28 tips to a happy relationship
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I dunno actually. I cant remember oso, but its been circulated for quite some time.Originally posted by coppertonered:Yah rite... Not experiencing it will be navie & ignorant... But watz about the email you guyz toking?
In anycase, the 28 tips can be very helpful. Spidey! You can post it in the Dating Tips Forum oso.
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Cross-posting?Originally posted by Bontakun:I dunno actually. I cant remember oso, but its been circulated for quite some time.
In anycase, the 28 tips can be very helpful. Spidey! You can post it in the Dating Tips Forum oso. -
wow, tats so nice n considerate of u.Originally posted by ^spidee^:I dunno if it's really her words cos I can't seem to find them on Google. So I didn't mention it in the thread's title. Hmmm, I feel that some of these tips do teach women how to prevent themselves from getting hurt.
but sad to say, when anyone of us here get madly in love with one, all those tips dun visualise anymore coz love is blind.
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basically homo dun have, coz the bond would be so strong tat u will never want to hurt the other party, esp for gals. we are known to be very emotional creatures.Originally posted by missqi:Where is the homosexual version?
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How come always see tips for women to becareful of this jerk and that jerk.Originally posted by dokono:These tips do teach women to be careful. Careful from those jerks. But majority of guys are ok and it is not helping their cause for a healthy r/s.
how come seldom see tips for men to be careful of this bitch or that bitch?
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Exactly...my point.Originally posted by digicharat:How come always see tips for women to becareful of this jerk and that jerk.
how come seldom see tips for men to be careful of this bitch or that bitch?
Anyway, the tips are from that Oprah. It is very pro-women. It teaches women to be suspicious of all men. On the flipside, men can learn these as well to protect themselves.
The point is, as long as we continue to suspect each other, there will never be a healthy r/s. -
More like "28 Tips to Hen-Peck Your Man".
If either party (man or woman) were to begin a r/s with such cynicism and suspicion, no good will come out of it. Might as well remain single.
True, dating is harsh and people get hurt. But what's the point of following a set of "rules", or any rules for that matter, just to ensure your heart doesn't get broken?
Am i making sense? No? Ok, let me put it this way.
I feel that love should be simple. In reality it may not always so, but we should still strive to love without demanding anything more or less from the other one.
Oh sheesh. The bad ones really spoil it all for the rest of us. -
hmmm simple when u forgo the one u like n loveOriginally posted by matchless:More like "28 Tips to Hen-Peck Your Man".
If either party (man or woman) were to begin a r/s with such cynicism and suspicion, no good will come out of it. Might as well remain single.
True, dating is harsh and people get hurt. But what's the point of following a set of "rules", or any rules for that matter, just to ensure your heart doesn't get broken?
Am i making sense? No? Ok, let me put it this way.
I feel that love should be simple. In reality it may not always so, but we should still strive to love without demanding anything more or less from the other one.
Oh sheesh. The bad ones really spoil it all for the rest of us.
after u knew it may b impossible--- sad huh -
those which i highlighted.. it somehow gives me the feeling that you have some unpleasant memories of the past which made you came up with this 28 tipsOriginally posted by ^spidee^:1. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
2. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
3. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
4. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better.
5. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
6. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
7. Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
8. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
9. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
10. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
11. Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
12. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.
13. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
14. You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
15. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
16. Never let a man define who you are.
17. Never borrow someone else's man.
18. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
19. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
20. All men are NOT dogs.
21. You should not be the one doing all the b ending ...compromise is a two way street.
22. You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
23. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
24. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
25. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.
26. Never move into his mother's house.
27. Never co-sign for a man.
28. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
the 3 which i highlighted, i personally think and feel. if there's no trust, have to put a leash on the guy , no point, keeping with in radar is the same as in treating a person as a pet (regardless of gender)
you have yet to see or come to know of some guys which are happy to let their gfs know more ppl regardless of gender, as long as each other happy can liao, just not seeing or borrowing another person's man/ lady, is something like well...sometimes maybe only that party understands. like best pals once before so ya..
not all guys are like that, some gals also do that, but only when driven to the wall. I only can say maybe half the guys tell or threaten ladies la, so it's up the ladies' six sense to sense if you trust the right person or not. -
For unconditional love, get a puppy.
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Can anyone guess why I posted this in Aunt Agony rather than Dating Tips?
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What? You mean it's a joke? It's not real? NOOooooo .....Originally posted by ^spidee^:Can anyone guess why I posted this in Aunt Agony rather than Dating Tips? -
If it's a joke, it would be in Joke Forum.Originally posted by matchless:What? You mean it's a joke? It's not real? NOOooooo ..... -
i do agree with you so much on this point, so much men bashing here,Originally posted by digicharat:How come always see tips for women to becareful of this jerk and that jerk.
how come seldom see tips for men to be careful of this bitch or that bitch?
agreed that they are men who give us a bad name, how about the man who suffers too ? Just because we dont complain doesnt mean we dont exist
love is a two way street,both parties also stand to lose in any bad situation,
many man suffer too in this game of love,
there are even man who are foolish enough to take their lives because of love
so give us a break....we need some loving too!
"searching for mr perfect will only find you mr gay, well at least they can cook!" -
For me to read?Originally posted by ^spidee^:Can anyone guess why I posted this in Aunt Agony rather than Dating Tips? 
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Tell meeeeeeeeee.....Originally posted by ^spidee^:Can anyone guess why I posted this in Aunt Agony rather than Dating Tips?
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Think I've already seen these tips in sgforums before and I commented it then also. Or maybe I'm wrong, might have been a different forum. In any case, this thing is pretty extreme in nature and advocates male bashing as if all men were bad.
Like someone has said, it advocates the notion to distrust all guys and quite honestly, if a relationship is going to be based on the above rules, I seriously doubt the relationship would work out.
The thing about all this extreme feminism, they think they're doing good by being so anti-men, but really they're more trouble than anything. -
The reason why I posted this in Aunt Agony and not in Dating tips is because I feel that these tips are not universally applicable to all women in relationships, but mainly the ones that display problems such as infidelity or excessive male chauvinism
(this is subjective). I agree that not all guys are as described in the tips.
Perhaps I should have posted a disclaimer that proclaims that this post is not a male-bashing post, and I apologise for any misunderstanding caused. -
It's okie, WE BASH YOU 1ST!!Originally posted by ^spidee^:The reason why I posted this in Aunt Agony and not in Dating tips is because I feel that these tips are not universally applicable to all women in relationships, but mainly the ones that display problems such as infidelity or excessive male chauvinism (this is subjective). I agree that not all guys are as described in the tips.
Perhaps I should have posted a disclaimer that proclaims that this post is not a male-bashing post, and I apologise for any misunderstanding caused.
Anyway, apology ACCEPTED. But STILL HAVE TO BASH!!! <> -
Ok, 1-on-1 on the basketball court.Originally posted by Devil1976:It's okie, WE BASH YOU 1ST!!
Anyway, apology ACCEPTED. But STILL HAVE TO BASH!!! <>