mY muM dOeSn lIkE mY bF coZ of His edUcatioNaL stAtus...
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bring in dropouts tooOriginally posted by Chelzea:no i mus bring CI into e flame war
kidding lah 
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Maybe you should wake up bit... Unless you expect to support him financially. Or suffer abit in life... then please wake up for once.Originally posted by ahkico:My mum doesn realli agree with mi bein with him..
I"m in poly.. He drop out of ITE.. In other words.. His career won bring him to the high up positions out in the workin world..
2 mi.. I love him with all my heart.. I dun wan think abt all the education status quo.. TRue.. sOmetimes i do mind tis bit.. But i jus shrug it of..
Even though he isn well educated.. But we're able to communicate on the same level.. Wat matters to mi is tat so long we love each other.. It's tis tat counts..
My mum.. Keep naggin whenever i'm out with him.. Told her.. If now i dun go out.. wAt u wan mi to do??? @ tis age.. It's goin out to have fun!!!
She says he's not presentable to bring out.. LOL.. My heart shattered.. She doesn approve of him coz of his job.. He help out in his father's garage.. Changing tyres.. Etc..
My relatives quite belongs to the snoob typo.. I know they will surely jeer & sneer @ mi.. In my heart.. I somehow duno how i am goin face them.. If they ask mi.. Wat is he workin as???
Do i mind? I reali dunno myself.. But i'm prepared to accept all tis from the dae i got tog with him..
R we too clingy to each other?? Aren't datin couple like tat?? We meet up whenever we're free.. Sometimes almost every dae.. My mum will start nagging tat i keep goin out..
Wat could i do or say to make my mum accept him??? -
since u said tat u accept him now, make sure u feel the same when u start working onwards... u must be prepared for the kind of life when with him for a long long time... but u must reali tink of the future for bth of u... has he got any future plans or hes jz playing his days? how do u see ur future like with him? how abt marriage?Originally posted by ahkico:My mum doesn realli agree with mi bein with him..
I"m in poly.. He drop out of ITE.. In other words.. His career won bring him to the high up positions out in the workin world..
2 mi.. I love him with all my heart.. I dun wan think abt all the education status quo.. TRue.. sOmetimes i do mind tis bit.. But i jus shrug it of..
Even though he isn well educated.. But we're able to communicate on the same level.. Wat matters to mi is tat so long we love each other.. It's tis tat counts..
My mum.. Keep naggin whenever i'm out with him.. Told her.. If now i dun go out.. wAt u wan mi to do??? @ tis age.. It's goin out to have fun!!!
She says he's not presentable to bring out.. LOL.. My heart shattered.. She doesn approve of him coz of his job.. He help out in his father's garage.. Changing tyres.. Etc..
My relatives quite belongs to the snoob typo.. I know they will surely jeer & sneer @ mi.. In my heart.. I somehow duno how i am goin face them.. If they ask mi.. Wat is he workin as???
Do i mind? I reali dunno myself.. But i'm prepared to accept all tis from the dae i got tog with him..
R we too clingy to each other?? Aren't datin couple like tat?? We meet up whenever we're free.. Sometimes almost every dae.. My mum will start nagging tat i keep goin out..
Wat could i do or say to make my mum accept him???
nothing wrong with education cos i know a PSLE level boss who struck rich with his hard work n now owns many company in different lines... its abt how hardworking a guy can be... but the more importance is still his mindset... is he mature enuff to work for his future liao? is he treating u well and respecting u for now? n will he still do it further on?
since u like him so much then let him know ur parents n everyone look down on him and see how he will prove himself worthy to be ur knight... a fren of mine also in tis situation and her guy is open noodle shop with same objections from parents... i jz tell her to give him sarpot and plan for future... -
Originally posted by ahkico:My mum doesn realli agree with mi bein with him..
I"m in poly.. He drop out of ITE.. In other words.. His career won bring him to the high up positions out in the workin world..
2 mi.. I love him with all my heart.. I dun wan think abt all the education status quo.. TRue.. sOmetimes i do mind tis bit.. But i jus shrug it of..
Even though he isn well educated.. But we're able to communicate on the same level.. Wat matters to mi is tat so long we love each other.. It's tis tat counts..
My mum.. Keep naggin whenever i'm out with him.. Told her.. If now i dun go out.. wAt u wan mi to do??? @ tis age.. It's goin out to have fun!!!
She says he's not presentable to bring out.. LOL.. My heart shattered.. She doesn approve of him coz of his job.. He help out in his father's garage.. Changing tyres.. Etc..
My relatives quite belongs to the snoob typo.. I know they will surely jeer & sneer @ mi.. In my heart.. I somehow duno how i am goin face them.. If they ask mi.. Wat is he workin as???
Do i mind? I reali dunno myself.. But i'm prepared to accept all tis from the dae i got tog with him..
R we too clingy to each other?? Aren't datin couple like tat?? We meet up whenever we're free.. Sometimes almost every dae.. My mum will start nagging tat i keep goin out..
Wat could i do or say to make my mum accept him???
Everyone likes ready product - like how good rich this man is because the woman he marries is likely to lead a better life through better financial standing... more enticing to have.
But these are the tangible qualities - something where your parents could see from their angle, but nothing more than that.
How well is he a person; probably only you understood. This is the intangibles that cannot be measure or seen easily through the eyes of others.
And ultimately, you are the one responsibility for the man you choose at the end of the road.
WHETHER love has that power to drive him to strive for a better future, it's still too early to judge. At least your boyfriend WORKS and not slack around while having to rot his life away.
You mum has a negative automatic thought of his educational level; it is up to the both of you to change her biased mindset through deeds. If communication is a problem and you cannot dissuade her from thinking the way she does, then allow time to prove your stand.
Your parents think what's best for you; but they ain't you.
Even if your relationship were to fail and before they go saying 'Ah hah! I told you so...' - your parents should realized that you have grown up and ought to make important decision for your life. Failing your relationship doesn't mean the difference in education level; more likely, it is the same other 'viruses' that killed other relationship/s, which unfortunately strikes yours.
P.S: Learn that love is wholly yours to govern and that others' influence or vicious comments cannot affect your relationship unless you give them permission to do so. You are the security guard of your own relationship - the minute you accept what people think of your relationship, you will view your relationship in dissatisfied angles pointed out by those people, although you have no issue with them originally.
Some people are congenitally born with longer hands, shorter legs and whatever.... Regardless, learn contentment. Men who treat their woman like dirt littered the back alley - When you love someone for who he/she is and love will evolve him/her and he/she will improve as your love deepens. If you look at one aspect in a person and chose the highest grade in that aspect, chances are, he/she will sacrifice other aspects of personality in exchange for this particular trait.
Nobody is born perfect. We accept those whom we reckon to be suitable and mould them to perfection... at least in our eyes
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well lousy attitude has nothing to do with going into uni...look at how many jc students are going into uni...thats enough prove ....Originally posted by Chelzea:hey ,R3SsH|n if u go into local uni wif dis attitude i wonder hw long it wld take be4 u r beaten up -
Simple said... It always feels good to have a fling or a fairy tale korean style love story but.... This is the real world. Decision is ultimately yours make sure you don't regret it... You don't see those korean style love story series playing to the age of 35...Secondly... Since you're in poly... I think you are still a young girl... You'll probably change a perspective in a couple of years.
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Originally posted by Yunhaier:
Thanks.. Been readin ur posts on & off thru out tis forums.. u give gd advice! hehe..Indeed i feel beta.. Everyone likes ready product - like how good rich this man is because the woman he marries is likely to lead a better life through better financial standing... more enticing to have.
But these are the tangible qualities - something where your parents could see from their angle, but nothing more than that.
How well is he a person; probably only you understood. This is the intangibles that cannot be measure or seen easily through the eyes of others.
And ultimately, you are the one responsibility for the man you choose at the end of the road.
WHETHER love has that power to drive him to strive for a better future, it's still too early to judge. At least your boyfriend WORKS and not slack around while having to rot his life away.
You mum has a negative automatic thought of his educational level; it is up to the both of you to change her biased mindset through deeds. If communication is a problem and you cannot dissuade her from thinking the way she does, then allow time to prove your stand.
[b]Your parents think what's best for you; but they ain't you.
Even if your relationship were to fail and before they go saying 'Ah hah! I told you so...' - your parents should realized that you have grown up and ought to make important decision for your life. Failing your relationship doesn't mean the difference in education level; more likely, it is the same other 'viruses' that killed other relationship/s, which unfortunately strikes yours.
P.S: Learn that love is wholly yours to govern and that others' influence or vicious comments cannot affect your relationship unless you give them permission to do so. You are the security guard of your own relationship - the minute you accept what people think of your relationship, you will view your relationship in dissatisfied angles pointed out by those people, although you have no issue with them originally.
Some people are congenitally born with longer hands, shorter legs and whatever.... Regardless, learn contentment. Men who treat their woman like dirt littered the back alley - When you love someone for who he/she is and love will evolve him/her and he/she will improve as your love deepens. If you look at one aspect in a person and chose the highest grade in that aspect, chances are, he/she will sacrifice other aspects of personality in exchange for this particular trait.
Nobody is born perfect. We accept those whom we reckon to be suitable and mould them to perfection... at least in our eyes
Cheers [/b]
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haiz..
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why dont old people understand anything abt love and marriage ?
They want you to get husband with proper education so he can get a "good" job and...........earn more (the end result) MONEYY !! its always abt the MONEYY !!
Even if u go marry a well educated guy..wat if the nxt day after your wedding he dies ? He got no insurance also. den how ?... just follow your heart lerr...
Change tire at garage also this monday maybe can win toto jackpot.. then wat your mother going to say ? -
Her mother will probably say, "We'll talk again the next time he visits me with millions to spare..."Originally posted by pouncy:why dont old people understand anything abt love and marriage ?
They want you to get husband with proper education so he can get a "good" job and...........earn more (the end result) MONEYY !! its always abt the MONEYY !!
Even if u go marry a well educated guy..wat if the nxt day after your wedding he dies ? He got no insurance also. den how ?... just follow your heart lerr...
Change tire at garage also this monday maybe can win toto jackpot.. then wat your mother going to say ?
In all seriousness, I don't see how those analogies you've provided make sense at all(as far as the threadstarter is concerned anyway). True, everything in life is a matter of probability, but it's not rocket science to figure some events are more likely to happen than others - and they're founded on good reasoning, mind! Afterall, it's not hard to understand - even if you were a hardcore gambler - why, for the same stake, you stand to win more from the lottery than say horses, would you?
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Tell yr mum time have change, even highly edu dun mean a happy marriage. After all is yr own life, choose wisely. The more you demand the more disappointment you get.
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uh.. tell your mama..
on the bed ah, we also do the same things as u do..
so we also have the same education level.. -
This shows that the standard of ITE and Poly is actually equal. Haha... no one can compare themselves to me... who is from NUS.
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Spare me from the laugh pls... jc students altho they can study, but they "study dead books" and also most of them are so pussified that they dun even dare stare at a poly student in the eyes.Originally posted by Chelzea:hey ,R3SsH|n if u go into local uni wif dis attitude i wonder hw long it wld take be4 u r beaten up
and seriously speaking so what if u are from jc, doesnt mean that u know more than a poly student. JC is all about books, whereas poly is more of a hands on but ITE has the most hands on experience among all 3. after A lvls go uni then uni fail ho say liao, remain with A lvls cert or retake uni, time wasted. wana come out find job also hard cos A lvl nia. The work society brand A lvls as only know theory duno practical. Straight and think like a blockhead which is not flexible. Poly student go uni even if they fail they still have a diploma cert to support them in the working society cos more company rather employ a dip holder than an A lvl cert holder.
even if u pass uni as a jc student, like what i say u guys are all theory no practical. ask u all do hands on nia scared this scared that macham machine will eat u up like dat. really bunch of pussified snobs. -
that sounds a bit materialistic.. i think although $$ is important, u're with that special someone not bcoz of his wealth or background, but bcoz u love him (that kind of special feeling that cannot be replaced). i guess the most impt part is that the guy must be willing to work hard. I suddenly have a feeling that threadstarter's mum might not object to the relationship so much if he was from a rich family.. haha.. but anyway, educational level n income shldn't be the judging factors in relationships.Originally posted by banzie:Maybe you should wake up bit... Unless you expect to support him financially. Or suffer abit in life... then please wake up for once. -
Sod off, you're giving us a bad name.Originally posted by NUS_Superst@r:This shows that the standard of ITE and Poly is actually equal. Haha... no one can compare themselves to me... who is from NUS. 
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Clap clap!Originally posted by i_heart_icecream:that sounds a bit materialistic.. i think although $$ is important, u're with that special someone not bcoz of his wealth or background, but bcoz u love him (that kind of special feeling that cannot be replaced). i guess the most impt part is that the guy must be willing to work hard. I suddenly have a feeling that threadstarter's mum might not object to the relationship so much if he was from a rich family.. haha.. but anyway, educational level n income shldn't be the judging factors in relationships.
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It is easy to say that the most important thing is that we love each other and happy together but have you ask yourself what is needed to make you happy and what is needed to stay together? Money! Its not about materialistic but rather REALISTIC.
Like it or not, education does affect one's level of income. Better education will give you better job. Better job give you better income. Better job also give you better time management and time for each other.
On Sunday afternoon, at Orchard Road, would you rather be the one doing shopping with your family or the one looking after the shop to serve customers? If you don't have much of education, which one will you be?
I was working in the bookstore a few years ago and once I was working on Sunday afternoon, suddenly I felt this pain and sadness when I see a family with all their children reading and playing together. I told myself that what I want to do on Sunday afternoon, spending time with my family rather than working like a dog. I moved on to an office job less than 3 months later. Was I able to move on easily back then without my education? I don't think so.
Your parents is concern that one day you will end up marrying your bf whether is planned or by accident and they worried that you will suffer in the future. They are parents, its their job to worry about your future.
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Hi threadstarter! First of all, I know it's kind of a dilemma when parents step into your private life. It's good that you are not affected much by his educational status. Your mom is wrong to judge people like that but it is always the case here in SG. People always tend to judge by the educational status. But in any case, you are her daughter and she only has your best interests at heart. You should have a good heart to heart talk with your BF. And also have one with your mom.
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my mom dun like my bf too. he's got MBA, good job, n getting abt 4k every mth. good family background too. but still she prefers my ex. haiz.. mothers.....
if he's mom dun like me, i can understand. i only got O lvl n getting 1.5k every mth. we love each other very much too. so now we trying hard to prove to our family lots of things. of cos, many other factors too...Originally posted by ahkico:My mum doesn realli agree with mi bein with him..
I"m in poly.. He drop out of ITE.. In other words.. His career won bring him to the high up positions out in the workin world..
2 mi.. I love him with all my heart.. I dun wan think abt all the education status quo.. TRue.. sOmetimes i do mind tis bit.. But i jus shrug it of..
Even though he isn well educated.. But we're able to communicate on the same level.. Wat matters to mi is tat so long we love each other.. It's tis tat counts..
My mum.. Keep naggin whenever i'm out with him.. Told her.. If now i dun go out.. wAt u wan mi to do??? @ tis age.. It's goin out to have fun!!!
She says he's not presentable to bring out.. LOL.. My heart shattered.. She doesn approve of him coz of his job.. He help out in his father's garage.. Changing tyres.. Etc..
My relatives quite belongs to the snoob typo.. I know they will surely jeer & sneer @ mi.. In my heart.. I somehow duno how i am goin face them.. If they ask mi.. Wat is he workin as???
Do i mind? I reali dunno myself.. But i'm prepared to accept all tis from the dae i got tog with him..
R we too clingy to each other?? Aren't datin couple like tat?? We meet up whenever we're free.. Sometimes almost every dae.. My mum will start nagging tat i keep goin out..
Wat could i do or say to make my mum accept him??? -
You are different. Usually people are ok with Guys richer simply because Guys should give you the assurance... Rarely the other way round.. YOu need to give birth and nuture the child not him.Originally posted by aHGer^83:my mom dun like my bf too. he's got MBA, good job, n getting abt 4k every mth. good family background too. but still she prefers my ex. haiz.. mothers.....
if he's mom dun like me, i can understand. i only got O lvl n getting 1.5k every mth. we love each other very much too. so now we trying hard to prove to our family lots of things. of cos, many other factors too... -
The question, which is linked to the other thread "Will you mind if your wife earns more than you", is that, have you personally known a couple which the husband is playing the inferior role living happily ever after?
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WAH. INTRO your bf to me CAN?Originally posted by aHGer^83:my mom dun like my bf too. he's got MBA, good job, n getting abt 4k every mth. good family background too. but still she prefers my ex. haiz.. mothers.....
if he's mom dun like me, i can understand. i only got O lvl n getting 1.5k every mth. we love each other very much too. so now we trying hard to prove to our family lots of things. of cos, many other factors too... -
jc like big deal, i throw a stone from my office building, don't know can hit how many jc studentsOriginally posted by Where Is God:show's that poly produces trash?
it is like a dime a dozen -
What I think is that the gap in education qualifications are not that important but it is well advised that the gap shouldn't be that big.
I have friends, poly graduates, who have girlfriends who are in local unis. But the gap of education between them are not considered big.