Age is definitely a problem..
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Age is a number easily forgotten, money and career are more of an issues.
If both can stay together and solve problem together without any conflict, which some say click, is the most important factor. It is your mind that make thing work, if you say cannot means cannot. If you think it will work with your effort and love then it will. If you have no idea and listen to others, then better dun try, cos it need your will to make it happen.
Love is not so simple by giving it a number of figure to tell whether it work or not, it's all depend on you. -
Once again, jus wanna know ur opinion..
Bf: 20 yr old guy
Gf: 25 yr old gal
agree??
disagree??
or neutral?? -
NeutralOriginally posted by lonestar86:Once again, jus wanna know ur opinion..
Bf: 20 yr old guy
Gf: 25 yr old gal
agree??
disagree??
or neutral?? -
Originally posted by lonestar86:Once again, jus wanna know ur opinion..
Bf: 20 yr old guy
Gf: 25 yr old gal
agree??
disagree??
or neutral??
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7 days to my enlistment..
so
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i'll miss her.. -
What is wrong with you?Originally posted by lonestar86:Once again, jus wanna know ur opinion..
Bf: 20 yr old guy
Gf: 25 yr old gal
agree??
disagree??
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Dear friendz,Originally posted by friendz:lonestar86,
there is absolutely notting wrong for ur mum to know more abt the girl since she is ur gf. AND perhaps ur future wife..
u sound to mi u r those "listen to wife type" men.. i quite pity wif ur mum.. she is losing her son soon..
U gonna take note and remb this..
ItÂ’s either ur wife/husband who will keep u company for the rest of ur life..
NOT ur parents..
Make sense?? -
nothing, i jus wanna know what u guys think of this combination??Originally posted by M©+square:What is wrong with you? -
Do i have to close this topic and ask you to read up the 1st 5 pages again?Originally posted by lonestar86:nothing, i jus wanna know what u guys think of this combination??
Why ask again and again?
What's wrong with you?
You can PM me when you get it and i'll reopen the thread. -
Originally posted by lonestar86:
Cause by going out to work even part-time, you get to know what's going on in the real working society.
This posting is merely my personal opinion..
I used to think that age is never a problem when comes to r/s..
IÂ’ve changed my mind now..
So why exactly did I say that??
Imagine u r a 20 yr old guy who has just grad from poly and waiting to be enlisted..
Currently working part-time and earning merely peanuts..
U canÂ’t possibly be with a woman (in her late 20s) who has a career and is of cus financially very stable..
Think abt it..
What ppl might think?? (they might think u r living off her..)
How would ur parents feel?? (I doubt they would agree in the 1st place..)
Pls never say that we dun have to care abt what other ppl think (cus thatÂ’s bull****!!)
More or less, we are affected by pplÂ’s opinions..
[b]My conclusion:
It is practically wrong to be with a gal who is much older than u..
I just feel that itÂ’s not right..[/b]
You're actually quite sensible and mature to have these thoughts. No need to feel bad or inferior de, cause you're a new graduate and once you have a real permanent job, you'll feel more secure and confident.
Actually if the girl feels it's ok, then it's ok lor. Just feel confident. -
My view is that as long as it's true love, age isn't a problem...
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Just buy a dog la!
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Age really doesn't matter if there is love. In your case, if u love the woman, why bother about what people say? Perhaps you r bothered because u don't love this woman but r only wif her for some other reasons that you yourself know best. Thus you feel lousy and den hide behind excuses.
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totally agree..Originally posted by Herzog_Zwei:My view is that as long as it's true love, age isn't a problem...
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i think u shld read all the postings, rite from the 1st page to the last..Originally posted by :Age really doesn't matter if there is love. In your case, if u love the woman, why bother about what people say? Perhaps you r bothered because u don't love this woman but r only wif her for some other reasons that you yourself know best. Thus you feel lousy and den hide behind excuses.
cus i've already changed my mind..
love change my mindset..
i dun mind at all wtf ppl think..
and i dun give a damn..
b'cus i love her.. -
long time didn't update liao..
3 wks of my BMT phase have past..
6 more wks to go..
this coming wk very jia lart..
another 2 wks confinement due to field camp..
sian..
can't see her for 2 wks again..
1st 2 wks already confine us liao, now they wanna confine us again..
but it's ok, cus i believe time we spend apart will make our love grow stronger and we'll be closer to one another..
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update????
so now this is your dating blog issit?? -
awww,,,all you guys cant imagine how it was painfull to read of those your writings here,,,it just pouring salt into the my wounded heart,,,
here is the story,
positives first;
I am 38 and she 52 ,all was going extremely well and brillant for that last 4 years but just on the relation between us so words really cannot explains how was the harmony was excellent and precious,not any argue (even once)for years
All I got was a pure heaven and made me so sure that heaven was in this world and real love existing in this real life!There was something more than a love which was progressing every single seconds and with a deep respect to eachother.
No jeolusy business or something similar,
I have been threated like a baby for years,
She got that younger looking after that happy years
We never got sick ever flu or cold even once!
and hundreds like these...
negatives;
never ending nag nags from the parents,brothers,sisters, hidden and openly.
Who could blame them that they were knowing of their lovely son would never have a baby(I still dont care about baby business)
Her life experience and easygoingness given me a big lazzyness to cope with youngsters bullshiting emotions etc anymore if I would be dating with a youngster one day again.
Everything went wrong in my life during loving her so failed business,lost a job and being jobless for years are just the the simple examples for you guys.Simply, I got a serious downgrade in my life especialy financialy and lost all my well stage in my life but I didnt cared as I know this kinda love comes only once and had to be kept as long as you can!
But eventualy reached that breaking point as her and my life was seriously spiralling and we saw indicators werent optimistic and realtion would not take us to anywhere and decided to be ended after long critics have done together(but still without any argue and kept thinking positive until our last minutes).
More openly, we thought that life (or whatever that hidden hand,you name it)was trying to put us on a different tracks since maybe parents wasnt happy with us,maybe we were socialy wrong examples for the others or maybe sinners maybe all was a wrong realtion from the begining and maybe we were bullshitin.
Although all that deep pain wounded our hearts and cried for hours like babies just after geting a decision of splitted,I had my first change at next day and still geting those unbelievably bonanzas from the every stone I touch.My material life,not emotional of course, started to get better and better but very quickly and amazingly and it seems like a bonus as we splitted is arriving me everyday and I am geting rewarded,
You can address me as too materialistic or pragmatic whatever but guys,situation wasnt that good and I was almost beging for money.And she wasnt different.
Still trying my hard to adapt a new life alone and very confused but just so sure that nothing will come again like what I (we) had for years and I can call it as heaven in fire of hell.
And I believe that only TIME will show or tell where/if we made a mistake.Had anyone experienced that stages?or am I the only one in this planet? -
i'm back from field camp..
guys, i'm facing another problem now..
hope u guys can give me some advice..
I've used my free time in Tekong to think abt my r/s with her..
i always ask myself..
Would there be an outcome for this r/s??
Am i wasting her time?? (Cus she's already 25. Most woman at this age already have stable relationships and most probably have plans of getting married.)
Last nite we went out (2nite i'm booking in. Hai~~).
I know it's very tough for her to have a NSF bf. We only able to meet once a week. For the past 5 wks, we only meet 3 times cus i was confined for the first 2 weeks and the field camp week.
I'm really sorry that i dun have time for her. I feel really guilty. It's really hard for me to come out with this harsh solution which i've told her last nite. That's to end our 3 and a half months r/s. I know it's going to be extremely painful and never ending tears will pour like there's no tmr. I dun have a choice. I dun want her to waste her precious time waiting for me (at least 2 years).
She's also aware of the presence this problem but she's unwilling to solve it and so do i. Cus both of us can't bear to end it. I really feel like ending it cus i think it might be better for the both of us. It's for our own good. I've told her that if she has met any eligible men outside, go ahead. It's ok that i'm being sacrificed. It hurts but i'm sure i can endure the pain. I will never blame her cus i can totally understand. I gonna let her go if i can't give her what she wants..
Loving a person doesn't mean u gonna possess her, but once u've possessed a person, u must love her whole heartedly, no matter what happen..
Btw, I've cried while writing this entry..
Should i let her go?? (a very tough decision..)
i hope time will tell.. -
Originally posted by lonestar86:
NSF life is like that one lah... But there're also 'high peaks' and 'low peaks' within NSF life.... Not throughout your own NSF 2 years you also kena confined one... (unless you really damn 'sway'?)
i'm back from field camp..
guys, i'm facing another problem now..
hope u guys can give me some advice..
I've used my free time in Tekong to think abt my r/s with her..
i always ask myself..
[b]Would there be an outcome for this r/s??
Am i wasting her time?? (Cus she's already 25. Most woman at this age already have stable relationships and most probably have plans of getting married.)
Last nite we went out (2nite i'm booking in. Hai~~).
I know it's very tough for her to have a NSF bf. We only able to meet once a week. For the past 5 wks, we only meet 3 times cus i was confined for the first 2 weeks and the field camp week.
I'm really sorry that i dun have time for her. I feel really guilty. It's really hard for me to come out with this harsh solution which i've told her last nite. That's to end our 3 and a half months r/s. I know it's going to be extremely painful and never ending tears will pour like there's no tmr. I dun have a choice. I dun want her to waste her precious time waiting for me (at least 2 years).
She's also aware of the presence this problem but she's unwilling to solve it and so do i. Cus both of us can't bear to end it. I really feel like ending it cus i think it might be better for the both of us. It's for our own good. I've told her that if she has met any eligible men outside, go ahead. It's ok that i'm being sacrificed. It hurts but i'm sure i can endure the pain. I will never blame her cus i can totally understand. I gonna let her go if i can't give her what she wants..
Loving a person doesn't mean u gonna possess her, but once u've possessed a person, u must love her whole heartedly, no matter what happen..
Btw, I've cried while writing this entry..
Should i let her go?? (a very tough decision..)
i hope time will tell..[/b]
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i'm feeling down rite now..
5 Dec is POP but i'm not happy at all..
i've got 12 days of block leave..
i can spend with her..
but damn it..
there's another guy..
came out from nowhere..
trying to interfere us..
trying to break our r/s..
1 thing really upset me tt is..
she said she is confused and need to think abt it when i told her it's either him or me..
i can't tolerate him..
i'm hurt..
i'm sad.. -
i'm afraid tt i have to let her go if she can't decide who to chose..
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Guy: 18 years old but looks childish like 15/16, enlisting in NS in April 2007,quiet boring type of guy with a 'stiff' character, no GF before
Girl: 14 years old,very hyper and talkative+fun loving,have a stead of her same age now
Situation: Guy and girl met each other while doing cip, girl having relationship probs with her stead and thinking of a break-up, guy told girl he liked her even though he knows of her problems and that she's attached, girl never reject but ask for time to settle with her stead
Compatible? Age gap too big? Is it a mistake for them to be together? Comments and opinions pls! -
Hard, cold comments: Most likely will break up if get together. There may be other possibilities but too little information between you and her. Its between you and her, NOT between you and her being disclosed in the forum here.Originally posted by ProudlySingaporean:Guy: 18 years old but looks childish like 15/16, enlisting in NS in April 2007,quiet boring type of guy with a 'stiff' character, no GF before
Girl: 14 years old,very hyper and talkative+fun loving,have a stead of her same age now
Situation: Guy and girl met each other while doing cip, girl having relationship probs with her stead and thinking of a break-up, guy told girl he liked her even though he knows of her problems and that she's attached, girl never reject but ask for time to settle with her stead
Compatible? Age gap too big? Is it a mistake for them to be together? Comments and opinions pls!
Why? She may be harbouring break up. Whether it comes to fruition or not depends on them. Supposed they break up, then she "stead" with you. It is obvious the dating is mostly based on a bounced relationship (she is trying to fill the void).
What to do: Suggest more time to know each other as friends, be there for her when she need company. Have fun with her. Do not influence her decision to break off with her current guy or no.
Ultimately its your decision. Think carefully what you want, what she wants and what her guy wants. -
it's how u look at it..Originally posted by ProudlySingaporean:Guy: 18 years old but looks childish like 15/16, enlisting in NS in April 2007,quiet boring type of guy with a 'stiff' character, no GF before
Girl: 14 years old,very hyper and talkative+fun loving,have a stead of her same age now
Situation: Guy and girl met each other while doing cip, girl having relationship probs with her stead and thinking of a break-up, guy told girl he liked her even though he knows of her problems and that she's attached, girl never reject but ask for time to settle with her stead
Compatible? Age gap too big? Is it a mistake for them to be together? Comments and opinions pls!
age gap shouldn't be a prob..
i dun think it's a mistake..
all i wanna say is..
jus follow ur heart..