Need urgent advices from gals!

• 0lala

  5 Sep 06, 13:57

  with relational to this topic
  
  mod plz dun close this
  
  http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=202095
  
  with relation to the above,same penpal
  
  My penpal dosent know i like her but she knows i liked gal A b4 in the past
  
  but ytd i raked it up and told her that at times theres memories of gal A,those harmless nostalgic feelings and wheather i shld attend my old school gathering as gal A wuld b present.
  I asked her if those nostalgic feelings was normal and wheatehr she wuld attend the gathering if she was in my shoes.
  i've gotten over that gal A and she knows.
  
  but suddenly when i talked about this topic of that previous gal,her reply became short and kinda stern...those "i duno" and "mayb" or "i think so" replies...
  
  is she angry?
  i dun wish of her to get the wrong idea
  but again i haven told her i liked her nor do i know wheatehr she likes me.
  
  so what is it?
  is she angry or is she 'noob' in giving r/s advicees?
  
• blu_sky

  5 Sep 06, 14:03

  That was a long thread which i didnt read. Caught a glimpse of your post above. Only one point i'll like to raise. Please do not constantly bring up other gals to the gal you like, unless you want to create misunderstandings or jealousy.
• 0lala

  5 Sep 06, 14:04

  but she dosent know i like her and i juz wanna ask advices from her on how i can attend gatherings yet not fall back to the pre gal
• blu_sky

  5 Sep 06, 14:07

  She is the gal you like, not your aunt agony.
• 0lala

  5 Sep 06, 14:10

  Originally posted by blu_sky:

  She is the gal you like, not your aunt agony.

  but like i said she dosent know i like her
  
  u do get advices from ur male friend too right? and vice versa
• <Precious>

  5 Sep 06, 14:11

  Why must ask gals for advice ah?
  Guys cannot answer meh?
  
  Dat means she's not happy with u for being so puo puo ma ma lor!
• blu_sky

  5 Sep 06, 14:14

  Originally posted by 0lala:

  but like i said she dosent know i like her
  
  u do get advices from ur male friend too right? and vice versa

  Young boi,
  
  do you really want to show the gal you like the weaker side of you, the undecisive side of you?
• duotiga83

  5 Sep 06, 14:14

  Originally posted by blu_sky:

  That was a long thread which i didnt read. Caught a glimpse of your post above. Only one point i'll like to raise. Please do not constantly bring up other gals to the gal you like, unless you want to create misunderstandings or jealousy.

  +1 here
• de_middle

  5 Sep 06, 14:20

  Originally posted by 0lala:

  but like i said she dosent know i like her
  
  u do get advices from ur male friend too right? and vice versa

  let it stay that way, best for her not to know.
  
  dun scare her
• 0lala

  5 Sep 06, 14:24

  Originally posted by de_middle:

  let it stay that way, best for her not to know.
  
  dun scare her

  but i think she sense that i like her
  
  but never confess means no wild guessing ma
  
  shes iritated last night....i smell jealousy
  highly possible but cant confirm
  
  if she indeed is jealous or iritated,what shld i do....?
• blu_sky

  5 Sep 06, 14:32

  Originally posted by 0lala:

  but i think she sense that i like her
  
  but never confess means no wild guessing ma
  
  shes iritated last night....i smell jealousy
  highly possible but cant confirm
  
  if she indeed is jealous or iritated,what shld i do....?

  There is no off-the-rack answer for this. Different gals need different remedies. Most important thing to do now is stop talking other gals.
• ditzy

  5 Sep 06, 14:34

  Originally posted by 0lala:

  but i think she sense that i like her
  
  but never confess means no wild guessing ma
  
  shes iritated last night....i smell jealousy
  highly possible but cant confirm
  
  if she indeed is jealous or iritated,what shld i do....?

  Concentrate on your studies and quit bothering girls.
• dakkon_blackblade

  5 Sep 06, 14:57

  Originally posted by ditzy:

  Concentrate on your studies and quit bothering girls.

  x2
• 0lala

  5 Sep 06, 15:09

  define bother
  
  we're nice friends who have simple intrests
  
  and i'm juz trying to warm things slowly before i meet her
  
  blu_sky,what do u suggest i tell her tonite?
  whats the best way to ask wheather i've annoyed her ?
  and how can i clear the misunderstanding
  
  i wan her to know that i've gotten over that pre gal and i was only asking her for advices so as to avoid falling back to that gal
• ditzy

  5 Sep 06, 15:14

  Originally posted by 0lala:

  define bother
  
  we're nice friends who have simple intrests
  
  and i'm juz trying to warm things slowly before i meet her
  

  both·er (bthr)
  v. both·ered, both·er·ing, both·ers
  v. tr.
  
  1. To disturb or anger, especially by minor irritations; annoy. See Synonyms at annoy.
  2.
  1. To make agitated or nervous; fluster.
  2. To make confused or perplexed; puzzle.
  3. To intrude on without invitation or warrant; disturb.
  4. To give trouble to: a back condition that bothers her constantly.
  
  v. intr.
  
  1. To take the trouble; concern oneself.
  2. To cause trouble.
  
  n.
  
  A cause or state of disturbance.
  
  interj.
  
  Used to express annoyance or mild irritation.
  
  No girls, no problems, no need to post threads in Aunt Agony. Geddit?
• 0lala

  5 Sep 06, 15:17

  dun spoilt the thread leh
  
  i really need advice to solve the misunderstanding with her as a friend
• choco B

  5 Sep 06, 15:23

  If you have to consciously "avoid falling back to her" , then you're not over her, are you!??
  
  If you want to woo a girl, you've got to start thinking with your brain rather than heart and/ or dick. A girl who likes you will not want to hear about other girls in your life, or that you're still tied up over some other girl.
  
  Suggest you not mention your ex anymore and just let it blow over. Act like it was a one-time query that didn't mean anything. If your penpal asks about this girl or about this school event, be totally nonchalant and unenthusiastic about it.
  

  Originally posted by 0lala:

  blu_sky,what do u suggest i tell her tonite?
  whats the best way to ask wheather i've annoyed her ?
  and how can i clear the misunderstanding
  
  i wan her to know that i've gotten over that pre gal and i was only asking her for advices so as to avoid falling back to that gal

• 0lala

  5 Sep 06, 15:24

  Originally posted by choco B:

  If you have to consciously "avoid falling back to her" , then you're not over her, are you!??
  
  If you want to woo a girl, you've got to start thinking with your brain rather than heart and/ or dick. A girl who likes you will not want to hear about other girls in your life, or that you're still tied up over some other girl.
  
  Suggest you not mention your ex anymore and just let it blow over. Act like it was a one-time query that didn't mean anything. If your penpal asks about this girl or about this school event, be totally nonchalant and unenthusiastic about it.
  

  Yes i'm over with that pre gal
  but i'm asking for advices around on how i can attend gathering where she is present but yet not being awkard
  
  lastly,i'm over with her and that is undeniable,i juz dun wan sad momeries flooding back
  
• blu_sky

  5 Sep 06, 15:25

  Originally posted by 0lala:

  blu_sky,what do u suggest i tell her tonite?
  whats the best way to ask wheather i've annoyed her ?
  and how can i clear the misunderstanding
  
  i wan her to know that i've gotten over that pre gal and i was only asking her for advices so as to avoid falling back to that gal

  i cant tell you what or how to do cos i dunno her and i wouldnt be there. Different strokes for different folks.
  
  For me, i rather the guy stop talking altogether. no point explaining, cos "yue miao yue hei", you get what i mean? if im interested in knowing, i'll ask him myself.
  
  Some times people prefer to clarify, but i find tat too po po ma ma. Again, different strokes for different folks. Play by ear. Good luck!
• browniebaobao

  5 Sep 06, 15:35

  if she doesnt know u like her, and she dun like u, why would she be angry?
  
  sometimes guys juz like to think too much.. and then say women are hard to understand.
  
  i think they are 'zi xun fan nao'.
  
  btw, are the two girls sg girls?
• 0lala

  5 Sep 06, 15:38

  ....
  
  The one i liked b4 was sg...
  the gal i like now is that penpal la,juz that i asked for her advices ytd and she suddenly had this stern tone
  
  she oso nv say she dun like me,so i leave it as a neutral stance
  
  and didnt i say i wuld nv chose sg girls
  
• orange88

  5 Sep 06, 18:05

  i think it best if u meet up with her and then sort things out. everything you're doing now is just a guess? no confirmation? you can ask opinion from one thousand people and you will still find no answer until you've actually met her yourself. moreover she's just a penpal?? whats your age man seriously?
  
• missqi

  5 Sep 06, 18:08

  what if...
  You friend was irriated because she doesn't care?
  It doesn't mean she's jealous you know..
  
• 0lala

  5 Sep 06, 18:10

  Originally posted by missqi:

  what if...
  You friend was irriated because she doesn't care?
  It doesn't mean she's jealous you know..
  

  nah...we were always talking well and disturbing one another
  
  and she giving me her photographying experiences with her new cam
  
  then suddenly when i brought up this topic,she bcame cold
• missqi

  5 Sep 06, 18:12

  Originally posted by 0lala:

  nah...we were always talking well and disturbing one another
  
  and she giving me her photographying experiences with her new cam
  
  then suddenly when i brought up this topic,she bcame cold

  exactly.
  she doesnt care.