Is it normal to lust over someone u love?

• dreamykite

  20 Jul 06, 08:53

  Is this your first love??
• soulrunner

  20 Jul 06, 13:23

  Look, if you don't lust over the girl that you love, then that is not normal
• Herzog_Zwei

  20 Jul 06, 13:26

  Lust is different from love, mind you. But you definitely want to share intimacy with the one you love.
• moodyuke

  20 Jul 06, 20:27

  Originally posted by Herzog_Zwei:

  Lust is different from love, mind you. But you definitely want to share intimacy with the one you love.

  so does that means if a guy u like hugs and kiss u and always want to do it when he sees u, does tat means he like u ? Is "like" the correct word or should it be "love"?
  
  I asked this in the sense that he guy nv say he "likes" u b4 but like to kiss kiss and hug hug u...
  
• soulrunner

  21 Jul 06, 00:27

  Love is a subset of lust. So essentially from a man's p.o.v.,
  
  If you love a girl, the lust should be there. Otherwise it is not a functional relationship.
  
  However, it doesn't work the other way round. If you lust after a girl, it doesn't mean that you love her.
• lonestar86

  21 Jul 06, 00:36

  Originally posted by soulrunner:

  Look, if you don't lust over the girl that you love, then that is not normal

  dun lust over the gal u love can be normal too..
• soulrunner

  23 Jul 06, 00:12

  Originally posted by lonestar86:

  dun lust over the gal u love can be normal too..

  Well you're gonna have problems in bed
• lonestar86

  23 Jul 06, 01:22

  Originally posted by soulrunner:

  Well you're gonna have problems in bed

  ok..
  then better lust loh..
• sinicker

  23 Jul 06, 08:05

  u ish normal.
  
  lust more = love more.
  
  but please control for she may get the wrong idea that u have gf just because u wanna have intimacy.
• the_don

  23 Jul 06, 08:22

  it doesn't matter if u are a guy or a gal, love and lust always go hand in hand. Problems arise only when the lust get out of hand (unwanted pregnancies, etc). Repect your other half, love with all your heart and lust with self-control is the best way to go.
• CrabbyShaSha

  23 Jul 06, 09:12

  Well, I think its okay to lust over someone you love. It's normal.
  
  But if she's the conservative sort, I guess you gotta restrain yourself and not prowl all over her at the snap of your finger and frighten the poor girl...
  
  And I do agree that guys can lust but not necessary love but love and lust wld go together.
  
  So it's normal. Just take it slow whether you are bounded by religion or out of respect for your partner. Perhaps more communication & understanding need to be warranted fr both parties.
  
  That said, dun worry. In fact if I were the girl, I'd rather my partner lust over me than anyone else. Sure, he may drool over some pin-up babes or a gorgeous passer-by... but ultimately, it's me.. Me.. ME!
• BÃ¥seline

  23 Jul 06, 09:14

  Perfectly fine to lust over your own gal/guy... issit wrong to lust over ANOTHER gal/guy while in the r/s... tts your own interpretation.
• CrabbyShaSha

  23 Jul 06, 09:39

  Originally posted by BÃ¥seline:

  Perfectly fine to lust over your own gal/guy... issit wrong to lust over ANOTHER gal/guy while in the r/s... tts your own interpretation.

  Well I guess, you may feel like somebody else (or many body elses) seems really attractive and hot while you're in a relationship, that's fine...
  
  Just Don't do it!!!
  
  Redirect that feeling to your current relationship.
  
  Unless you're someone who's totally in for this tagline: "So many women, so little time..."