Torn apart..
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I have a boyfriend i have been with for 7 months im mad about him but i have meet someone else who is madly in love with me and i feel the same, i want them both in my life but i can't, i really do love my boyfriend and i don't deserve him because he treats me like a princess but this other guy really understands me. Im not going to leave my boyfriend because i love him but this has got to deep for me to end with the other guy. I usually bitch about people that are in the same situation as me but untill it happens to you, you understand it can't be helped. I needed someone to tell all this to and i know you'll not understand but i needed help but im not sure what sort of help i need, maybe just a frend to chat to..
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You need to sit down and think who is more important to you..who is the one u love most and wanna be by his side.
A person can fall for two person on the same time..but on the other hand u will tend to love or like one of them than the other. Make a wise decision =)
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poor guys.
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No one can help you decide what to do, you have to decide what you want. Picture yourself in this: you have intentions of getting married, who would you choose? Think carefully, choose one and ask WHY you choose one over the other.
You can also ask yourself this: 50 years down the road, who you see besides you loving you as you love him? Same thing, choose one and ask yourself why. -
Cheer's guys, just the words i needed right now, thank you.
I know you lot cant choose for me, i know what i want, just don't know if it is the right decision.
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it happened 2 mi b4. had 2 choose b/w a 3yrs+ r/ship, lovin bf or a guy who gives me excitemt in my life...i decided over comfortness in my life, so i went wif my bf cos excitemt is smthg u can generate wif ur partner. dun reali nid an excitin guy 2 teach u abt excitemt...hope it helps...my 2 cents' worth...
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Simple answer:Originally posted by fairy_muff:I have a boyfriend i have been with for 7 months im mad about him but i have meet someone else who is madly in love with me and i feel the same, i want them both in my life but i can't, i really do love my boyfriend and i don't deserve him because he treats me like a princess but this other guy really understands me. Im not going to leave my boyfriend because i love him but this has got to deep for me to end with the other guy. I usually bitch about people that are in the same situation as me but untill it happens to you, you understand it can't be helped. I needed someone to tell all this to and i know you'll not understand but i needed help but im not sure what sort of help i need, maybe just a frend to chat to..
I want you to be LOYAL to your bf. He treats you well and you should do the same. Don't do anything to hurt him. Control yourself. Can you imagine if your bf does the same to you?
You cannot think clearly because your feelings for this guy is high. Until your love for your bf has vanished, DO NOT, hurt him by getting in contact with this guy. Else, you are just adding into the statistic of more guys getting hurt again, especially nice guys. I know you are just confused.
Just repeat after me: LOYALTY TO MY BOYFRIEND!
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LOYALTY TO MY BOYFRIEND! No... not you Rejected...Originally posted by dokono:Simple answer:
I want you to be LOYAL to your bf. He treats you well and you should do the same. Don't do anything to hurt him. Control yourself. Can you imagine if your bf does the same to you?
You cannot think clearly because your feelings for this guy is high. Until your love for your bf has vanished, DO NOT, hurt him by getting in contact with this guy. Else, you are just adding into the statistic of more guys getting hurt again, especially nice guys. I know you are just confused.
Just repeat after me: LOYALTY TO MY BOYFRIEND!
doko -
just think it through...
who you want to be with more...
who is more important to you...
then decide...
once decided, just stick with that one...
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I sympathise with your bf and the guy madly in love with you.Originally posted by fairy_muff:I have a boyfriend i have been with for 7 months im mad about him but i have meet someone else who is madly in love with me and i feel the same, i want them both in my life but i can't, i really do love my boyfriend and i don't deserve him because he treats me like a princess but this other guy really understands me. Im not going to leave my boyfriend because i love him but this has got to deep for me to end with the other guy. I usually bitch about people that are in the same situation as me but untill it happens to you, you understand it can't be helped. I needed someone to tell all this to and i know you'll not understand but i needed help but im not sure what sort of help i need, maybe just a frend to chat to..
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you are somehow quite close to #2 type.
Think about your character first. Why would you be madly in love with another guy when you have a bf already? Why not think this way. Your bf is madly in love with another girl who understands him much better than you do. And he is torn apart between you and her. Because you treat him like a prince.
Differenciate between infactuation and real love. Search where your real love is & stay faithful. If you ever want to sway because any guy comes and treat you better or you feel he understands you, then think about how you'd feel if your bf does that to you. What goes around comes around.
Please wake up and make up your mind. Guys shouldn't 2 time their gfs. Likewise, girls shouldn't 2 time their bfs.
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How old are you?Originally posted by fairy_muff:I have a boyfriend i have been with for 7 months im mad about him but i have meet someone else who is madly in love with me and i feel the same, i want them both in my life but i can't, i really do love my boyfriend and i don't deserve him because he treats me like a princess but this other guy really understands me. Im not going to leave my boyfriend because i love him but this has got to deep for me to end with the other guy. I usually bitch about people that are in the same situation as me but untill it happens to you, you understand it can't be helped. I needed someone to tell all this to and i know you'll not understand but i needed help but im not sure what sort of help i need, maybe just a frend to chat to.. -
Im 18 but don't let the age fool you im not like any normal 18 year old.
Im not going to leave my boyfriend for this guy and i told this other guy i wouldn't cheat on my boyfriend either im not like that. I just can't help how i feel about this guy and my mind is all messed up about it all that i needed to tell someone and have someone point out the obvious questions and answers thanks guys. -
Loyalty to My Girlfriend
but i dun have one
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i think u b true to ur heart
stay with ur bf
he treats u like a princess u should treasure him
yeah as what was said
rcite like mantra to yourself
LOYALTY TO MY BF
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now you may start scolding yourself 1 , 2 , 3 Start !Originally posted by fairy_muff:I have a boyfriend i have been with for 7 months im mad about him but i have meet someone else who is madly in love with me and i feel the same, i want them both in my life but i can't, i really do love my boyfriend and i don't deserve him because he treats me like a princess but this other guy really understands me. Im not going to leave my boyfriend because i love him but this has got to deep for me to end with the other guy. I usually bitch about people that are in the same situation as me but untill it happens to you, you understand it can't be helped. I needed someone to tell all this to and i know you'll not understand but i needed help but im not sure what sort of help i need, maybe just a frend to chat to..
anyway look @ character most important the one that treat you like princess might be a better choice than the one that understand you but not treating u like princess -
All i have to say is, do NOT stick to your bf out of loyalty.Originally posted by fairy_muff:Im 18 but don't let the age fool you im not like any normal 18 year old.
Im not going to leave my boyfriend for this guy and i told this other guy i wouldn't cheat on my boyfriend either im not like that. I just can't help how i feel about this guy and my mind is all messed up about it all that i needed to tell someone and have someone point out the obvious questions and answers thanks guys.
take some time to sit down and think about it. WHO do you LOVE?
if the answer is the other guy, break up with your bf NOW, don't let this drag on, you are hurting him even more.
If the answer is your bf, sit down and think what is wrong with your relationship, cos if there's NOTHING wrong at all, chances are you won't even be drawn to another guy. think what is it about this other guy that makes you feel tempted, is it something ur bf lacks? think about how you can IMPROVE your relationship and not let this happen again. -
the irresponsible thing you can do is...
stay with your BF who treats you like a princess but go out with the guy who makes you go nuts
life is full options, its your own choice
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Liddat hor, I rather drink kopi.Originally posted by kopiosatu:the irresponsible thing you can do is...
stay with your BF who treats you like a princess but go out with the guy who makes you go nuts
life is full options, its your own choice 
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me too all go coffee shopOriginally posted by Bontakun:Liddat hor, I rather drink kopi. -
So you are mad about 2 people now? Are you still mad about your bf?Originally posted by fairy_muff:Im 18 but don't let the age fool you im not like any normal 18 year old.
Im not going to leave my boyfriend for this guy and i told this other guy i wouldn't cheat on my boyfriend either im not like that. I just can't help how i feel about this guy and my mind is all messed up about it all that i needed to tell someone and have someone point out the obvious questions and answers thanks guys.
What is your star sign?
Do they know about each other's existence?
If you need more help, PM me your HP contact number... -
Yeah im still mad about my bf just this other guy brings excitment and something new..Originally posted by Devil1976:So you are mad about 2 people now? Are you still mad about your bf?
What is your star sign?
Do they know about each other's existence?
If you need more help, PM me your HP contact number...
My star sign is Taurus
Yeah they know each other existences i introducted them to each other and they are mates. I told my boyfriend i fancied this other guy but i didn't tell him that its more than that. I wont cheat on my boyfriend but i do need to choose one of them and either way someone is going to get hurt.
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What do you mean you won't cheat on your bf yet you will still choose one of them? Are you very confused and self-contradictory? If you don't cheat, it means you don't cheat.Originally posted by fairy_muff:Yeah im still mad about my bf just this other guy brings excitment and something new..
My star sign is Taurus
Yeah they know each other existences i introducted them to each other and they are mates. I told my boyfriend i fancied this other guy but i didn't tell him that its more than that. I wont cheat on my boyfriend but i do need to choose one of them and either way someone is going to get hurt. Life sucks!
Is it because your feelings for your bf is not as high as before? And this guy happens to come along and conveniently gives you excitement? Sort out your emotions first and dun tell the new guy anything. Just because the new guy gives excitement does not mean another new guy will not come along again... and the whole cycle repeats again.
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how old r u now? Are you sensible/mature enough to think thoroughly?
You cant have the best of both world, and it will be unfair to whichever party you are with since your mind is consistently thinking of the other...
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Life sucks? You're actually in not such a bad situation, considering that you would really see how it can suck you up if you make a wrong move from here...Originally posted by fairy_muff:Yeah im still mad about my bf just this other guy brings excitment and something new..
My star sign is Taurus
Yeah they know each other existences i introducted them to each other and they are mates. I told my boyfriend i fancied this other guy but i didn't tell him that its more than that. I wont cheat on my boyfriend but i do need to choose one of them and either way someone is going to get hurt. Life sucks!
Not sure if you truly know this, but sometime I feel you do.. To an extent but maybe not fully of what I'm about to tell you....
At this point it's not surprising that you're mad or I would rather put it as 'interested' in this other guy... It has a bit to do with your age... Also... ROMANCE.
2 of the guys are probably bringing in to you 2 different forms of romance... At this cross-point you're confused... Which form to choose?
But as much as I do not wish to make any decision for you, I'll just let you see what would likely make more sense to you....
You're a loyal girl by nature. As much as you love stirs, romance and sparks in your life, you can only settle for someone who can love you.. Provides for you... And pampers you like your current bf... A few years down the road, if you've given this 'another exciting boy' a skip... You might be wondering what it could have been / should have been like... But if your bf still loves you as much as now (if not just enough), pls understand at least you've not lost him....
For now I'll tell you about 3 types of guys... The 1st type is one of stability and security (you're also looking at that now, don't ya?
) The 2nd type is the 'exciting and interesting guy' or might very well be a player of sort...? Just as you're making yuor decision between the 1st and 2nd.... There comes a 3rd type... Someone who is stable and is willing to pamper and love you... This type I shall termed as the 'undead' for now... Someone who fuels in the heart still and have not really 'died' within to push himself follow for love....
Now honestly I tell you... If the 1st's boring enough, you probably won't be the least interested... The 2nd is somehow my sort... We have 'capabilities' but somehow are much CHEAPER compared to the 3rd type... Imagine someone who flirts around and knows girls, to someone who is DEVOTED to ONE...? What lower chances it would be to be in the embrace of the latter...? Besides... 3rd types are often like a spark of fire.... They diminishes or is taken up from time to time... Making them comparingly rare to the 2nd type which is likely to be just a breeding culture...
You're also likely to be someone who climbs the ladder in your social status or at work.... A few years down the line, you probably won't be seeing the 'exciting boy' as before anymore... In fact, it's quite likely that there'll be an existing gap between both of you...
So a not best of both worlds situation (just like you're going to make a decision to choose), which would you choose? Taking off a slice of that pie to settle for a big portion (one likely to be more matching type in the future) or many slices of pies that might fill your life with different taste and varieties...?
Like I've said... Ultimately.... You might still be losing a portion of it... Just what you choose to be eating...?
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Devil.. do u have to add the eating part..