I need help.
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Originally posted by BrUtUs:theres alot of nice guys in this forums, give them a chance...
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Nice.Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:The problem doesn't lie with who HE is... but the uncertainty that you feel about who you are.
You appear to be confused and it has nothing to do with him. You are confused about the TYPE of person you want to be. You are not sure if you can accept his education level over the long term, you are not sure if you can stay with someone who is not ambitious enough to WANT to change his education level, and you are not sure enough of relationships enough in order to stick to one person. The problem doesn't lie with him or your parents at all.
And until you are sure about your value system - which will determine the type of partner you will stick with - then this confusion will remain. How to develop and maintain your value system? Get more friends, and through them gain a wider range of experiences by proxy and you will develop a better sense of what you want in your life and from your life.
As for now, just because you think about someone and care for someone, doesn't mean you need to have him as your bf. In fact, if you like someone enough to CARE deeply for him (and I am not even talking about love), then I think you shd do the decent thing to leave him alone until you sort out yourself.
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ORh, ok. I will buy a T-shirt and dump him next week.Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:The problem doesn't lie with who HE is... but the uncertainty that you feel about who you are.
You appear to be confused and it has nothing to do with him. You are confused about the TYPE of person you want to be. You are not sure if you can accept his education level over the long term, you are not sure if you can stay with someone who is not ambitious enough to WANT to change his education level, and you are not sure enough of relationships enough in order to stick to one person. The problem doesn't lie with him or your parents at all.
And until you are sure about your value system - which will determine the type of partner you will stick with - then this confusion will remain. How to develop and maintain your value system? Get more friends, and through them gain a wider range of experiences by proxy and you will develop a better sense of what you want in your life and from your life.
As for now, just because you think about someone and care for someone, doesn't mean you need to have him as your bf. In fact, if you like someone enough to CARE deeply for him (and I am not even talking about love), then I think you shd do the decent thing to leave him alone until you sort out yourself.
He'll be in camp for a whole week. And I only get to see him for 36 hours. Sadded. -
suddenly he becomes an angel while you become the devil.Originally posted by Quinsy:ORh, ok. I will buy a T-shirt and dump him next week.
He'll be in camp for a whole week. And I only get to see him for 36 hours. Sadded.
i prefer he dump you version ending. at least makes you pitiful.
But i guess nowadays girls dump guys is the trend. -
girls and guys have different reasons for wanting to leave their partner, I am not talking about the frequent changing of partner type of people, but just regular guys and girls.
I've known guys who had been unfaithful NUMEROUS times, who still doesn't want to break up with their poor deluded girlfriend. And amazingly, get really pissed off with her when she finally breaks up with him.
I have also known guys who are with girlfriends that seem insufferable to them, and completely incompatible, but for whatever reasons of their own, persist in dragging the relationship on and on until the girl 'dumps' them and she's a 'bitch to do that after all that I've put up with her." \
And of course the classic... 'i am waiting for her to break up with me'.... and usually will wait until he is well into another girl before the previous rship disintegrates.
These reasons I do not understand at all. If you can't love, respect a person, why would you still want to remain in a relationship with a person?? POssibly they don't want to be the 'bad person' in the relationship My guess is that many guys do not talk about their relationship with friends who would advise them when a relationship is not going the way it is supposed to go. With girls, the feedback of friends is often very important (again, let's count only well meaning, sincere friends). -
I left my heart in Seattle.
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WTF is that supposed to mean, Andy?Originally posted by XciteZ:suddenly he becomes an angel while you become the devil.
i prefer he dump you version ending. at least makes you pitiful.
But i guess nowadays girls dump guys is the trend.