Originally posted by goth mind:
okay so.. i bet most of you guys here 've heard of me & won't take me seriously, but this time i'm currently feeling quite moody now & really need your invaluable advice & help!!
so.. around three weeks plus ago i met a friend's friend for the first time during an outing for the first time. before that, my friend, who's actually my senior in sec school has been telling me about him for quite a while.. let's call him 'jackfruit'. although she didn't specifically mentioned to me, i could sense that she has the likes for jackfruit.. probably because i feel that she's rather submissive towards jackfruit.. sometimes 'protecting' & shielding him from others' bad mouthing & comments.. she stands up for him almost everytime. but the thing is, she is 1 year older than him..
during the outing, jack really left an unforgettable impression in my heart. not cause of his appearance but cause he gives me the feeling that he's a really good guy who'd make an awesome soul mate. though it's so damn obvious that my senior likes him, jackfruit is rather oblivious of her attempts to flirt with him..
few days later, i happened to see him near where i stay and reassured that he actually stays less than 5km from me. we didn't talk this time but he did give me his msn address so i added him.
just yesterday, we chatted a hell lot online with several other friends inside the conversation and i learnt a lot more about him! he's not at all flirtatious like other guys are but he's immensely popular with girls in his school, workplace... he's also studying in a top 5 jc. my friend then told me that there're quite a few girls 'chasing' him currently.
now, i'm almost always online waiting for him to come online just so we could chat. i get all flushed up when i hear his voice or recieve his msg. once i even call him for help in my schoolwork.. he tried his best explaining to me & made sure i understand it.. he even told me that i could join him & his friends (i think all of them are guys) to study in the library if i want.
i'm really amazed by this person & think i'm going nuts! i'm pretty sure it ain't lust cause this guy isn't even that good looking.. compared to other guys i know. he has the 'good boy' look if you ask me. am i right to say i've fallen for him?
should i tell him about it?
Do not tell him at all. It's for him to find out.
Try the following first before anything else:
1) Join him for study at the library. Then you will know if his study mates are all guys, all girls or mixed
2) If it's an all guys or mixed group, join in, wait and watch for his interaction within the group. If it's an all girls groups, excuse yrself from the study group. Don't join in.
After the event, you'll have a much better idea of how to proceed next.
Report updates and I'll advise on what to do next.
Good luck!
