How to please him?
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Okay. Think about this for a moment.
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i tink life will be boring wifout him... i dun haf much frends to meet anyway most lost contact i dun haf much places to goto anyway no frends to go wifOriginally posted by moongster:Okay. Think about this for a moment.
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jio me i accompany you ;pOriginally posted by spink^gurl:i tink life will be boring wifout him... i dun haf much frends to meet anyway most lost contact i dun haf much places to goto anyway no frends to go wif -
I do not blame bf. U are just plain stupid not to wake up. Do think yr parent raise u up!Originally posted by spink^gurl:i tink life will be boring wifout him... i dun haf much frends to meet anyway most lost contact i dun haf much places to goto anyway no frends to go wif -
You're learning fast...Originally posted by M©+square:I know.
Just for the sake of the rest who ask the same question
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We've already told you what to do...Originally posted by spink^gurl:yesterday was a bad day.. it seems lyk hes getting angry over de smallest tinks...
i read all the replies bt i cant breakup cos im so used to having him ard..
anyone even want to know why he slap mi at amk central? all of the replies here are like my colleague advice- split up~!
here y i got slap do i deserve it?
i went over to his hse after work, usually u have to call him once i finish work, then go. on tat day- when i met him i noe he was angry bcos of his attitidue on fone. he didnt sae anytink when i sae i miss him. we meet at amk near his hse the first qns when he walk over to mi( i was waiting for him) is have i been screwing ard? i gt abit lost den he said his privates are infected wif some white subtance at the 'head'. he juz stomp off after calling me b*tch. i follow him to the 24 hr clinic near jubilee. the clinic was crowded so he got more angry. i was there follow him everywhere- den he step out of e clinic cos e aircon spoil- he keep saying nothing is going rite when im around. he light his fag and seem to notice me fr e first time tat nite- begin to ask me and mi male colleague since we always haf lunch together. i was shock and sae we oni talk general tinks lyk work or music. then he tel mi to stop lying, walk over and slap mi
as usual after he ask me to go hme he cal me ten mins later everytink was normal again he tel mi nt to make him angry again
'Used to it' is not even a good excuse in this case...
SERIOUSLY asking you to OPT OUT from the relationship before the WORSE hits you...
ELSE... GOOD LUCK?
Though luck probably also won't be able to help you too much in your case... -
Come here more often.. Chat up and meet up with the groups in here...?Originally posted by spink^gurl:i tink life will be boring wifout him... i dun haf much frends to meet anyway most lost contact i dun haf much places to goto anyway no frends to go wif
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You're the BEST man... I cannot believe your reason... but you're the BEST man... *shakes head* I bet your mom will kill that a**hole if she knows he's been ill-treating you.Originally posted by spink^gurl:yesterday was a bad day.. it seems lyk hes getting angry over de smallest tinks...
i read all the replies bt i cant breakup cos im so used to having him ard..
anyone even want to know why he slap mi at amk central? all of the replies here are like my colleague advice- split up~!
here y i got slap do i deserve it?
i went over to his hse after work, usually u have to call him once i finish work, then go. on tat day- when i met him i noe he was angry bcos of his attitidue on fone. he didnt sae anytink when i sae i miss him. we meet at amk near his hse the first qns when he walk over to mi( i was waiting for him) is have i been screwing ard? i gt abit lost den he said his privates are infected wif some white subtance at the 'head'. he juz stomp off after calling me b*tch. i follow him to the 24 hr clinic near jubilee. the clinic was crowded so he got more angry. i was there follow him everywhere- den he step out of e clinic cos e aircon spoil- he keep saying nothing is going rite when im around. he light his fag and seem to notice me fr e first time tat nite- begin to ask me and mi male colleague since we always haf lunch together. i was shock and sae we oni talk general tinks lyk work or music. then he tel mi to stop lying, walk over and slap mi as usual after he ask me to go hme he cal me ten mins later everytink was normal again he tel mi nt to make him angry again
I don't think any of us can help you much. You need to see a shrink - a psychologist... I am not saying you are crazy...
YOU HAVE NO SELF-ESTEEM AT ALL. Which is a darn sad thing...
And please... tell me you are practicing safe sex.... IF you are not the only chick he's been screwing... you are only endangering yourself...
If you're my sister... I will report that a**hole to the police for hitting you... Babe... no matter what reasons, even if he's angry... there is no good reason for a man to hit a woman...
Till you STOP finding excuses for him... you will always be trapped... and you chose to trap yourself, it's YOUR CHOICE... thinking you cannot do without him... I won't tell you to leave him... cos you'd probably end up with another a**hole who treats you even worse than the current a**hole... -
I don't fully understand your intention of sharing your problem here since you have no intention of taking on our advice. Don't think anyone with any common sense will tell you what you want to hear (i.e. to stay with your bf) if that's what you are hoping for.Originally posted by spink^gurl:yesterday was a bad day.. it seems lyk hes getting angry over de smallest tinks...
i read all the replies bt i cant breakup cos im so used to having him ard..
anyone even want to know why he slap mi at amk central? all of the replies here are like my colleague advice- split up~!
here y i got slap do i deserve it?
i went over to his hse after work, usually u have to call him once i finish work, then go. on tat day- when i met him i noe he was angry bcos of his attitidue on fone. he didnt sae anytink when i sae i miss him. we meet at amk near his hse the first qns when he walk over to mi( i was waiting for him) is have i been screwing ard? i gt abit lost den he said his privates are infected wif some white subtance at the 'head'. he juz stomp off after calling me b*tch. i follow him to the 24 hr clinic near jubilee. the clinic was crowded so he got more angry. i was there follow him everywhere- den he step out of e clinic cos e aircon spoil- he keep saying nothing is going rite when im around. he light his fag and seem to notice me fr e first time tat nite- begin to ask me and mi male colleague since we always haf lunch together. i was shock and sae we oni talk general tinks lyk work or music. then he tel mi to stop lying, walk over and slap mi as usual after he ask me to go hme he cal me ten mins later everytink was normal again he tel mi nt to make him angry again
We can only give you what we believe it's best for you but at the end of the day you are the only one who can help yourself. Your future rests in your own hands.... you have 2 choices - to make it better by splitting up with your self-centred bf or to ruin the rest of your life by continuing your relationship with your self-centred bf. The choice is yours. You have a bright future ahead of you and please don't ruin it. If you don't have any friends, come on, I am happy to be your friend and I believe there are many out there would be happy to give you the support you need.
If you choose to continue with the relationship, like one of the forummers metnioned, I hope you are practising safe sex otherwise you are putting your own health at risk and even your children one day.
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Many who post in AA just want to voice out their feelings.
They're not ready to accept advises. -
Oh is that so?? Sorry... I am still new here.Originally posted by M©+square:Many who post in AA just want to voice out their feelings.
They're not ready to accept advises.
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Hmm, try again. List down the improvements in life that you will have after you break up with your abusive bf.Originally posted by spink^gurl:i tink life will be boring wifout him... i dun haf much frends to meet anyway most lost contact i dun haf much places to goto anyway no frends to go wif
On the part of friends, you could initiate meeting them again. For starter, contact friends who are close to you previously, meet up for tea, or watch movie, chat. It is important to get your friends' and family members' support. -
Hmmz...
i just saw this thread but i had only read the start post and this page.
notice the topic title
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dun scroll first, look at the title
no wonder we cant get through to her
u can please him by buying him some fruits since he got a fungus on his d*ck, then cook him some porridge. if he wants a threesome dun reject
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Pls la girl. Stop dreaming, have some self-esteem. Hate to say this, but it's no wonder he thinks u're a sad desperate hooker.. u're certainly letting urself get treated like one!
If u think that's all u're gonna ever get in life, then that IS all u're ever gonna get in life. U realli wanna wait until u appear on TNP front page "woman forced to eat dogsh*t and beaten to death by bf - bf says 'she ask for it'"
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You mean he give you more than 10 dollarlast time ?? u come to me i will give u 12 dollar . haha ...... maybe ur pussy starts to have fishy smell liao .Originally posted by spink^gurl:im currently in tis relationship for 2 plus years. He calls me a bitch, never pay on dates, leaves when im late.
He doesnt work and is waiting for enlistment. I work as a temp admin and most of the salary gets "borrowed".
Once when i was waiting for him at mac's (he doesnt like me to be later than me, i saw him approaching from a distance and tried to 'seduce' him by opening my legs and showing him 'that'.
He walk over and slapped me in the face, stomped off. Later he called me and told me to go to his house. we had sex but i didnt enjoy it. he was rough and didnt use a condom. After that he gave me 10 dollars and tell me to take a cab home.
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No worries.Originally posted by honeymouse:Oh is that so?? Sorry... I am still new here.
Like your post though, just to let you know. Some threadstarter are specifically doing selective readings.
So when you see the trend, it's up to you to advice.
One more thing, if threadstarter's intention to post is questionable.
Most likely - it's normal.
Welcome and enjoy your stay in Aunt Agony.
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I see that sometimes you give up giving advice because of frustration..Originally posted by M©+square:No worries.
Like your post though, just to let you know. Some threadstarter are specifically doing selective readings.
So when you see the trend, it's up to you to advice.
One more thing, if threadstarter's intention to post is questionable.
Most likely - it's normal.
Welcome and enjoy your stay in Aunt Agony.
Cheers -
Originally posted by dokono:I see that sometimes you give up giving advice because of frustration.. I don't disagree with you.v
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Originally posted by spinsugar:
i stayed overnite at his hse e whole weekend, im so sad he juz sae he wan to go out and ask me to dress up and get a cab hme. didnt even lemme shower.. keep sae its too late..
Pls la girl. Stop dreaming, have some self-esteem. Hate to say this, but it's no wonder he thinks u're a sad desperate hooker.. u're certainly letting urself get treated like one!
If u think that's all u're gonna ever get in life, then that [b]IS all u're ever gonna get in life. U realli wanna wait until u appear on TNP front page "woman forced to eat dogsh*t and beaten to death by bf - bf says 'she ask for it'" [/b]
i tinks he wont ask mi to eat dog poo, i know he wun. im nt a hooker. i juz want a good bf to acc me, tok to me, make me happi, y is tat so veri hard?
to all the ppl who scold mi, happy life to u all, go lead ur happy lifes, thanks! i tink im going to end my life soon the den i tink ur comment is horrible, y do i haf to login and c all tis he wun pickup my cal, he wun answer my sms, his mum scold mi when i cal his hse -
Think about this for a moment.Originally posted by spink^gurl:i stayed overnite at his hse e whole weekend, im so sad he juz sae he wan to go out and ask me to dress up and get a cab hme. didnt even lemme shower.. keep sae its too late..
i tinks he wont ask mi to eat dog poo, i know he wun. im nt a hooker. i juz want a good bf to acc me, tok to me, make me happi, y is tat so veri hard?
to all the ppl who scold mi, happy life to u all, go lead ur happy lifes, thanks! i tink im going to end my life soon the den i tink ur comment is horrible, y do i haf to login and c all tis he wun pickup my cal, he wun answer my sms, his mum scold mi when i cal his hse
Doing something over and over again in the same manner will result in the same outcome. In this case, staying with your bf and continue to be abused will not change the state of your current relationship.
Your bf will not change, otherwise, he would have done so already. So, do not expect anything to change if you continue to cling on.
Only if you break up with him, you will be able to find a good bf, who will accept you and make you happy. You will not have to put up with his abuse.
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spink^gurl ,
I was shock to read what you went thru.
I speak for every man here in the forum, If a guy truly loves his women, no matter how angry, would never slap or get physically abusive.
Both of you are not even married, & he can treat you this way??
I'm not saying he's wrong. You also plays a part in condoning his behaviour, why did you give yourself to him readily?? You cheapen yourself.
You have lost all self-respect in his eyes & nothing's gonna change that.
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I won't dare to say that.Originally posted by Magnus:I speak for every man here in the forum, If a guy truly loves his women, no matter how angry, would never slap or get physically abusive.
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Hmm.Originally posted by spink^gurl:i stayed overnite at his hse e whole weekend, im so sad he juz sae he wan to go out and ask me to dress up and get a cab hme. didnt even lemme shower.. keep sae its too late..
i tinks he wont ask mi to eat dog poo, i know he wun. im nt a hooker. i juz want a good bf to acc me, tok to me, make me happi, y is tat so veri hard?
to all the ppl who scold mi, happy life to u all, go lead ur happy lifes, thanks! i tink im going to end my life soon the den i tink ur comment is horrible, y do i haf to login and c all tis he wun pickup my cal, he wun answer my sms, his mum scold mi when i cal his hse
If you need more help, pls PM me your HP contact number. -
I won't totally agree...Originally posted by M©+square:Many who post in AA just want to voice out their feelings.
They're not ready to accept advises.
Often it takes time....? -
Which i've specifically mentioned. They are not ready.Originally posted by Devil1976:I won't totally agree...
Often it takes time....?
Which leaves possiblity of them accepting advices at later stage?