How do I stop hating someone?
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I know that we should love the sinner but hate the sin.
I keep telling myself that hating is wrong and we should just let go.
But when I see things that remind me of the the past, hate just consumes me.
Y can't I let go? I want to stop hating, its just too tiring -
uhhh.
take revenge den.
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What did that someone do?
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The more you try, the worse it gets. Just accept that you hate him. Just also know that sooner or later, the hate will go away.Originally posted by compadre:I know that we should love the sinner but hate the sin.
I keep telling myself that hating is wrong and we should just let go.
But when I see things that remind me of the the past, hate just consumes me.
Y can't I let go? I want to stop hating, its just too tiring
If you hate him and is not doing anything about it, then there is no problem right? It is all in your own head?
The other way is to examine why you hate him and whether it is justifiable to hate him to that extent. What did he do to make you hate him so?
Your head cannot be thinking of two things at a time. You cannot hate when you are thinking about some thing else. So everytime you think of him, force yourself to think of something else.
Better still, channel the hate into something positive. Hate can generate a lot of energy. Channel that energy into something positive. -
Channel all that Hate into ur Ku ku... Den U go Mast...sure shoot 10 feet into the air... LOL
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your life is only this short, how long do you want to spend it unhappy and hating someone/something.
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I know the feeling. There's someone I hate to the core as well
but thankfully it's okay once I focus on other things in my life. On the same principle, it might help you too......... Focus on living your own life the best u can. This will help u move away from the unpleasant things of the past trapping u there. The more you love living your present life, the less u will bother about anything unpleasant in the past......
Good luck!
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Someone once told me that since hating a person means recollecting his face, his deeds etc, it would mean that he is taking up your memory space. Ask urself if someone like him/her is worth u using up ur brain space.
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hmm, once i hated this fellow so much, the moment i think of him, i'd get very agitated.. had to consciously forgive him lor.. just keep forgiving him everytime i get mad, then dun get in contact with him. then ok liao..
now think of him won't get angry. -
Hate is like an ulcer, you are only causing harm to yourself while the other person lives their life merrily.
Give it time and try to let it go, but do not forget..if not you end up having mental probs like a certain forumnite.... -
Time heals.
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Hate is like an ulcer, you are only causing harm to yourself while the other person lives their life merrily.
Are you Refering to yourself ?
Give it time and try to let it go, but do not forget..if not you end up having mental probs like a certain forumnite.... -
i think as long as u r alive, u can never brush away all those bad memories other left in u. u can forgive but u cant forget one. try to focus on other stuffs and trust me, u need time. time will wash away all those for u. no point forcing urself.. TIME !!!
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dun force urself if u can't help it now.
perhaps wat u need is time..
time will probably lessen or erase the hatred. -
You love the people you hated before alot to hate them so much. If you have no feelings for them, you would not hate them so deep right? How to let go? It takes alot of patience and time. I learnt it slowly how to forgive someone I hated for 12 years.Originally posted by compadre:I know that we should love the sinner but hate the sin.
I keep telling myself that hating is wrong and we should just let go.
But when I see things that remind me of the the past, hate just consumes me.
Y can't I let go? I want to stop hating, its just too tiring
You should focus more on joyful things and happy stuffs. Slowly those will help you ease the hatred in you. -
Why is it ever wrong to hate........
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den live with it lor..Originally posted by compadre:I know that we should love the sinner but hate the sin.
I keep telling myself that hating is wrong and we should just let go.
But when I see things that remind me of the the past, hate just consumes me.
Y can't I let go? I want to stop hating, its just too tiring
or forget it...
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Wrong? What is "wrong"?Originally posted by missqi:Why is it ever wrong to hate........
Nesides, its more than juz "wrong" to hate. Its TIRING to hate. -
To stop hating is to stop wanting...
Most of the time when we hate someone, it is because we feel that we are somehow short changed. e.g. Like I gave you my love but you only give me this much blah blah blah. In the simplest of terms, it is an unfulfill expectation.
T ostop hating...simply stop hoping to fulfill that expectation and want nothing in return...Kan kai jiu xing le... -
yes you are right, i loved a lot before hating so muchOriginally posted by Bontakun:You love the people you hated before alot to hate them so much. If you have no feelings for them, you would not hate them so deep right? How to let go? It takes alot of patience and time. I learnt it slowly how to forgive someone I hated for 12 years.
You should focus more on joyful things and happy stuffs. Slowly those will help you ease the hatred in you. -
when u kill himOriginally posted by compadre:I know that we should love the sinner but hate the sin.
I keep telling myself that hating is wrong and we should just let go.
But when I see things that remind me of the the past, hate just consumes me.
Y can't I let go? I want to stop hating, its just too tiring -
I can hate and despise all i want...Its natural... Thats why i am striving to work or do well better than the person...
That is my revenge... -
Why waste energy getting mad? Get even or forget about it - life's too damned short to do anything else.
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WAh! Long time no see 'old man'!Originally posted by Callan:To stop hating is to stop wanting...
Most of the time when we hate someone, it is because we feel that we are somehow short changed. e.g. Like I gave you my love but you only give me this much blah blah blah. In the simplest of terms, it is an unfulfill expectation.
T ostop hating...simply stop hoping to fulfill that expectation and want nothing in return...Kan kai jiu xing le... -
You have to release that hate. Take up kickboxing or go to the gym. Channel all that hate feelings into energy in working out.
Easiest solution is to take old phone books that are big and heavy, and throw them repeatedly to release it.
It doesn't always help, but it allows a means to release it. You will feel better after. Only time can help remove that kind of feelings.