How do I stop hating someone?

• duotiga83

  29 Sep 06, 18:00

  Originally posted by compadre:

  I know that we should love the sinner but hate the sin.
  
  I keep telling myself that hating is wrong and we should just let go.
  
  But when I see things that remind me of the the past, hate just consumes me.
  
  Y can't I let go? I want to stop hating, its just too tiring

  forgive and forget
• d3sT1nY

  29 Sep 06, 18:20

  Hate no one.. For he who does something does it for a reason.. For himself or for others..
  
• Kouyou

  29 Sep 06, 19:12

  the more you keep on harping "i hate so and so" the more u are unable to let go. jus live your life to the fullest. then when suddenly some day u recall what happen, that is the day u totally forgotten about the whole thing.
• alvin-ncs

  30 Sep 06, 00:18

  Originally posted by duotiga83:

  forgive and forget

  
• fudgester

  30 Sep 06, 00:33

  There was this guy who bullied me a lot when I was in the army. And others would join him in the bullying for fear that he would target them as well.
  
  For some reason he hated me, and the reason was never clear to me.
  
  I hated the things he did, but I don't hate the guy at all. The way I see it, I'd rather just let his own hatred of me destroy himself. That's a whole lot better than me getting all worked up and agitated over him.
• mancha

  30 Sep 06, 01:36

  Originally posted by compadre:

  I know that we should love the sinner but hate the sin.
  
  I keep telling myself that hating is wrong and we should just let go.
  
  But when I see things that remind me of the the past, hate just consumes me.
  
  Y can't I let go? I want to stop hating, its just too tiring

  Control your thoughts.
  THOUGHTS -> RESPONSE = EMOTIONS.
  
  Your emotions are your response to your thoughts.
  
  Therefore happy thoughts = good feelings.
  Sad thoughts = sadness.
  
  Choose what you think the whole day.
  Focus on the rose, or think of the manure.
  
  Its your call.