Run away?
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Tell police you feel threatened by all his smses.Originally posted by vgal:i told the police. he said it is up to me. the investigating officer will call him to investigate. but, lets face it, honestly, if he does not keep it at home? then no one can find it rite?
yes, i have the smses in my handphone. i will keep them.
It's enough for them to investigate liao.
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Please do not assume. I repeat, i had never known or seen the video before.Originally posted by Seth35:One thing teens and young adults nowadays....Mostly when farking...they cam themselves...This is a damm good opportunity to allow others to fark up ur life... Pls next time dont do anything stoopid like that... so u wont have to worry about any video... -
Kindly elaborate how had i displayed immaturity and childishness.Originally posted by :Tsk! Tsk! It always takes 1 to know another. From the sound of it, seems that u both r very immature and childish to be in a r/s. Just be normal frens cannot ah?
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Hi vgal
Try not to answer his phone or reply sms back.
If you did it then you are asking for more trouble from your x BF.
Rite now his mind are not clear , for the past he alway have you on his side and he used to it and now you leaving him so he feel angry n lonely.that why he created all this stupid nonsense for you
Don't mistaken ,I not asking you to patch back with him.
Is good that you break up with him coz He not worth to be a good GF , his attitude really not gentlment n make man lose face.
Carry on with your daily life n ignore him.
If possible you better go report to police as police will take action against him.
i don't believe that he not afraid of police and create more trouble for you,after you report to police.
Don't be dishearted too coz in life we face a lot of diffrent problem and stress.
Cheer up -
please pardon one another.
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Thank you for your kind words.Originally posted by ymbek:Hi vgal
Try not to answer his phone or reply sms back.
If you did it then you are asking for more trouble from your x BF.
Rite now his mind are not clear , for the past he alway have you on his side and he used to it and now you leaving him so he feel angry n lonely.that why he created all this stupid nonsense for you
Don't mistaken ,I not asking you to patch back with him.
Is good that you break up with him coz He not worth to be a good GF , his attitude really not gentlment n make man lose face.
Carry on with your daily life n ignore him.
If possible you better go report to police as police will take action against him.
i don't believe that he not afraid of police and create more trouble for you,after you report to police.
Don't be dishearted too coz in life we face a lot of diffrent problem and stress.
Cheer up -
Mod, i will reali like to know how i have displayed childishness and immaturity in the handling of this relationship.Originally posted by M©+square:please pardon one another.
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ya. but he said if the police cant find the video in his place (honestly i doubt there is a video), he can sue me for defamation. i know the smses can back my case up, but i do not want to blow this thing up. after all, having such an ugly relationship is realli not a thing to be proud of.Originally posted by M©+square:Tell police you feel threatened by all his smses.
It's enough for them to investigate liao.
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Tell the officer 'I don't know what to do, i feel threatened and scared by ALL HIS SMSES'Originally posted by vgal:ya. but he said if the police cant find the video in his place (honestly i doubt there is a video), he can sue me for defamation. i know the smses can back my case up, but i do not want to blow this thing up. after all, having such an ugly relationship is realli not a thing to be proud of.
i have not asked my lawyer friends too, cos it is really nothing to be proud of.
Don't have to mention about video....it's enough.
Trust me. In your report, you don't have to mention about video. Just mention you felt that your life is threatened. You didn't have good sleep, and even have slight hallucination.
It'll be more than enough.
Of cos there's nothing to be proud of, but having such harrassment is good for you?
Nobody goes to the police for help because of some they are proud of.
Any friend in the police force?
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im thinking, if i juz run away n ignore all smses and calls, will that solve the problems?Originally posted by M©+square:Tell the officer 'I don't know what to do, i feel threatened and scared by ALL HIS SMSES'
Don't have to mention about video....it's enough.
Trust me. In your report, you don't have to mention about video. Just mention you felt that your life is threatened. You didn't have good sleep, and even have slight hallucination.
It'll be more than enough.
Of cos there's nothing to be proud of, but having such harrassment is good for you?
Nobody goes to the police for help because of some they are proud of.
Any friend in the police force?
Cheers
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You have left him. Like it or not, it's over for him.Originally posted by vgal:i told the police. he said it is up to me. the investigating officer will call him to investigate. but, lets face it, honestly, if he does not keep it at home? then no one can find it rite?
yes, i have the smses in my handphone. i will keep them.
What he's doing is uncalled for... I think you should be worrying more of yourself than him. -
Are you in AA to help and advise, or pushing cornered people further into the corner?Originally posted by :Tsk! Tsk! It always takes 1 to know another. From the sound of it, seems that u both r very immature and childish to be in a r/s. Just be normal frens cannot ah? -
I'm lost.Originally posted by Devil1976:You have left him. Like it or not, it's over for him.
What he's doing is uncalled for... I think you should be worrying more of yourself than him. -
You can try .Originally posted by vgal:im thinking, if i juz run away n ignore all smses and calls, will that solve the problems?
no friends in police force, only lawyers. but those are suitors/ex suitors. i rather not trouble anyone.
If he gets it, hopefully. He'll give up.
If he doesn't. Then, good luck?
I've provided my suggestion. Do consider... -
Fight fire with fight.
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Just wondering, are you his first love?
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no biggie me lady, probably just empty threats. anycase, you've made your police report based on his insinuation and not your wilful act, so be done with that.
get a new phone number and remember to watch your back. if you spot him harrassing you, make another report just to have it on record....in case he does the fling you off onto the mrt track thing, someone will know who's the culprit...
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Originally posted by vgal:Had been trying to break off with my bf since friday.
On friday, wanted to talk but ended up quarrelling. So i suggested if we so unhapi, juz break up. he said ok. and exchanged some nasty remarks then good bye remarks.
sat: he smsed me many times. want to talk. talked over the phone, 5 min into the conversation, we were already in a quarrel. and he hung up on me. 2 hours later, he called me, want to talk. i said i want to break off. nothing to talk anymore. he said want a closure, i said im in a terrible mood, not a good time. he called me more than 10 times and smsed me more than 10 times that nite. then he said he has video of me (insinuating that it is something nude). i ignored him. he keep sending hate smses to me. i ignored.
sun: he smsed many times. i fed up n replied. he said he juz need to clarify certain things. he called me and i answered. after clarifying certain things, he started being sarcastic and abusive. i hung up. he threatened me with the video again, want me to go to his place, i refused and ignored him.
mon - wed: everyday sms, sometimes hate sms, sometimes sound nice and asked me go meet him at his place. i refused. when i refused, he will threaten me with the sms.
wed nite: finally i met him for he said he needs a closure. when i met him, asked him about video, he acted blur. i was so angry and said lets go police station. he said he wont go with me. i went police station myself and made a police report, half way, i stopped.
i called him. and talked very nicely to him and tried to make peace. he said he wants me back. i said not possible anymore. he said then dun regret. i said why u want to force someone to stay with u? he said he doesnt care. i forced him into it. i talked nicely to him and made peace with him.
today: there is no where to settle this amicably with him. This is fatal attraction. he is like a monster and demon who is juz after me and my sanity. i am contemplating to juz run away. cut off all contacts with him. dun answer his calls. maybe even go overseas for a while so that he cant threaten me any more.
is that too irresponsible?
The extremist traits are surfacing; the exact replica of how his marriage failed previously. An unevolved man will be hit by the consequence of being unevolved and probably lack even the rudimentary understanding of what love means.'... said why u want to force someone to stay with u? he said he doesnt care...'
This statement says all (and that reminds me of certain forumite).
He's vindictive in nature and his claim of having 'video' is probably a plot to keep an aura of fear presence over you.
I suppose cutting all form of contacts with him is wise. Meanwhile, never relent yourself just because he claims to have your 'video'. Each time you relent, you will appear like his ruse is working.
I wish you well.
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i've booked air tix. Leaving here for a while.Originally posted by M©+square:You can try .
If he gets it, hopefully. He'll give up.
If he doesn't. Then, good luck?
I've provided my suggestion. Do consider... -
no, he is a divorcee and had several gfs b4.Originally posted by alexkusu:Just wondering, are you his first love?
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Thank you, thank you for your kind words. i do hope i make better choices in future. i do hope i learn and have better luck.Originally posted by countdracula:no biggie me lady, probably just empty threats. anycase, you've made your police report based on his insinuation and not your wilful act, so be done with that.
get a new phone number and remember to watch your back. if you spot him harrassing you, make another report just to have it on record....in case he does the fling you off onto the mrt track thing, someone will know who's the culprit...
meanwhile, have a good life and make better choices when it comes to men...
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i totally think so too. i think he is threatening me to create fear in me.Originally posted by Yunhaier:This statement says all (and that reminds me of certain forumite).
He's vindictive in nature and his claim of having 'video' is probably a plot to keep an aura of fear presence over you.
I suppose cutting all form of contacts with him is wise. Meanwhile, never relent yourself just because he claims to have your 'video'. Each time you relent, you will appear like his ruse is working.
I wish you well.
Cheers
and i agree more that if i relent, he will think his ruse is working. therefore i can never relent.
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he called me the whole day. this time, i never reply his smses or phone calls.
sms me at 7 plus told me to check my mail. checked when i came home, there was nothing. another threat? to create discomfort in me?
called me several more times, i didnt pick up.
juz received a sms from him. "im goin to the police station now."
He is mad! what is he goin to threaten me with this time!? -
i m so glad i left him.
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kinda sad for him.