How i loved someone i didnt meet before...
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Can u really hold onto someone u've nv met in ur life?
In a person's whole life, there's at least a thing that wouldnt go ur way. I didnt really believe in that. Till i've met her.
It was plainly a request to get something for me on the net, as she was a fren of my fren. It became a chat on the phone. Wad can two strangers possibly talk abt on the phone at 2am? Things didnt go the way i knew and understood. some pple believed in love at first sight. Mayb from the particular day, i started to believe in Serendipity.
Tho after tad day we didnt talked to each other as often as i thgt. As i was attached n so is she. She had alot of ups and downs in her r/s. I had a smooth sailing one, barely having much arguements over the yrs i've been with my gf. Sometimes when she's having troubles, ill b the one she thgt of calling cuz i was willing to listen to her. But still it didnt happen often cuz of her possesive bf and i didnt care much cuz at tad point of time i didnt felt much abt her or anyth arnd me.
I often got to know of the probs she's having in her r/s, now and then. Cuz she talked to me more often after she had broke off with her bf. I listened as i juz hoped to help her juz by listening to her sorrows. Day by day, a slight change started to appear unknowingly.
I talked to her more over the phone compared to my gf. I feel happy when i receive sms from her. Hearing the voice of hers.
Till one day she fell sick and we were on the phone, we talked till quite late but i promised her to get her breakfast cuz i hope she eats something healthy. Slept for 2hrs and i got up to the market and made her porridge. Got her address from her and left it outside her hse. Things started to change from that day.
I started to care for her more, slightly got to like her abit more. Talking to her on the phone everyday despite being tired. Although most of the time i would be listening to her talking abt herself and stuffs, cuz i really enjoyed it alot. One day she hinted me tad she liked me, i sort of felt the same.
One day i finally realise i really liked her alot, and i cant b with my gf with another girl alwys on my mind. Even before breaking up with my gf i was slowly treating her as my loved one. It wasnt an easy thing to break off with my gf after yrs being with her but i did told her wad i wanted. From tad point of time, i felt so much for her and till den, i only saw her photos before...
We somehow became a couple immediately, alwys talking on the phone and stuff. It was two weeks before my enlistment for NS thus i was very free and i wanted to meet her so badly. Everytime things start to crop up despite no matter how i ask her for free time to meet. Even till the day i went off for NS, i've not yet seen her, yet she assured me its ok.
Two weeks of confinement, two weeks of promises of seeing her, two weeks of anticipation. Everything promised vanished. Week after week, weeks after weeks. Even till the day im out of the stupid island, assurance of getting to meetup was still wad i got. Despite living near each other, nv got a chance. Every week going out alone to seek for things she wanted, things she liked, things she mentioned she would wan to buy. Money was nv an issue, mayb hoping to see her really happy in person one day is wad i hoped for.
Quarrels became so often, as i really dun understand y m i acting like a guy wooing a girl and the girl rejecting the guy in a polite manner. Not wanting to see me yet telling me things to coax me. She would alwys call and save the r/s, as she said she cherished this alot. We got back together cuz i cant let go tad easily too.
The second last time i wanted to breakup with her was arnd June. It's been 4mths. I was very determined, left things tad she gave me which was meant for the only guy she wanted to give. I told her i cant hav all these anymore. She called n told me she will b leaving town. At tad point of time i suddenly felt lost, some part of me suddenly juz gave away. The thought of asking her not to go, mayb there's really one last chance to save this r/s. I thgt of trying it this time. She didnt leave, gave me back the things i returned her and she still promised me things will b better.
During the 4 mths, she had her bday which i didnt had the chance to celebrate with her. I had my bday almost spending it alone. 4 monthly anniversaries plainly leaving things outside each other's house. Talked to her, listened to her, wanting the best for her. Sleeping less than 3-4 hrs almost every day. All this didnt matter to me. Did alot of things juz to mk myself feel appreciated, hoping my simple request would come true. But till now it never even happened.....
One day my ex gf called and told me she got things to say to me. It was regarding my current gf. I decided to meet her cuz i've stuffs to give her back too. It ended up me telling her all i've been thru and the feelings of really having someone there for me came back. I didnt imagine how different it is to see a person in real after mths of juz loving someone imaginarily.
My ex did things for me, was willing to spend time on me. I blindly started to go back to her. On the other hand my gf told me tad she will b leaving town, she asked me will i ask her to stay. I didnt reply. Cuz to me, wad she told me throughout all these mths, were all juz empty promises. I juz deeply wished her well so she may find someone real.
She said she didnt board the plane, wanted to meet me in person immediately. I scraped the idea, switched off my phone. After tad things turned worse. I cant bear to tell her i find it more realistic with my ex gf than her. Which i shld hav realised earlier tad pple who hav nv meant cant b together.
She found out i talked to my ex, went out with her and somehow back with her. She went off and things turned ugly. But wad can i do? Should i hav met her up? Should i not met and talked to my ex?
Mths hav passed. From the day i broke off with her, i still cant forget her. Despite being back with my ex now. Things i do for her, her voice i hear so often over the mths. Things she gave me and her imaginary presence. At the same time, my gf now which is my ex, did things and has been alwys here for me throughout. She had been hurt badly when we broke up and this time we patched up, i cant promise her things i used to, do things for her which i did before. But she gave her best, everything she's got. I feel guilty not being able to giv everything i hav.
Wanted to breakup with her now, cuz i see its not fair doing this to her. Wasting her time tho i really like her. I know she deserves someone better which is definitely not me. But i dun wan to see her suffer and im trying my best to forget wad's not even really there before. Hoping things will b the same as the past. But every thought of mine is almost abt the imaginary her. I feel v tired, v miserable.
She asked me to watch the Lake House. Its abt two person in different times loving each other despite the odds. But they could see and hold the person in the past, and the future. In the same time, same place, yet wads happening to me i still cant let go. Recently went back to the place where i left things for her, nth's changed. But yet mths had passed. I still feel empty and cant move on. Hope she did. But now, my thoughts are still on her. Wad can i do? Am i stupid?
Thnks for reading and mayb hope someone can giv me advice, i really dunno who to turn to. -
Wah,
ur story very very loooooong,
can some1 make a summary of it??
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Is it love? Or was it purely emotional attachment?
Perhaps she does not want to meet you as she will lose something if she did, or maybe things will change, for better or worse. Or perhaps she has something to hide, how do you know the pictures are really her?
If you really want to meet her, camp outside her place and confront her one day when she comes out. -
you're in love with the idea of being in love, that's all .....
go get a life with a real flesh and blood girl ..... -
pick the one that treats u betterOriginally posted by xAcc:Can u really hold onto someone u've nv met in ur life?
In a person's whole life, there's at least a thing that wouldnt go ur way. I didnt really believe in that. Till i've met her.
It was plainly a request to get something for me on the net, as she was a fren of my fren. It became a chat on the phone. Wad can two strangers possibly talk abt on the phone at 2am? Things didnt go the way i knew and understood. some pple believed in love at first sight. Mayb from the particular day, i started to believe in Serendipity.
Tho after tad day we didnt talked to each other as often as i thgt. As i was attached n so is she. She had alot of ups and downs in her r/s. I had a smooth sailing one, barely having much arguements over the yrs i've been with my gf. Sometimes when she's having troubles, ill b the one she thgt of calling cuz i was willing to listen to her. But still it didnt happen often cuz of her possesive bf and i didnt care much cuz at tad point of time i didnt felt much abt her or anyth arnd me.
I often got to know of the probs she's having in her r/s, now and then. Cuz she talked to me more often after she had broke off with her bf. I listened as i juz hoped to help her juz by listening to her sorrows. Day by day, a slight change started to appear unknowingly.
I talked to her more over the phone compared to my gf. I feel happy when i receive sms from her. Hearing the voice of hers.
Till one day she fell sick and we were on the phone, we talked till quite late but i promised her to get her breakfast cuz i hope she eats something healthy. Slept for 2hrs and i got up to the market and made her porridge. Got her address from her and left it outside her hse. Things started to change from that day.
I started to care for her more, slightly got to like her abit more. Talking to her on the phone everyday despite being tired. Although most of the time i would be listening to her talking abt herself and stuffs, cuz i really enjoyed it alot. One day she hinted me tad she liked me, i sort of felt the same.
One day i finally realise i really liked her alot, and i cant b with my gf with another girl alwys on my mind. Even before breaking up with my gf i was slowly treating her as my loved one. It wasnt an easy thing to break off with my gf after yrs being with her but i did told her wad i wanted. From tad point of time, i felt so much for her and till den, i only saw her photos before...
We somehow became a couple immediately, alwys talking on the phone and stuff. It was two weeks before my enlistment for NS thus i was very free and i wanted to meet her so badly. Everytime things start to crop up despite no matter how i ask her for free time to meet. Even till the day i went off for NS, i've not yet seen her, yet she assured me its ok.
Two weeks of confinement, two weeks of promises of seeing her, two weeks of anticipation. Everything promised vanished. Week after week, weeks after weeks. Even till the day im out of the stupid island, assurance of getting to meetup was still wad i got. Despite living near each other, nv got a chance. Every week going out alone to seek for things she wanted, things she liked, things she mentioned she would wan to buy. Money was nv an issue, mayb hoping to see her really happy in person one day is wad i hoped for.
Quarrels became so often, as i really dun understand y m i acting like a guy wooing a girl and the girl rejecting the guy in a polite manner. Not wanting to see me yet telling me things to coax me. She would alwys call and save the r/s, as she said she cherished this alot. We got back together cuz i cant let go tad easily too.
The second last time i wanted to breakup with her was arnd June. It's been 4mths. I was very determined, left things tad she gave me which was meant for the only guy she wanted to give. I told her i cant hav all these anymore. She called n told me she will b leaving town. At tad point of time i suddenly felt lost, some part of me suddenly juz gave away. The thought of asking her not to go, mayb there's really one last chance to save this r/s. I thgt of trying it this time. She didnt leave, gave me back the things i returned her and she still promised me things will b better.
During the 4 mths, she had her bday which i didnt had the chance to celebrate with her. I had my bday almost spending it alone. 4 monthly anniversaries plainly leaving things outside each other's house. Talked to her, listened to her, wanting the best for her. Sleeping less than 3-4 hrs almost every day. All this didnt matter to me. Did alot of things juz to mk myself feel appreciated, hoping my simple request would come true. But till now it never even happened.....
One day my ex gf called and told me she got things to say to me. It was regarding my current gf. I decided to meet her cuz i've stuffs to give her back too. It ended up me telling her all i've been thru and the feelings of really having someone there for me came back. I didnt imagine how different it is to see a person in real after mths of juz loving someone imaginarily.
My ex did things for me, was willing to spend time on me. I blindly started to go back to her. On the other hand my gf told me tad she will b leaving town, she asked me will i ask her to stay. I didnt reply. Cuz to me, wad she told me throughout all these mths, were all juz empty promises. I juz deeply wished her well so she may find someone real.
She said she didnt board the plane, wanted to meet me in person immediately. I scraped the idea, switched off my phone. After tad things turned worse. I cant bear to tell her i find it more realistic with my ex gf than her. Which i shld hav realised earlier tad pple who hav nv meant cant b together.
She found out i talked to my ex, went out with her and somehow back with her. She went off and things turned ugly. But wad can i do? Should i hav met her up? Should i not met and talked to my ex?
Mths hav passed. From the day i broke off with her, i still cant forget her. Despite being back with my ex now. Things i do for her, her voice i hear so often over the mths. Things she gave me and her imaginary presence. At the same time, my gf now which is my ex, did things and has been alwys here for me throughout. She had been hurt badly when we broke up and this time we patched up, i cant promise her things i used to, do things for her which i did before. But she gave her best, everything she's got. I feel guilty not being able to giv everything i hav.
Wanted to breakup with her now, cuz i see its not fair doing this to her. Wasting her time tho i really like her. I know she deserves someone better which is definitely not me. But i dun wan to see her suffer and im trying my best to forget wad's not even really there before. Hoping things will b the same as the past. But every thought of mine is almost abt the imaginary her. I feel v tired, v miserable.
She asked me to watch the Lake House. Its abt two person in different times loving each other despite the odds. But they could see and hold the person in the past, and the future. In the same time, same place, yet wads happening to me i still cant let go. Recently went back to the place where i left things for her, nth's changed. But yet mths had passed. I still feel empty and cant move on. Hope she did. But now, my thoughts are still on her. Wad can i do? Am i stupid?
Thnks for reading and mayb hope someone can giv me advice, i really dunno who to turn to. -
You fall in and fall out of love too fast..
and that net gf is only your fantasy..
cant believe u actually broke up with ur gf bcos of her..
up till now u have not met her even once?
and u wana break up with ur gf again? -
gf to you is just like your stomach.
hungry you eat, not hungry you fcuk it.
and cant believe you are actually that stupid to love a girl that you've nv met before?
then let me tell you, there's only 2 possibilities.
1)you have nv been into any relationships as in you are lying thru out in this passage
2)your ex is someone of low calibre. either stupid, ugly or both.
another failure found. -
Have you ever gotten so infatuated with someone whom you've juz gotten to know online? Everyday you juz rush home to your computer so that you can 'talk' to the person? You are so excited about talking to and meeting the person?
Honestly, you are not alone. Many people have been through that before. Just that you went much much much further than most people would, ie broke off with your gf.
It is a imaginery person whom you had fallen in love for, a fantasy. The feelings you have for her probably increase just because you had hoped and hoped and hoped so much to see her, yet these hopes and empty promises that she had made never realise. If one day, you really get to meet the gal, or even live with her, you will find out it is just another ordinary relationship, not as intense as you had imagined.
Forget her. She doesnt care about you. If she does, she wouldnt have made so many promises but never fulfill them. She doesnt like you, for if she does, she would have wanted to see you as much as you wanted to see her. -
Wah!!! Long story but l juz scan briefly through it la...
Eh u reali lucky siah....2 girls for u to choose..haha
Ok let get serious
Since ur gf patch with u le...den dun bother abt the other gal la..be contented with what u have...=D -
me too.. paul twohill.
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Well guys... I have something to share...
I well had almost the same situation but it just doesnt sound the same... Feb this year, I met a girl online... We hit it off quite well and i propose that we become god siblings... Till then she became my godsister... We will chat on phone with each other almost everyday like as if there's no tml... Till late at night 3-4 pm... then she will wake up during noon the nxt day.. because it was school hols then... i have to wake up quite early becaus i am still serving my national service.. This doesnt lasted very long as her school hols ended.. We became further and further apart... Until on 1 occasion she suddenly called me on my hp.. i was in camp tho.. told me that her bf had an affair with another girl.. told me all her sorrows and how she felt trying to commit suicide..
As a Godbrother "i though i was and i ought to be 1" I consoled her telling her some ways of life and the meaning of us living in this world.. She felt quite secure talking to me and willing to tell me all secrets that even her parents do not know... we continued the calling each other... But her parents doesnt like the idea of her always calling me... so sometimes she will get snatched off her phone by her parents..
July this year.. we sort of like moved 1 step closer... Some things that's even top secret deep inside our heart... we will share with each other.. and there wasnt any awkward feeling between us..
July 24th.. I had this evil feeling of testing her... i told her i was leaving this world the nxt day... and i had a mission to fulfil... and i can nv be her brother forever... Till then, she broke into tears.. begging me not to leave her and this world.. being decisive of what i wanted to do... i told her this
"Mei, I cant Be Your brother forever... i want to protect and take care of you for the rest of my life..." But sadly she doesnt understands what this means... untill she forwarded the sms to another fren... smartly the other fren decoded my msg and told her everything...
She knew that my feeling towards her was then no longer she was my sister anymore.. i felt that i fell in love with this girl, throughout all the things we went through over the months.. At first, she was stunned and nv knew what to do... Bt after moments of consideration... i was pacing up and down at my Bunk.. She replied my msg... the messages showed "I have decided to accept u" I was then overjoyed... feeling as if i could jump over the moon... That was the day we officially got together... After that she told me... Even if u nv had propose that idea to me.. i would have asked u already...
From the day.. i called u telling u how bad my current bf was... the way u consoled me and your encouragement really touched me deep inside my heart... and from then... i knew i fell for u already...
But up till now... even though we are still going on with the daily conversations.. through the phone... we still haven met up with each other yet.. escaping from me everytime i asked her out.. she said her mum wont let her go out with strangers... I have the feeling that this girl is cheating me... any1 can give me a piece of advice on what should i do?
Confused Rain... -
Never start a r/s with someone who juz broke up not long ago.
If she has not sorted out her feelings, you are the one going to suffer. -
Meeting up wif each other is an essential step that should be taken in this kinda r/s. Before you meet up with each other, evthing is just, well an online relationship. The person you imagine her to be, might be the real thing, or it might 180 degrees different from what she really is. Meeting up with each other is the first step to be taken if you want to take this r/s into the reality level...Originally posted by Snowsaint:Well guys... I have something to share...
I well had almost the same situation but it just doesnt sound the same... Feb this year, I met a girl online... We hit it off quite well and i propose that we become god siblings... Till then she became my godsister... We will chat on phone with each other almost everyday like as if there's no tml... Till late at night 3-4 pm... then she will wake up during noon the nxt day.. because it was school hols then... i have to wake up quite early becaus i am still serving my national service.. This doesnt lasted very long as her school hols ended.. We became further and further apart... Until on 1 occasion she suddenly called me on my hp.. i was in camp tho.. told me that her bf had an affair with another girl.. told me all her sorrows and how she felt trying to commit suicide..
As a Godbrother "i though i was and i ought to be 1" I consoled her telling her some ways of life and the meaning of us living in this world.. She felt quite secure talking to me and willing to tell me all secrets that even her parents do not know... we continued the calling each other... But her parents doesnt like the idea of her always calling me... so sometimes she will get snatched off her phone by her parents..
July this year.. we sort of like moved 1 step closer... Some things that's even top secret deep inside our heart... we will share with each other.. and there wasnt any awkward feeling between us..
July 24th.. I had this evil feeling of testing her... i told her i was leaving this world the nxt day... and i had a mission to fulfil... and i can nv be her brother forever... Till then, she broke into tears.. begging me not to leave her and this world.. being decisive of what i wanted to do... i told her this
"Mei, I cant Be Your brother forever... i want to protect and take care of you for the rest of my life..." But sadly she doesnt understands what this means... untill she forwarded the sms to another fren... smartly the other fren decoded my msg and told her everything...
She knew that my feeling towards her was then no longer she was my sister anymore.. i felt that i fell in love with this girl, throughout all the things we went through over the months.. At first, she was stunned and nv knew what to do... Bt after moments of consideration... i was pacing up and down at my Bunk.. She replied my msg... the messages showed "I have decided to accept u" I was then overjoyed... feeling as if i could jump over the moon... That was the day we officially got together... After that she told me... Even if u nv had propose that idea to me.. i would have asked u already...
From the day.. i called u telling u how bad my current bf was... the way u consoled me and your encouragement really touched me deep inside my heart... and from then... i knew i fell for u already...
But up till now... even though we are still going on with the daily conversations.. through the phone... we still haven met up with each other yet.. escaping from me everytime i asked her out.. she said her mum wont let her go out with strangers... I have the feeling that this girl is cheating me... any1 can give me a piece of advice on what should i do?
Confused Rain...
Do you know where she lives? Maybe you can go and visit her at her house instead? -
Well, I think you just like your so called 'net gal' because she is mysterious and it seems that you are intrigued by the idea of liking someone mysterious as you dunno her, you know where she lives, you know her voice, but you never seen her before, you never talked to her face to face, you dunno her true character.
Yet, you blindly breakup with your (ex)gf with someone you hardly even know, with things that you did with your (ex) gf that you never done with 'net gal' before. Think of it, is it fair for your (ex)gf? Is it practical, to like someone you dunno that well? If she likes do you have to wait so long and not see her face and deal with the excuses and those nights with little sleep? -
Originally posted by xAcc:Can u really hold onto someone u've nv met in ur life?
In a person's whole life, there's at least a thing that wouldnt go ur way. I didnt really believe in that. Till i've met her. (Edited...)
The second last time i wanted to breakup with her was arnd June. It's been 4mths. I was very determined, left things tad she gave me which was meant for the only guy she wanted to give. I told her i cant hav all these anymore. She called n told me she will b leaving town. At tad point of time i suddenly felt lost, some part of me suddenly juz gave away. The thought of asking her not to go, mayb there's really one last chance to save this r/s. I thgt of trying it this time. She didnt leave, gave me back the things i returned her and she still promised me things will b better.
During the 4 mths, she had her bday which i didnt had the chance to celebrate with her. I had my bday almost spending it alone. 4 monthly anniversaries plainly leaving things outside each other's house. Talked to her, listened to her, wanting the best for her. Sleeping less than 3-4 hrs almost every day. All this didnt matter to me. Did alot of things juz to mk myself feel appreciated, hoping my simple request would come true. But till now it never even happened.....
One day my ex gf called and told me she got things to say to me. It was regarding my current gf. I decided to meet her cuz i've stuffs to give her back too. It ended up me telling her all i've been thru and the feelings of really having someone there for me came back. I didnt imagine how different it is to see a person in real after mths of juz loving someone imaginarily.
My ex did things for me, was willing to spend time on me. I blindly started to go back to her. On the other hand my gf told me tad she will b leaving town, she asked me will i ask her to stay. I didnt reply. Cuz to me, wad she told me throughout all these mths, were all juz empty promises. I juz deeply wished her well so she may find someone real.
She said she didnt board the plane, wanted to meet me in person immediately. I scraped the idea, switched off my phone. After tad things turned worse. I cant bear to tell her i find it more realistic with my ex gf than her. Which i shld hav realised earlier tad pple who hav nv meant cant b together.
She found out i talked to my ex, went out with her and somehow back with her. She went off and things turned ugly. But wad can i do? Should i hav met her up? Should i not met and talked to my ex?
Mths hav passed. From the day i broke off with her, i still cant forget her. Despite being back with my ex now. Things i do for her, her voice i hear so often over the mths. Things she gave me and her imaginary presence. At the same time, my gf now which is my ex, did things and has been alwys here for me throughout. She had been hurt badly when we broke up and this time we patched up, i cant promise her things i used to, do things for her which i did before. But she gave her best, everything she's got. I feel guilty not being able to giv everything i hav.
Wanted to breakup with her now, cuz i see its not fair doing this to her. Wasting her time tho i really like her. I know she deserves someone better which is definitely not me. But i dun wan to see her suffer and im trying my best to forget wad's not even really there before. Hoping things will b the same as the past. But every thought of mine is almost abt the imaginary her. I feel v tired, v miserable.
She asked me to watch the Lake House. Its abt two person in different times loving each other despite the odds. But they could see and hold the person in the past, and the future. In the same time, same place, yet wads happening to me i still cant let go. Recently went back to the place where i left things for her, nth's changed. But yet mths had passed. I still feel empty and cant move on. Hope she did. But now, my thoughts are still on her. Wad can i do? Am i stupid?
Thnks for reading and mayb hope someone can giv me advice, i really dunno who to turn to.
I can never fully understand the notion of people falling in love with another without even knowing him/her in reality. Although I can explain why this phenomenon is surfacing, I can't help but shake my head when I read your story, because you CHOOSE a idealism over realism (Neptune over Saturn).
Chances are, your current gf is merely a gf, but she doesn't really match very closely to the ideal lady you had in mind. Deep inside you and unconsciously, you are yearning for a woman closer an image of your ideal girlfriend.
This woman appeared. And it's a self deception if you said that you didn't want to foster a better relationship with her, and from better to even better. At the point of time, the possessive boyfriend is a barrier, but you remove that barrier, you see yourself automatically moving forward. It was almost without restrain or control - as if you are seeking for a possibility and this is the possibility given to you.
Things sped off after you have seen her photo; she probably fits closer to that of your ideal girlfriend.
You became so immensely deep in love with love itself... but you know next to nothing about her. Do you seriously think that you can know someone by mere phone calls, SMS, MSN or whatever? Words can be twisted and ideas can be insinuated. Afterall, she is playing the role of a director - scripting your every feeling and thoughts, fuelling your fantasy and luring your mind to insanity.
CloUdiSm classify your condition as the Pygmalion Complex - under mythology, the artist Pygmalion became in love with the statue he has crafted. But the statue couldn't love him back as it was lifeless. He was in love with fantasy - his love becomes surreal and unrealistic (although later on, Venus breathe life into the statue and he married the 'her', but our TS was unfortunate, so I will not discuss it here).
If you continue to allow yourself to be led by fantasy, you see yourself touring in beautiful gardens and still ending up back to square one. You are so self absorbed with this blinded fantasy, that I don't think you are able to stretch your perspective wide enough to see from her side.
Do you even think it is Love for her? Like I have mentioned, ideas can be insinuated. Simply by SMSing - I love you - may not even hold much weight because this is how cheap words can be, if it wasn't significantly true to its meaning. Furthermore, there are a couple of possibilities:
(I) She has actually seen you before, but unlike you, your image is further away from her ideal boyfriend. She doesn't want you as an actual boyfriend and practice retention to leech emotional support and joy of being in love and being thrown affection at.
(II) She broke up with her boyfriend; you are a substitute. She doesn't want you as an actual boyfriend and practice retention to leech emotional support and joy of being in love and being thrown affection at.
(III) She doesn't want a boyfriend; she wants worshipper. She doesn't want you as an actual boyfriend and practice retention to leech emotional support and joy of being in love and being thrown affection at.
Conclusion?
She doesn't want you as an actual boyfriend and practice retention to leech emotional support and joy of being in love and being thrown affection at.
P.S: Your then-ex-now-gf is indeed foolish. Being thrown away when she is not needed and now coming back because his man couldn't get the OTHER woman he wanted. Gawd! If she was my friend, think I am going to lecture her till thy kingdom comes.
Cheer -
We do not know if she knows the real reason why TS broke up with her. If she did know, then she is indeed foolish.Originally posted by Yunhaier:P.S: Your then-ex-now-gf is indeed foolish. Being thrown away when she is not needed and now coming back because his man couldn't get the OTHER woman he wanted. Gawd! If she was my friend, think I am going to lecture her till thy kingdom comes.
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For yunhaier only. Gawd!
So many people using 'Consoling' as a platform and acting as a facade to get woman into a relationship with them.
Although I know quite a number of people who belongs to this category in reality, I can't help but to
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P.S: Wonder if anybody else share this sentiment.
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Well... i do know where she lives... bt not sure of the exact place... because it sounded like a secluded place where no 1 will go for no reason... And most importantly... i dont have the courage to go look for herOriginally posted by rainee:Meeting up wif each other is an essential step that should be taken in this kinda r/s. Before you meet up with each other, evthing is just, well an online relationship. The person you imagine her to be, might be the real thing, or it might 180 degrees different from what she really is. Meeting up with each other is the first step to be taken if you want to take this r/s into the reality level...
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Originally posted by Yunhaier:
Well, it is a double-edged sword. Look at how people who use it, such as the TS, get themselves into trouble.
[b]For yunhaier only. Gawd!
So many people using 'Consoling' as a platform and acting as a facade to get woman into a relationship with them.
Although I know quite a number of people who belongs to this category in reality, I can't help but to .
P.S: Wonder if anybody else share this sentiment.
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Why no courage? Aren't you curious about how she is in real life?Originally posted by Snowsaint:Well... i do know where she lives... bt not sure of the exact place... because it sounded like a secluded place where no 1 will go for no reason... And most importantly... i dont have the courage to go look for her -
Originally posted by blu_sky:Well, it is a double-edged sword. Look at how people who use it, such as the TS, get themselves into trouble. I actually know of one particular person who has gotten all his gf via this way. Either breaking up with boyfriend kind or walloping in self pity waiting
for someone to rescue her kind.
Aiya... whatever lar. Not me can liao.
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I do know of someone too. Some of these gals are more vulnerable cos they are at verge of breaking up or being dumped. He uses this method to get the gals. Play already then throw.Originally posted by Yunhaier: I actually know of one particular person who has gotten all his gf via this way. Either breaking up with boyfriend kind or walloping in self pity waiting
for someone to rescue her kind.
Aiya... whatever lar. Not me can liao.
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Despicable.
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I had once a fantasy like these.
A online girl, whom I met 5 years ago.
She was kind and sweet,
I heard her Dj before ( Use to had a online station )
We both kind of like good friends and all...
But then I was attached,
Troubles, deepest worries and secret i could tell her.
Eveyrthing.
As if was more then a girlfriend.
I thought I had fallen in love with this girl,
whom I could tell her my troubles and hear my agony.
IN exchange I could hear hers as well...
but i realised.
What I fell in love wasn't the girl on the net.
I fell in love with her character,
It was just love with love itself.
She love me more then nothing but a friend.
Sometimes,
When we get so desperate for warth and company,
anyone could be the one we love.
But it doesn't mean the one for them is us.
I sort of know that I wasn't i love with her,
but with her way of treating me.
I met her one day she was working,
and she was god- pretty.
but...
the only problem was,
when i saw her,
I thought that the girl i love maybe her character,
but its hard to tell...
What I truely see is that its one sided.
Loving someone whom I never saw before was something short of a regret.
Feels like you can blame no one but yourself.
Looking back,
I was thinking, lucky I never ask for her hand.
I don wanna hurt another soul.
Or be hurt.
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can summarize in less than 10 words.
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I think you guys should stop looking for a relationship online. People only chat online because they can hide themselves, and either act or just get their emotions off. Online chat is not ment for seriousness to that extreme. Sure, meet people, be pals and just chat away. Leave the relationship's to reality. Because in reality, there is not hiding. Just a piece of thought. And for the original poster, youve gone too far into virtual reality. The person you are chatting to and all could either be a guy with a really girlish voice, or a really young girl, or just a lonly elderly. Its not even worth it to break up with your girlfriend, someone that actually cares about you. And since your calling her your girlfriend, i bet you care about her alot too, right? Why hurt her that bad? I would just say, your a mean o'l man. MEAN! hee hee.
