Someone enlighten me...
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For 20 years of my life, i have see many girls, many type of them, my defination of a "nice" girl is someone who is faithful, have good moral values, doesn't smoke , drinks or club.. doesn't look for fling or ons.. its someone ppl would call a decent girl or a wife-material.. and she don't have to look very pretty or have the body shape of a model.. just average is fine.. is my expectation too high ? i was hoping to have my special someone like this because i am able to fulfill those quality myself.. my problem is that i'm quite shy to girl..
but i just can't find her.. all the girls nowadays like to club, i guess people my age simply go for "fling" and "ons". they aren't willing to commit anyway.. or some girls that are really decent looking, but are really out to waste ur time or trying to get atttention and benefits from you when they already are attached or already have someone else as a target .. i was played once.. she think its nothing wrong about it cause i fall for her myself.. maybe its all my fault. but forget about all that..
"Nice girl" are all attached or they had already fallen for someone else, ironically its always the jerks get them.. my defination of "jerks" is .. someone who always club, flirtly, 2 timer, ABA, cheaters, insenstive ppl, etc.. i'm not saying i'm very nice but at least i know i will treat a girl better and truefully..
i have heard ppl telling me that "Nobody is perfect".. i was wondering if my expectation too high.. true love make u accept the other person.. is it true? does that mean we should go into relationship with a girl with such character? i don't want to because i know it would never last and bound to bring problems and pain to each other.. moreover things would become very complicated..
am i wrong? is my expectation too high?? should i open up and learn to accept others ?? does the problems lie with me..? -
I think you gotta warm up a little bit. Nice guys don't get the nicer girls ya know.
Let's not generalize the meaning of "nice" or "jerk".
It's the guys who don't really treat women TOO nice that score well with them. You gotta break free from that mentality of treating girls the nice way before she thinks of you as only a friend and nothing more.
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well i dont club, dont smoke, dont really drink, stay at home after work. so there you go. maybe you're in the wrong crowd. not all girls club or have flings.
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i want to get married, not get drunk.
so.. i dun think ur expectation is high.
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I think you placed your focus in life too strongly in chasing girls. This so-caled love thing is just a like a game. Don't take it too seriously. Coz if you are too serious you are gonna suffer. Getting attached doesn't mean you conquered the world. Getting attached means you are sharing your happiness with some lucky girl in your own world. Well, that's my definition.Originally posted by nerfz:For 20 years of my life, i have see many girls, many type of them, my defination of a "nice" girl is someone who is faithful, have good moral values, doesn't smoke , drinks or club.. doesn't look for fling or ons.. its someone ppl would call a decent girl or a wife-material.. and she don't have to look very pretty or have the body shape of a model.. just average is fine.. is my expectation too high ? i was hoping to have my special someone like this because i am able to fulfill those quality myself.. my problem is that i'm quite shy to girl..
but i just can't find her.. all the girls nowadays like to club, i guess people my age simply go for "fling" and "ons". they aren't willing to commit anyway.. or some girls that are really decent looking, but are really out to waste ur time or trying to get atttention and benefits from you when they already are attached or already have someone else as a target .. i was played once.. she think its nothing wrong about it cause i fall for her myself.. maybe its all my fault. but forget about all that..
"Nice girl" are all attached or they had already fallen for someone else, ironically its always the jerks get them.. my defination of "jerks" is .. someone who always club, flirtly, 2 timer, ABA, cheaters, insenstive ppl, etc.. i'm not saying i'm very nice but at least i know i will treat a girl better and truefully..
i have heard ppl telling me that "Nobody is perfect".. i was wondering if my expectation too high.. true love make u accept the other person.. is it true? does that mean we should go into relationship with a girl with such character? i don't want to because i know it would never last and bound to bring problems and pain to each other.. moreover things would become very complicated..
am i wrong? is my expectation too high?? should i open up and learn to accept others ?? does the problems lie with me..?
When you see that this world has much more to offer than just girls, you will not place too much importance on them. -
haha, another 'nice guy'....
aren't we all... -
Your expectation is not high, just that you still have not seen ALL of the whole picture. Never be in a fix looking for that person. Focus on what you want to do first and other things will come naturally. Fustratingly look for it and it will evade you at all cost.Originally posted by nerfz:For 20 years of my life, i have see many girls, many type of them, my defination of a "nice" girl is someone who is faithful, have good moral values, doesn't smoke , drinks or club.. doesn't look for fling or ons.. its someone ppl would call a decent girl or a wife-material.. and she don't have to look very pretty or have the body shape of a model.. just average is fine.. is my expectation too high ? i was hoping to have my special someone like this because i am able to fulfill those quality myself.. my problem is that i'm quite shy to girl..
but i just can't find her.. all the girls nowadays like to club, i guess people my age simply go for "fling" and "ons". they aren't willing to commit anyway.. or some girls that are really decent looking, but are really out to waste ur time or trying to get atttention and benefits from you when they already are attached or already have someone else as a target .. i was played once.. she think its nothing wrong about it cause i fall for her myself.. maybe its all my fault. but forget about all that..
"Nice girl" are all attached or they had already fallen for someone else, ironically its always the jerks get them.. my defination of "jerks" is .. someone who always club, flirtly, 2 timer, ABA, cheaters, insenstive ppl, etc.. i'm not saying i'm very nice but at least i know i will treat a girl better and truefully..
i have heard ppl telling me that "Nobody is perfect".. i was wondering if my expectation too high.. true love make u accept the other person.. is it true? does that mean we should go into relationship with a girl with such character? i don't want to because i know it would never last and bound to bring problems and pain to each other.. moreover things would become very complicated..
am i wrong? is my expectation too high?? should i open up and learn to accept others ?? does the problems lie with me..?
True love... its more than just accepting the person despite differences. I won't go into there. Just be patient and hold true to yourself. Be yourself naturally and when your patience finally paid off, you will see the beauty of it. -
Originally posted by nerfz:For 20 years of my life, i have see many girls, many type of them, my defination of a "nice" girl is someone who is faithful, have good moral values, doesn't smoke , drinks or club.. doesn't look for fling or ons.. its someone ppl would call a decent girl or a wife-material.. and she don't have to look very pretty or have the body shape of a model.. just average is fine.. is my expectation too high ? i was hoping to have my special someone like this because i am able to fulfill those quality myself.. my problem is that i'm quite shy to girl..
but i just can't find her.. all the girls nowadays like to club, i guess people my age simply go for "fling" and "ons". they aren't willing to commit anyway.. or some girls that are really decent looking, but are really out to waste ur time or trying to get atttention and benefits from you when they already are attached or already have someone else as a target .. i was played once.. she think its nothing wrong about it cause i fall for her myself.. maybe its all my fault. but forget about all that..
"Nice girl" are all attached or they had already fallen for someone else, ironically its always the jerks get them.. my defination of "jerks" is .. someone who always club, flirtly, 2 timer, ABA, cheaters, insenstive ppl, etc.. i'm not saying i'm very nice but at least i know i will treat a girl better and truefully..
i have heard ppl telling me that "Nobody is perfect".. i was wondering if my expectation too high.. true love make u accept the other person.. is it true? does that mean we should go into relationship with a girl with such character? i don't want to because i know it would never last and bound to bring problems and pain to each other.. moreover things would become very complicated..
am i wrong? is my expectation too high?? should i open up and learn to accept others ?? does the problems lie with me..?
I don't actually think you tried hard in your search or even if you have, your search revolves mainly around your comfort zone... like looking for hidden sweet potatoes in that barren farm field of yours, refusing to strike out to greener fields.
Expand that social circle of yours, if you dream of finding someone suitable. Those of your league, falling into your kind of predicament, often claim to be the 'nice guys' and wondering why 'nice girls' are not coming along even though your expectations are simple. The truth is that either (1) you are looking at the wrong place or (2) you just still stuck in that small social circle.
Claiming to be 'nice guy' is a subtle form of arrogance because I always see 'nice guys' slamming people they label as 'jerks'. Obviously there are certain category of guys which are probably condemn for life, but a healthy number of others whom the 'nice guys' label as 'jerks' are actually 'nicer' than the 'nice guys'.
Your problem revolves with your mindset; remove that nice/jerk mentality and focus more on your 'selling' and interpersonal skills. It really amazed me when 'nice guys' are wasting those precious time and effort to analysis the jerks-of-the-world when they should be thinking about how to increase the probability of finding a suitable mate.
For a start, you may want to enlarge your social circle first. If you can't stand clubber girls, then begin your search elsewhere. Nobody says you got to club to be attached - chose another direction then.
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you are sort of conservative
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Maybe the so call nice gal r not really that good looking? Yr so call average look is what kind of standard? Maybe Fann Wong looks is considered average to u?
There is definitely plenty of good sg gal and unattached but they may look below average to u! Or maybe plump.... -
u juz need to widen ur social circle and know more girls.
not all girls like to club.
and good girls wun two-time u and cheat ur feelings. -
that's where u might be wrong haha...unless your definition of good means 100% loyalty even she finds she losing feelings for the guyOriginally posted by browniebaobao:u juz need to widen ur social circle and know more girls.
not all girls like to club.
and good girls wun two-time u and cheat ur feelings. -
very sterotype... u need to take a good look out there cos not every gal do like u said... its jz those that caught ur attention seem to behave so... nothing wrong with having an idea mate but u reali need to go toilet take a piss n look in the mirror... u must be realistic... yes the problem is with u cos u jz cant expect the things to come to ur arms without doing anything... socio more n it will increase ur cahnces with gals...Originally posted by nerfz:For 20 years of my life, i have see many girls, many type of them, my defination of a "nice" girl is someone who is faithful, have good moral values, doesn't smoke , drinks or club.. doesn't look for fling or ons.. its someone ppl would call a decent girl or a wife-material.. and she don't have to look very pretty or have the body shape of a model.. just average is fine.. is my expectation too high ? i was hoping to have my special someone like this because i am able to fulfill those quality myself.. my problem is that i'm quite shy to girl..
but i just can't find her.. all the girls nowadays like to club, i guess people my age simply go for "fling" and "ons". they aren't willing to commit anyway.. or some girls that are really decent looking, but are really out to waste ur time or trying to get atttention and benefits from you when they already are attached or already have someone else as a target .. i was played once.. she think its nothing wrong about it cause i fall for her myself.. maybe its all my fault. but forget about all that..
"Nice girl" are all attached or they had already fallen for someone else, ironically its always the jerks get them.. my defination of "jerks" is .. someone who always club, flirtly, 2 timer, ABA, cheaters, insenstive ppl, etc.. i'm not saying i'm very nice but at least i know i will treat a girl better and truefully..
i have heard ppl telling me that "Nobody is perfect".. i was wondering if my expectation too high.. true love make u accept the other person.. is it true? does that mean we should go into relationship with a girl with such character? i don't want to because i know it would never last and bound to bring problems and pain to each other.. moreover things would become very complicated..
am i wrong? is my expectation too high?? should i open up and learn to accept others ?? does the problems lie with me..? -
haha.. i suit ur criteria lor.. where got so difficult to find.. open ur eyes big big can liow..
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be pragmatic....love is fragile......anything can change anytime.... btw, i find it absurb for nice or pretty gals to be single so that "nice" guys can come along to take care of them..... i think its always those buay paiseh types that got gf...provided got chemistry and the gal likes him.....
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Dont lower you standards because you're lonely.
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u calling me? saw u mention wife material...
aiyah, ur fate not here yet. some ple experience more than others and maybe u belong to that category. at least u learnt from the past; how to treat gf or even anyone good, so be thankful. wait patiently, the min u r born, ur life has been planned by ur God. the best one is waiting somewhere at a corner of the world. -
THERE IS NO MORE NICE GIRL.
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Ok... but at least there are NICER girls and NICEST girls out there...Originally posted by sinicker:THERE IS NO MORE NICE GIRL. -
You think what? Like L, XL and XXL?Originally posted by Bontakun:Ok... but at least there are NICER girls and NICEST girls out there... 
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Aber... Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder...Originally posted by Yunhaier:You think what? Like L, XL and XXL?
Cheers
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Attraction is a strange thing, when you see the person you think you "love", you FALL head and heels over him/her. You can't see any bad points but magnify all the good points. (Pls see past threads in AA and MAYBE Bar for illustrations)
It is only after a certain time and when the emo lvl is lower and your rational rating ups, then you start to see the flaws, cons, bad stuffs and tiny dusts in his/her character. (Pls see recent threads in AA for illustrations)
If only you would not have been so rash to rush into a relationship aka BGR with someone you think you "love", you can see a clearer picture and then decide if you want to go ahead with the relationship. (Pls see certain posts in recent threads in AA for illustrations)
Given a choice, I choose L or XL or even XXL over M so that I dun regret the size is too small or not fit for me.
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just widen your social cycle, get to know your friends' friends than hang around more often and you will get to know more people.Originally posted by nerfz:For 20 years of my life, i have see many girls, many type of them, my defination of a "nice" girl is someone who is faithful, have good moral values, doesn't smoke , drinks or club.. doesn't look for fling or ons.. its someone ppl would call a decent girl or a wife-material.. and she don't have to look very pretty or have the body shape of a model.. just average is fine.. is my expectation too high ? i was hoping to have my special someone like this because i am able to fulfill those quality myself.. my problem is that i'm quite shy to girl..
but i just can't find her.. all the girls nowadays like to club, i guess people my age simply go for "fling" and "ons". they aren't willing to commit anyway.. or some girls that are really decent looking, but are really out to waste ur time or trying to get atttention and benefits from you when they already are attached or already have someone else as a target .. i was played once.. she think its nothing wrong about it cause i fall for her myself.. maybe its all my fault. but forget about all that..
"Nice girl" are all attached or they had already fallen for someone else, ironically its always the jerks get them.. my defination of "jerks" is .. someone who always club, flirtly, 2 timer, ABA, cheaters, insenstive ppl, etc.. i'm not saying i'm very nice but at least i know i will treat a girl better and truefully..
i have heard ppl telling me that "Nobody is perfect".. i was wondering if my expectation too high.. true love make u accept the other person.. is it true? does that mean we should go into relationship with a girl with such character? i don't want to because i know it would never last and bound to bring problems and pain to each other.. moreover things would become very complicated..
am i wrong? is my expectation too high?? should i open up and learn to accept others ?? does the problems lie with me..?
Dun be disappointed by just this little set-back.
Sometimes, it depends on luck too.
I sense that you are looking for wife material, but if you are looking forward to settle down, are you financially and emotionally stable to go and find a average good lady and get to know each other better.
You can try the speed dating. From there filter out your choices. -
but I think u are only S only leh.Originally posted by Bontakun:Aber... Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder...
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Attraction is a strange thing, when you see the person you think you "love", you FALL head and heels over him/her. You can't see any bad points but magnify all the good points. (Pls see past threads in AA and MAYBE Bar for illustrations)
It is only after a certain time and when the emo lvl is lower and your rational rating ups, then you start to see the flaws, cons, bad stuffs and tiny dusts in his/her character. (Pls see recent threads in AA for illustrations)
If only you would not have been so rash to rush into a relationship aka BGR with someone you think you "love", you can see a clearer picture and then decide if you want to go ahead with the relationship. (Pls see certain posts in recent threads in AA for illustrations)
Given a choice, I choose L or XL or even XXL over M so that I dun regret the size is too small or not fit for me.
Beers
u sure u really want L or XL ma? -
be patient, someone out there is "made" for u. u just haven't met her yet. some of my friends didn't get attached until early or late 20s. it's normal.
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haha... i don't exactly like to club, i hardly drink, don't really like going out late, etc etc... and trust me, i know a lot of girls who are like that too... you just haven't met them yet. YET!! =) So cheer up!