Coward, weird, egoistic, problematic or what?
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21st century, guys doesn't have to be the ones to make the move.Originally posted by rane:
doko, thanks for your response. Yeah, heard the above reply many times.
Nevertheless, you can just help him a little by -not- too quickly avoiding him, and instead, offering a slight smile before going on your own way. That may just do it. Most, if not all are not shy/lacking in confidence by choice. -
next time you see him pass him a note to meet somewhere without people and have sex
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Originally posted by JerzZzzZ:21st century, guys doesn't have to be the ones to make the move.
Nevertheless, you can just help him a little by -not- too quickly avoiding him, and instead, offering a slight smile before going on your own way. That may just do it. Most, if not all are not shy/lacking in confidence by choice. 
Thanks for your response, JerzZzzZ. YOur points taken. But I am hurt for I smiled at him b4 and he looked away. Ta zhen ma fan! -
Originally posted by Eric Cartman:next time you see him pass him a note to meet somewhere without people and have sex
Hey Eric, you pervert or what ask me to do the above. I am not even comfortable with him neither do I know him well to decide whether I want to get into any relationship with him. To have sex with him is very premature at this stage! Are you so deprived of sex, it seems that you think nothing but sex! To me the basis of the relationship is not sex. -
if u all really got happening then quite lomantixOriginally posted by rane: Thanks for your response, JerzZzzZ. YOur points taken. But I am hurt for I smiled at him b4 and he looked away. Ta zhen ma fan!
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Originally posted by sunny6110:if u all really got happening then quite lomantix Oh yeah, sunny6110, I ever thought the same, too. But from the rate things are going I doubt there will be any relationship between me and him. Still depends on situation!If he "kai qiao" and put in effort to make things happen then it is possible.
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because i dont see what else is the point of befriending another human.Originally posted by rane: Hey Eric, you pervert or what ask me to do the above. I am not even comfortable with him neither do I know him well to decide whether I want to get into any relationship with him. To have sex with him is very premature at this stage! Are you so deprived of sex, it seems that you think nothing but sex! To me the basis of the relationship is not sex. -
u are getting impatient, aren't U??Originally posted by rane: Oh yeah, sunny6110, I ever thought the same, too. But from the rate things are going I doubt there will be any relationship between me and him. Still depends on situation!If he "kai qiao" and put in effort to make things happen then it is possible.
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Originally posted by Eric Cartman:because i dont see what else is the point of befriending another human. Hello eric, are you ok or not, do you need counselling? WEre you hurt sexually b4?
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im okOriginally posted by rane: Hello eric, are you ok or not, do you need counselling? WEre you hurt sexually b4?
why else do u want to be his gf? to make him buy things for u? -
Originally posted by sunny6110:u are getting impatient, aren't U?? Huh? NOt sure if I should say it is impatience - this "ai mei" from him has been on for 2 to 3 yrs, think it is really a drag! I think it is normal for this "ai mei" cowardice, to go on for the very most half or 1 year, but for 2 to 3 yrs, OMG! Half to 1 year is good enough for a coward man to pluck up courage to go ahead - 2 to 3 yrs is long overdue already. I am trying my best to forget it. Sometimes I am doing fine but other times find that I still "zai hu". Aiyo!
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ERic, it's for companionship.Originally posted by Eric Cartman:im ok
why else do u want to be his gf? to make him buy things for u? -
what is companionship??Originally posted by rane:ERic, it's for companionship. -
check the dictionary. Don't you think to have a company is good?Originally posted by Eric Cartman:what is companionship?? -
If I were U, I'll "disturb" him back...Originally posted by rane: Huh? NOt sure if I should say it is impatience - this "ai mei" from him has been on for 2 to 3 yrs, think it is really a drag! I think it is normal for this "ai mei" cowardice, to go on for the very most half or 1 year, but for 2 to 3 yrs, OMG! Half to 1 year is good enough for a coward man to pluck up courage to go ahead - 2 to 3 yrs is long overdue already. I am trying my best to forget it. Sometimes I am doing fine but other times find that I still "zai hu". Aiyo!
He made u think abt Him at this hour rite?? I'll make sure He think abt U every other Hours... -
people are just more drags and trouble and u gotta have people skills with them and you cant have them the way you want like how you can with objectsOriginally posted by rane:check the dictionary. Don't you think to have a company is good?
and i rule my house with an iron fist right now. -
Hi rane,
i think what you're trying to say is that you are interested in him, but you are just as coward and egoistic, therefore you are waiting for him to make a move?
I believe he has made his move, by smiling at you. That may be his way of conveying friendliness, however, you did not smile back and he may have taken it that you do want to be friends with him. You can't blame him for not making any more moves right? So instead of calling him "bu da fang", you should reflect on how you have responded to him.
I too feel that you look too deeply into things. Are you sure it isn't just coincidence that you run into him alot? You are in school for at least 9 hours a day average and 5 times a week, maybe more. The chances of running into 1/2000 (perhaps?) repeatly, is not small.
That's all i have to say. Take it as a frank 3rd-person view/ insult. It's entirely up to you. -
Originally posted by sunny6110:If I were U, I'll "disturb" him back...
He made u think abt Him at this hour rite?? I'll make sure He think abt U every other Hours... 
Hi, sunny and where is god
Sunny, I believe he does think of me (from his actions and so on I know it). He knows where I appear and I know that sometimes he appears to be there to see me (hey, you where is god read other post where I mentioned this). Of course sometimes it's pure coincidence that we see each other and other times I know he puts in effort to be there to see me.
Yes, he may have smiled at me but unfortunately I was too down and so deep in thoughts that few times that I didn't know I did not smile back or I couldn't bring myself to smile. Please, I was so stressed, worried and was so heavy laden because of my rice bowl, so ,,, where is God so do you think that I deliberately did not smile back. To make up for it, other times I smiled at him but his expression puts me off. Many females including myself still believe that guys should make the move, and there is nothing wrong with this expectation. Nan jiu nu shi tian jing di yi! -
Hi rane
what if one day you see him holding hands with a girl, how would you react?
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Originally posted by dokono:Hi rane
what if one day you see him holding hands with a girl, how would you react?
doko Hi Doko, that is a good question which I have thought of before. Er . . . . er ..... that depends whether I still have feelings for him. If I still like him I will feel lousy and if I don't like him anymore I may feel neutral 
and I will say "oh finally he got himself a girlfriend!". Hao na men !!! I have also asked the question, what will he react if he were to see a guy holding my hands or sending me back home one day. -
I not sure about that guy but for myself, i used about 2 yrs to approach the girl i like and all because of by chance. Well... about knowing what clothes you wear, i guess when you like notice the person so much, you will know his pattern of clothes as well. I manage to know such clothes pattern also. How many sets of clothes can you have lolz.
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Maybe you give him a note to look at sgforums
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Originally posted by Herroin:I not sure about that guy but for myself, i used about 2 yrs to approach the girl i like and all because of by chance. Well... about knowing what clothes you wear, i guess when you like notice the person so much, you will know his pattern of clothes as well. I manage to know such clothes pattern also. How many sets of clothes can you have lolz.
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Maybe you give him a note to look at sgforums 
Hi, Herroin, thanks for your response. In what way did you approach the girl, did you manage to make her feel comfortable? Yeah, sometimes when notice too much, the person will also wear the same colour the next time. Guess this fellow is in the nursery or kindergarten level where relationship is concerned. I do find him immature and doubt if he can handle a gal/guy relationship. Good that you finally plucked up courage to approach the girl, bravo! -
Serious it was really by chance and a sudden change of mentality on my part. I was like him staring at this girl i particularly take a liking on, just kept quiet, total like this guy. It was some school activities that i got the chance to know this girl. It's difficult for people to approach a total stranger nowadays especially when nowadays people are suppose to be more enclosed to socialising.
The day that he will talk to you would be the day he have a change of mentality i guess it would be hard for him to open up just a little bit. Maybe it is time for you to move on. -
Thanks, Herroin, for your post. YOu are lucky to be given the chance. Yes, it's not easy to get to know a stranger. But he is not exactly a stranger but of course neither are we friends. He is staying in the neighbourhood and my sis and mum know his parents. He just missed a couple of chances that's all I can say.Originally posted by Herroin:Serious it was really by chance and a sudden change of mentality on my part. I was like him staring at this girl i particularly take a liking on, just kept quiet, total like this guy. It was some school activities that i got the chance to know this girl. It's difficult for people to approach a total stranger nowadays especially when nowadays people are suppose to be more enclosed to socialising.
The day that he will talk to you would be the day he have a change of mentality i guess it would be hard for him to open up just a little bit. Maybe it is time for you to move on.