after a hard day's work.
  
  Condolences to u spidee
  
  

  
  
  dinoe abt it..
  
  my condolences, ah lau..
• browniebaobao

  8 Jul 06, 23:25

  Originally posted by ^spidee^:

  My grandfather passed away 2 months ago. I only knew about it today. TODAY! I wasn't even there to see him for the last time. I'm such a good-for-nothing...

  sorry to know that..
  
  my condolences, spidee..
• alexkusu

  8 Jul 06, 23:27

  I learned something
  
  I think if i was going to die, lets say a tumour or what, then I will organise my own funeral in a local club/pub. Get to meet everyone for the last time, see their smiles, tie up any lose ends so I can leave peacefully
  
  that would be neat
• ^spidee^

  8 Jul 06, 23:29

  Originally posted by casino_king:

  I know I must carry on
  But please just leave alone for now
  
  I know life goes on
  But please you yourself just carry on
  
  I know that this is wrong
  But please everything else is wrong
  
  I know that I will soon forget
  But please I have no wish for that
  
  Not now at least... maybe not ever, just let me grieve.

  thank you.
• ^spidee^

  8 Jul 06, 23:29

  Originally posted by browniebaobao:

  sorry to know that..
  
  my condolences, spidee..

  thank you browniebaobao, thank you all.
• ^spidee^

  8 Jul 06, 23:30

  Originally posted by alexkusu:

  I learned something
  
  I think if i was going to die, lets say a tumour or what, then I will organise my own funeral in a local club/pub. Get to meet everyone for the last time, see their smiles, tie up any lose ends so I can leave peacefully
  
  that would be neat

  i hope you'll live to a ripe old age, thank you, alex.
• alexkusu

  8 Jul 06, 23:31

  spidee..take a trip across the ditch for R&R
  
  travelling helps
• ^spidee^

  8 Jul 06, 23:33

  Originally posted by alexkusu:

  spidee..take a trip across the ditch for R&R
  
  travelling helps

  thanks for the suggestion, alex, but i'm going back to singapore soon, and i'm not really in the mood for travelling at the moment..
• alexkusu

  8 Jul 06, 23:34

  well, stay healthy yeah? take all the time you need
• browniebaobao

  8 Jul 06, 23:35

  Originally posted by ^spidee^:

  thank you browniebaobao, thank you all.

  i understand what u are gg thru..
  
  my father passed away last yr.. died in an accident.
  
  juz went to see lawyer this morning regarding the case..
  
  SAD.
  
  the pain of losing a loved one.. it's not easy.. but pls be strong, lau and spidee..
• ^spidee^

  8 Jul 06, 23:35

  Originally posted by alexkusu:

  well, stay healthy yeah? take all the time you need

  thanks, i will..
• ^spidee^

  8 Jul 06, 23:37

  Originally posted by browniebaobao:

  i understand what u are gg thru..
  
  my father passed away last yr.. died in an accident.
  
  juz went to see lawyer this morning regarding the case..
  
  SAD.
  
  the pain of losing a loved one.. it's not easy.. but pls be strong, lau and spidee..

  sorry about your loss
  
  yep, same to you, stay strong!
• ILPSY

  8 Jul 06, 23:37

  Originally posted by alexkusu:

  I learned something
  
  I think if i was going to die, lets say a tumour or what, then I will organise my own funeral in a local club/pub. Get to meet everyone for the last time, see their smiles, tie up any lose ends so I can leave peacefully
  
  that would be neat

  Sounds like "Tuesdays with Morrie"...
  
  But, I do agree that it is a good idea though...
• alexkusu

  8 Jul 06, 23:40

  haih~
  
  maybe I will come AA next week
  
  must be strong!
  
  *pats spidee one the back*
  
  sorry we couldnt help you much here
  
  go rest early bah?
• alexkusu

  8 Jul 06, 23:41

  Originally posted by ILPSY:

  Sounds like "Tuesdays with Morrie"...
  
  But, I do agree that it is a good idea though...

  is that a movie?
  
  yup its a good idea, but sometimes death comes unexpectedly. Oh well~
• dragg

  8 Jul 06, 23:42

  time will heal any wounds.
  
  
• ^spidee^

  8 Jul 06, 23:42

  Originally posted by alexkusu:

  haih~
  
  maybe I will come AA next week
  
  must be strong!
  
  *pats spidee one the back*
  
  sorry we couldnt help you much here
  
  go rest early bah?

  you all have been very helpful, i really appreciate it.