Run away?
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Had been trying to break off with my bf since friday.
On friday, wanted to talk but ended up quarrelling. So i suggested if we so unhapi, juz break up. he said ok. and exchanged some nasty remarks then good bye remarks.
sat: he smsed me many times. want to talk. talked over the phone, 5 min into the conversation, we were already in a quarrel. and he hung up on me. 2 hours later, he called me, want to talk. i said i want to break off. nothing to talk anymore. he said want a closure, i said im in a terrible mood, not a good time. he called me more than 10 times and smsed me more than 10 times that nite. then he said he has video of me (insinuating that it is something nude). i ignored him. he keep sending hate smses to me. i ignored.
sun: he smsed many times. i fed up n replied. he said he juz need to clarify certain things. he called me and i answered. after clarifying certain things, he started being sarcastic and abusive. i hung up. he threatened me with the video again, want me to go to his place, i refused and ignored him.
mon - wed: everyday sms, sometimes hate sms, sometimes sound nice and asked me go meet him at his place. i refused. when i refused, he will threaten me with the sms.
wed nite: finally i met him for he said he needs a closure. when i met him, asked him about video, he acted blur. i was so angry and said lets go police station. he said he wont go with me. i went police station myself and made a police report, half way, i stopped.
i called him. and talked very nicely to him and tried to make peace. he said he wants me back. i said not possible anymore. he said then dun regret. i said why u want to force someone to stay with u? he said he doesnt care. i forced him into it. i talked nicely to him and made peace with him.
today: there is no where to settle this amicably with him. This is fatal attraction. he is like a monster and demon who is juz after me and my sanity. i am contemplating to juz run away. cut off all contacts with him. dun answer his calls. maybe even go overseas for a while so that he cant threaten me any more.
is that too irresponsible? -
btw, i dun think there is a video. think it is juz an empty threat. of cos i can never be sure.
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Why did you let him take a video of you ??
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Nope it's not.Originally posted by vgal:is that too irresponsible?
When you've tried all means to settle this case. And given your due effort.
It's time to play harsh. Of cos, there are always better means to solve the issue.
The question is, does he want to solve it? and agree on mutual terms?
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i can understand how he feels, he doesn't want to lose you....but quarreling with you isn't going to endear you to him....only you know what's best for you...imo you should stop seeing/communicating him completely, for a few weeks at least, and see if he is a lil more mature abt the situation.
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jus dump himOriginally posted by vgal:Had been trying to break off with my bf since friday.
On friday, wanted to talk but ended up quarrelling. So i suggested if we so unhapi, juz break up. he said ok. and exchanged some nasty remarks then good bye remarks.
sat: he smsed me many times. want to talk. talked over the phone, 5 min into the conversation, we were already in a quarrel. and he hung up on me. 2 hours later, he called me, want to talk. i said i want to break off. nothing to talk anymore. he said want a closure, i said im in a terrible mood, not a good time. he called me more than 10 times and smsed me more than 10 times that nite. then he said he has video of me (insinuating that it is something nude). i ignored him. he keep sending hate smses to me. i ignored.
sun: he smsed many times. i fed up n replied. he said he juz need to clarify certain things. he called me and i answered. after clarifying certain things, he started being sarcastic and abusive. i hung up. he threatened me with the video again, want me to go to his place, i refused and ignored him.
mon - wed: everyday sms, sometimes hate sms, sometimes sound nice and asked me go meet him at his place. i refused. when i refused, he will threaten me with the sms.
wed nite: finally i met him for he said he needs a closure. when i met him, asked him about video, he acted blur. i was so angry and said lets go police station. he said he wont go with me. i went police station myself and made a police report, half way, i stopped.
i called him. and talked very nicely to him and tried to make peace. he said he wants me back. i said not possible anymore. he said then dun regret. i said why u want to force someone to stay with u? he said he doesnt care. i forced him into it. i talked nicely to him and made peace with him.
today: there is no where to settle this amicably with him. This is fatal attraction. he is like a monster and demon who is juz after me and my sanity. i am contemplating to juz run away. cut off all contacts with him. dun answer his calls. maybe even go overseas for a while so that he cant threaten me any more.
is that too irresponsible? -
i tried to talk to him nicely. i told him want to break up amicably. but he said he does not want to break up, he wants me back. Other than that, he wants nothing. then i asked him, why does he want me back when i do not want to be with him anymore? he said he does not know/care (i cannot remember which).Originally posted by M©+square:Nope it's not.
When you've tried all means to settle this case. And given your due effort.
It's time to play harsh. Of cos, there are always better means to solve the issue.
The question is, does he want to solve it? and agree on mutual terms?
Cheers
Does he want to solve it? he juz want me back, he said. that is the only way to solve it.
he said he will only destroy the 'video' when one day he is happy. so long as he is kept happy, everything will be fine. i fxxked him and told him i cant be threatened. This was wat happened at the earlier part of last nite.
I am realli contemplating to juz run away. to cut off all contacts with him. i dunno if this is wat i should do. i dont know if this is the right thing to do. but i am cornered. He is driving me nuts. He is killing every sanity i have. though i still think there is no video. -
wah complicated sia
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i think so too. why force me to stay with him when i dun want to? you cant force love. why force a person to stay with you? will anyone be happy?Originally posted by de_middle:wah complicated sia -
The way is to break off all contacts with him until he no longer has such strong feelings when he thinks of you. It will take a while. Talking to him, trying to "help" him get over you will not help.
By the way the strong feelings he has for you does not mean that he loves you. All it means is that he has strong feelings. At the moment, his strong feelings are directed against you.
Feelings come and go. Love endures. -
Just run away from him. And threaten to go to the police if he goes after you.Originally posted by vgal:I am realli contemplating to juz run away. to cut off all contacts with him. i dunno if this is wat i should do. i dont know if this is the right thing to do. but i am cornered. He is driving me nuts. He is killing every sanity i have. though i still think there is no video.
And seriously, do go to the police if he really does.
This boyfriend of yours is an insult to us men. -
He is not willing to let go of you probably he has feelings for you.
But that doesn't mean he is willing to adjust and make this
relationship work. Actually man are funny. They want their
gf back and they don't know how to talk nicely to their gf.
Well the threat of the release of the video
should arlarm you. Actually you should just make a
police report and tell him that if he releases the video into the
internet, he is in for big trouble. Come on. This is Singapore.
He knows what he can get himself into. But once the video
get into the internet you will be very very embarrased. For the
sake of your reputation I would advise you to just make a police
report; nothing more and nothing else. Tell him that if he release
the video he will be in police hand. But if he destroy that video,
he will be free of trouble. -
wat is the video about?
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cut all contacts with him...be resolute...
he will stop bothering you after sometime... -
i dunno. i've never seen it. he did insinuate that it is something of nudity. he did not dare to say directly incase he is bugged and i use that against him.Originally posted by sgboy2004:wat is the video about?
Again, i think there is no video. but one can never be sure. -
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i hope they lose thyer HP... he heOriginally posted by sgboy2004:wat is the video about? -
Yes, this is not love. Love will not cause you to threaten your loved ones. Love will not cause you to harm your loved ones. Regardless of what the person does, even if he/she is leavin you.Originally posted by casino_king:The way is to break off all contacts with him until he no longer has such strong feelings when he thinks of you. It will take a while. Talking to him, trying to "help" him get over you will not help.
By the way the strong feelings he has for you does not mean that he loves you. All it means is that he has strong feelings. At the moment, his strong feelings are directed against you.
Feelings come and go. Love endures.
This is definitely not love. -
You have broke off with him ,what responsibility do you want to hold for him? Anyway, you think he's a responsible guy?Originally posted by vgal:Had been trying to break off with my bf since friday.
On friday, wanted to talk but ended up quarrelling. So i suggested if we so unhapi, juz break up. he said ok. and exchanged some nasty remarks then good bye remarks.
sat: he smsed me many times. want to talk. talked over the phone, 5 min into the conversation, we were already in a quarrel. and he hung up on me. 2 hours later, he called me, want to talk. i said i want to break off. nothing to talk anymore. he said want a closure, i said im in a terrible mood, not a good time. he called me more than 10 times and smsed me more than 10 times that nite. then he said he has video of me (insinuating that it is something nude). i ignored him. he keep sending hate smses to me. i ignored.
sun: he smsed many times. i fed up n replied. he said he juz need to clarify certain things. he called me and i answered. after clarifying certain things, he started being sarcastic and abusive. i hung up. he threatened me with the video again, want me to go to his place, i refused and ignored him.
mon - wed: everyday sms, sometimes hate sms, sometimes sound nice and asked me go meet him at his place. i refused. when i refused, he will threaten me with the sms.
wed nite: finally i met him for he said he needs a closure. when i met him, asked him about video, he acted blur. i was so angry and said lets go police station. he said he wont go with me. i went police station myself and made a police report, half way, i stopped.
i called him. and talked very nicely to him and tried to make peace. he said he wants me back. i said not possible anymore. he said then dun regret. i said why u want to force someone to stay with u? he said he doesnt care. i forced him into it. i talked nicely to him and made peace with him.
today: there is no where to settle this amicably with him. This is fatal attraction. he is like a monster and demon who is juz after me and my sanity. i am contemplating to juz run away. cut off all contacts with him. dun answer his calls. maybe even go overseas for a while so that he cant threaten me any more.
is that too irresponsible?
What did the police tell you when you were trying to make the report? Do remember to keep all the threat smses he had been sending you... -
i dunno. i always believe that though you may not want to be with the person anymore, you will still wish the person well. to run away like that is very irresponsible and may drive the other party crazy, and i feel so bad about it.Originally posted by Devil1976:You have broke off with him ,what responsibility do you want to hold for him? Anyway, you think he's a responsible guy?
is he a responsible guy? u ask me? i dunno anymore. for sure, when he is angry and make those nasty remarks and threats, he is a fxxked up guy, a guy that i never knew.
[/b][/quote]What did the police tell you when you were trying to make the report? Do remember to keep all the threat smses he had been sending you...[/b][/quote]
i told the police. he said it is up to me. the investigating officer will call him to investigate. but, lets face it, honestly, if he does not keep it at home? then no one can find it rite?
yes, i have the smses in my handphone. i will keep them. -
i dunno. i always believe that though you may not want to be with the person anymore, you will still wish the person well. to run away like that is very irresponsible and may drive the other party crazy, and i feel so bad about it. i definitely do not want others to treat me this way. so i do not want to treat others this way.Originally posted by Devil1976:You have broke off with him ,what responsibility do you want to hold for him? Anyway, you think he's a responsible guy?
is he a responsible guy? u tell me. u ask me? i dunno anymore. for sure, when he is angry and make those nasty remarks and threats, he is a fxxked up guy, a guy that i never knew.
[/b][/quote]What did the police tell you when you were trying to make the report? Do remember to keep all the threat smses he had been sending you...[/b][/quote]
i told the police. he said it is up to me. the investigating officer will call him to investigate. but, lets face it, honestly, if he does not keep it at home? then no one can find it rite?
yes, i have the smses in my handphone. i will keep them. -
i dunno. i always believe that though you may not want to be with the person anymore, you will still wish the person well. to run away like that is very irresponsible and may drive the other party crazy, and i feel so bad about it. i definitely do not want others to treat me this way. so i do not want to treat others this way.Originally posted by Devil1976:You have broke off with him ,what responsibility do you want to hold for him? Anyway, you think he's a responsible guy?
is he a responsible guy? u tell me. u ask me? i dunno anymore. for sure, when he is angry and make those nasty remarks and threats, he is a fxxked up guy, a guy that i never knew.
[/b][/quote]What did the police tell you when you were trying to make the report? Do remember to keep all the threat smses he had been sending you...[/b][/quote]
i told the police. he said it is up to me. the investigating officer will call him to investigate. but, lets face it, honestly, if he does not keep it at home? then no one can find it rite?
yes, i have the smses in my handphone. i will keep them. -
Tsk! Tsk! It always takes 1 to know another. From the sound of it, seems that u both r very immature and childish to be in a r/s. Just be normal frens cannot ah?
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One thing teens and young adults nowadays....Mostly when farking...they cam themselves...This is a damm good opportunity to allow others to fark up ur life... Pls next time dont do anything stoopid like that... so u wont have to worry about any video...