A friend who always pang seh (Back out last min)
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Well, the best thing is to learn to accept that he will never turn up.
So make sure, you still invite him, but dont expect him to show up.
and when you move your group. dont tell him.
And try to hang out with cooler people.
Once, when he realised that the very very cool group is not missing him.
he will miss the group and maybe, just maybe show up.
otherwise, it may be that you group arent so cool, thats why he keeps avoiding your group. -
Time for a change.
Dump this friend.
With friends like this, who needs an enemy? Even an enemy behaves much better than he does.
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Actually, he does not look like a cool guy...he looks very sloppy, and he has a big fat tummy and always look very sleepy. And his attitude also very lazy, he always make empty promises too.Originally posted by viciouskitty74:Well, the best thing is to learn to accept that he will never turn up.
So make sure, you still invite him, but dont expect him to show up.
and when you move your group. dont tell him.
And try to hang out with cooler people.
Once, when he realised that the very very cool group is not missing him.
he will miss the group and maybe, just maybe show up.
otherwise, it may be that you group arent so cool, thats why he keeps avoiding your group. -
I believe so too...I really still cannot believe that there would be such irresponsible people around...Originally posted by -[0]-:Time for a change.
Dump this friend.
With friends like this, who needs an enemy? Even an enemy behaves much better than he does. -
leave him alone!
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Hmmm....maybe the best solution so far...Originally posted by sinicker:leave him alone! -
being cool is not justified by looks.Originally posted by JuanRomanRiquelme:Actually, he does not look like a cool guy...he looks very sloppy, and he has a big fat tummy and always look very sleepy. And his attitude also very lazy, he always make empty promises too.
what is important is. He is really not cool enough to be included in your group with his big azz attitude.
Drop that loser lah. -
There are tons of people who do that and this is probably the first you've met.
The REAL question is why are you so upset? Does it really matter if he doesn't turn up? -
i use to have such a friend, and its pretty annoying at times because she would be the one initiating the invites and when everything is confirmed, she would back out the last min leaving us 'blank'. it so happened she has been doing it alot of times and on her bday, everyone backed out on her last min/last hour lolx
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The problem is that, we would call him up, and he would agree on meeting. Then, at the designated time, if he never appears, we would somehow wait for him because he is always late. So after about 10mins or so, we would call him, but he would never pick up his hp or his house phone. We would msg him and he would not reply. Then after abt 45mins or so, when we finally tried getting to him, he would tell us that he is not coming or dun feel like coming etc...Doesn't even have the initiative to call us or even pick up his phone.Originally posted by kaister:There are tons of people who do that and this is probably the first you've met.
The REAL question is why are you so upset? Does it really matter if he doesn't turn up? -
good one man! did she learn her lesson anyway?Originally posted by orange88:i use to have such a friend, and its pretty annoying at times because she would be the one initiating the invites and when everything is confirmed, she would back out the last min leaving us 'blank'. it so happened she has been doing it alot of times and on her bday, everyone backed out on her last min/last hour lolx -
I empathise with your irritation. The feeling is as if you want to strangle him with your bare hands to wake up his freakin idea.Originally posted by JuanRomanRiquelme:The problem is that, we would call him up, and he would agree on meeting. Then, at the designated time, if he never appears, we would somehow wait for him because he is always late. So after about 10mins or so, we would call him, but he would never pick up his hp or his house phone. We would msg him and he would not reply. Then after abt 45mins or so, when we finally tried getting to him, he would tell us that he is not coming or dun feel like coming etc...Doesn't even have the initiative to call us or even pick up his phone.
I had friends like tat too. At least you had a cell phone now to call him
When my friends were late when I was young, we had to wait for them no matter what ... usually half a day gone with just waiting. 
Hope that makes you feel better.
But seriously, tell him about your gathering and straight in the face that you'll not wait for anyone beyond 10 mins. Make it loud and clear.
He's not on time, leave without him. Problem solved. -
I've gone through the times during sec sch when hp was not popular and agreeing on meetings were by word of mouth or through irc. He also ps us during those times too. Like what u said, usually wasted a few hrs waiting for him, sometimes even for outings which he initiated.Originally posted by kaister:I empathise with your irritation. The feeling is as if you want to strangle him with your bare hands to wake up his freakin idea.
I had friends like tat too. At least you had a cell phone now to call him When my friends were late when I was young, we had to wait for them no matter what ... usually half a day gone with just waiting.
Hope that makes you feel better. But seriously, tell him about your gathering and straight in the face that you'll not wait for anyone beyond 10 mins. Make it loud and clear.
He's not on time, leave without him. Problem solved.
He is not very serious also...sometimes we would tell him seriously to meet at a certain time, but he still comes late...maybe really have to take action like what u said lo... -
i doubt so, but she did realise and was 'more' concern. just dont worry too much, i emphatise your feelings as well but such people cannot be stopped?Originally posted by JuanRomanRiquelme:good one man! did she learn her lesson anyway?
in the future, just tell him once and if he shows up good, if he doesnt' just dont give a two shit about it alrights? you will feel much better!! -
+1Originally posted by mistyblue:stop inviting...
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This kind of people like ur friend, surely will get hell in NS
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Me too...Originally posted by Rock^Star:Luckily ur topic has those brackets, if not , i would think it's "bang sai".
Hmm, ur fren does not seem to treasure your company. -
we all already ord liaoz...he seems to be ok through the ns by the way he tells us...Originally posted by Texcoco II:This kind of people like ur friend, surely will get hell in NS
anyway, i remember last time he always kena tekan by his sispec OC for being blur and kena suan by his OC for his big tummy...but still i wonder how he even got into sispec with his kind of lazy attitude. -
I think when we start ignoring him, he would really learn his lessonOriginally posted by orange88:i doubt so, but she did realise and was 'more' concern. just dont worry too much, i emphatise your feelings as well but such people cannot be stopped?
in the future, just tell him once and if he shows up good, if he doesnt' just dont give a two shit about it alrights? you will feel much better!! -
i have frds liddat too..
i can't change them.
but i at least make them guilty conscience.. so at least they know tt they are in the wrong.. u feel better.
so make it work.
you have to be v v v angry.
and use all vulgairties u no on them.. trust me. a real frd will only feel apologetic.. since he's in the wrong.
and also. retribution is a must. -
haha...but this friend abit funny...he always not serious 1...whenever we scold him or what...he still does not know that he is in the wrong and always have that kind of "lalalalala" attitude... Scold vulgarities like machiam 1 ear go in, another ear go out...Originally posted by o-lua:i have frds liddat too..
i can't change them.
but i at least make them guilty conscience.. so at least they know tt they are in the wrong.. u feel better.
so make it work.
you have to be v v v angry.
and use all vulgairties u no on them.. trust me. a real frd will only feel apologetic.. since he's in the wrong.
and also. retribution is a must. -
I have Friends who think like that...But most of their times the outings or places they go...Are not the places i go....For example...KTV...I dont frequent those kinda places...Cos i dont go...or not my type...Sometimes i just feel as if i am being forced...Or people dont bother to understand me...or much less try to comprehend my actions...So they always throw these remarks at me, throw vulgarities at me...yup...Think about it....Sometimes its just the clash of cultures..I do things they dont...They do things i dont...