How to please him?
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Gem is a non-living thing and cannot polish itselfOriginally posted by M©+square:I've told some of the forumites.
Some things i can help, i'll help.
Some things i can makan...i makan!!!
Nah, at end state. One have to realise their mistake like Ah Yun Ye Ye have mentioned and learn to polish into gems.
The fact is it takes another substance to polish a gem, a gem cannot polish itself.
If readers know what i mean?
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Apparently the TS has immersed herself in this state and thinks that that is what love is, like what Yun has said. I had been through that state during my younger days (though it is nothing compared to what TS is goin through) too. TS has to wake up herself. Hopefully when she has suffered enough pain, she will want to walk out of that state. For if she refuses to wake up, no one can wake her up.Originally posted by M©+square:I've told some of the forumites.
Some things i can help, i'll help.
Some things i can makan...i makan!!!
Nah, at end state. One have to realise their mistake like Ah Yun Ye Ye have mentioned and learn to polish into gems.
The fact is it takes another substance to polish a gem, a gem cannot polish itself.
If readers know what i mean?
All i can say to her is, Good luck and take care! -
As much as i hate to say this... that's the end babe... you have no friends!?!?! What kind of life is that?Originally posted by spink^gurl:its nt possible to leave him cos i nid him.. its so normal for us to meet everyday... after wrk..
he has also restrict mi to meet most of mi frends.... most of the galfrends alr lost contact.. cos he dun lyk...
*I want to faint... I cannot believe this...*
Please... I truly believe that you have whole-hearted thrown your entire self into this sensless relationship... But I am sure you know one thing's for sure... This isn't what a relationship is like.
When boy + girl get into a relationship... they will cherish each other... love each other... and do things that makes each other happy... and they will not HURT each other...
Maybe one day he will change... If you made up your mind to stick to that a**hole... I pray he will change for the better... If not, I hope he get choked on beancurd...
This is no way to treat a girl... and this is no way to treat yourself... you are a free being... you have the rights to be whoever and whatever you want to... with or without him... -
Maybe she kena *gong tao*?
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As a Metaphor, everyone have their value and worth.Originally posted by Devil1976:Gem is a non-living thing and cannot polish itself -
please him? You da slave ?
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im nt slave... pleasing him is nt be a slave mahs...Originally posted by mistyblue:please him? You da slave ?
no now i oni meet him or go work... nt much frends to meet with anyway, nt much places to goto anywayz..
yest he shouted at me in public.. if ani of euu r at amk central maybe saw us...
cos i was talking to a male colleague... we juz happens to see each other.. but he became so angry
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I know... Potential values and worth....Originally posted by M©+square:As a Metaphor, everyone have their value and worth.
I was just joking....
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I know.Originally posted by Devil1976:I know... Potential values and worth....
I was just joking....
Just for the sake of the rest who ask the same question -
spink^gurl I am amazed that u stood by your decision to be with him seriously
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tool doesn't equate to prostitue. tool actually means a guys penis in the american sense of the word.Originally posted by BabyTea:another word for tool is prostitute -
Seriously, GET OUT of this destructive relationship. It's causing harm to you and him pyschologically although you may not realise it.
In the future, he will be treating all ladies and possibly his children like this because you validate all his current actions.
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could self esteem of TS affect her decision ?
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Her decision making could be influenced by her past experience in life, social interaction and observation of others close to her.Originally posted by pqr:could self esteem of TS affect her decision ? -
How are these findings going to help her?
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Realizing that her past experience does not determine her future but her decision alone will determine her future, hopefully, she'll be aware and have the courage to choose to live a better life. You can't change the past, but you certainly can change the future.
Given the worst case scenarios of continuing the relationship versus getting out of the relationship, which price are you willing to pay? -
The problem is not with him; it's her.
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Your world practically revolves around him. You lead your life in a way that he wants you to. This is very sad. Even if both of you are romantically linked, individuals are entitled to choose his/her ways of living. You choose to give in to all his demands. You tolerate his anger which shamed you countless times in the public. Do you have a dignity? Maybe you need someone to knock some sense into you rather than teach you how to please him, because he cannot be please by you. You cannot please him because you cannot even please yourself or make yourself happy. Don't kid yourself by saying his happiness is your happiness. This is absolute mockery. Find your self-respect, seek your true happiness only then can you know the correct way to love him.
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We'll see how your words have helped her.Originally posted by moongster:Realizing that her past experience does not determine her future but her decision alone will determine her future, hopefully, she'll be aware and have the courage to choose to live a better life. You can't change the past, but you certainly can change the future.
Given the worst case scenarios of continuing the relationship versus getting out of the relationship, which price are you willing to pay?
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I just hope that after reading all the posts from everyone who posted, she will come to her senses.Originally posted by M©+square:We'll see how your words have helped her.
Ultimately, she has to help herself, or seek help from her family members or police even, if physical harm comes along. -
usually such situations, the person involved will not want to receive or accept help. They only want to rant and gripe .. so I save my saliva... she quite defensive
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x2Originally posted by mistyblue:usually such situations, the person involved will not want to receive or accept help. They only want to rant and gripe .. so I save my saliva... she quite defensive
Offer is extended to those willing to recieve.
Little could be done to those who made up their minds. -
So, I hope she made up her mind to lead a better life.Originally posted by M©+square:x2
Offer is extended to those willing to recieve.
Little could be done to those who made up their minds. -
yesterday was a bad day.. it seems lyk hes getting angry over de smallest tinks...
i read all the replies bt i cant breakup cos im so used to having him ard..
anyone even want to know why he slap mi at amk central? all of the replies here are like my colleague advice- split up~!
here y i got slap do i deserve it?
i went over to his hse after work, usually u have to call him once i finish work, then go. on tat day- when i met him i noe he was angry bcos of his attitidue on fone. he didnt sae anytink when i sae i miss him. we meet at amk near his hse the first qns when he walk over to mi( i was waiting for him) is have i been screwing ard? i gt abit lost den he said his privates are infected wif some white subtance at the 'head'. he juz stomp off after calling me b*tch. i follow him to the 24 hr clinic near jubilee. the clinic was crowded so he got more angry. i was there follow him everywhere- den he step out of e clinic cos e aircon spoil- he keep saying nothing is going rite when im around. he light his fag and seem to notice me fr e first time tat nite- begin to ask me and mi male colleague since we always haf lunch together. i was shock and sae we oni talk general tinks lyk work or music. then he tel mi to stop lying, walk over and slap mi as usual after he ask me to go hme he cal me ten mins later everytink was normal again he tel mi nt to make him angry again