GF seeing her ex bf

• THG

  10 Sep 06, 12:18

  actually i don't really know what to say. I treat my gf very nice and in back she loves me too but she sometimes says wat a fricking loser his ex bf is, that time her eyes must have past stamps that she loves him blah blah...but when i look at her sms quietly, i found her asking him out lah got alot of things to tell him abt her current working place and the ex bf reply in her sms that he still loves my gf alot. I mean if you say so many bad things abt your ex bf but you wanna chat with him and ask him out behind my back. This is not the first time olready and we quarrel many times regarding this issue. she told me it's been months she even bother sms him. Just recently i been checking her phone and almost everyday, they been sms to each other. Now she is pregnant and I am wondering who's child is she having? Mine or the ex bf one. Can anyone help?
• browniebaobao

  10 Sep 06, 12:22

  fwah.... u even suspect that the child is not yours!
  
  the faith is not there liao..
  
  I think it's ok to still be frens with the ex even tho she is attached ba..
  
  checking into her privacy is wrong liao..
  
  suspecting that the child is not yours is even worse..
  
  since u read her sms, how were her replies like? juz normal or intimate kind?
  
  
• blowfish

  10 Sep 06, 12:25

  Originally posted by THG:

  actually i don't really know what to say. I treat my gf very nice and in back she loves me too but she sometimes says wat a fricking loser his ex bf is, that time her eyes must have past stamps that she loves him blah blah...but when i look at her sms quietly, i found her asking him out lah got alot of things to tell him abt her current working place and the ex bf reply in her sms that he still loves my gf alot. I mean if you say so many bad things abt your ex bf but you wanna chat with him and ask him out behind my back. This is not the first time olready and we quarrel many times regarding this issue. she told me it's been months she even bother sms him. Just recently i been checking her phone and almost everyday, they been sms to each other. Now she is pregnant and I am wondering who's child is she having? Mine or the ex bf one. Can anyone help?

  how old both of you?
• shade343

  10 Sep 06, 12:26

  Where is the trust? Why is there no trust? Shouldnt it be time you start to establish a trust?
• biangz

  10 Sep 06, 13:14

  trust is a good thing, but for people to abuse trust is totally uncool.
  
  It's a very grey line here, he checked on her and found that she's been sms-ing her ex-bf alot, u may say that he dun trust her.
  
  So if u reverse the time and he doesnt check the sms, might have been cuckolded, cheated.
  
  So u tell me, which 1 is right which is wrong. Dun keep bullshietting about trust trust -.-
  
  Neways, it's really hard for exs to have a normal relationship, not impossible but hard.
  
  When she told u that her ex is loser blah blah, she might be already playing with ur trust.
  
  then again, it's just a one-sided story from u
• countdracula

  10 Sep 06, 13:35

  i would do this, abort the feotus and offer to pay, ignore the self-righteous plead about this being god's gift crap. then break it off with her, seems harsh but with her hanky panky and your doubts it is the best solution on the table, also keep a log of her sms if you can as evidence should the blame fall on you later.
• UandMe

  10 Sep 06, 13:48

  Originally posted by THG:

  Now she is pregnant and I am wondering who's child is she having? Mine or the ex bf one. Can anyone help?

  is she bugging u to marry her?
  
• BlUe G@rF|eLd

  10 Sep 06, 13:50

  Respect ppl privacy pls.... its so damn rude to look into her hp w/o her permission... U r VERY wrong in the 1st place lia0z...
• Gackt247

  10 Sep 06, 13:52

  Tch..
• UandMe

  10 Sep 06, 13:53

  Originally posted by BlUe G@rF|eLd:

  Respect ppl privacy pls.... its so damn rude to look into her hp w/o her permission... U r VERY wrong in the 1st place lia0z...

  something must have prompted him to do it? would you just continue trusting ur gf if something suspicious is already happening right before ur eyes?
• the_fallen

  10 Sep 06, 14:10

  Originally posted by browniebaobao:

  fwah.... u even suspect that the child is not yours!
  
  the faith is not there liao..
  
  I think it's ok to still be frens with the ex even tho she is attached ba..
  
  checking into her privacy is wrong liao..
  
  suspecting that the child is not yours is even worse..
  
  since u read her sms, how were her replies like? juz normal or intimate kind?
  
  

  suspecting is not wrong
  
  what is wrong is that they dun communicate bout their current problem, quarrel will lead to nowhere.
  
  if u suspect it, just dna test lo, but to some extent, it will cause a bit of degree of depression in most pregnant ladies-they are especially prone to all these stuff, all you need to do is to really have a nice chat with ur gf.
• THG

  10 Sep 06, 14:21

  Things like she is going to go china for work the next year for 1 year and she didn't even told me but told her ex bf and ask him out for dinner behind my back. Now i am suspecting even if the bastard is mine anot. if it is not mine, why should i help people raise their kid. that really pisses me off
• THG

  10 Sep 06, 14:31

  Originally posted by browniebaobao:

  fwah.... u even suspect that the child is not yours!
  
  the faith is not there liao..
  
  I think it's ok to still be frens with the ex even tho she is attached ba..
  
  checking into her privacy is wrong liao..
  
  suspecting that the child is not yours is even worse..
  
  since u read her sms, how were her replies like? juz normal or intimate kind?
  
  

  she can be friends with her ex bf but me leh? if i go out alone, she says i go meet and sleep with my ex gf. that damn witch. Ok firstly, her ex bf is poor and don't earn much whereas my family background is quite well to do so the problem is she could be taking my money and fund her poor ex bf and now pregnant say it's mine haaa who knows belongs to the ex but no money to rasie to child then say it's mine and want me to raise the child or even pay for the abortion. Girls are very good at this kind of trick.
• browniebaobao

  10 Sep 06, 14:33

  Originally posted by THG:

  Things like she is going to go china for work the next year for 1 year and she didn't even told me but told her ex bf and ask him out for dinner behind my back. Now i am suspecting even if the bastard is mine anot. if it is not mine, why should i help people raise their kid. that really pisses me off

  wat if it's really yours?
  
  i think even if she tell u it's yours, u will not accept it.
• browniebaobao

  10 Sep 06, 14:34

  Originally posted by THG:

  she can be friends with her ex bf but me leh? if i go out alone, she says i go meet and sleep with my ex gf. that damn witch. Ok firstly, her ex bf is poor and don't earn much whereas my family background is quite well to do so the problem is she could be taking my money and fund her poor ex bf and now pregnant say it's mine haaa who knows belongs to the ex but no money to rasie to child then say it's mine and want me to raise the child or even pay for the abortion. Girls are very good at this kind of trick.

  say until like that.
  
  Break up lor!
  
  you are already calling her and the child names liao.
  
  Why stay on then?
  
  Break la!!
• imDANIEL

  10 Sep 06, 14:35

  Originally posted by THG:

  Things like she is going to go china for work the next year for 1 year and she didn't even told me but told her ex bf and ask him out for dinner behind my back. Now i am suspecting even if the bastard is mine anot. if it is not mine, why should i help people raise their kid. that really pisses me off

  just show some respect for now.. you may not know when she would
  
  backstab you. it happens to lots of ppl when gf and some1 goes to places
  
  like bangkok one day then goes off to like us shit load of time.
• biangz

  10 Sep 06, 14:50

  Originally posted by BlUe G@rF|eLd:

  Respect ppl privacy pls.... its so damn rude to look into her hp w/o her permission... U r VERY wrong in the 1st place lia0z...

  Rofl lmao, privacy? wow biggies huh?
  So basically it's like i have my privacy and every1 should respect it kinda thing huh?
  
  Then i can make bomb and terrorise singapore as long as i do it at home?
  police come i just say sory hor i got privacy, if u want catch me is u wrong
  I sue u! well done
  
  
• FBI

  10 Sep 06, 15:43

  Originally posted by THG:

  actually i don't really know what to say. I treat my gf very nice and in back she loves me too but she sometimes says wat a fricking loser his ex bf is, that time her eyes must have past stamps that she loves him blah blah...but when i look at her sms quietly, i found her asking him out lah got alot of things to tell him abt her current working place and the ex bf reply in her sms that he still loves my gf alot. I mean if you say so many bad things abt your ex bf but you wanna chat with him and ask him out behind my back. This is not the first time olready and we quarrel many times regarding this issue. she told me it's been months she even bother sms him. Just recently i been checking her phone and almost everyday, they been sms to each other. Now she is pregnant and I am wondering who's child is she having? Mine or the ex bf one. Can anyone help?

  not your child for sure so pls dump her b4 u go into some crap shotgun marriage.
  
  DUMP HER!
• dragg

  10 Sep 06, 15:46

  the basic of a relationship is trust. if you cant even trust her how can the relationship last.
  
  
• BrUtUs

  10 Sep 06, 16:04

  Originally posted by THG:

  actually i don't really know what to say. I treat my gf very nice and in back she loves me too but she sometimes says wat a fricking loser his ex bf is, that time her eyes must have past stamps that she loves him blah blah...but when i look at her sms quietly, i found her asking him out lah got alot of things to tell him abt her current working place and the ex bf reply in her sms that he still loves my gf alot. I mean if you say so many bad things abt your ex bf but you wanna chat with him and ask him out behind my back. This is not the first time olready and we quarrel many times regarding this issue. she told me it's been months she even bother sms him. Just recently i been checking her phone and almost everyday, they been sms to each other. Now she is pregnant and I am wondering who's child is she having? Mine or the ex bf one. Can anyone help?

  wah steady la... ur gf happening.... ok back to the topic, since u got so much insecurities might as well get a clear pix by asking her urself.... congrats on being father....
• xShevchenkox

  10 Sep 06, 16:05

  But u all think of this lor...
  
  eh, the threadstarter had the rights to protect himself, y her gf want to bother with her ex bfs again? l mean who noes whether the gal got do any handy panky actions behind the threadstarter back, the best thing and to avoid misunderstanding, is to ask the gal hav a clean and complete break from the ex bf.
  
  Besides l seldom hear ex bf and ex gf still toking and smsing together de..
  U all see what threadstarter say..she rather told the ex bf that she is going china rather than telling her own bf?
  
  What is this abt? To me...it seems that the gal is fickle minded le, dun hav her own stands, and thus how to gain trust? u all say lo...
  
  You wan people to trust u..u hav to show it by ur actions. In a r/s yes, everything shld be equal and rite..there is no such thing as, hey we are in a r/s, we must hav trust with each other..and the nxt day..the gal go flirt with another guy? So trust hav to given to onli the right ppl, same to r/s.
  
  That is my point of view
  
  
• 0lala

  10 Sep 06, 16:40

  Originally posted by dragg:

  the basic of a relationship is trust. if you cant even trust her how can the relationship last.
  
  

  and trust is suppose to exist even when the gf is communicating with her ex's while telling ur current that she hates him
  
  so which is which...
  ironic
• compadre

  10 Sep 06, 16:41

  Originally posted by THG:

  actually i don't really know what to say. I treat my gf very nice and in back she loves me too but she sometimes says wat a fricking loser his ex bf is, that time her eyes must have past stamps that she loves him blah blah...but when i look at her sms quietly, i found her asking him out lah got alot of things to tell him abt her current working place and the ex bf reply in her sms that he still loves my gf alot. I mean if you say so many bad things abt your ex bf but you wanna chat with him and ask him out behind my back. This is not the first time olready and we quarrel many times regarding this issue. she told me it's been months she even bother sms him. Just recently i been checking her phone and almost everyday, they been sms to each other. Now she is pregnant and I am wondering who's child is she having? Mine or the ex bf one. Can anyone help?

  woah.... actually i think the big issue here is how you are going to handle your pregnant GF.....
• THG

  10 Sep 06, 18:17

  Originally posted by compadre:

  woah.... actually i think the big issue here is how you are going to handle your pregnant GF.....

  bring her to a test and if the baby is not mine, 1 tight slap across her face and throw all her things in my house into the rubbish bin. If the baby is mine, i will pay for the abortion and after that, i'll break off with her since she prefers her loser ex bf so much then go back to him lor. since no trust olready, no point being together. Got tai tai life don't want, want to be with that poor bastard with no money. No point getting married also, divorce will soon be on the way.
• THG

  10 Sep 06, 18:19

  i also dunno know much as you see infront of me and in the sms, she is so loving and love me much more than i love her but why she do this? seeing her ex bf and asking him out behind my back? I really don't understand