how do u know if he's true?
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im 18 and he's 25.
sometimes the age gap realy seems to be abit of problem. whenever i get angry (which is V V V V seldom), he will say that i am a xiao mei mei. so what does a men at 25 wants from women? Love? care? concern? understanding? i really do not know.
and he's has a uper super messy past sexual life. has loads of flings before and is a divorced. how do i know if i am different from those flings? the only thing that assures me now is the fact that he spent almost all his time w me and takes good care of me. at least i know he dun have time for other girls. he tld me he's 25 already and he wants to settle down. i really feel very very insecure. but i do not dare to voice out cos he will start his "xiao mei mei" thingy again..
MEN.. what do u all want from women? how i wish i can open his heart now and see what hes thinkig inside. i really need advice from u peeps. esp a the Men here. cos i just stepped out of a relationship and do not wish to waste my time on another unsincere one. i have no time for flings. im true to him and i wish to know if he's the same towards me. -
i wan a girl who can keep me company.
some guys like girls once awhile, and hope they disappear for the rest of the time.
my point is, like girls, or anyone, there are alot of people out there with different demands. despite all the opinions you might read in the thread, noone will really knows except himself.
i'd wish i can say "talk to him", but im not good at it either. -
Originally posted by Ito_^:
that is soooo like him. he wants me to be his company. but there are sometimes when he doesn't need me, he can MIA (as in dun call or sms, but will still pick up my calls la). and i normally will jus MIA too.. in case he finds me irritating.. is this wise?
[b]i wan a girl who can keep me company.
some guys like girls once awhile, and hope they disappear for the rest of the time.
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Yes this is good. Don't be too attached. Have some space. Love is about respect and giving space to each other. Don't be too clingy. If you two ever want to settle for a long-term commitment, there's no reason to keep seeing everyday. See bit by bit, it's good for the r/s.Originally posted by silent_lamb:that is soooo like him. he wants me to be his company. but there are sometimes when he doesn't need me, he can MIA (as in dun call or sms, but will still pick up my calls la). and i normally will jus MIA too.. in case he finds me irritating.. is this wise?
It is true he does not need you and so does you. All because you are insecure. You need to get a grip on yourself first. -
my advice:
It breaks your heart to see the one u love happy with someone else
but
it's more painful to know that the one u love is
unhappy with u -
He's the kind of man your mother warned you about.
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u are 18, he's 25.
He wanna settle
What do you want?
Don't kid yourself. -
i wanna settle too.Originally posted by mistyblue:u are 18, he's 25.
He wanna settle
What do you want?
Don't kid yourself.
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girls will always be girls, CONTRADICTORY.
silent_lamb - ur nick alone tells me that ur meek.
- ur post shows that u are soft-hearted and indecisive.
What i can say is: A (horny) leopard never changes its spots.
U like ur bf very much and came here with the mentality of changing him. Often, gd advice in a case like yours falls on deaf ears. -
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right.Originally posted by silent_lamb:i wanna settle too.
At my age, I sill wanna have fun.
but if you don't mind, and you must find a way to tell him your concerns and work it out together. Whatever decision you make about the R/s, you will bear the consequence. -
Im willing to listen. i won't continue if he's not true. i dun wanna waste my time on someone who doesn't love me.Originally posted by Rock^Star:girls will always be girls, CONTRADICTORY.
silent_lamb - ur nick alone tells me that ur meek.
- ur post shows that u are soft-hearted and indecisive.
What i can say is: A (horny) leopard never changes its spots.
U like ur bf very much and came here with the mentality of changing him. Often, gd advice in a case like yours falls on deaf ears.
but the problem now is, how do i know if he's true? -
agree. I already wash hands and put up disclaimer.Originally posted by Rock^Star:girls will always be girls, CONTRADICTORY.
silent_lamb - ur nick alone tells me that ur meek.
- ur post shows that u are soft-hearted and indecisive.
What i can say is: A (horny) leopard never changes its spots.
U like ur bf very much and came here with the mentality of changing him. Often, gd advice in a case like yours falls on deaf ears.
Anyways. Its her life. I cannot be bothered -
hi there,Originally posted by mistyblue:agree. I already wash hands and put up disclaimer. Anyways. Its her life. I cannot be bothered
i am listening to everyone here.
u dun have to be so mean. if u can't be bothered, dun reply. -
Men by nature, are stray. Those who have managed to keep themselves in line, have not had it easy.Originally posted by silent_lamb:Im willing to listen. i won't continue if he's not true. i dun wanna waste my time on someone who doesn't love me.
but the problem now is, how do i know if he's true?
One can kick a smoking or drug habit but not a horny habit. He could have told his previous gf that he wanted to settle down too.
Think abt it. Once horny, always horny. Especially for men. -
you made your choice already. Even if he is not true, you already made your choice. So why do you even bother to ask.
You know, that's why he called you childish. Because your question is quite annoying. -
Don't just suspect him lar. You like him and you suspect him. If you do, then don't commit to him. So as I have said, don't cling on to him. Learn to be satisfied can liao.Originally posted by silent_lamb:hi there,
i am listening to everyone here.
u dun have to be so mean. if u can't be bothered, dun reply. -
dun worry abt mistyblue, he means well.Originally posted by silent_lamb:hi there,
i am listening to everyone here.
u dun have to be so mean. if u can't be bothered, dun reply.
we have seen so many girls who come to aunt agony and complain, like yourself. when we tell them what's right, they think otherwise. It's human nature, we hear what we want to hear.
Nvm mistyblue, we shd still help but within our limitations of course. -
what right do u have to say that?Originally posted by mistyblue:you made your choice already. Even if he is not true, you already made your choice. So why do you even bother to ask.
You know, that's why he called you childish. Because your question is quite annoying.
i alr said i am prepared to let go once i know how he actually feels.
pls do not put words into my mouth.
whether i am chidish or mature is my own prob. -
Internet by its nature is full of information. Full of people's 1001 opinions, Full of gabage, full of funny things and even full of gems.
A lot of people selectively look out for information to alley their decisions even if the information might be misleading, false or whatever so it be.
Internet is for people to make causal remarks and make any sort of remarks without any responsibility.
Internet is full of half a story and half truths or twisted truths. The whole stroy never comes out, nor are anyone of us fully aware of the situation and can advice to 100%. Therefore relying on such advice has its risk and the person who choose to take it bears the consequence.
So as I said, and I would agree, you can be annoying because there is no answer to your question. If you have doubts, no one here can solve it 100 % because we are not you and your information might be twisted to give a certain kind of response. -
i understand that i am the only one who can help myself the best. that's why i wanna listen to the diff opinions here and make myself see things in other perspective. i do not want to live in my own world, seeing things in my own way, cos i may be wrong. i do not want to be blinded by love, that's why i need advise.
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you get upset for what? You can only hear good things meh? Then you are not ready for a lot of things especially in married life.Originally posted by silent_lamb:what right do u have to say that?
i alr said i am prepared to let go once i know how he actually feels.
pls do not put words into my mouth.
whether i am chidish or mature is my own prob.
That's why you are not rational. Any advice will be thrown aside except those you think is going to "help" and you think that by doing "all those prove", you will feel more assured about your R/S. But all the prove in the world is nothing if there is just that little doubt in your mind eating away at your heart. You will always "torture" him with endless questions that's why he thinks you are xiao mei mei. Actually you are too young for him. -
18 year old nia....at that age, they still are not ready to take responsibility. thats why come here to try to find people to support her childishness.Originally posted by mistyblue:Internet by its nature is full of information. Full of people's 1001 opinions, Full of gabage, full of funny things and even full of gems.
A lot of people selectively look out for information to alley their decisions even if the information might be misleading, false or whatever so it be.
Internet is for people to make causal remarks and make any sort of remarks without any responsibility.
Internet is full of half a story and half truths or twisted truths. The whole stroy never comes out, nor are anyone of us fully aware of the situation and can advice to 100%. Therefore relying on such advice has its risk and the person who choose to take it bears the consequence.
So as I said, and I would agree, you can be annoying because there is no answer to your question. If you have doubts, no one here can solve it 100 % because we are not you and your information might be twisted to give a certain kind of response.
If she was any smarter, she would have got that guy to sponsor her on some educational course and keep herself busy instead of thinking of all these nonsense.
She will see the sense, once she realised that men only know how to spend big money on other people but not herself when he takes her for granted. -
There is no test for love except time.
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people are being harsh here becos so many don't want to listen to gd advice.
we're not saying u though.
u can't test ur bf at all with qns. he can lie. u can't test him simply becos he's nice to u. and u can;t test him when he's already screwed another gal.
same advice: once horny always horny. look for someone better. so many guys out there