Well, I think the gf has a deeper relationship with the cyclist who fell. She is just adopting the expressions of how a mother in this culture would tell a child when he hurts himself. The colleague is more on the outer rim of the relationship. Also, you must take into account gender, if there are difference in age etc to determine which response is 'sincere'. But I think this is not the crux of the issue....the cyclist is just concerning about himself and hopes or wish to find out which others will concern extra much or to come to his help when he is in trouble. In other words, insecure or wish to test commitments but can be very possessive types; beware of mother complex. they use that as a gauge to see whom to trust, can be close to them. maybe one should learn to express concern when necessary than to be concerned. in society, our lives and relationships have changed rapidly such that those e.g. old feelings that are applicable from your parents generations, may seem inappropriate today. best is stand on your own, dont be so soft and be responsible for yourself....and don't carry a phone when you don't need to especially sports. being contactable all the time would only mean more relationship woes
why can we not have private time and need a phone 24 hours a day to bug one unless they are salesman or need it for their jobs? this is one of the main culprit of distractions (and accidents)
Originally posted by LetterboxMind:
It's quite obvious only one person showed more concern for you.
And i believe your definition of "close colleague" means something more...
The answer is clear...
