Guys,would you go for a gal with lower qualifications?

• Marco_Simone

  5 Oct 06, 00:06

  Let's say you are a guy with an honours degree having a decent job in govt sector,would you consider a gal with only ITE?
  
  The guy's parents sorta mind coz their 2 kids all got uni degrees(1 already married to another degree holder) and want them to marry degree holders also.
• the Bear

  5 Oct 06, 00:09

  you love the girl or love her qualifications?
• M©+square

  5 Oct 06, 00:12

  Originally posted by Marco_Simone:

  Let's say you are a guy with an honours degree having a decent job in govt sector,would you consider a gal with only ITE?
  
  The guy's parents sorta mind coz their 2 kids all got uni degrees(1 already married to another degree holder) and want them to marry degree holders also.

  Your question implies two things.
  
  One is the guy's(general) perspective on qualification and status.
  
  Two is guy's parents come into play when they are concerned about getting their children married to a degree holder.
  
  ::: What has guy's perspective got to do with parent's concern?
  Unless what i'm reading is, Guy is pressured to think this way because of his parent's concern.
  If this is the case, then this guy is a sad case.
  
  But it's ok, this senario abounds everywhere.
  
  Cheers
• BrUtUs

  5 Oct 06, 00:17

  Originally posted by the Bear:

  you love the girl or love her qualifications?

  x2
  
  parents stuff is all crap... u r the one gng to be wif her for life, not them...
• 3strips

  5 Oct 06, 00:17

  I consider even she PSLE... what matters is the heart... if study till dunno what LVL but heart evil and bad... then no point also.
  
  Then if parent mind ... ask parent to marry the same level 1 lo. now what generation liao... still got parent think that way....
• StarPuppy

  5 Oct 06, 00:20

  Love her for who she is and not for her qualifications
  
  
• Ito_^

  5 Oct 06, 00:21

  i'll marry whoever i like! (and she like)
• pipipopo

  5 Oct 06, 00:25

  Originally posted by Marco_Simone:

  Let's say you are a guy with an honours degree having a decent job in govt sector,would you consider a gal with only ITE?
  
  The guy's parents sorta mind coz their 2 kids all got uni degrees(1 already married to another degree holder) and want them to marry degree holders also.

  I wanted to be serious and abide by the forum rules but i just have to take the risk of getting myself banned. If you do encounter such a thing let me know i will kill the parents for the affected party free of charge.
• dokono

  5 Oct 06, 00:25

  Originally posted by Marco_Simone:

  Let's say you are a guy with an honours degree having a decent job in govt sector,would you consider a gal with only ITE?
  
  The guy's parents sorta mind coz their 2 kids all got uni degrees(1 already married to another degree holder) and want them to marry degree holders also.

  Are you assuming the girl also loves you? For argument's sake, let's say it is. I guess it is understandable because when you guys get married, two people contributing income to the family household becomes very important.
  
  But then again, it is not an absolute to see her qualifications. If the girl has a desire to improve herself and constantly upgrade herself, I do not see a problem. Money is the bottomline. When the ITE girl earns more than you or becomes more successful, I should see the parents' trap shut up.
  
  The most important thing is whether she likes you a lot. The rest can then be considered later. Thus, when you guys get together, you can evaluate your own problems together in the later stages of the relationship and try to come up with solutions.
• Quinsy

  5 Oct 06, 00:30

  If I were the guy, and am able to afford to care for her, and truly love her, I would go for her.
• MS

  5 Oct 06, 01:02

  Her character weighs much much much more than her qualifications. BTW, if the girl needs a degree to land herself a post as your wife then I think you are not worth the risk to marry.
  
  Sorry if I may sound blunt.
• SGpork

  5 Oct 06, 01:07

  y not
  
  
  
  its not about qualification cert...u know
  
  
• #$%^&*

  5 Oct 06, 02:00

  Take and give loh.
  
  If she is pretty and kindhearted, why not?
  
  But maybe you need to consider whether you need double income.
• chillycraps

  5 Oct 06, 06:41

  maybe he's the kind who wants to please his parents as well? (sometimes it is hard to choose between being fillial son and good lover)
  
  IMO there's nothing wrong with being with someone with a lower qualification. (as a lot of problems in marriages nowadays has got to do with the high qualification females have)
• udontknowme

  5 Oct 06, 06:46

  i know my dad's parents HATE my mom cos my mom never went to uni.
  but my dad still married her
  your life or your parents life???
  your wife or your parents erm...(wife )
  
• FBI

  5 Oct 06, 06:57

  Originally posted by Marco_Simone:

  Let's say you are a guy with an honours degree having a decent job in govt sector,would you consider a gal with only ITE?
  
  The guy's parents sorta mind coz their 2 kids all got uni degrees(1 already married to another degree holder) and want them to marry degree holders also.

  i don care as long as we both lvoe each other, anyway i don like stupid gals
• Gedanken

  5 Oct 06, 06:58

  You looking to marry her or to hire her for a job?
  
  WTF? Why get an Honours degree if all one wants to do is follow Mummy and Daddy's instructions?
• MetalGear

  5 Oct 06, 10:29

  Originally posted by Marco_Simone:

  Let's say you are a guy with an honours degree having a decent job in govt sector,would you consider a gal with only ITE?
  
  The guy's parents sorta mind coz their 2 kids all got uni degrees(1 already married to another degree holder) and want them to marry degree holders also.

  1st Question you should ask is:
  Does it really matter to you? Does her qualifications matter or her personality and character more important?
  
  For me, I'm not concerned really about my girl's qualifications as I already see myself as the main breadwinner and she as my support pillar. (It's not about who is better or more important) But I really need a good support to see me thru the rest of my life just as I would be her support pillar. All I ask for is she's able to listen and understand me and steer me along the way.
  
  2nd Question you should ask is:
  How well can you convince your parents to accept the girl? Your parents are not wrong in thinking that way. You will think that same way for your own children. Because you want the best for your kids. And sometimes the word 'best' comes in many forms - qualifications being one of them. But the pressure in this situation is not as bad if it was in a reverse situation where the girl wants to marry a guy with lower qualifications.
  
  Most of the time, men marry down, women marry up. Parents will want to ensure that happens to the best of their ability. Which is why we have more n more single very qualified and career-successful women are finding it harder to find a suitable mate to settle down with.
  
  Cheers
• FireIce

  5 Oct 06, 10:31

  i think it's the other way.........
  
  guys mind gal with higher qualifications
• de_middle

  5 Oct 06, 12:04

  dun mind also cannot help it rite............................to many size matters more than education
• pwnz0r

  5 Oct 06, 12:21

  Honestly, quite hard to imagine myself going out with someone without a degree qualification.
• T.Ryousuke

  5 Oct 06, 13:28

  Originally posted by FireIce:

  i think it's the other way.........
  
  guys mind gal with higher qualifications

  Orh, then if the guy dun mind then is the gal who mind?
• R3SsH|n

  5 Oct 06, 13:36

  so its always the girl's problem....
• blu_sky

  5 Oct 06, 14:37

  Would there be communication problem if there is too great a difference in educational level, life and working experience?
• FireIce

  5 Oct 06, 14:56

  Originally posted by T.Ryousuke:

  Orh, then if the guy dun mind then is the gal who mind?

  i dun mind
  but i found alotta guys who mind....
  maybe is ego thing lah