How would you cope with unappreciative friends?

• shade343

  2 Sep 06, 16:35

  Hmm...lets say you have a close friend whom you have been helping regularly. One day you discover that all this while, he isnt really appreciative of what you have been doing. You did voice out your unhappiness over this to him, but he doesnt seem to take it seriously. What would you do then?
• Bontakun

  2 Sep 06, 17:06

  Originally posted by shade343:

  Hmm...lets say you have a friend whom you have been helping regularly. One day you discover that all this while, he isnt really appreciative of what you have been doing. WHat would you do?
  
  

  I love my friends. I carry on whether they appreciative or not. I not gonna change my ways just because a few in my circle dun appreciate.
• charlize

  2 Sep 06, 17:07

  Round horse kick and an uppercut.
  
  That works all the time.
  
  
• shade343

  2 Sep 06, 17:10

  Originally posted by Bontakun:

  I love my friends. I carry on whether they appreciative or not. I not gonna change my ways just because a few in my circle dun appreciate.

  But would you feel hurt, if you found out that they are unappreciative? And its a close friend not some acquaintences.
• Bontakun

  2 Sep 06, 17:12

  Originally posted by charlize:

  Round horse kick and an uppercut.
  
  That works all the time.
  
  

  We aint no Chuck Norris. Only he has da authority to do dat. Its his trademark.
• Bontakun

  2 Sep 06, 17:19

  Originally posted by shade343:

  But would you feel hurt, if you found out that they are unappreciative? And its a close friend not some acquaintences.

  I am only human, of coz it hurts. But my love for them prevails over petty differences and self centered-ness. You can say I talk big, but I do not like being selfish and expect anything from my friends.
  
  Imagine dis, if you give to dem (anything) EXPECTING to receive smth back from dem... Dun you tink you will only focus on those ppl who can do dat? Wat about those who dun? R you goin to ignore dem? Dats not how friendship works loh.
• OasisBlue

  2 Sep 06, 17:19

  hmm i will still help... but not too often...mb help only if he ask cuz he is really in need. or else i may not help him often so dat he wun be dependant on u and eventually not realising ur effort...
• OasisBlue

  2 Sep 06, 17:21

  Originally posted by Bontakun:

  I am only human, of coz it hurts. But my love for them prevails over petty differences and self centered-ness. You can say I talk big, but I do not like being selfish and expect anything from my friends.
  
  Imagine dis, if you give to dem (anything) EXPECTING to receive smth back from dem... Dun you tink you will only focus on those ppl who can do dat? Wat about those who dun? R you goin to ignore dem? Dats not how friendship works loh.

  ya x 2...but maybe his friend is just feeling dependant on him...thinking he will be there to help him whenever in need thus not appreciating it...
• shade343

  2 Sep 06, 17:23

  Originally posted by Bontakun:

  I am only human, of coz it hurts. But my love for them prevails over petty differences and self centered-ness. You can say I talk big, but I do not like being selfish and expect anything from my friends.
  
  Imagine dis, if you give to dem (anything) EXPECTING to receive smth back from dem... Dun you tink you will only focus on those ppl who can do dat? Wat about those who dun? R you goin to ignore dem? Dats not how friendship works loh.

  of course when you help your friends you dont expect anything in return, but at least some form of recognition or a "thank you" would suffice. But when none of that happens, how?
• <Precious>

  2 Sep 06, 17:26

  Find other friends lor!
• Bontakun

  2 Sep 06, 17:29

  Originally posted by OasisBlue:

  ya x 2...but maybe his friend is just feeling dependant on him...thinking he will be there to help him whenever in need thus not appreciating it...

  I know. Sometimes its hard... which is why we also have to be tactful when we offer our help. We can lend a listening ear, or do smth for them BUT also tell them along the way on how they have to do it on their own if we as the helpers may not be available all the times.
  
  We do our best in helping them within our limited capabilities. If they take for granted, I can't change their minds just like that. They will one day know about what we did and leanr to be appreciative. That is why I don't give up no matter how lon git takes.
• Bontakun

  2 Sep 06, 17:30

  Originally posted by shade343:

  of course when you help your friends you dont expect anything in return, but at least some form of recognition or a "thank you" would suffice. But when none of that happens, how?

  I STILL do it. No kidding.
• OasisBlue

  2 Sep 06, 18:17

  i will still do too but i wun expect them to ever appreciate...since i noe they wun right at the start...just help them sometimes as a part of a friend
• Bontakun

  2 Sep 06, 19:09

  Originally posted by OasisBlue:

  i will still do too but i wun expect them to ever appreciate...since i noe they wun right at the start...just help them sometimes as a part of a friend

  That is good enough.
• OasisBlue

  2 Sep 06, 19:47

  Originally posted by Bontakun:

  That is good enough.

  but of cuz i hope they dun go beyond the line
• Ito_^

  2 Sep 06, 19:52

  ditch em.
• OasisBlue

  2 Sep 06, 20:10

  Originally posted by Ito_^:

  ditch em.

  dis is the last resort if they seriously go overboard and try to take advantage of u
• Bontakun

  2 Sep 06, 22:10

  Originally posted by OasisBlue:

  but of cuz i hope they dun go beyond the line

  We have no control over their actions, but hoping is a good start.
• dragg

  2 Sep 06, 22:11

  there are plenty of such people around.
  
  i wont want to waste my time with them.
  
  
• Patrik

  2 Sep 06, 22:22

  There will be others who will appreciate u as a friend.
  
• dragg

  2 Sep 06, 22:23

  Originally posted by Patrik:

  There will be others who will appreciate u as a friend.
  

  few and far between.
  
  
• Cenarious

  2 Sep 06, 22:24

  If what you did didn't really help him, apologize and stop. If what you did has indeed helped, stop for a period of time and see how he copes with it.
• Bontakun

  2 Sep 06, 22:24

  Originally posted by dragg:

  few and far between.
  
  

  But those are the ones you truely cherish.
• dragg

  2 Sep 06, 22:28

  Originally posted by Bontakun:

  But those are the ones you truely cherish.

  most people are hypocrites. the truth can only be known when there is a conflict of interest.
  
  
• Patrik

  2 Sep 06, 22:32

  Originally posted by dragg:

  few and far between.
  
  

  One or two is enough le.
  I dun wanna sound negative but i have become very cynical towards people.
  Out of the blue,my hp will ring and there will be friends who want me to acc them go somewhere,borrow money from me,need help from me.
  Other than that,nothing more.
  Perhaps we should love people and use things instead of love things and use people.