Marry but no children
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IS it a good idea?
Advantages: Less stressful, more income, company of each other, wife stays more youthful
Disadvantages: No children
But let me ask u all , is children so necessary? I think they are more of a liability in singapore than an asset. + the children no gurantee they are faithful to u. -
There won't be a next phase in life.Originally posted by Disclaimer:IS it a good idea?
Advantages: Less stressful, more income, company of each other, wife stays more youthful
Disadvantages: No children
But let me ask u all , is children so necessary? I think they are more of a liability in singapore than an asset. + the children no gurantee they are faithful to u.
- Giving life.
- Nurturing life.
- Enjoying more life.
- Leaving a Legacy.
Unless you have been overcomed by the current insecurities, preventing yourself from going into the next phases of life. -
Talk some sense. If u have difficulty supporting yrself, how can u support kids?Originally posted by NotFromVenus:There won't be a next phase in life.
- Giving life.
- Nurturing life.
- Enjoying more life.
- Leaving a Legacy.
Unless you have been overcomed by the current insecurities, preventing yourself from going into the next phases of life. -
OMG... are you trying to tell us your have financial difficulties?Originally posted by Disclaimer:Talk some sense. If u have difficulty supporting yrself, how can u support kids?
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Let them be a motivating factor ?Originally posted by Disclaimer:Talk some sense. If u have difficulty supporting yrself, how can u support kids? -
You will be able to support kids if you don't spend your time cloning in sgforumsOriginally posted by Disclaimer:Talk some sense. If u have difficulty supporting yrself, how can u support kids?
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why not?
i want to have 4 kids next time.
bringing up children to be what we never were, seeing them commit mistakes, and learning from them, seeing ourselves in them..
is a joy in itself..
and after them, if i can afford it, i want to adopt 2 kids from Palestine.
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It is a good idea, if you think it is. If you think it is not, then it is not.Originally posted by Disclaimer:IS it a good idea?
Advantages: Less stressful, more income, company of each other, wife stays more youthful
Disadvantages: No children
But let me ask u all , is children so necessary? I think they are more of a liability in singapore than an asset. + the children no gurantee they are faithful to u.
Don't need to ask ppl what they think. Ask yourself whether you're ready.
There is no fixed rule nor law stating that you must have a kid after you're married.
And dun let ppl tell you to have a kid, and why you must have a kid.
If you think it is necessary to have a kid, go ahead with it.
Just search your own heart and follow. -
Da Jie Da post always make sense...
Yar quite true, actually you want children or not is actually not our problems, maybe you post it here to let government increase the incentives for new born babies?
If you are so poor in the first place, why bother marry to make your spouse suffer with you?
What a typical selfish Singaporean men.
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without kids, life can get boring
with kids, life is crazy
I don't know which is better. But come what may and I don't think these things can be measured in pros and cons... -
Accidents happen... Most of the time children are not planned, If u dun wan children y get married?? Hmm
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better off without kids, life is fun and carefree. u agreed with me?Originally posted by mistyblue:without kids, life can get boring
with kids, life is crazy
I don't know which is better. But come what may and I don't think these things can be measured in pros and cons... -
you' re not getting my point. read the advantages i described. More income, buy house faster. pay for house together.Originally posted by Chaofan:Accidents happen... Most of the time children are not planned, If u dun wan children y get married?? Hmm -
differs from one to another.... right now i would prefer no children... kids are only good when u are extremely old... then thats the reward when they do serve their part to take good care of u like u care for them... when young, children is trouble until they complete the cycle... as for faithful, its abt how u impart ethics n knowledge n oso how deep he falls for his bride...Originally posted by Disclaimer:IS it a good idea?
Advantages: Less stressful, more income, company of each other, wife stays more youthful
Disadvantages: No children
But let me ask u all , is children so necessary? I think they are more of a liability in singapore than an asset. + the children no gurantee they are faithful to u. -
I always think that a child is a gift from heaven or a blessing.
Yes, it is not cheap to bring up a child. But think, wouldn't you want to have a child of your own? You will miss out so much fun of being a parent. To me, life is incomplete if I never experience parenthood. -
what is fun being a parent?Originally posted by browniebaobao:I always think that a child is a gift from heaven or a blessing.
Yes, it is not cheap to bring up a child. But think, wouldn't you want to have a child of your own? You will miss out so much fun of being a parent. To me, life is incomplete if I never experience parenthood. -
it is only good to see and play with other people's children. When it is yr own, it is hell
Besides, children are only cute when they are young. When they become older, they are no longer cute.
Motivating factor to work ect?. Nah, i think i love freedom more. -
since no children, i recommend dun get married unless you want a hdb badly
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see a new life bcos of u and ur partner.Originally posted by Disclaimer:what is fun being a parent?
see how ur child grows up.. ;earn to walk, eat, talk and call u 'papa' or 'mama'... see ur child goes to sch, grow up, go steady, get married and have children..
no fun meh?
i think they are precious experiences in life ba.
many people love to have kids but cannot conceive.
if u have the ability to have one, why not? -
don be stupid. marry still can wat. just no children.Originally posted by hisoka:since no children, i recommend dun get married unless you want a hdb badly -
dun be stupid. marry no benefit if not for the above reasonsOriginally posted by Disclaimer:don be stupid. marry still can wat. just no children. -
ar eu earning a min 2K per month?Originally posted by browniebaobao:see a new life bcos of u and ur partner.
see how ur child grows up.. ;earn to walk, eat, talk and call u 'papa' or 'mama'... see ur child goes to sch, grow up, go steady, get married and have children..
no fun meh?
i think they are precious experiences in life ba.
many people love to have kids but cannot conceive.
if u have the ability to have one, why not?
Can u handle the stress?
if yes u can afford.
you see , like u , the problem wif many ppl is that they like to dream and get carried away. When their dreams come true they wished it had not.
They failed to see the bigger picture.
A story for u:
There was a kid in a small town who liked sweets and liked to fantasise about a house made from sweets and stuffed full of sweets. All of which for him to eat. One day a fairy came down and granted him this dream,
then the boy was overjoyed initially but realised that living in a sweet house was not as good as he thought as he began to get tooth decay.
He also then realised that his precious sweet house began to attract , ants, bees, mice and other pests.
Moral of the story:
Dream but dont fail to see the bigger picture in the long run. -
got children divorce will be a big problem, whoever fail to get custody have to pay for children's welfare, usually men have to pay the price.
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dun be stupid. marry canbuy house faster. Pay for house loan faster. End of story.Originally posted by hisoka:dun be stupid. marry no benefit if not for the above reasons -
like i said, remain single, have many gf and enjoy carefree life.Originally posted by 798:got children divorce will be a big problem, whoever fail to get custody have to pay for children's welfare, usually men have to pay the price.
Carefree life = Living life to full.