Marry but no children
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if u get divorced, that's it. Yr life is hell
Pay for children and yet children no with u.
The wife will only get the benefits. -
dun say men jialat. women also not much better as children's education n maintenance are quite high, n the chance of remarry is very slim as their future partner must be financial capacable n not despise them n the kids.Originally posted by Disclaimer:if u get divorced, that's it. Yrlife is hell
Pay for children and yet children no with u.
The wife will only get the benefits.
the children also suffered from broken family n very bad childhood. -
dun be stupid. please read my post properly i did mention about the hdbOriginally posted by Disclaimer:dun be stupid. marry canbuy house faster. Pay for house loan faster. End of story. -
datsdumb. you think children no good dont give birth lor. why come here to kao-peh?
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haiz.Originally posted by Disclaimer:ar eu earning a min 2K per month?
Can u handle the stress?
if yes u can afford.
you see , like u , the problem wif many ppl is that they like to dream and get carried away. When their dreams come true they wished it had not.
They failed to see the bigger picture.
A story for u:
There was a kid in a small town who liked sweets and liked to fantasise about a house made from sweets and stuffed full of sweets. All of which for him to eat. One day a fairy came down and granted him this dream,
then the boy was overjoyed initially but realised that living in a sweet house was not as good as he thought as he began to get tooth decay.
He also then realised that his precious sweet house began to attract , ants, bees, mice and other pests.
Moral of the story:
Dream but dont fail to see the bigger picture in the long run.
ok lor if u really want to think that way. -
I guess it all boils down to individual preferences and how much you love kids as a couple. This also boils down to the lifestyle you want to have. Anyway, I have always marvelled families who can survived on 1k or 2k a month.
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Originally posted by Disclaimer:IS it a good idea?
Advantages: Less stressful, more income, company of each other, wife stays more youthful
Disadvantages: No children
But let me ask u all , is children so necessary? I think they are more of a liability in singapore than an asset. + the children no gurantee they are faithful to u.
Although having kids is probably subjective, in the end, it still boils down to your priorities in life.
You speak so much about the monetary side of life juxtapose responsibility and commitment of having children and judging from your post, you seemed to support the former.
That's because you have yet to understand how rearing kids could bring certain fulfilment in life where money cannot comprehand. In fact, you are looking from a individualistic point of view and partially from an evasive mindset to indemnify yourself from complication should a divorce arise, where having children is the main source of complication.
In the end, nobody can make you see how 'good' having a child would do to your marriage/life. Until when you have the maturity to accept the RESPONSIBILITY of being a FATHER, then perhaps you may see some truth.
In the same argument, why not stay as BGR forever? Why marriage? Isn't it better? Technically, you still get to enjoy being together.
It's the same old story; until when you have the maturity to accept the RESPONSIBILITY of being a HUSBAND, then perhaps you may see some truth.
P.S: Nobody can tell you how great certain things are until you have the wisdom to understand. If you don't see it that way, probably you are just not ready.
Cheers