Mothers~Hate them, Love them.
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yeh sure we all want that...but if anyone has encountered cases where like what the trhead starter wrote the mother has just got too much free time in her hands and has nothing constructive to do so will go around sprouting nonsense doing 'funny' things adding workload and attention to other family members who may need to take care of family or earn a livelihoodOriginally posted by Seth35:Close one eye and let it go...If she gets too Unreasonable...Speak to Her.. Solve things so that both parties can come to a peaceful conclusion thats my advice towards you... Whats most important in a Family is Understanding and communication...
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Another story.
Was called into a HDB family flat with the following.
Policemen and policewomen milling around and in the home because of a family dispute.
Here is how it started.
Daughter & husband, sold their flat and move in temporary with Mother, Father and 2 unmarried sister.
Because they are in the midst of selling their flat, so they are very broke and poor.
Squeezed into a 4 room flat and tempers are all frayed.
One day, big qurral with mother because mother angry at poor couple. Father, 2 sisters sided with daughter and hubby because its a small matter.
Mother went kitchen, take the bamboo pole lifter. (You guys know of that piece of wood with a 2 fork at the end to help lift bamboo poles with laundry to dry kind)
use bamboo pole lifter to attack the family.
Thus police was called. -
To attack your own family with a bamboo lifter!
How to wield that in a cramped HDB flat? -
Another time, another HDB flat.
3 families was all squeezed into a small upgraded 3 room flat with a maid.
One female, mother to a one year old, after qurarrling with the flat owners daughter, took 2 choppers to threaten the daughter.
The maid pried the choppers from that female and throw them down 6 floors.
Police was called by members of public on the void deck to say that 2 choppers was thrown down.
Cause of that family dispute: female was upset that daughter of the flat made the maid cut oranges for her, thus taking time away from helping that female with her baby. -
Mother was threatening to poke their eyes out.Originally posted by kaister:To attack your own family with a bamboo lifter! How to wield that in a cramped HDB flat?
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I know it's hard...... but then, all mothers, like all mere mortals, have their own set of imperfections and faults. We can't expect them to be perfect, can we? Better to let He who is without sin cast the first stone lor........
For me, I won't be here in the world without my parents. Since my dad's gone and I have only my mom left, I try to do as much as I can for her while she's still around coz the scriptures tell me to honour my parents mah. Despite her imperfections, I try not to judge her and try my best to treat her as best I can.
I think it's easier to love our moms if we don't judge them.........
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divorce
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How not to judge?
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hate my mum. she is never supportive and always full of dramas.
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My Mum's a really sweet lady... Love her to bits!!!
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One lady, married for 20 years.
She was such good terms with her mother in law. Even after the hubby divorced her and married a younger prettier gal.
She still quietly goes to her mother in law to help take care of her during the weekends.... -
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Why I love mom :
- she's the strongest, classiest, most charming, well-loved, optimistic career woman I've.. EVER... known.
- her english is funny but the meaning is spot on. "Aiyah, you know your mummy english is the world besssst." (beaming in self-mockery)
- her business & PR skills are razor sharp
- she never forced us into any religion
- she still loves us even though we were the kids of an abusive, lowly-educated, foul-mouthed, blackmailing pimp who destroyed her entire business empire with his obscene million-dollar spending and countless mistresses ... aka our dad
- she was a virgin beauty queen when she married our dad and has never known any other man since (whose heart wouldn't ache at that.. ARGH!!!)
- she has a business degree, won national debates in the past (mandarin), but after her business wound up she was forced to become a cleaner so she wouldn't meet all the high-flyers.
Why I can't stand mom :
- she didn't divorce our dad earlier (okok I don't hold it against her)
- her habits drive me nuts (reason 1 why i moved out)
- Our house is a storeroom for her old office equipment, documents, and xxxx dynasty chinese antiques (reason 2 why i moved out)
- she likes to keep secrets from us kids. there are always new secrets.
- she's good at sidestepping questions. her words are very vague. I need to pound her with the same questions over and over before I get an answer.
- she likes to be overly optimistic sometimes, like she's still got her head up in the clouds.
All in all, I love my mom. heh heh heh -
My mother is just a downright drama mama.
And she isnt fit to raise children.
I see my own situation as well as my siblings.
And we all agree. Mom is a bimbo. She treats everyone of us differently, pitting one sibling against the other for her own entertainment. Manipulative, busy body and is simply one who has a active imagination and a foul mouth.
She lies, she make up stories and she dont have values which she preaches and hold onto.
Best I can remember: She encourages my sister to shoplift.
She meddles in her childrens affair. Always trying to mediate when actually, it was her meddling to try to push her children to only accomplished things or relationship based on her liking.
I only know my fear, that my own children would be brought up with her kinda values. -
Oh here's a good one.
My mailbox has been broken into.
Guess who is the one who broke into them while I am out of the country.