Is my gf rushing into things?
-
Are you implying that she's superficial or desperate? Anyway, I did consider before the possibility of a breakup and the splitting of money. So I guess I'm right to put aside the idea at least for now?Originally posted by chenc:2 months. Even if she is really serious, you should think what kind of girls decide to stay with a guy for life just after 2 months since they first met.
MAybe you could follow her idea, but only contribute a little. See what her response is -
She want to settle down so fast ah?
I mean people get married also dun share account one. Nowadays is like out of fashion le.
Too bad. All your money are belong to her
-
u nv know when the gal changes her heart, and shld she do so, off goes your money if you think both of you cant fit well together then say good bye to your moneyOriginally posted by lem0nade:Are you implying that she's superficial or desperate? Anyway, I did consider before the possibility of a breakup and the splitting of money. So I guess I'm right to put aside the idea at least for now? -
to be shrewd...you can think of it as she is just money face...
-
I seriously think she is not that type of girl.Originally posted by R3SsH|n:to be shrewd...you can think of it as she is just money face... -
wah, two months is very very fast... better delay it, you never know what will happen.
-
you're not smart if you joint yr main account with hers lolx...Originally posted by lem0nade:A few days ago my gf of 2 mths suggested to me bout opening a joint bank account. She said we should start saving for our future. I was stunned and quickly brushed away the idea by saying we're still young. We're both 22 btw. She's a final year undergrad while I just started my first year. Am I wrong to reject her idea? Wat are the implications involved? -
better den later she try to make herself pregnant in order to force him to marry her, rite??Originally posted by orange88:you're not smart if you joint yr main account with hers lolx... -
Honestly, even if you've known her all your life, as long as you're not married, a joint account is risky.
-
your this post motivates me to wait for a girl. haha! you court her for so long or just so happen sparks flew of late?Originally posted by lem0nade:Hmm.. basically I knew her since primary school and it was only recently that we got together. I know her quite well and she's no spendthrift. So I'm not afraid of her withdrawing faster than I can put in... In fact it's more of the reverse! Since she'll be working once she graduate next year while I'm still in uni, she'll have a regular income unlike me. Won't I stand to gain more as she'll be contributing a greater share? -
put in 100 just to yi si yi si lor...then if she ask why no put in later, say if put in liao, you dont have $ for dates etc...
-
Maybe by the 12months, she will suggest why not applying for a new HDB flat..
Jokes aside, 2months too short already lah..Still in honeymoon period, things may change as time goes by.. -
Methinks different, especially when I hear that she has known you since primary school. I think she is dead serious, are you?
-
I din really court her so as to say. We started going out regularly since Feb and she was the one who initiated the relationship.Originally posted by bladez87:your this post motivates me to wait for a girl. haha! you court her for so long or just so happen sparks flew of late?
Honestly I just wanna see how far we can go lor...Originally posted by virtualchick:Methinks different, especially when I hear that she has known you since primary school. I think she is dead serious, are you? -
Why not save separately?Originally posted by lem0nade:A few days ago my gf of 2 mths suggested to me bout opening a joint bank account. She said we should start saving for our future. I was stunned and quickly brushed away the idea by saying we're still young. We're both 22 btw. She's a final year undergrad while I just started my first year. Am I wrong to reject her idea? Wat are the implications involved?
It certainly can be damn complicated... Basically when in a joint-account, if I'm not wrong.... Any party can draw the $ out... -
2 mths is a little short. Are you sure you wanna rush into this? You're still so young.. I've always believed than men who want to have a higher quality, stable life in future shd focus on career first.. and I'm female by the way. Once you get married, your priorities will change and career options/advancement will be limited for you.. remember that..
Maybe as a girl, she sees opening a joint account it as ok, like a sign of mutual trust and a promise of sorts.. but you are a guy. You do have to consider the full implications of opening a joint bank account with a girl u just knew for 2 mths :
- Ask yourself if you're ready to have your finances scrutinized so early in the relationship. If the answer is maybe or not really, you're not ready.. and you NEED to tell her this. Just explain that you'd like to take it slowly, to plan further... if she's understanding, she won't push you (at least that will buy you time).
- If the answer to the above is yes, do consider opening a seperate, individual account of your own. She shouldn't try to bug you about that account if she has any respect for you.. if she cannot accept it, she's too insecure - insecurity from either partner can be affect a relationship's future greatly so have a think about it ....
hope this helps, all the best
-
go for it! money isnt everything
-
Originally posted by alexkusu:go for it! money isnt everything
-
Obviously she's serious about you and the relationship. The real question is are you serious about her. You really got to think hard and long about this. It is not so much as to amount of the money in the account as to the significance of taking this step forward.
If you don't feel safe about your money, then you can get the account setup with 2 signatories necessary to withdraw any money. -
Getting TOO serious in 2 months worth of relationship is really a shock to many men, it's literally calling him to commitment and marriage, in that perspective.Originally posted by pwnz0r:Obviously she's serious about you and the relationship. The real question is are you serious about her. You really got to think hard and long about this. It is not so much as to amount of the money in the account as to the significance of taking this step forward.
If you don't feel safe about your money, then you can get the account setup with 2 signatories necessary to withdraw any money.
Before he could enjoy the courtship...he now have to think of marriage. In consideration that the relationship is just 2 months? -
ish the matter of trust..
-
any particular reason why she wan to have a joint account?
for marriage? for both yr expenses when u go out?
2 months is a bit too early
me and fog-shu 2 years liao also don't have a joint account but we wil be getting 1 soon becoz we need to use the account to pay for our house expenses and so on.
At least through a joint account, we don't have to argue who pay for what,
why he pay more, i pay less
Just tell her that it's too early. Somemore she not working now.
Must be firm when come to $$. Next time, *Touchwood* break liao, she run away u also Lan lan -
hmm, 2 months too fast le...cos still dun really know each other yet.
Money is a tricky issue to begin with. And since both of you are still studying, better consider this carefully... -
in this case, trust is build with time and Effort.Originally posted by Princess livia:ish the matter of trust.. -
ya lo...haiz......Originally posted by M©+square:in this case, trust is build with time and Effort.