Sad. Feel lost.
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its been 2 mths since i crash my 4 mth old bike, after which i lost my gf to another guy. i'm still going after her, i cannot let go. i lost 10 kgs in 1mth. i hate myself, but there's nothing i can do. my feelings for her are too strong.
i called up the guy, we had a few conversations. they broke up too. now she's deciding who to choose. all my frens tell me she's not worth it. there's plenty out there. but, she took away my pride, my confidence, my everything. i cant find them from other women.
i know if we end up together again, trust is lost and etc. i know i wont be happy as before, always suspecting this that. but seriously, i'm willing to try.. i told her i'll wait for her, so i didnt call her for few days. she started calling me, making me hook onto her again.
still, i didnt want to see her, i dont want to be like dropdead again when i found she had a new bf... but i saw her at the bus stop that day. the follwing day, saw her on the streets again.. coincidence..
my last conversation with the guy is today, and he told me my ex msg him yesterday asking him to leave her for good, i dunno how true.. i want an answer. i ask her yesterday nite when i went to find her.. "is ur heart still wif me?" "do u still want me?" she answer yes for both. but when i ask her "do u miss him?" she kept quiet..
i know i need to give her time. but i'm scared i lose her again.. wats meant to be, is meant to be... i know..
i'm not sure what i'll do next.. but i know, i will still be going after her, till the day i'm gone..
love hurts -
Hi
I believe you know the answer but you cannot go back once the r/s has been dead before.
doko -
your nick is the answer
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learn from ur mistakes... theres better gals out there...Originally posted by bigdeal:its been 2 mths since i crash my 4 mth old bike, after which i lost my gf to another guy. i'm still going after her, i cannot let go. i lost 10 kgs in 1mth. i hate myself, but there's nothing i can do. my feelings for her are too strong.
i called up the guy, we had a few conversations. they broke up too. now she's deciding who to choose. all my frens tell me she's not worth it. there's plenty out there. but, she took away my pride, my confidence, my everything. i cant find them from other women.
i know if we end up together again, trust is lost and etc. i know i wont be happy as before, always suspecting this that. but seriously, i'm willing to try.. i told her i'll wait for her, so i didnt call her for few days. she started calling me, making me hook onto her again.
still, i didnt want to see her, i dont want to be like dropdead again when i found she had a new bf... but i saw her at the bus stop that day. the follwing day, saw her on the streets again.. coincidence..
my last conversation with the guy is today, and he told me my ex msg him yesterday asking him to leave her for good, i dunno how true.. i want an answer. i ask her yesterday nite when i went to find her.. "is ur heart still wif me?" "do u still want me?" she answer yes for both. but when i ask her "do u miss him?" she kept quiet..
i know i need to give her time. but i'm scared i lose her again.. wats meant to be, is meant to be... i know..
i'm not sure what i'll do next.. but i know, i will still be going after her, till the day i'm gone..
love hurts -
hey, bigdeal
Ask yourself what you see in her in the beginning, after knowing her what sort of person she is and what do you really go for when you look for a gal. However, before you can think clearly you need to have a calm mind. I see that you are confused, sad and fearful now. Both of you need to be frank to each other to sort things out to see if you both want the relationship to go on or not.
I believe she likes the other guy, too. May be you would like to give her a little while to sort her feelings and thoughts and then let her tell you what she wants. Remember, it takes two to clap and you can't hurry love.
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move on dude. a gal who has a heart for 2 guys deserves none.
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love hurts, but also heals...
i just hope you will forget this r/s, and get a new gf to heal your broken heart. -
How did you lost her?Originally posted by bigdeal:its been 2 mths since i crash my 4 mth old bike, after which i lost my gf to another guy. i'm still going after her, i cannot let go. i lost 10 kgs in 1mth. i hate myself, but there's nothing i can do. my feelings for her are too strong.
i called up the guy, we had a few conversations. they broke up too. now she's deciding who to choose. all my frens tell me she's not worth it. there's plenty out there. but, she took away my pride, my confidence, my everything. i cant find them from other women.
i know if we end up together again, trust is lost and etc. i know i wont be happy as before, always suspecting this that. but seriously, i'm willing to try.. i told her i'll wait for her, so i didnt call her for few days. she started calling me, making me hook onto her again.
still, i didnt want to see her, i dont want to be like dropdead again when i found she had a new bf... but i saw her at the bus stop that day. the follwing day, saw her on the streets again.. coincidence..
my last conversation with the guy is today, and he told me my ex msg him yesterday asking him to leave her for good, i dunno how true.. i want an answer. i ask her yesterday nite when i went to find her.. "is ur heart still wif me?" "do u still want me?" she answer yes for both. but when i ask her "do u miss him?" she kept quiet..
i know i need to give her time. but i'm scared i lose her again.. wats meant to be, is meant to be... i know..
i'm not sure what i'll do next.. but i know, i will still be going after her, till the day i'm gone..
love hurts
What makes you think it'll be different this time? (this is not a subjective prompting, but just a question asked to be answered by you) -
give her some time to cool down, after that go and find her, give both of you one last chance and ask her to make a decision right there and then.Originally posted by bigdeal:its been 2 mths since i crash my 4 mth old bike, after which i lost my gf to another guy. i'm still going after her, i cannot let go. i lost 10 kgs in 1mth. i hate myself, but there's nothing i can do. my feelings for her are too strong.
i called up the guy, we had a few conversations. they broke up too. now she's deciding who to choose. all my frens tell me she's not worth it. there's plenty out there. but, she took away my pride, my confidence, my everything. i cant find them from other women.
i know if we end up together again, trust is lost and etc. i know i wont be happy as before, always suspecting this that. but seriously, i'm willing to try.. i told her i'll wait for her, so i didnt call her for few days. she started calling me, making me hook onto her again.
still, i didnt want to see her, i dont want to be like dropdead again when i found she had a new bf... but i saw her at the bus stop that day. the follwing day, saw her on the streets again.. coincidence..
my last conversation with the guy is today, and he told me my ex msg him yesterday asking him to leave her for good, i dunno how true.. i want an answer. i ask her yesterday nite when i went to find her.. "is ur heart still wif me?" "do u still want me?" she answer yes for both. but when i ask her "do u miss him?" she kept quiet..
i know i need to give her time. but i'm scared i lose her again.. wats meant to be, is meant to be... i know..
i'm not sure what i'll do next.. but i know, i will still be going after her, till the day i'm gone..
love hurts
no point dragging and dragging. able to delay one more day, two more days, ain't going to make a difference to what she feels or what she wants.
its better for both of you this way.. -
she's the type that keep things to herself. she wasnt like this when we were together.
she got into a sales job just 3 mths ago. and she started hanging with those colleagues, beside her shop ones to go KTV, disco (i nv allow her to go disco, when i was there wif her 2 yrs ago, she witness a fight and was terrified) and always go out late. i nv stop her from going out with them. but i didnt know 1 of the frends was this guy...
i was pissed and stop msging her. she would go out till 4am, sleep and wake up at 8am to go work. so 1 day i msg her and said u want freedom? she took it literary ad we broke up. the next day, she's got a new bf. i was still in the dark. i went to find her 3 days later and said i'm going for her agin, thinking she's just want to play with her frends. then i found out she had a new bf. she lied, i was heartbroken.. she never lied to me.
i have try many times to move on, but the memories kept coming back. it hurts alot. i'll be riding again soon and i'm scared. but within a while i lost my precious bike and her, i need to have them back. -
wake up already... she n u already off frequency n u dun seem to fit into her plans as she sounds like the play type n not looking for serious bf like u...Originally posted by bigdeal:she's the type that keep things to herself. she wasnt like this when we were together.
she got into a sales job just 3 mths ago. and she started hanging with those colleagues, beside her shop ones to go KTV, disco (i nv allow her to go disco, when i was there wif her 2 yrs ago, she witness a fight and was terrified) and always go out late. i nv stop her from going out with them. but i didnt know 1 of the frends was this guy...
i was pissed and stop msging her. she would go out till 4am, sleep and wake up at 8am to go work. so 1 day i msg her and said u want freedom? she took it literary ad we broke up. the next day, she's got a new bf. i was still in the dark. i went to find her 3 days later and said i'm going for her agin, thinking she's just want to play with her frends. then i found out she had a new bf. she lied, i was heartbroken.. she never lied to me.
i have try many times to move on, but the memories kept coming back. it hurts alot. i'll be riding again soon and i'm scared. but within a while i lost my precious bike and her, i need to have them back. -
Your story seems to give me the impression of "you are living in a fairytale". Let me tell you further chapters of the fairytale:
There is another girl waiting for someone like you. She is more beautiful, nicer, gentler, kinder, more patient and most of all, she will NOT do what this ex-girl friend of yours did to you.
Do you want to find this girl? -
im so touched by this..Originally posted by Bontakun:Your story seems to give me the impression of "you are living in a fairytale". Let me tell you further chapters of the fairytale:
There is another girl waiting for someone like you. She is more beautiful, nicer, gentler, kinder, more patient and most of all, she will NOT do what this ex-girl friend of yours did to you.
Do you want to find this girl?
anyway, boy, if she can do it to you this time, she can do it again. do u want to go thru this kind of pain all over again? u should experience this painonce and for all, and move on. -
who dun wan?Originally posted by Bontakun:Your story seems to give me the impression of "you are living in a fairytale". Let me tell you further chapters of the fairytale:
There is another girl waiting for someone like you. She is more beautiful, nicer, gentler, kinder, more patient and most of all, she will NOT do what this ex-girl friend of yours did to you.
Do you want to find this girl?
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Originally posted by bigdeal:its been 2 mths since i crash my 4 mth old bike, after which i lost my gf to another guy. i'm still going after her, i cannot let go. i lost 10 kgs in 1mth. i hate myself, but there's nothing i can do. my feelings for her are too strong.
i called up the guy, we had a few conversations. they broke up too. now she's deciding who to choose. all my frens tell me she's not worth it. there's plenty out there. but, she took away my pride, my confidence, my everything. i cant find them from other women.
i know if we end up together again, trust is lost and etc. i know i wont be happy as before, always suspecting this that. but seriously, i'm willing to try.. i told her i'll wait for her, so i didnt call her for few days. she started calling me, making me hook onto her again.
still, i didnt want to see her, i dont want to be like dropdead again when i found she had a new bf... but i saw her at the bus stop that day. the follwing day, saw her on the streets again.. coincidence..
my last conversation with the guy is today, and he told me my ex msg him yesterday asking him to leave her for good, i dunno how true.. i want an answer. i ask her yesterday nite when i went to find her.. "is ur heart still wif me?" "do u still want me?" she answer yes for both. but when i ask her "do u miss him?" she kept quiet..
i know i need to give her time. but i'm scared i lose her again.. wats meant to be, is meant to be... i know..
i'm not sure what i'll do next.. but i know, i will still be going after her, till the day i'm gone..
love hurts
She changed you and went with another guy.
Then she changed the other guy and went for a newer one?
Tragic follows when you see people getting too involved with a player. To a player, commitment ranked last on her list, contrary to yours being the first. In the end, you stubbornly chose to allow her to fool with your emotions and that's probably what keeps you going and unable to break this chain of obsession.
You are scared to lose her again? What are you so scared about? You have already LOST her - what do you mean by 'again'?
Delusion fills your mind - you kept thinking that you have never lost her entirely and this will fuel your suffering. Your cosmic lesson is about releasing, not retaining.
P.S: Sometimes, it appears stronger to let go, than holding on. Love doesn't hurt - you are just hurting yourself.
Cheers -
from a gals point of view..
forget it lar..she's not worth it...
she's still in a stage where she doesnt know wat she wans...
plus looking at her behavior, e way u described it, she still wanna have fun, and not tat responsible or mature....
there's nothing wrong w having feelings for someone, wat makes a diff, is: is she able to commit to u?
well, u know e ans urself..
all u need is some courage, and take e first step...
all takes time..
cheers dude -
U r not helping yourself by acting like a loser. C'mon, what's the big deal? There's a whole lot more to life than just that girl........ Do get a move on. Once u have got a new life, u will be fine!
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alright, thanks guys for all ur comments.
she told me today she rather not choose, meaning she dont want both. i'm sturborn, maybe hope that i'll wake up.. sorry myself.
i'll continue to shower her wif care and love. not forcing her etc.
you guys are right, i'm living in a fiarytale, i still think that its not completely gone case
no one can save me but me myself and i.
and yet, i'll still say i'll continue my care for her. sigh -
well.. the tip is go for another gurl and show it infront of her.. this will unleash all the LOVE that she once had in u...
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c'mon no pt crying over split milk.
not trying to be sarcastic..but if the old doesnt go, the new wun come!
and u'll nv noe if the new r/s is better until u give it a try.
C'mon -
Well, you and I sure want, but does the TS want?Originally posted by BrUtUs:who dun wan? 
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Others cannot take away your pride if you don't allow them to.
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dont make ur gf suffer together with u. she will never be happy wif someone like u . let go of her pls. she is happier wif her new bf
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weaklin... i look dw on uOriginally posted by bigdeal:she took away my pride, my confidence, my everything. i cant find them from other women.
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fren,
already told u.. not worth it.. move on with your life. she's still young, she wanna play. she is not worth u waiting and showering love for her.
without u, den she can think. u will find a better one! no one is indispensable in this world.