Fallen for a flirtatious girl

• ChairmanJay

  11 Sep 06, 23:45

  I loved her very much. Really really much. But every time i knew that she went out with another guy or i saw her sending message to another guy, I would be jealous and dissapointed, and the worst of all, i started to be paranoid. Every seconds I would be thinking about her with another guy.
  
  It's really tiring for me now as I'm having my o'level, I wouldn't want it to affect my result. But at the same time, i wouldn't want to see her with another guy either. Everytime she trys to hide her phone when she is messaging, i will know it's a guy. Oh well, all i can do then is to ignore. Pretended that i saw nothing and knew nothing about it. Once, she ever show me that it was a guy, a guy who liked her as well.
  
  Perhaps I'm just a weak guy. I can't do anything about it. I'm always thinking about her, 24/7 thinking what she is doing. All I can do now is to watch her and protect her from harm. But i just couldn't pick up my courage to stop her from seeing other guys. Why is my life full of contradiction?
  
  I really loved her. I did so much for her and yet she gave me this in return. I'm lost now. Depressed and sad. I can hear my heart shattering now. I didn't know if i wanna continue to do this or not. I prayed to god and hope god would give me his blessing. What a fricking life I had.
• Patrik

  11 Sep 06, 23:46

  Dun be too over-possessive.
• iwillsurvive

  11 Sep 06, 23:48

  this aint love. this is a crush. or infatuation. don't worry, just wait 3 months and it will be gone
• caleb_chiang

  11 Sep 06, 23:52

  Well, face it...
  
  If she wasn't a flirt, she probably would not had gone out with you either.
• compadre

  12 Sep 06, 00:06

  Originally posted by ChairmanJay:

  I loved her very much. Really really much. But every time i knew that she went out with another guy or i saw her sending message to another guy, I would be jealous and dissapointed, and the worst of all, i started to be paranoid. Every seconds I would be thinking about her with another guy.
  
  It's really tiring for me now as I'm having my o'level, I wouldn't want it to affect my result. But at the same time, i wouldn't want to see her with another guy either. Everytime she trys to hide her phone when she is messaging, i will know it's a guy. Oh well, all i can do then is to ignore. Pretended that i saw nothing and knew nothing about it. Once, she ever show me that it was a guy, a guy who liked her as well.
  
  Perhaps I'm just a weak guy. I can't do anything about it. I'm always thinking about her, 24/7 thinking what she is doing. All I can do now is to watch her and protect her from harm. But i just couldn't pick up my courage to stop her from seeing other guys. Why is my life full of contradiction?
  
  I really loved her. I did so much for her and yet she gave me this in return. I'm lost now. Depressed and sad. I can hear my heart shattering now. I didn't know if i wanna continue to do this or not. I prayed to god and hope god would give me his blessing. What a fricking life I had.

  i understand how you feel... a while back i was almost in the same situation... was really deciding whether i should go all out..
  
  i slowly realised she had changed so much... going out with all sorts of guys... going to their house to (you know what).. it was really tough take a firm stance and give it up... i forced to focus on other things.. ie studies, sports and friends... however most importantly look @ the big picture.. if shes so flirtatious, she will break your heart even if you were together (its quite apparent you are quite "clingy")
  
  o levels is a very important exam... the jc/poly you go can really change your life in more ways than one. look at the bigger picture...
  
  if you ask me, i still feel pain in my heart sometimes... slowly but surely it is going away...
  
  all the best to you
• margarita

  12 Sep 06, 00:09

  study hard for your O level ..
  u still young, will get meet other gals ..
• mamamamama

  12 Sep 06, 00:23

  get used to it
  enjoy puppy love while you can
  a few years later, you'll find yourself silly for behaving like this.
• alfagal

  12 Sep 06, 00:23

  y go into a pile of shit when u know its shit?
  
  u are still young bro...
  O levels are more impt now...dun let a gal ruin ur future jus like tat...
  u have yet to understand how issit like to love a person....
  time will tell...
  
  flirty pple have lots of choices....wat makes u think u will stand out from those tat she is flirting w?
  
  there are chances for true love..but..wats e %?
  
  
• xShevchenkox

  12 Sep 06, 00:41

  Well chairman jay...juz dun care abt this gal le....
  
  make urself well, confident and steady...work hard to ur success, let her regret..l tell u..u dun nid go after her...she oso will come to u de. Den when she come back to u..treat her how she treat u be4 lor...
  
  There are so many gals around... dun nid fear dun hav or wad de...beside now u so young...so juz dun think of such things..
  
  Such gals will get their retribution one day de..
  
  =D
  
• rebound

  12 Sep 06, 01:10

  Originally posted by iwillsurvive:

  this aint love. this is a crush. or infatuation. don't worry, just wait 3 months and it will be gone

  agree
  o'level more important
• lonestar86

  12 Sep 06, 01:14

  i can understand exactly how u feel..
  i experience it b4, even rite now..
  u shld trust her..
  cus some gals r like tt and there's nothing u can do abt it..
  flirting is nothing serious..
  take it easy man..
• BlUe G@rF|eLd

  12 Sep 06, 02:04

  Hey bro! Juz some words of advice for u...
  
  U need to identify, and ask urself... Is it LOVe or juz a crush...
  
  If it is a crush, u may juz want to fling with her.... after a ONS, u gt no more feelings 4 her liaoz...
  
  If u rly love her ( i doubt so frm ur description... ), try for it. If it fails, den dun hang on to it... Learn hw to "Kua Kui Dumb Por!" She dun feel a ting, yet u make ur life miserable... There r times when she show concern, but it isjuz a game to her oly... if u tink u r able to play such games... Well... nobody stopping u...
  
  If u r nt suitable for such game, den jolly well retreat, or u will be hving a hard hard after effect...
• R3SsH|n

  12 Sep 06, 02:39

  this is a case of not getting it thus crave for it...
  
  is she worth the effort?
• Bontakun

  12 Sep 06, 05:01

  Originally posted by ChairmanJay:
  I loved her very much. Really really much. But every time i knew that she went out with another guy or i saw her sending message to another guy, I would be jealous and dissapointed, and the worst of all, i started to be paranoid. Every seconds I would be thinking about her with another guy.
  
  It's really tiring for me now as I'm having my o'level, I wouldn't want it to affect my result. But at the same time, i wouldn't want to see her with another guy either. Everytime she trys to hide her phone when she is messaging, i will know it's a guy. Oh well, all i can do then is to ignore. Pretended that i saw nothing and knew nothing about it. Once, she ever show me that it was a guy, a guy who liked her as well.
  
  Perhaps I'm just a weak guy. I can't do anything about it. I'm always thinking about her, 24/7 thinking what she is doing. All I can do now is to watch her and protect her from harm. But i just couldn't pick up my courage to stop her from seeing other guys. Why is my life full of contradiction?
  
  I really loved her. I did so much for her and yet she gave me this in return. I'm lost now. Depressed and sad. I can hear my heart shattering now. I didn't know if i wanna continue to do this or not. [b]I prayed to god and hope god would give me his blessing. What a fricking life I had.[/b]

  Are you Christian?
• alexkusu

  12 Sep 06, 05:51

  she's a social butterfly, kenot squash her freedom
• popmynutsy

  12 Sep 06, 14:12

  study more important. ur o lvl 1st. but aniwae, u liking her doesnt mean that she cant have her own freedom of friends.
• Sekundes

  12 Sep 06, 14:39

  Originally posted by ChairmanJay:

  I loved her very much. Really really much. But every time i knew that she went out with another guy or i saw her sending message to another guy, I would be jealous and dissapointed, and the worst of all, i started to be paranoid. Every seconds I would be thinking about her with another guy.
  
  It's really tiring for me now as I'm having my o'level, I wouldn't want it to affect my result. But at the same time, i wouldn't want to see her with another guy either. Everytime she trys to hide her phone when she is messaging, i will know it's a guy. Oh well, all i can do then is to ignore. Pretended that i saw nothing and knew nothing about it. Once, she ever show me that it was a guy, a guy who liked her as well.
  
  Perhaps I'm just a weak guy. I can't do anything about it. I'm always thinking about her, 24/7 thinking what she is doing. All I can do now is to watch her and protect her from harm. But i just couldn't pick up my courage to stop her from seeing other guys. Why is my life full of contradiction?
  
  I really loved her. I did so much for her and yet she gave me this in return. I'm lost now. Depressed and sad. I can hear my heart shattering now. I didn't know if i wanna continue to do this or not. I prayed to god and hope god would give me his blessing. What a fricking life I had.

  Look at this,
  If you cannot accept that, she maybe just having friends.
  You don have to stop her,
  all u can do now is just talk to her asking her why,
  Ask her to come clean.
  If she thinks you're not the stable one,
  or she's just having u as a sub,
  forget it dude.
  
  Life just a waste with these kind around.
  but,
  
  If she's not, then I rather you talk to her and tell her your discomforts.
  Some girls are more comfortable talking to guys,
  some are not.
  
  So she might fall under the catagory of the girls with more guy friends then girl.
  You have to let your feeling known to one another.
  if not, things will always die in the end.
• rainee

  12 Sep 06, 14:40

  Is she your gf yet?
  
  If not, you cannot restrain her from having other guy frens.
• blu_sky

  12 Sep 06, 14:45

  Originally posted by ChairmanJay:

  I loved her very much. Really really much. But every time i knew that she went out with another guy or i saw her sending message to another guy, I would be jealous and dissapointed, and the worst of all, i started to be paranoid. Every seconds I would be thinking about her with another guy.
  
  It's really tiring for me now as I'm having my o'level, I wouldn't want it to affect my result. But at the same time, i wouldn't want to see her with another guy either. Everytime she trys to hide her phone when she is messaging, i will know it's a guy. Oh well, all i can do then is to ignore. Pretended that i saw nothing and knew nothing about it. Once, she ever show me that it was a guy, a guy who liked her as well.
  
  Perhaps I'm just a weak guy. I can't do anything about it. I'm always thinking about her, 24/7 thinking what she is doing. All I can do now is to watch her and protect her from harm. But i just couldn't pick up my courage to stop her from seeing other guys. Why is my life full of contradiction?
  
  I really loved her. I did so much for her and yet she gave me this in return. I'm lost now. Depressed and sad. I can hear my heart shattering now. I didn't know if i wanna continue to do this or not. I prayed to god and hope god would give me his blessing. What a fricking life I had.

  Is she flirtatious? You have not illustrated any flirtatious trait. Whats your relationship with her? If she is single, she is free to know/date guys, you know?
• dakkon_blackblade

  12 Sep 06, 14:56

  It's more important that you concentrate on the upcoming exams rather than be distracted by this relationship. Tell her that you need to stop seeing her during this period and sort it out after the exams. If she really likes you she should understand and wait. If she can't wait then it won't be your loss anyway.
• Seth35

  12 Sep 06, 19:11

  Same situation like you...The more u try to advise her...The more she will hate you....Why not leave her alone and go for someone else... When one day something happens to her.......She than will realise you are the one...But do not go after her.... Let her Learn D lesson..
• Seth35

  12 Sep 06, 19:37

  Some girls like that take guys For granted..
• tomsss

  12 Sep 06, 21:09

  Go hang out with frens, play your CS or do whatever that makes you feel good... thats the simplest solution, get yourself distracted
• bowler200482

  12 Sep 06, 21:55

  so many ppl so many same replies..
  
  i only got 1 thing to say..
  Set ur prioprites rite..
  u choose ur path.. n ur future is set there..
  u r already 16.. u think for yourself..
  we r all only strangers.. we cannot decide for you..
  
  That's all.
• 0lala

  12 Sep 06, 21:58

  study hard la
  
  after exams we go ceni get lotsa com games
  i'm kinda out of touch le
  so lai lai after exams