Empty Promises From Guys

• Bontakun

  31 Jul 06, 21:50

  Originally posted by musicbox:

  So I guess good guy will never meet good girl because that story is a fiction

  Define "good".
• orange88

  31 Jul 06, 21:51

  Originally posted by musicbox:

  All the good girls want to find good guys but they don't know where are they? And it is always the bad guys that approach the good girls first! What are the good guys doing??
  
  

  the good guys are saving the world... guys like batman, superman, and etc... all don't have gfs yet... lol
• Bontakun

  31 Jul 06, 21:55

  Originally posted by orange88:

  the good guys are saving the world... guys like batman, superman, and etc... all don't have gfs yet... lol

  Batman in the animated series never had a partner. Superman has Lois Lane. Spiderman has Mary Jane Watson.
  
  Its a case of affinity with different characters in different times of your lives. By chance you meet someone special. By choice you decide to be with that special someone.
• R3SsH|n

  31 Jul 06, 23:35

  Originally posted by Bontakun:

  Batman in the animated series never had a partner. Superman has Lois Lane. Spiderman has Mary Jane Watson.
  
  Its a case of affinity with different characters in different times of your lives. By chance you meet someone special. By choice you decide to be with that special someone.

  and just so happen all the good guy's would never seem to be able to go together with their partner...
  the curse of the good guys...
• orange88

  1 Aug 06, 01:57

  
  i'll dedicate this song to you alrite?
  
  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GmT3MpIazbM
  
  
• Devil1976

  1 Aug 06, 12:38

  Originally posted by missqi:

  and i wonder why all the guys i meet.. they always feel right, then in retrospect, so wrong.

  
• greffen

  1 Aug 06, 13:39

  Originally posted by musicbox:

  My ex-bf whom i have just broken off with recently gave me lots of empty promises. We planned to get married next year and etc. We didn't quarrel at all. He loved me alot then and out of sudden he wanted to break up all because i'm from a broken family. My heart was so broken. I felt cheated. I trusted him so much yet he gave me so much pain. Why are guys like that? Moreover he's a Christian! He's currently in his late twenties.
  
  

  Lady, this Happens to a lot of people, can be the man or the woman.
  Anyone can promise anyone, its only by the word of mouth so..same thing here it happens fromboth parties...when both of you are happily together I can bet you never think of these things...
  
  Its the same principle..as courting. If a man is courting a gal, everything is sweet..so romantic..blah..blah ..blah..Does that means you believe every guys who court after you ?? what they say?
  
  The Real Challenge comes when both of you are married..thats the challenge, boyfrd,galfrd courtship is only the tip of the ICE BERG. If you both can't even cross this 1st stage, how can you bring yourself to lie with him for the rest of the marriage years..
  
  Ultimately sometimes it can be a blessing, if things appear clearer to you and learn to quiet down think about it...is he/she really the one you are going to live with? mayb for the entire life..
  
  Bare in Mind when you're young mayb early twenties,your perception and thinking will change when you're close to late twenties or when you mature and see more people...
  
  Its all about feelings, and love comes naturally...then its about managing both of you..n him..
  
  Opps find myself talking too much...sorry about that..
  I learned the hard way..
  
  cheers!!
  gref
  
  
• Kenashi

  1 Aug 06, 13:42

  Originally posted by musicbox:

  My ex-bf whom i have just broken off with recently gave me lots of empty promises. We planned to get married next year and etc. We didn't quarrel at all. He loved me alot then and out of sudden he wanted to break up all because i'm from a broken family. My heart was so broken. I felt cheated. I trusted him so much yet he gave me so much pain. Why are guys like that? Moreover he's a Christian! He's currently in his late twenties.
  
  

  
  lame excuse
  does he meant that he don't know u r from a broken family while u r dating???
  more like a change of heart to me
  
  hallo, he is just one guy, how come u knock the whole boat over becos of this one guy
  furthermore, gals like to listen to lies mah
• greffen

  1 Aug 06, 13:54

  Originally posted by musicbox:

  So I guess good guy will never meet good girl because that story is a fiction

  MusicBox...
  
  I used to thought that way when it happens to me...everything its a bleak..nothing in this world seems worth doing when the very ones that you love.
  
  Nobody will believe what I did to reconcile back but in the end...its all the empty promises you got...
  
  All the thing I need to do, I did... all I can ... for entirely 3months in the end.
  
  Well you see your friend can only accompany you, they can't really do anything.Its really up to you to bring your legs ups and walk again.
  
  Remember there's always someone waiting for you at the end of the road.
  
  gref
  
• orange88

  1 Aug 06, 14:46

  Originally posted by greffen:

  MusicBox...
  
  I used to thought that way when it happens to me...everything its a bleak..nothing in this world seems worth doing when the very ones that you love.
  
  Nobody will believe what I did to reconcile back but in the end...its all the empty promises you got...
  
  All the thing I need to do, I did... all I can ... for entirely 3months in the end.
  
  Well you see your friend can only accompany you, they can't really do anything.Its really up to you to bring your legs ups and walk again.
  
  Remember there's always someone waiting for you at the end of the road.
  
  gref
  

  spoken like i true hero! yes in the end it is you who make the decision not anyone else, so wake up from this nightmare.. time heals
• musicbox

  1 Aug 06, 19:08

  Originally posted by greffen:

  Lady, this Happens to a lot of people, can be the man or the woman.
  Anyone can promise anyone, its only by the word of mouth so..same thing here it happens fromboth parties...when both of you are happily together I can bet you never think of these things...
  
  Its the same principle..as courting. If a man is courting a gal, everything is sweet..so romantic..blah..blah ..blah..Does that means you believe every guys who court after you ?? what they say?
  
  The Real Challenge comes when both of you are married..thats the challenge, boyfrd,galfrd courtship is only the tip of the ICE BERG. If you both can't even cross this 1st stage, how can you bring yourself to lie with him for the rest of the marriage years..
  
  Ultimately sometimes it can be a blessing, if things appear clearer to you and learn to quiet down think about it...is he/she really the one you are going to live with? mayb for the entire life..
  
  Bare in Mind when you're young mayb early twenties,your perception and thinking will change when you're close to late twenties or when you mature and see more people...
  
  Its all about feelings, and love comes naturally...then its about managing both of you..n him..
  
  Opps find myself talking too much...sorry about that..
  I learned the hard way..
  
  cheers!!
  gref
  
  

  I think you will think I'm a dino. I don't make promises that I cannot fulfill at all. To me promises are tantamount to trusts in life and responsibilities. Only immature people will take it as part of sweet talks. If you really love someone, you will be willing to go through all the sufferings because life is a straight line and you will find that as years go by, there will be more sufferings ahead of us. And therefore going through them will be unavoidable. As for feelings, I never rely them in relationship for long because feelings are deceiving in life. I depend more on faith after.
  
  But you have said is true. It was a blessing indeed. I was extremely sad but knowing early that he is a man who is scared of sufferings early is better than later.
  
  I'm really happy that a lot of members here have given me lots of encouragements.
  
  Thank you!
• musicbox

  1 Aug 06, 19:21

  Originally posted by orange88:

  spoken like i true hero! yes in the end it is you who make the decision not anyone else, so wake up from this nightmare.. time heals

  It is indeed a nightmare for me. And he is still laughing away as if nothing has happened before. My girl-friend told me that most men who work in the banking and finance sector are like this -- they flirt and like to lie. Is this true?
• musicbox

  1 Aug 06, 19:41

  Originally posted by orange88:

  i'll dedicate this song to you alrite?
  
  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GmT3MpIazbM
  
  

  Thank you for the song!
• walesa

  1 Aug 06, 20:06

  Originally posted by musicbox:

  My girl-friend told me that most men who work in the banking and finance sector are like this -- they flirt and like to lie. Is this true?

  Would you believe me if I told you most of those in the legal profession were more compassionate than Mother Theresa?
  
  You get the drift, don't you? How you could even buy such generalisations is beyond me...
• Bontakun

  1 Aug 06, 23:52

  Originally posted by R3SsH|n:

  and just so happen all the good guy's would never seem to be able to go together with their partner...
  the curse of the good guys...

  It depends lah. Some good guys juz dun have it, while other good guys have it ALTHOUGH take some time lah. Patience teaches many things. Learn fro Spiderman.
• rie_sia

  2 Aug 06, 17:00

  I think you will think I'm a dino. I don't make promises that I cannot fulfill at all. To me promises are tantamount to trusts in life and responsibilities. Only immature people will take it as part of sweet talks. If you really love someone, you will be willing to go through all the sufferings because life is a straight line and you will find that as years go by, there will be more sufferings ahead of us. And therefore going through them will be unavoidable. As for feelings, I never rely them in relationship for long because feelings are deceiving in life. I depend more on faith after.
  

  yeah.....same here.......integrity!
  its like that cry wolf thingy
• rie_sia

  2 Aug 06, 17:09

  ya...n i think i will leave for someone younger and sweeter rather than a not so young anymore kind of woman.

  LOL.......thats why its the phenomenon asian men always go for younger gals
• musicbox

  29 Sep 06, 21:07

  I still cannot forget the pain. Sigh~ Did I love my ex-boyfriend too much or do I love myself too much?
  
  
• Ristar

  29 Sep 06, 21:17

  no girls want good guys, so, be a baddie and hook up all the hot chix.
  
  or u can just get one from KFC and chill.
• dokono

  29 Sep 06, 21:57

  Originally posted by musicbox:

  I still cannot forget the pain. Sigh~ Did I love my ex-boyfriend too much or do I love myself too much?
  
  

  You love him too much. Too much attachment to him. That's why his leaving will cause the heart-break.
• Devil1976

  2 Oct 06, 10:11

  Originally posted by musicbox:

  I still cannot forget the pain. Sigh~ Did I love my ex-boyfriend too much or do I love myself too much?
  
  

  Be glad you see him through before a marriage. What are promises to be broken? If he has broken them now, he could have just break them anytime in the future even if you're married with him.
• soul_rage

  2 Oct 06, 10:59

  Originally posted by musicbox:

  There were no quarrels. He felt that he couldn't take the stress I've in my family. I have never given him stress at all but only to tell him my family condition to let him understand that all I need is to have a shoulder to cry on from him. And he also blamed me that I am giving him pressure to settle down soon when he was the one who proposed to do so many many times.

  We human beings tend to think too highly of ourselves. Usually, just one simple thing can cause us to get stressed and give up. From the above, maybe you lean too much and he felt pressured and give up.
  
  Dating and marriage are different. Dating he can ignore your family condition. Married he must take up and share your burden as well. If he is feeling that you are leaning too much of him now, he probably became afraid after thinking of what would happen if both of you got married, and decided to run away.
  
  Anyway, like others said, you guys aren't suitable. Move on and close this chapter of your life.
• de_middle

  2 Oct 06, 15:10

  be single.......i have stayed this way for the past 3 years after i couldn't handle the heat too.
  
  Now I combat lonliness but this is the choice one takes & have to bear with it So you choose what you want & hopefully it turns out well......with this life can't promise you anything, you bang on hope instead
• galfriend

  3 Oct 06, 18:50

  Originally posted by musicbox:

  He proposed to get married next year many times Btw, I'm a Christian too

  1) How did he proposed?
  
  2) Did you accept his proposal?
  
  3) How long had you 2 been together till the breakoff date?
  
  4) How long had you 2 been together till the 1st time he proposed date?
  
  
• Cenarious

  3 Oct 06, 18:54

  did u sex