Help. I am in love with four women. (long post)
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Note: All names are made up for reason of personal interests
I am 19 years old. I am facing a problem, which not many people have. This frustrates me seeing that limits to the amount of people I can turn to. Thus, as my last resort, I come to you.
Two years ago, I met a wonderful girl named Rachael. She is very sweet, rarely cuss at all and cares a lot about her family. I seen a lot of girls showing disrespect to their parents and siblings nowadays, but not her. She is very intelligent, one of the smartest girl I met. Her looks are very alluring and she never fails to make me go into “the mood”.
At the same time I met Rachael, I met Wendy. She isnÂ’t as alluring compared to Rachael in the looks side. In fact, I donÂ’t find her sexually attractive at all. We first started out as normal friends. Eventually, I got to learn more about her personality and quite frankly, I am impressed. My heart just grew for her.
Wendy is an independent woman. She doesnÂ’t need a guy to tell her what to do. She has a mind of her own. She is no older then me, yet she works part time to help SUPPORT her family. She even knows how to cook great meals. Compared to Rachael, sheÂ’s lacking in book smarts, but her street smarts are brilliant.
In short, Wendy is the kind of girl that a family man needs.
Two years later – today. The year has been quite good for me. I started a new leaf in life and certain areas of my life have drastically improved. And I met two ladies.
Whitney and Jamie are their names. Whitney has my eyes the moment I laid them on her. Her personality is that of an ah-lian, but such attitudes donÂ’t scare me. SheÂ’s quite sweet and dropped her ah lian personality once we get to know each other. I think the only reason I am remotely interested in her is because sheÂ’s very hot. I even warned her that if we were ever alone in a room, things are GONNA happen.
I guess the only reason that I like her is because she's attractive.
Unlike Whitney, Jamie’s looks don’t interest me at all. She got into the “plain Jane” list the moment I laid eyes on her.
Jamie didn't liked me at first. The feeling was mutual. We were "enemies" within the first week we met.
Circumstances changed and we began talking. I figured itÂ’s better to have more friends then enemies, so I happily started socializing with her. Eventually, I started to learn more about her personality.
Jamie is most probably, the sweetest girl I have ever met. She doesn't drink, she doesn't smoke and the best part, she actually behaves like a lady. A GREAT change of scenery from all the other girls who tries desperately to imitate Paris Hilton. She has both book and street smarts. I enjoyed reading between the lines whenever I talk to her and it seem she had bad experiences with men (which explains her defensive stance against me when we first met).
That basically summarized all the ladies so far in my life. I love them all and they love me too.
Singapore is a small place. Eventually, they learnt of each other existence. I canÂ’t even go out with them nowadays, without being blasted with commitment issues. Frankly, I am getting very annoyed and pissed off by it.
I practice the Islamic faith. According to the religion, a Muslim man can marry up to four women. I figured out that applies to courtship as well. So, I don't really see a problem in having four girlfriends.
The problem for me now is choice. They want me to choose. I canÂ’t do that, dammit. From my POINT OF VIEW, itÂ’s either I am with all 4 of them, separating myself fairly, or I go back to singlehood and casual dating with random girls again.
State your opinions and advice. Greatly appreciated. -
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jus curious,are u a Gemini?
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No I am not, Yuko.
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What race/religion are they?
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Two malays, one chinese and one indian.
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I would just choose one of the malays. Same faith less conflict in the future.
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Choose one.
It is not wrong to love many people at once; just don't be with more than one at a time. -
At the end of your long story, there wasn't anything that explains what you really want in a partner. So, what do you really want in a partner?
I may not be surprised if you come back to us with another story saying u had a fifth choice to make. -
if u love them,u gotta respect them.
though ur faith allows u to practise polygamy, and ur mind can be set on doing that too, u still have to think for ur spouse whether she would mentally accede to it.
i dun think the chinese and indian fren of urs would want to have their husband 'shared'.
even the malays too,even as their faith says otherwise.
a room for thought..which woman wouldn't mind?
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Uh did you take this outta a book or something?
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wtf. choose one out of four.
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in love with 4? fan jian....
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Anyway, if you choose one(any one), will she accept you?
Will you choose to be with the one who loves you, or the one you love, or are you lucky enough to be with someone whom you love, AND loves you? -
wo kan ta du bu liao hua wen .. ni hai shi fan yi gei ta ba ..Originally posted by aHGer^83:in love with 4? fan jian.... -
good luck man.
quickly pick one and let the rest move on -
U know what? U have just presented yourself as a Casanova.
I'm not interested to dish out advice and shall reserve further comments to myself 
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your lust life, i mean love life is so complex....or you could simply con them to saudi arabia and do what the rest of the male population there does...
but really, drop the 2 other ethnic ones and choose between the other 2.... -
Originally posted by Blahhh:
wad a noob, using ancient beliefs to justify ur sick behaviour.
[b]Note: All names are made up for reason of personal interests
I am 19 years old. I am facing a problem, which not many people have. This frustrates me seeing that limits to the amount of people I can turn to. Thus, as my last resort, I come to you.
Two years ago, I met a wonderful girl named Rachael. She is very sweet, rarely cuss at all and cares a lot about her family. I seen a lot of girls showing disrespect to their parents and siblings nowadays, but not her. She is very intelligent, one of the smartest girl I met. Her looks are very alluring and she never fails to make me go into “the mood”.
At the same time I met Rachael, I met Wendy. She isnÂ’t as alluring compared to Rachael in the looks side. In fact, I donÂ’t find her sexually attractive at all. We first started out as normal friends. Eventually, I got to learn more about her personality and quite frankly, I am impressed. My heart just grew for her.
Wendy is an independent woman. She doesnÂ’t need a guy to tell her what to do. She has a mind of her own. She is no older then me, yet she works part time to help SUPPORT her family. She even knows how to cook great meals. Compared to Rachael, sheÂ’s lacking in book smarts, but her street smarts are brilliant.
In short, Wendy is the kind of girl that a family man needs.
Two years later – today. The year has been quite good for me. I started a new leaf in life and certain areas of my life have drastically improved. And I met two ladies.
Whitney and Jamie are their names. Whitney has my eyes the moment I laid them on her. Her personality is that of an ah-lian, but such attitudes donÂ’t scare me. SheÂ’s quite sweet and dropped her ah lian personality once we get to know each other. I think the only reason I am remotely interested in her is because sheÂ’s very hot. I even warned her that if we were ever alone in a room, things are GONNA happen.
I guess the only reason that I like her is because she's attractive.
Unlike Whitney, Jamie’s looks don’t interest me at all. She got into the “plain Jane” list the moment I laid eyes on her.
Jamie didn't liked me at first. The feeling was mutual. We were "enemies" within the first week we met.
Circumstances changed and we began talking. I figured itÂ’s better to have more friends then enemies, so I happily started socializing with her. Eventually, I started to learn more about her personality.
Jamie is most probably, the sweetest girl I have ever met. She doesn't drink, she doesn't smoke and the best part, she actually behaves like a lady. A GREAT change of scenery from all the other girls who tries desperately to imitate Paris Hilton. She has both book and street smarts. I enjoyed reading between the lines whenever I talk to her and it seem she had bad experiences with men (which explains her defensive stance against me when we first met).
That basically summarized all the ladies so far in my life. I love them all and they love me too.
Singapore is a small place. Eventually, they learnt of each other existence. I canÂ’t even go out with them nowadays, without being blasted with commitment issues. Frankly, I am getting very annoyed and pissed off by it.
I practice the Islamic faith. According to the religion, a Muslim man can marry up to four women. I figured out that applies to courtship as well. So, I don't really see a problem in having four girlfriends.
The problem for me now is choice. They want me to choose. I canÂ’t do that, dammit. From my POINT OF VIEW, itÂ’s either I am with all 4 of them, separating myself fairly, or I go back to singlehood and casual dating with random girls again.
State your opinions and advice. Greatly appreciated.
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btw, polygamy is not allowed in singapore la. so get a life.
plus, u moron, are woman an entity tt u can use chose ard with?
u r an insult to ppl who believes in marriage and one love, one lifetime. -
Choose the islam girl
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Polygamy is allow for muslim in spore. Cos their religion allows it. It we don allow it,they will say we interfere in their religion and massive riot will broke out!Originally posted by o-lua:wad a noob, using ancient beliefs to justify ur sick behaviour.
btw, polygamy is not allowed in singapore la. so get a life.
plus, u moron, are woman an entity tt u can use chose ard with?
u r an insult to ppl who believes in marriage and one love, one lifetime.
But of cos la,his first wife must allow it or else there is nothing the guy can do abt it. -
Choose the one who loves you the most.
doko -
be friend with all, but don't rush. good luck!
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You think ichigo 100% ar?
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Originally posted by Blahhh:
[b]Note: All names are made up for reason of personal interests
I am 19 years old. I am facing a problem, which not many people have. This frustrates me seeing that limits to the amount of people I can turn to. Thus, as my last resort, I come to you.
Two years ago, I met a wonderful girl named Rachael. She is very sweet, rarely cuss at all and cares a lot about her family. I seen a lot of girls showing disrespect to their parents and siblings nowadays, but not her. She is very intelligent, one of the smartest girl I met. Her looks are very alluring and she never fails to make me go into “the mood”.
At the same time I met Rachael, I met Wendy. She isnÂ’t as alluring compared to Rachael in the looks side. In fact, I donÂ’t find her sexually attractive at all. We first started out as normal friends. Eventually, I got to learn more about her personality and quite frankly, I am impressed. My heart just grew for her.
Wendy is an independent woman. She doesnÂ’t need a guy to tell her what to do. She has a mind of her own. She is no older then me, yet she works part time to help SUPPORT her family. She even knows how to cook great meals. Compared to Rachael, sheÂ’s lacking in book smarts, but her street smarts are brilliant.
In short, Wendy is the kind of girl that a family man needs.
Two years later – today. The year has been quite good for me. I started a new leaf in life and certain areas of my life have drastically improved. And I met two ladies.
Whitney and Jamie are their names. Whitney has my eyes the moment I laid them on her. Her personality is that of an ah-lian, but such attitudes donÂ’t scare me. SheÂ’s quite sweet and dropped her ah lian personality once we get to know each other. I think the only reason I am remotely interested in her is because sheÂ’s very hot. I even warned her that if we were ever alone in a room, things are GONNA happen.
I guess the only reason that I like her is because she's attractive.
Unlike Whitney, Jamie’s looks don’t interest me at all. She got into the “plain Jane” list the moment I laid eyes on her.
Jamie didn't liked me at first. The feeling was mutual. We were "enemies" within the first week we met.
Circumstances changed and we began talking. I figured itÂ’s better to have more friends then enemies, so I happily started socializing with her. Eventually, I started to learn more about her personality.
Jamie is most probably, the sweetest girl I have ever met. She doesn't drink, she doesn't smoke and the best part, she actually behaves like a lady. A GREAT change of scenery from all the other girls who tries desperately to imitate Paris Hilton. She has both book and street smarts. I enjoyed reading between the lines whenever I talk to her and it seem she had bad experiences with men (which explains her defensive stance against me when we first met).
That basically summarized all the ladies so far in my life. I love them all and they love me too.
Singapore is a small place. Eventually, they learnt of each other existence. I canÂ’t even go out with them nowadays, without being blasted with commitment issues. Frankly, I am getting very annoyed and pissed off by it.
I practice the Islamic faith. According to the religion, a Muslim man can marry up to four women. I figured out that applies to courtship as well. So, I don't really see a problem in having four girlfriends.
The problem for me now is choice. They want me to choose. I canÂ’t do that, dammit. From my POINT OF VIEW, itÂ’s either I am with all 4 of them, separating myself fairly, or I go back to singlehood and casual dating with random girls again.
State your opinions and advice. Greatly appreciated.
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It's not about your faith nor the women; it's about your commitment.
I believe you are not ready for commitment; this commitment issue will hit a climax later in your life, should you continue such lifestyle and mindset.
Short-term fling or relationship shouldn't be a problem - of course, you won't be able to maintain them for long. When you scatter your energies, your focus is weak.
P.S: when you chase two rabbits, you lose both - what's more there are four in the story.
John Tucker must die? 
Cheers