Why is he like that?
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Monday: 6:45pm. i juz left my office (in town) on the way home. When i was reaching home, he msg me, asked to meet up in town at 8pm cos he is very far away from town. i said ok. i went back to town. In the end he took cab n reached town at 7:40. but i reached town late cos i decided to take bus cos i thought i got a lot of time as he take bus n train needs an hour. but there is a jam and i arrived at 8pm).
i went buy dinner wait for him at Mac. he arrived and we started eating. I juz asked casually, how come u din tell me u take cab, if u did, i would have taken train then u dun have to wait. And he flared up. Gave me a black face and asked me why dun i tell him i took bus instead!? I said ya, maybe i could have told u too lah. then he was still very angry, we had a squabble over dinner. He stood up and juz left!
Why is he like that? over such trivial matter?
We didnt talk on tues. He msg me he missed me on wed.
He msg me to meet up last nite, i said ok. asked me to stay over at his place.
thurs 9pm. we had dinner, then i was watching tv. when tv ended at 10, i went study to find him. he was eatin instant noodles. and i teased him "secertly hide here eat instant noodles". we hugged and kissed. i said i wait for u to watch the rented dvd? he said ok. then i thought he lookd angry. i asked why you so angry. he said he couldnt load some software. so i said i wait for u in the room? he said ok.
he came over, and we made love. we hugged and watched dvd. when dvd ended, he behaved oddly. i asked him if he is unhappy. he said why should he be unhappy. i said i dunno, juz concerened lor, so juz asked.
He flared up again. Then say why muz i say he is unhappy and angry? why muz i say he secretly eating instant noodles?
i explained: "secretly eating instant noodles" was juz a joke. why would he dun let me eat anyway? why i asked if he is unhapy or angry was juz bcos he looked unhapy and i cared.
He flared up and asked me to go home. that was 1:30 am.
why is he like that? -
i presume he is not always like that.
i guess he had a bad day. maybe he will call you later to apologize. -
Never ask Y pple so like dat.
Always ask U so like dat.............
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Originally posted by :Never ask Y pple so like dat.
Always ask U so like dat............. 
true... as its always the one whom initiate cause
the unhappiness .. girls always think they r correct in certain ways , in fact they
do not understand guys at times -
weird guy...
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in this case the guy was obviously in the wrong.Originally posted by ha8n: true... as its always the one whom initiate cause
the unhappiness .. girls always think they r correct in certain ways , in fact they
do not understand guys at times -
sumtimes guys also should strive to understand girls? Like not unfair we girls have to keep trying to understand guys all the time so that we don't start an argument leh...Originally posted by ha8n: true... as its always the one whom initiate cause
the unhappiness .. girls always think they r correct in certain ways , in fact they
do not understand guys at times -
Think maybe he is stressed up over some other issues in his life, and he would like some space to himself. Guys are different from girls in the way that they need some time alone when they are in a bad mood.
So just leave him alone for some time, and when he is back to normal mood, he will find you again
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no, he did not apologise.Originally posted by dragg:i presume he is not always like that.
i guess he had a bad day. maybe he will call you later to apologize.
he texted me on tues "still angry"
and i replied "thought you angrier"
and he replied "i juz want to live a peaceful and happy life"
hey! he was the one who flared up first all the time
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why dont you talk to him about it when he is in a better mood?Originally posted by vgal:no, he did not apologise.
he texted me on tues "still angry"
and i replied "thought you angrier"
and he replied "i juz want to live a peaceful and happy life"
hey! he was the one who flared up first all the time
tell him how you feel about him throwing tantrums. -
No, of cos i didnt ask him why he like that. but after the 2 incidents, can you fault me for asking public opinions?Originally posted by :Never ask Y pple so like dat.
Always ask U so like dat............. -
from what we gather from our group that its because typically guys unlike girls that can voice out unhappiness
ANY TIME to ANYONE--even they have good guy friends they also never say their problems ( Not saying girls r wrong as they also got ask their bf whats wrong , just that Species of men behaviour r like that ) .. thus if gals do not bother to ask >> dont think some guys bother to
tell them whats bothering them as they are not comfortable or placed sincere state by their gf ... that the gfs r concerned about them n want to know whats bothering them....Simple -
angry still can make love ah
sound so petty to me this guy. -
i dont understand what you are trying to say.Originally posted by ha8n:from what we gather that its because guys unlike girls that can say unhappiness
ANY TIME to ANYONE ( Not saying girls r wrong as they also got ask , just the Species of men r like that ) .. thus u do not bother to ask >> dont think some bother to
tell u as they do not put in ease or sincere state that they feel you really want to know whats bothering them....Simple -
dun understand which part of singapore english u dun understand >>
though u still use sms english now n u always prefer england powderful English or
better other countries' english is it -
again i dont understand what you are trying to say.Originally posted by ha8n:dun understand which part of singapore english u dun understand >>
though u still use sms english now n u always prefer england powderful English or
better other countries' english is it -
err really, it is very hard to understand what you are typing...Originally posted by ha8n:dun understand which part of singapore english u dun understand >>
though u still use sms english now n u always prefer england powderful English or
better other countries' english is it -
i dunno. you tell me. anyway, angry over wat? he was frustrated with the software and i juz asked him why he looked so unhapi? whats wrong with asking him tat?Originally posted by BufPuf:angry still can make love ah
sound so petty to me this guy.
and i joked 'secretly' eating noodles ah? wats wrong with this joke? it is not abalone that people will 'secretly' eat wat. obviously it is a joke rite? Guys, shed some light on me please. -
It is definitely not your fault, so dun need to beat yourself up because of this incident.Originally posted by vgal:i dunno. you tell me. anyway, angry over wat? he was frustrated with the software and i juz asked him why he looked so unhapi? whats wrong with asking him tat?
and i joked 'secretly' eating noodles ah? wats wrong with this joke? it is not abalone that people will 'secretly' eat wat. obviously it is a joke rite? Guys, shed some light on me please.
Has this happened before? As in him losing temper over trivial stuff and things that are not supposed to matter? And how long have both of you been together?
Maybe when he is in a better mood, you should have a nice talk with him over what is causing stress in his life. -
We are together for 2 months. Did such incidents happen before? Maybe things had been blown out of proportion before, but definitely nothing so trivial. Would you ask your gf to go home alone at 1:30am? hey, our home is not near ok? driving took 1/2 hours.Originally posted by rainee:It is definitely not your fault, so dun need to beat yourself up because of this incident.
Has this happened before? As in him losing temper over trivial stuff and things that are not supposed to matter? And how long have both of you been together?
Maybe when he is in a better mood, you should have a nice talk with him over what is causing stress in his life. -
next time don't ask him questions
he seems to react to questions. -
only 2 months?Originally posted by vgal:We are together for 2 months. Did such incidents happen before? Maybe things had been blown out of proportion before, but definitely nothing so trivial. Would you ask your gf to go home alone at 1:30am? hey, our home is not near ok? driving took 1/2 hours.
maybe you should reconsider. -
hmm...2 months only then this kinda thing happened oledi? Think maybe you should rethink your decision abt being with him...unless you can endure all this kinda crap for long term...Originally posted by vgal:We are together for 2 months. Did such incidents happen before? Maybe things had been blown out of proportion before, but definitely nothing so trivial. Would you ask your gf to go home alone at 1:30am? hey, our home is not near ok? driving took 1/2 hours.
And asking a girl to go back on her own at 130am is really too much... -
He seems like a dominant guy who can't seem to cnotrol his emotions. He always think he is right and always use his ego to think of solutions.Originally posted by vgal:We are together for 2 months. Did such incidents happen before? Maybe things had been blown out of proportion before, but definitely nothing so trivial. Would you ask your gf to go home alone at 1:30am? hey, our home is not near ok? driving took 1/2 hours.
What a woonderful guy right? So uptight! -
Care to elabrate more on your analysis please?Originally posted by dokono:He seems like a dominant guy who can't seem to cnotrol his emotions. He always think he is right and always use his ego to think of solutions.
What a woonderful guy right? So uptight!
Why do you say he is dominant? and what makes u derive that he "always think he is right and always use his ego to think of solutions"?
Thank you in advance.