Why is he like that?
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Oh i remember now.Originally posted by rainee:It is definitely not your fault, so dun need to beat yourself up because of this incident.
Has this happened before? As in him losing temper over trivial stuff and things that are not supposed to matter? And how long have both of you been together?
Maybe when he is in a better mood, you should have a nice talk with him over what is causing stress in his life.
When we first started together, we went ECP to skate, stood outside Mac. He keep shaking the glass of Mac and i could feel the glass moving. then i asked him not to. He said the bunch of guys inside were shaking it first. and i was saying let them do it, dun 'dou' with them. he was so angry and we had a fight and he juz left and went home (we were supposed to go back tog). -
It seems he can't control his anger, get him some anger managment course or something......
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how old both of u?
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Im making observations based on his actions, that's why Im saying ''it seems''. There are guys who try to dominate in a r/s and there are guys who give in too much. He could be the former. He may love you a lot but he might have a short fuse-something which he can't chang, maybe in the short term.Originally posted by vgal:Care to elabrate more on your analysis please?
Why do you say he is dominant? and what makes u derive that he "always think he is right and always use his ego to think of solutions"?
Thank you in advance.
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No, dont think so. but there was an occasion, we were out with his friends in a packed place, he told me to stop fidgeting in case i have any body contact with his friend who was sitting next to me. why lehOriginally posted by dokono:Im making observations based on his actions, that's why Im saying ''it seems''. There are guys who try to dominate in a r/s and there are guys who give in too much. He could be the former. He may love you a lot but he might have a short fuse-something which he can't chang, maybe in the short term.
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It seems that your bf has attitude problem. He has a big ego and will not compromise or stand down. He rather angry/fight with you than loose face. For example, take the glass moving incident, if he stop doing it, means that he lost to the guys inside. His ego is to big to accept that.Originally posted by vgal:Oh i remember now.
When we first started together, we went ECP to skate, stood outside Mac. He keep shaking the glass of Mac and i could feel the glass moving. then i asked him not to. He said the bunch of guys inside were shaking it first. and i was saying let them do it, dun 'dou' with them. he was so angry and we had a fight and he juz left and went home (we were supposed to go back tog).
My suggestions, talk to him and give him one more chance. Same thing happens again. Leave him. You will not be happy with him. -
anger management...
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just to add...this kind of people will beat their wife....
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Originally posted by blowfish:how old both of u?
We are not young. about 30. so old already, i dun see why he wants to 'win' those kids. he insisted that he was not 'dou' with the kids. and angry cos i say he 'dou'.Originally posted by mark_docent:It seems that your bf has attitude problem. He has a big ego and will not compromise or stand down. He rather angry/fight with you than loose face. For example, take the glass moving incident, if he stop doing it, means that he lost to the guys inside. His ego is to big to accept that.
My suggestions, talk to him and give him one more chance. Same thing happens again. Leave him. You will not be happy with him. -
Is it? realli?Originally posted by R3SsH|n:just to add...this kind of people will beat their wife.... -
think he got some anger management issue...
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sori... u maybe rite, i did think that he may have some anger management issue. but my qn is, wat is he angry about? about the joke that i say he 'secretly' eat instant noodles? why angry?Originally posted by rainee:think he got some anger management issue...
or about i asked him if he is unhappy? i dun get it. why unhappy when i actually asked him if he is unhappy out of concern? i dun understand whr the anger comes from. do u know? -
Originally posted by vgal:sori... u maybe rite, i did think that he may have some anger management issue. but my qn is, wat is he angry about? about the joke that i say he 'secretly' eat instant noodles? why angry?
or about i asked him if he is unhappy? i dun get it. why unhappy when i actually asked him if he is unhappy out of concern? i dun understand whr the anger comes from. do u know?
I don't think it's so much about the 'reason' why is he angry, more like his inability to handle his emotions correctly, which will often lead to an internal implosion.
Logically speaking, one wouldn't get so upset about such trival matters - but somehow it affected him, like some emotional deficiency that always trigger him regardless of how mundane the issue is.
P.S: How long did you both know each other before getting together? What's his astrological sign? Aries/Scorpio?
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quote]Originally posted by Yunhaier:Originally posted by Yunhaier: I don't think it's so much about the 'reason' why is he angry, more like his inability to handle his emotions correctly, which will often lead to an internal implosion.
Logically speaking, one wouldn't get so upset about such trival matters - but somehow it affected him, like some emotional deficiency that always trigger him regardless of how mundane the issue is.
P.S: How long did you both know each other before getting together? What's his astrological sign? Aries/Scorpio?
Cheers I don't think it's so much about the 'reason' why is he angry, more like his inability to handle his emotions correctly, which will often lead to an internal implosion.
Logically speaking, one wouldn't get so upset about such trival matters - but somehow it affected him, like some emotional deficiency that always trigger him regardless of how mundane the issue is.
P.S: How long did you both know each other before getting together? What's his astrological sign? Aries/Scorpio?
Cheers [/quote]
We knew each other for slightly more than a month before we were together. Yes, i did think that it wasnt long, but during the period, we spent practically everyday on the phone on the first 2 weeks and the subsequent weeks, we saw each other almost everyday.
he is a sagi. btw, he had a failed marriage, dunno if that helps in the overall analysis of the situation. -
Originally posted by vgal:We knew each other for slightly more than a month before we were together. Yes, i did think that it wasnt long, but during the period, we spent practically everyday on the phone on the first 2 weeks and the subsequent weeks, we saw each other almost everyday.
he is a sagi. btw, he had a failed marriage, dunno if that helps in the overall analysis of the situation. Ah, there are things that you didn't mention, which I have suspected.
Spending time with someone intensively for a shorter period of time doesn't really means that you know the person better. In fact, one could easily be blinded by how hasty this love goes and not knowing the person well enough to make a decisive judgement (anyway, most relationship ain't built on decisive judgement) on such short span of time.
What you are witnessing, could just be a surface or brief introduction to the real him.
Having a failed marriage doesn't mean he is condemned for life; however, it usually means that this man has some personalities/habits/mindsets which usually exude qualities of being unmarriageable (unless the cause of his failing marriage is entirely on his ex-wife (infidelity), then perhaps it's a different story), like individualism or unevolvement.
By mere post, chances are, his temper is likely one good reason why his previous marriage failed because if it was most people, it's probably good game already.
P.S: I think there is more to come. Take some good time to analysis him and decide if he is still worthwhile. NEVER compromise your age, for an inferior partner that you do not feel secured with (At your age, I am presuming you are seeking for marriageable partners). It's always better to have no marriage, then to marry a wrong man.
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how much you love him?
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its that time of the month for him..
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Do you think i still feel treasured?Originally posted by leo-kun:how much you love him?
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[quote]Originally posted by Yunhaier:
[b]What you are witnessing, could just be a surface or brief introduction to the real him.
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can you live without him?Originally posted by vgal:Do you think i still feel treasured?
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have you asked him why his marriage failed? Was it because he tried to control his wife too much or for some other reason?Originally posted by vgal:sori... u maybe rite, i did think that he may have some anger management issue. but my qn is, wat is he angry about? about the joke that i say he 'secretly' eat instant noodles? why angry?
or about i asked him if he is unhappy? i dun get it. why unhappy when i actually asked him if he is unhappy out of concern? i dun understand whr the anger comes from. do u know?
did u like sort of pissed him unknowingly? like maybe some guy tried to ask for ur number and u gave it to the guy or something like that? there's just something not quite right with this guy... seems to have something troubled in him that caused him to flare up so easily. -
Originally posted by Yunhaier:
agreed. Ah, there are things that you didn't mention, which I have suspected.
Spending time with someone intensively for a shorter period of time doesn't really means that you know the person better. In fact, one could easily be blinded by how hasty this love goes and not knowing the person well enough to make a decisive judgement (anyway, most relationship ain't built on decisive judgement) on such short span of time.
[b]What you are witnessing, could just be a surface or brief introduction to the real him.
Having a failed marriage doesn't mean he is condemned for life; however, it usually means that this man has some personalities/habits/mindsets which usually exude qualities of being unmarriageable (unless the cause of his failing marriage is entirely on his ex-wife (infidelity), then perhaps it's a different story), like individualism or unevolvement.
By mere post, chances are, his temper is likely one good reason why his previous marriage failed because if it was most people, it's probably good game already.
P.S: I think there is more to come. Take some good time to analysis him and decide if he is still worthwhile. NEVER compromise your age, for an inferior partner that you do not feel secured with (At your age, I am presuming you are seeking for marriageable partners). It's always better to have no marriage, then to marry a wrong man.
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AgreeOriginally posted by Yunhaier:NEVER compromise your age, for an inferior partner that you do not feel secured with (At your age, I am presuming you are seeking for marriageable partners). It's always better to have no marriage, then to marry a wrong man.
Cheers