My boyfriend's ex-gf
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Mirroring is one of the weakest and inefficent method of resolving the issue.
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U refering to what I post?Originally posted by M©+square:Mirroring is one of the weakest and inefficent method of resolving the issue.
Well, it works for me. I used to have an unfinished knot. But I guess it depends on individual.
Anyway, the best way is that the guy realised it himself. The girl can only do so much. They have a confrontaion, yes? Communication not successful. Have to try again. Until one call it quits. -
Wasn't referring to you.Originally posted by Magnus:U refering to what I post?
Well, it works for me. I used to have an unfinished knot. But I guess it depends on individual.
Anyway, the best way is that the guy realised it himself. The girl can only do so much. They have a confrontaion, yes? Communication not successful. Have to try again. Until one call it quits.
Mirroring means method using the exact same stance and words from speaker and turn against him. -
Originally posted by M©+square:Wasn't referring to you.
Mirroring means method using the exact same stance and words from speaker and turn against him.
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Looks like the Guy is more intrested in his ex girlfriend. I don't see any reason for you to cont. with him.
He is Boring.
From my experience .. its not worth being with him -
You need to ask him to move asway from the past and focus on the present.
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The issue is how can someone forget the 1st time he fell in love? The first love always indeed has great emotional and great significant meaning to someone, perhaps thorugh his ex that he has learnt how to be a better person and how to love you properly, imagine that you 're the gf before his ex, do you think your bf will be mature enough to know how to treat you well? Do you think you will be able to last?Originally posted by galfriend:but he keep saying im too sensitive, keep asking me not to be too affected by it, but can i be not affected when it is so frequently talked about and the subject is so intense?
Am i that over sensitive?
Perhaps you might be pissed by how immature he is and how badly he treats you. Why not share those memories and lessons in life he has learnt so that you too can improve your relationship with him, instead of getting jealous of who occupies his mind? Love also needs a listening ear, you cannot always expect a guy always to listen to a girl's problem, and shut off when the guy pour out his supplications on her. Guys can be emotional and cry over things too, if you are not going to be his pillar of support then who is?
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[color=violet]If u lOve him,
then
Understand him
and trUst hIm
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Thot its more common (i didn't say acceptable) for girls to talk about their ex(s).
Since he's talking bout 'her' everyday, most prob he's not giving you 100% of his heart & soul..
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I don't think you are oversensitive. On the other hand, your bf is being insensitive toward your feeling and I could categorised him as being selfish. I think he has not gotten over his ex yet and probably he is in the rebounding period right now. Maybe you want to put on hold of your relationship with him for now and just be his friend until he is get over his ex. It will be healthier that way.Originally posted by galfriend:M i really that oversensitive? How else would a guy expect the galfriend feel or think when he keeps telling her wat crazy and unbelievable things he had done for his ex? -
just dont respond to what he says about his exs.....
sooner or later he will get tired and stop whinning..... -
you are not alone, my gf keep talking abt how gay and s hitty his ex boyfriend was.
kinda affect me alot,
but in this case, its postively -
He probably still living in his past r/s. U need to ask him to move on and forgot his past. Prob will take sometimes for him to be totally "cure" so u needto be patient.Originally posted by galfriend:My bf is constantly talking about his past relationship. Like how his ex gf had treated him (it was a bad breakup fyi), how it had affected him, how well he treated her yet she behaved that, how he couldnt comprehend her behaviour.
I had told him that he gotta stop talking about her to me, but he said it affected him so much that it was a significant part of his life, and he sees no reason why he cant confide in me about wat is in his mind.
There were a couple of times i got affected by wat he said, and we had a fight. He said that im too sensivitive. But if he is talking about it every other day, and during the past week we had already had 2 fights/cold war over this, is this healthy?
Currently u r his gf...his shd be more sensitive to ur feeling. Once in a while he tells u is ok lah...but if he keeps on telling u his past r/s daily, probably he dun treat u seriously, so talk wif him abt how u feel. Dun get jealous over sumone in the past..rmb u already had replace her in his heart since u r his gf.
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seriously, i will get irritated if i were you. mentioning it once in a blue moon is okay but not to the extend of keep on harping on it. it is history now.
he says you are sensitive, but he is not sensitive to your feelings too.