Coward, weird, egoistic, problematic or what?
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Just wonder what is it or what are those problems that cause one to behave the way he or she does. This weird guy has been noticing me for about 2 to 3 years already. It is his behaviour that sometimes scares me off. Have many encounters (strange, pleasant, weird, scary, irritating, and unpleasant) with him. He seems to know the time and place where I appear. My friends said he is stalking me but I am not sure if he is.
- many times see him looking around, when he sees me he stare at me for long as if giving some kind of signal. He is intense.
- Sometimes when he sees me he looks at me with admiring expression. Sometimes he looks so hard, aloof, egoistic, or “gao bu ke pan”.
- few times when he is near me he shows (body language) that he would like to approach me but just canÂ’t bring himself to do so.
- Those few times this weird fellow smiled at me, I was so deep in thought or wasnÂ’t ready to return smile.
The first time when he and I (only 2 of us) were in the lift, he was moaning so loudly and that scared me a little but at the same time I gave him the benefit of doubt - I was wondering if he was manifesting in this way because of some kind of problems he has. But my friend told me he could be dangerous as it is possible he may rape me. I don't think so.
After the lift incident when I saw him appeared right in front of me smiling at me, I was kind of scared and told my sis that I need to rush off. The next time when I saw him he shows me black face and he rushed off. Another time I saw him talking to his friend about me. His friend looked at me angrily. Strange, I donÂ’t know his friend at all and for his friend to look at me that way is absolutely unjustified. All I can say is these are petty men! I think it is too much of him to behave this way for he and I are not even friends.
Simply can’t tell all that had happened and is happening here as it’s going to be very long. All I want to say is this fellow keeps looking and staring, I don’t know what he is up to. It’s rather “ai mei” for 2 to 3 years and I am really tired about it already. He is as good as a stranger for I don’t know much about him except that my mum told me he is a bachelor. My mum is acquainted with his parents. -
he stays near u or works near u???
i think he must have a liking for u, given ur testi.
ignore him la, i think he sounds creepy to me sia. dangerous species out ter. since u say ur mum knows his parent, u might want to dig some info from her?? -
Maybe you could check and see if he's got some kind of anxiety disorder. Then again, if he found out about it, he could think you were either interested or stalking him.
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he likes uuuu.
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most probably mental -
sounds like he likes u... u better do something about it... or u'll be bothered by it endlessly.
maybe asks him wat he wants, in a nice way... or check him out by asking ur mom. -
chou ren duo zuo guai
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Dear all People who responded to my msg
Thanks all for your response.
Somehow I know he likes me but he's not "da fang" in his approach. By his body language I know he eavesdrops my conversation when he sits near me. Hey, it's high time he as a man learns how to approach a gal in an appropriate manner. If he is "da fang" I don't mind to make friend with him. Just find that he seems to be in a hurry to want things to happen immediately but on the contrary he has no guts to do the necessary. Just find he is a coward, egoistic and somehow problematic.
In the beginning when I first saw him I didn't have good impression of him. One day saw him doing something that changed my impression of him.
"Ta bu shi chou ren duo zhuo guai - ta hen hao gan". Well, appearance is not the top priority in whatever relationship to me. I don't deliberately choose good looking people to be my friends. Oh, yes he lives near me. My mum doesn't know his parents well enough to talk about him.
By the way he behaves he gives me the impression that he has no previous boy gal relationship and that he is in a hurry to get into relationship. Aiyo, he doesn't understand he can't hurry love. At this stage, if he has the guts to approach me in the appropriate manner I only want to start to know him as an ordinary friend.
Thanks again for your response, appreciate it. -
In other words, you have no interest in him even if he is your friend ?Originally posted by rane:Dear all People who responded to my msg
Thanks all for your response.
Somehow I know he likes me but he's not "da fang" in his approach. By his body language I know he eavesdrops my conversation when he sits near me. Hey, it's high time he as a man learns how to approach a gal in an appropriate manner. If he is "da fang" I don't mind to make friend with him. Just find that he seems to be in a hurry to want things to happen immediately but on the contrary he has no guts to do the necessary. Just find he is a coward, egoistic and somehow problematic.
In the beginning when I first saw him I didn't have good impression of him. One day saw him doing something that changed my impression of him.
"Ta bu shi chou ren duo zhuo guai - ta hen hao gan". Well, appearance is not the top priority in whatever relationship to me. I don't deliberately choose good looking people to be my friends. Oh, yes he lives near me. My mum doesn't know his parents well enough to talk about him.
By the way he behaves he gives me the impression that he has no previous boy gal relationship and that he is in a hurry to get into relationship. Aiyo, he doesn't understand he can't hurry love. At this stage, if he has the guts to approach me in the appropriate manner I only want to start to know him as an ordinary friend.
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Hi, dokonoOriginally posted by dokono:In other words, you have no interest in him even if he is your friend ?
I am interested to make friend with him if he opens up and has the gut to approach me. Will see if there is any possibility of going into any relationship after getting to know the person. Don't understand why majority of the guys I come across are always in the hurry to go into relationship. For guys is there really a need to rush into a relationship?
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I understand how most of you women feel. Most women don't like to be rushed into a relationship. Guys are completely different. They are turned on immediately when they see a physically attractive woman. It's like they see Lin Zhiling and "wow! Im going to make her my gf!" That's the guy's perception but women can control themselves even if they see a hot guy.Originally posted by rane:Hi, dokono
I am interested to make friend with him if he opens up and has the gut to approach me. Will see if there is any possibility of going into any relationship after getting to know the person. Don't understand why majority of the guys I come across are always in the hurry to go into relationship. For guys is there really a need to rush into a relationship?
What will you do if you are me?
If I were you, I want that guy to approach me. I want him to be a man and approach me because that's how things should work. From there, I see how things go.
One thing Im sure: You are not really physically attracted to him right?
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Crazy guy.
I recommend a good bottle of pepper spray in your handbag.
Pepper-spray the fella next time he demonstrates any form of spastic behaviour! -
Maybe you immagine too much? Next time bring a friend for security, smile at him and say "hi, i notice you everytime look at me with this tao face etc etc..."
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if you want to be friends then say "hiya, lets be friends"
Afterall what can he do....this is sg wat and ur friend there he won't try anything. -
pass him a message asking what he wants coz you have been noticing him looking at you many times.
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or get a PPO if he starts doing worse things.
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This guy sounds a little, no......rather retarded.
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Maybe he wants to be a friend with you, just that he don't how to start from. It is our tradition that we tend to be surprised when a stranger approached us to be a friend. Give him a chance and see.
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dokono, meilin and all that responded, thanks for your thoughts and advice.
Meilin, I absolutely agree with you about what you said. It took me long to accept and only recently that I told myself to give him a chance. Till this day, I don't know what makes him take notice of me for 2 to 3 years. dokono, he is pleasant to look at. Let me make myself clear, I am not one who base on look to make friends. There are times, I am attracted to people who are not good looking, there are something about them that attract me. In this case, I am somehow attracted to the way he spoke to a little girl and interested to know him as a person.
It's somehow contradicting, though I don't mind to get to know him but I still feel a little scary, watched over by him. It's also a little ridiculous that for 2 to 3 years he still can't pluck up his courage to approach me appropriately. Bingo, dokono what you mentioned is exactly what I am doing now - wait for him to be man enough to approach me and see how it goes. Well, he may be pampered coming from a small family that's why . . . . . . . -
Ask him out for coffee.
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For 2-3 years he did not approach. I wonder what he is up to. Maybe he has a huge ego or he is scared of being rejected. Whatever it is, seems like he has a mental block that prevents himself from approaching.Originally posted by rane:dokono, meilin and all that responded, thanks for your thoughts and advice.
Meilin, I absolutely agree with you about what you said. It took me long to accept and only recently that I told myself to give him a chance. Till this day, I don't know what makes him take notice of me for 2 to 3 years. dokono, he is pleasant to look at. Let me make myself clear, I am not one who base on look to make friends. There are times, I am attracted to people who are not good looking, there are something about them that attract me. In this case, I am somehow attracted to the way he spoke to a little girl and interested to know him as a person.
It's somehow contradicting, though I don't mind to get to know him but I still feel a little scary, watched over by him. It's also a little ridiculous that for 2 to 3 years he still can't pluck up his courage to approach me appropriately. Bingo, dokono what you mentioned is exactly what I am doing now - wait for him to be man enough to approach me and see how it goes. Well, he may be pampered coming from a small family that's why . . . . . . .
doko -
Trust me; you just haven't met those that cannot control.Originally posted by dokono:I understand how most of you women feel. Most women don't like to be rushed into a relationship. Guys are completely different. They are turned on immediately when they see a physically attractive woman. It's like they see Lin Zhiling and "wow! Im going to make her my gf!" That's the guy's perception but women can control themselves even if they see a hot guy.
If I were you, I want that guy to approach me. I want him to be a man and approach me because that's how things should work. From there, I see how things go.
One thing Im sure: You are not really physically attracted to him right?
doko
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haha..i have met them...I referring to women in generalOriginally posted by Yunhaier:Trust me; you just haven't met those that cannot control.
Cheers
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ok then, fess up. how many have u stalked?Originally posted by Yunhaier:Trust me; you just haven't met those that cannot control.
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haha...wooh...Originally posted by Rock^Star:ok then, fess up. how many have u stalked? She will like to keep it as private collection.
doko