Originally posted by tir4misu:
really feeling so down right now... kinda had an arguement with my gf just now... over something which i felt rather triffle... but yet maybe im just the type who overlooks everything tat seems 'triffle' to me...
dun even have the courage to blog down my emotions and feelings.. for fear tat she might see the post and cause more implications.. ha... *wimpy me*... one thing ive learnt very hard in this r/s is.... speak less = less trouble...
the arguement broke out when she suddenly commented that we only had our neo-print done once... and last time (several mths) back when she said that we only got 1 neo-print kinda thing.. i only responded with a "oh.." tts all. and like nvr agree to bring her to take another shot of us together.... (the main issue here aint about the neo-print.. more like she feels tat i very half-hearted in all these things... and shes like constantly trying to heat up our r/s but yet get a cold response from me..)
from this point.. it then further developed into a bigger topic... its with regards to our anniversaries and dates......
in my point... i regarded our first time together...our first 100 days... our first 6mths and our anniversaries as of importance to me... but i made her haf the feeling that i didnt care about our mths.. i just wanna calculate days.. which i already lost count by now... btw.. its our mid-7th mth now.. gonna enter to our 8th mth in another 2wks or so.....
hence she really feels tat i dun care less about our r/s... all the testimonials she sent me... all the things she had done for our memorable days... and ive like nutting in return..... which i felt tat i had done them as well.. our first day together.. i booked a place at jack's place.. order flowers.. bought her a necklace..... all that prepartion thing..... then our 6mths.. i bought her a ring as an indication that i really love her and would like to bring our r/s to greater heights... i really do.... our anniversary.. well.. its not here yet....
i dunno.... did i do something wrong?... or maybe all these things tat i do are just materialistic? but i put in alot of effort in planning and making them happen..
y is all this happening?? just when i tot that the turbulances are all over... every is peaceful and calm right now.. both of us settled down and such... really... just when i felt this way.... this issue now blows right straight into my face...
it hurts... im really feeling dam sad now... y.... y so sudden.....
but ya... she aint initiating anything tat i hope she might..... just tat this 'quarrel' of ours... make me really very sad............. its like so wtf... y so out of the blue...
really very heartbroken right now....
To Devil
eh.. you aint paying attention to his problems ah.. lol.. too many dots dots dots.. until you blur le...
Well.. personally.. i dun really agreed that pampering your gf ALWAYS will blossom or last your r/s... The more you have it going.. the more she wants and EXPECT you to do it...
Basically you got many good examples on yourself that you can reflect on.. why sometimes she would behave in such a manner and out of sudden?? not becos you are not sensitive not attentive to her or wat.. but jus that you keep giving her too many surprises.. too QIAN JIU her.. and this makes her take for granted for all the little things that you do...
Well.. maybe you will tell me she's not that kind of person... but hey.. noone will know how they are behaved unless ppl pin-point out to them...
Is just a minor issue.. you guys still got way to go.. if this kind of situation oso cannot handle what's more to come??? Is not the time for you to ponder over this issue on how sad you are.. how heartbroken you are.. but to find a way a solution to stop this from happening again...
Talking less doesn't mean nothing will happen.. i believe if one day she come over and ask you why these days you seldom open up yourself.. or not like the usual self.. then problems arise again.. ANother QUARREL??
SOmetimes you must know when's the right time to give a little bit of what you have given.. but NOT ALWAYS! Guys, normally... not saying ALL ah! lol, are non-sensitive beings.. even though how obvious a girl give the hint.. guys still wont get it.. most ppl in a r/s will always have the mindset of having their partner to have the "you should know what" kind of thinking.. But hell no.. you never say it out.. how in the world i know what exactly you want...
Then there's where communication comes in.. enough said..!
YOu go think about it..
