Age is definitely a problem..
-
follow my heart....but then again how you and ur gf handle the fact that u are like away for most of the time during NS? how does the whole experience feel like?
-
Originally posted by lonestar86:
And what the "heart" normally will say is: break them up... break them up... she is rightfully yours... she belongs to no one else... break them up......
it's how u look at it..
age gap shouldn't be a prob..
i dun think it's a mistake..
all i wanna say is..
[b]jus follow ur heart..[/b] -
the feeling sux to the core..Originally posted by ProudlySingaporean:follow my heart....but then again how you and ur gf handle the fact that u are like away for most of the time during NS? how does the whole experience feel like?
very miserable for both party..
seriously..
tt's y our r/s is getting more and more complicated..
An advice: Better stay single when u r a NSF.. -
tt's when someone has anOriginally posted by Bontakun:And what the "heart" normally will say is: break them up... break them up... she is rightfully yours... she belongs to no one else... break them up......
heart..
-
Evil heart~~~
I somehow missed this one. Perhaps you can reread the whole of this thread (I juz did and seriously, WOW) and see how you have progressed. It is inevitable that this issue will surface but you read the whole thing again.Originally posted by lonestar86:i'm feeling down rite now..
5 Dec is POP but i'm not happy at all..
i've got 12 days of block leave..
i can spend with her..
but damn it..
there's another guy..
came out from nowhere..
trying to interfere us..
trying to break our r/s..
1 thing really upset me tt is..
she said she is confused and need to think abt it when i told her it's either him or me..
i can't tolerate him..
i'm hurt..
i'm sad..
How was it started? Its an ACT, remember? How it progressed? From acting to real thing. What other questions.... can't think well... too much microwaved wanton mee...
This is what anyone will more or less face in a r/s without much stability to begin with. And since you passed out... of camp ( ), might I suggest you spend quality time with your family and with close friends? -
how do you define stability or the so called foundation before you start a r/s?
-
R/s with anyone is based on trust. Its where you can be vulnerable to that person and trust that person will not go on you or stab you in the back. However to attain that kind of trust, one must be willing and have the patience to find out by getting to know the person more and understanding the person. It has to be done by both parties.Originally posted by ProudlySingaporean:how do you define stability or the so called foundation before you start a r/s?
Once you understand that person more, you will know how that person behave, what is that person's quirks and habits, lifestyle and maturity. Once you have these information, you will instantly know how to interact well and better and have no fear conversing in whatever topic you can come up with. The trust is already there and you two know how to deal with each other better.
Let me ask you: which will be more easier to talk to when the topic is about sex? Someone you knew for 5+++ years or someone whom you knew 1 week ago?
So... the stability or foundation is the trust and understanding you have for each other. You can add other values in it too. Mine's not the absolute answer but you get the point. This is not just being refered to Boy-Gal-relationship. Its being refered to every possible relationship you can have with all kinds of people out there.
Beers!
-
thanks for spending time to read this whole thread..Originally posted by Bontakun:Evil heart~~~
I somehow missed this one. Perhaps you can reread the whole of this thread (I juz did and seriously, WOW) and see how you have progressed. It is inevitable that this issue will surface but you read the whole thing again.
How was it started? Its an ACT, remember? How it progressed? From acting to real thing. What other questions.... can't think well... too much microwaved wanton mee...
This is what anyone will more or less face in a r/s without much stability to begin with. And since you passed out... of camp ( ), might I suggest you spend quality time with your family and with close friends?
i appreciate ur effort..
currently, my r/s with her is very complicated, so f***ing complicated..
but we are still 2gether..
still holding on..
neither of us is willing to let go.. -
btw, we've been 2gether for 5 months already..
since 28.07.06..
hopefully, 5 years.. or better still, 5 decades..
fingers crossed.. -
I am wooing somebody 6 yrs older currently..Originally posted by mhcampboy:my ex was 6 years older than me...
ok we didnt last long.... just 3 years... hahhha
The thing is, I look older than her.
-
oohOriginally posted by Deunamist:I am wooing somebody 6 yrs older currently..
The thing is, I look older than her.
tell us your progress?
doko -
not much also, since I only started less than two weeks ago.
I don't see much of a problem with some factors others consider to be a problem:
1) of course, age first
2) she lives all the way in the west, i live all the way in the east
3) rank
well she's quite a sweet person herself, though somewhat one of those quiet and silent types.
a little background...
she was the pianist in my band for an awards ceremony a few months back, well I play guitar. lol. we were supposed to do a duet on the song Right Here Waiting but in the end the piece got taken out at the last minute. -
i must say u r really daring..Originally posted by Deunamist:I am wooing somebody 6 yrs older currently..
The thing is, I look older than her.
go for it..
follow ur heart..
gd luck and all the best.. -
One swallow does not make a summer. Deriving your conclusion just based on one case is not very strong and convincing leh......
Rather thsn blame it on age, a better argument could be maturity - just because a person is older doesn't necessarily mean he's more mature and vice versa.......... -
thanks.. i thought long and hard before i decided i should go for it.Originally posted by lonestar86:i must say u r really daring..
go for it..
follow ur heart..
gd luck and all the best.. -
I've actually re-read this whole thread..
and i find it so unbelievable..
i'm amazed by myself..
what exactly happened to me??
my mindset changed..
my point of view changed..
my opinion changed..
things which are so simple initially have became so complicated right now..
maybe we shouldn't even have started it in the first place cus it's not meant to be as it was merely an act right in the beginning..
Right now the below factors (many other external factors have not been included) are affecting my mood and they are giving me nothing but stress..
- the exist of the 3rd party..
- the disagreement from both families.. (right from the beginning until now..)
- no time for one another.. (she's busy with her career and i'm busy with mine. We only get to meet up once a week..)
Whenever i think abt our r/s, i feels so stressful and my head aches..
on the surface i look perfectly fine but deep inside me, i'm feeling so very miserable..
thinking abt this complicated r/s of mine whenever i'm alone or in the middle of the night lying on bed, tears will fall..
i wonder how long i can hold on.. -
Maybe you should tell her your concerns? Feeling stressed in a r/s is smth dats unhealthy to both side. You may have to tell her your fears in this r/s and have a good talk. Ask her out, get a place and sit down, then talk.
-
we have already discussed this topic many times..Originally posted by Bontakun:Maybe you should tell her your concerns? Feeling stressed in a r/s is smth dats unhealthy to both side. You may have to tell her your fears in this r/s and have a good talk. Ask her out, get a place and sit down, then talk.
i've told her how i feel and she has told me hers..
we have a solution in mind that's to end it.. once and for all..
but each time we talk abt it, tears will fall like there's no tmr..
right now both of us are like running away from this prob..
but how long can we run?? -
Originally posted by lonestar86:
How about consulting professionals? Counsellors?
we have already discussed this topic many times..
i've told her how i feel and she has told me hers..
we have a solution in mind that's to [b]end it.. once and for all..
but each time we talk abt it, tears will fall like there's no tmr..
right now both of us are like running away from this prob..
but how long can we run??[/b] -
i dun think she will wanna do tt..Originally posted by Bontakun:How about consulting professionals? Counsellors?
cus i dun feeling like seeking others for help too.. -
But... ok its your choice. Just a friendly advice, should you want to seek help, do consider asking.Originally posted by lonestar86:i dun think she will wanna do tt..
cus i dun feeling like seeking others for help too.. -
ok, thanks anyway..Originally posted by Bontakun:But... ok its your choice. Just a friendly advice, should you want to seek help, do consider asking.
right now i jus pray that everything is going to be fine..
fingers crossed.. -
I cross with you too but differently...Originally posted by lonestar86:ok, thanks anyway..
right now i jus pray that everything is going to be fine..
fingers crossed..
† -
PRob? what prob? lol
But different ages got different characteristics hence you gotta know ur gf more..that is e prob. -
Hmm...Originally posted by lonestar86:I've actually re-read this whole thread..
and i find it so unbelievable..
i'm amazed by myself..
what exactly happened to me??
my mindset changed..
my point of view changed..
my opinion changed..
things which are so simple initially have became so complicated right now..
maybe we shouldn't even have started it in the first place cus it's not meant to be as it was merely an act right in the beginning..
Right now the below factors (many other external factors have not been included) are affecting my mood and they are giving me nothing but stress..
- the exist of the 3rd party..
- the disagreement from both families.. (right from the beginning until now..)
- no time for one another.. (she's busy with her career and i'm busy with mine. We only get to meet up once a week..)
Whenever i think abt our r/s, i feels so stressful and my head aches..
on the surface i look perfectly fine but deep inside me, i'm feeling so very miserable..
thinking abt this complicated r/s of mine whenever i'm alone or in the middle of the night lying on bed, tears will fall..
i wonder how long i can hold on..