Is it immoral to visit a prostitute?
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Originally posted by Yunhaier:
I don't think anyone came close in addressing his problem (other than fudgester); I don't think the issue is regarding the moralistic/religious view of prostitutions, rather it is about him and his failure with female/relationship.
Visiting a prostitute because you cannot see yourself ever having any kind of fruitful relationship with a woman in the near future? Then pray tell me how is 'visiting prostitute' going to solve this problem at all? About you having the inability to seek for fruitful relationships.
In fact, you are succumbing to Mars' temptation of lust and deranging animalistic instinct.
You must understand that paying for such service to satisfy Mars' animalistic desire may not be wrong, but it isn't exactly something glamorous. Worst still, if you are addicted to such paying service, it will surely affect your relationship/mindset/attitude/etc with member of the opposite gender as [b]frequent visits will gradually change the way you perceive women and sex.
And how do you reckon that it would assist you to reduce anxiety with woman? I am almost sure that in the end, you still cannot communicate and handle women. Worst, you would be likely to prefer women in this ‘new world’ instead, where all you need is to employ money and these slatterns could give you the ‘confidence’ you need as a man.
There is no rejectionÂ…no fearÂ… no need for personalityÂ… looksÂ… or anything other than cash, which will probably reduce your anxiety when you are around their presence, but certainly not to the women you meet outside this line.
I am against prostitution not because of moral grounds, but because I personally know someone who works in this industry and it saddens me to understand the kind of things man do to her... which, to me, is classified as blatant violence.
Although I did what I could, but yunhaier is not God. I cannot eliminate karma and I cannot tamper with freewill.
*** If you desire fulfilling relationship, then work yourself towards a better chance at having one, than mundane decisions that probably bring you closer to screwing up your life.
Exercise wisdom, not blind decision.
Cheers [/b][/quote]
[quote]Originally posted by outofcontrol225:
Doesn't make much sense. Why would I want to do that? The reason why I would want to visit a prostitute is because of my need for intimacy and sexual release. Seems like some of you here have a more liberal attitude than I thought. Or maybe it's because I'm too uptight? -
Originally posted by linchiling:
COLD CONCRETE FACTS.
Hi outofcontrol, My 2cents worth of assumption & opinion...
Must be tough on you siah... What's worse is knowing that those around you, and even people who're 10 years younger, have tried the "forbidden fruit"... You may even worry that next time your gf may be disappointed at your inexperience in sex blah blah... since you're well pass the age of social acknowlegement of "first timers"... aiye... "Loser" may be the word to describe many males that fall under this category by females.. I can understand your pressure. I believe you did consider many factors before coming to this thought of visiting prostitutes...
IMO, alot of people despise those paying for sex... but look around you.. ONS is happening everywhere in SG too... Just check out the night spots in SG & you'll know... Males & females alike... Only difference is that the ONS is "free".. but not necessary STD free.. At least prostitutes have regular checkups.. LOL Yet I don't always hear the same condemnation on ONS...
Morals aside. Society has already eroded far enough, there's no need for more hypocrisy on my part... It's the 21st century, You're not religious, You're single, You have your urge, You don't owe anybody an answer. If you STRONGLY feel that it's a step towards breaking your stigma, I respect your decision. It's [b]politically correct to advise you against it but, you're old enough to decide and face any consequences. Life's always a learning experience...
I wish you all the best in whatever decision you made! & may all lonely souls out there find their sincerest other soon without resorting to extreme measures to quench their longing thirst... aiye...
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OUCH. -
be a monk ....
everyday pray (all mi dao hook...)
then ur desire will disappear......
Imagine that a girl without hair and had a lot of pimples.... sure u dun wan rite??.. -
It is your choice isn't it? I have a frend who is sailing with NOL and I think he must have slept with thousands of pros... he gets lonely because he does not have a GF or wife... other than that, I do not find anything wrong with him. As faras I am concern, I am not going to condemn him am I?Originally posted by outofcontrol225:I am 26 years old and I have never touched a woman before. Never dated, never kissed and never even held the hands of a woman. Basically, it's because of my social anxiety disorder. I used to think that visiting prostitutes is an immoral activity, but ever since my diagnosis, I have drastically changed this view over the past few months. Seriously, I'm considering visiting a prostitute as I can't see myself ever having any kind of fruitful relationship with a woman in the near future. Is it really that sinful? It is legal and I am not a religious person. So, what do you think? -
Originally posted by linchiling:
Hi outofcontrol, I agree strongly with what linchiling said above.
Hi outofcontrol, My 2cents worth of assumption & opinion...
Must be tough on you siah... What's worse is knowing that those around you, and even people who're 10 years younger, have tried the "forbidden fruit"... You may even worry that next time your gf may be disappointed at your inexperience in sex blah blah... since you're well pass the age of social acknowlegement of "first timers"... aiye... "Loser" may be the word to describe many males that fall under this category by females.. I can understand your pressure. I believe you did consider many factors before coming to this thought of visiting prostitutes...
IMO, alot of people despise those paying for sex... but look around you.. ONS is happening everywhere in SG too... Just check out the night spots in SG & you'll know... Males & females alike... Only difference is that the ONS is "free".. but not necessary STD free.. At least prostitutes have regular checkups.. LOL Yet I don't always hear the same condemnation on ONS...
Morals aside. Society has already eroded far enough, there's no need for more hypocrisy on my part... It's the 21st century, You're not religious, You're single, You have your urge, You don't owe anybody an answer. If you STRONGLY feel that it's a step towards breaking your stigma, I respect your decision. It's [b]politically correct to advise you against it but, you're old enough to decide and face any consequences. Life's always a learning experience...
I wish you all the best in whatever decision you made! & may all lonely souls out there find their sincerest other soon without resorting to extreme measures to quench their longing thirst... aiye...[/b]
Nevertheless, I admire your guts for taking a first step.
IMO, ONS and adultary cases etc are even worse and they are everwhere nowadays.
Just make sure you take enough precautious. -
Look, shit happens. You could die tomorrow (touchwood) without ever having the chance to touch a woman. That said, it's your decision and yours alone. People can say a tonne of rubbish, but they are not going to live with the decision; you are.
You are single, and are likely to remain single for quite a while yet, so I don't think morality should be of such a big issue to you. But here's a word of caution: sex without love can be very unfulfiling.
Risk wise, this is a high-risk activity. For sure. However, there is nothing to differentiate the risk level from other dangerous activities like skiing, sky diving or mountain climbing. It's the same philosophy. Wanna do it? Live with the consequences. Can't live with the consequences? Don't do it. The world has no place for regrets.
None of the above posters have provided any practical advice. So if you have to, here goes:
1) Avoid thai whores. Avoid china girls.
2) Go to a legal joint. They are safer.
3) Wear rubber. Avoid any fluid exhange (including saliva)
Health wise, remember that you are responsible to your future partner, as well as to your parents. Make your choice, but be prepared to live with it. -
Originally posted by soulrunner:Look, shit happens. You could die tomorrow (touchwood) without ever having the chance to touch a woman. That said, it's your decision and yours alone. People can say a tonne of rubbish, but they are not going to live with the decision; you are.
You are single, and are likely to remain single for quite a while yet, so I don't think morality should be of such a big issue to you. But here's a word of caution: sex without love can be very unfulfiling.
Risk wise, this is a high-risk activity. For sure. However, there is nothing to differentiate the risk level from other dangerous activities like skiing, sky diving or mountain climbing. It's the same philosophy. Wanna do it? Live with the consequences. Can't live with the consequences? Don't do it. The world has no place for regrets.
None of the above posters have provided any practical advice. So if you have to, here goes:
1) Avoid thai whores. Avoid china girls.
2) Go to a legal joint. They are safer.
3) Wear rubber. Avoid any fluid exhange (including saliva)
Health wise, remember that you are responsible to your future partner, as well as to your parents. Make your choice, but be prepared to live with it.